Ep. #190: Coming Out Late Thru Fear & Confusion (replay)

Jul 25, 2025

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In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”

In this episode you will learn…

above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.
that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.
there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’.
fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.
Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present.
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There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.