Coming Out Late

In this episode of “How Living Out & Proud Changed My Life”, Robin reminisces and reviews her journey to coming out to herself. Why now? Why this week? Because it was this time NINE years ago nearly-to-the-day that she said those infamous words aloud to herself, “Holy Shit! I’m Gay!” Listen to how living her life out and proud has changed her and what she’s learned along the way. Spoiler Alert: Robin is STILL learning about herself, with each passing year! Enjoy!In this episode, you’ll hear Robin talk about some of the things that she has learned about herself since coming out 9 years ago…Just how much better Robin’s life has been since coming out.All the ways in which coming out has helped shape and inform and educate Robin along the way.Has Robin, or anyone, ever regretted coming out late?Coming out is hard, usually comes at a cost, involves heartbreak and tears - so is it worth it?Wat does loving-kindness, compassion and tolerance have to do with coming out late?Robin and all of her previous phobias.Growth can only occur through changes; and if nothing changes, nothing changes.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.

In this Part 2 episode Robin and Chris continue their conversation with Stevie, who is Host of her own podcast, “Queer Story Time, The Podcast”. Stevie, a queer, trans femme yoga therapist, and gender & sexuality educator, together with Robin & Chris, discuss how cultural conditioning has shaped our lives and what's required of us to healing  & liberate ourselves.In this episode, you will learn…The importance of having a more solid understanding of who we are and being okay with it.That finding that thing that gives you that inner spark and deep level of connection to yourself is all a part of establishing a solidness to your being.How our coming out journey is one of ‘uncovering’, ‘discovering’ and ‘recovering’ our true nature, our highest selves.Yoga is the cessation of the movement of the mind; we use yoga to liberate ourselves from our suffering by finding space between our thoughts.Each of us can play a part in reducing my own suffering.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:A PUBLIC APOLOGY:I wish to publicly apologize to BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst, two of Stevie Inghram’s guests from her podcast, (Queer Story Time), who were both mentioned by Chris & I in this 2-part episode of Coming Out Late. We accidentally and incorrectly misgendered them both by using the incorrect pronouns. BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst go by They/Them pronouns. My deepest, heartfelt apology to you both, AND to you Stevie!HOW TO FIND STEVIE INGHRAM:Queer Story Time the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introductory-episode-of-queer-story-time-the/id1711367302?i=1000630941312Instagram: @queertransthriving; @Future.nmd.yogiEmail: queerstorytimethepodcast@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:THE MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).

Join Robin and Chris as they chat with Stevie Inghram, host of Queer Story Time, about cultural conditioning, dominant narratives, and the impact on gender identity. They discuss legislation, personal experiences, and the struggles of conforming to societal norms. Support groups and coaching services for those coming out late are also highlighted in this enlightening conversation.

In this episode, Chris decides to take the podcast reins AND the microphone from Robin and asks her some “Who Is More Likely” questions, allowing Coming Out Late listeners to gain some new perspectives about Robin AND her relationship with Chris. They hope to keep it silly, yet informative, with a few deeper questions sprinkled in there too. No judgment! Robin hasn’t seen the questions ahead of time - so you’ll be hearing them in ‘real time’ when Robin does.Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Chris ask Robin these questions and more…Who is most likely to stay up late?Who is most likely to lose track of time?Who is most likely to strike-up a conversation with strangers?Who is more likely to enjoy DIY projects?Who is more likely to hit the ‘snooze’ button in the morning?Who is more likely to fall asleep during a movie?Who is more likely to buy a dildo or a sex toy?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).#   #   #

In this Part 2 REPLAY of the “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage” episode, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!In this episode you will … “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions.Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

Thirty-three years ago, 16-year old David, the new kid in high school, bravely squished his way through a wall of Monique’s cliquey of high school friends, (congregated around her locker in the hallway), and asked a mutual friend to introduce him to Monique - in front of everyone. That brave move earned David the intrigue and attention of Monique; AND earned David the honor of walking with her to their next class together. It also earned them both the distinct pleasure of nearly three decades of marriage, built on a deep, deep bond of friendship, love and mutual respect. Their lives together were not immune to the typical stressors of married life - but nothing could have prepared either of them for the curveball that life would throw at them in 2019, and the years that followed.. In this Part 1 REPLAY of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, you will learn … The importance of gay-representation in our upbringings - no matter the level of affluence we grew up with.We learn how Monique & David’s lifelong friendship and soulful connection were the building blocks of their thirty-plus year relationship. But is their solid foundation of love and alignment enough to sustain their marriage through Monique’s Coming Out Late journey?Learn about the depth and breadth of research that Monique and her husband David have done, and continue to do, (both individually AND together), in order to learn as much as they can about how other couples navigate ‘Mixed Orientation Marriages'.Learn the unique ways in which Monique & David are blazing their own path when it comes to reinventing their sexual intimacy and desires.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).See Episode #80 for MONIQUE & DAVID’S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

In this episode, Robin and Chris continue their exploratory conversation about the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…What do we mean by “following the breadcrumbs” as it pertains to our coming out late journey?Androgyny, nonbinary, intersex…what does it all mean? And how do you identify? Who are you at your core?What does Chris mean by “two spirits”? And is a third gender ‘real’? Or even possible?Are the terms androgynous and nonbinary the same?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

In this episode, Robin invites her girlfriend Chris back on the podcast to talk about and explore the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…What IS gender identity? What does gender mean to each of us, personally?Do you know the date you came out? Let’s all celebrate our re-birthdays!Do we need labels? How important are they to you?Are we truly a binary society?WHat has been Chris’ gender journey so far?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

Robin picks up the conversation from last week with Sex & Pleasure specialist, Whitni Miller, in this Part 2 episode of Coming Out Late. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will learn…The #1 question that Whitni gets asked, A LOT! (Hint: it’s about sex!)What is “sexual desire discrepancy”?Be upfront about how important sex is to you w/potential new partners, ASAP. Know yourself and the depth of your sexual appetite/desire. Don’t think that ‘attraction’ to each other is going to make your libidos match - that’s not going to work. You can be highly attracted to each other, but desire and the arousal that fuels all of that desire is way more nuanced than just being attracted to one another.How do you feel about sex? How do you feel about yourself? And, how do you feel about yourself having sex?Our sexual desires are NOT our partner’s responsibility - they are ours!The difference between ‘spontaneous desire’ and ‘responsive desire’ - and that neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, AND, that you can be both! What’s more important than desire and arousal? (The answer is SO simple, yet so true!)What is ‘sexual temperament’?Everything affects our sexual desire - what are some of those things?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:If you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES: WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.comINSTAGRAM: @bde.movesTIK TOK: @bdemoves

Whitni Miller, a sex and pleasure coach, discusses topics such as intentional monogamy, reducing inner shame, pleasure coaching, and the importance of prioritizing feeling good in relationships. The podcast explores the impact of shame culture on body exploration, the difference between performance and pleasure sex, and an exercise to reduce inner shame. Whitney emphasizes the need for curiosity over self-judgment and creating a safe space for open and vulnerable discussions about sex.