Coming Out Late

The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences.Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication.Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit planBe ready for provocative questions by having a few pre-prepared responses.Develop a self-care practice/routine, (e.g., nourish all your sensesWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassIf you want more conversations around navigating the holidays when you’ve come out late, check out the previous “Coming Out Late” Episode #115.SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added). -NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025PRIVATE & SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

In this episode Robin shares with you a ‘coming out late’ story submitted by one of her podcast listeners. Now 60-years young, this former Evangelical preacher shares their coming out late journey in her own words.  Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassRESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with Samantha Fox, talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.“Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians *may* not be better at sex than we are.   Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSThere is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.P.S. Robin will be offering small group coaching beginning January 2025. 

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites back to the podcast Samantha Fox, to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then?Post the messy-middle, we are still faced with dealing with feelings and ‘people’ when we begin to date women. Just because we’re now dating women doesn’t mean we are immune from ‘relationship challenges’ and no longer have to deal with ‘personalities’.Peeling back the layers of not only comphet, (compulsory heterosexuality), but also patriarchy, misogyny, and capitalism, to realize that most, if not ALL, of our beliefs and traditions and cultural ‘norms’ need to be reinspected by each of us - least of which is the concept of monogamous relationships; or, that there is just “one person” out-there for us; or that, once in a committed relationship, that it is ‘for life’ - it may not be.To be open to the possibility that being in a relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow from within - to heal our wounds and grow. And that once a relationship may have run-its-course, that perhaps it was an experience in our life to purposefully teach us a needed lesson. “Relationships” can, and possibly *should*, be looked upon as a beautiful string of experiences with all different kinds of people.How “expectations” are the death to every and all relationships and experiences. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to experience the joy and wonder of that particular moment, and then the next moment, and the next.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSThere is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.SMALL GROUP COACHING COMING IN JANUARY 2025.To be put on the list to receive information about the new Small Group Coaching Program, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

The discussion delves into the challenging art of setting boundaries, highlighting its emotional complexities. Techniques like the 'broken record' help navigate these conversations. The importance of clear communication—being kind versus unclear—is emphasized with relatable anecdotes. Listeners learn about balancing codependency with rational decision-making. The speakers share insights on fostering deeper connections while respecting limits, showcasing the crucial role of self-awareness in building healthy relationships.

Explore the vital role of boundaries in personal growth and relationships. Discover how flexible yet firm boundaries protect well-being and reflect core values. Hear anecdotes on navigating emotional challenges while coming out late, focusing on self-awareness and clarity. The conversation touches on body image issues and societal norms, adding humor to a thoughtful dialogue. Learn the significance of community support and healthy communication throughout this journey of self-discovery.

This week in the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin & Chris finish up their conversation about “Acceptance” and the relevance it has to our coming out late journey. Stay tuned for future episodes in “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” series where Robin will pick up with, “B” is for _______. Any guesses? Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris discuss:The power of cultural conditioning; AND, we do not have to accept any particular type of cultural conditioning if we don’t want to - we have choices!Acceptance is a mindset, a state of mind. It’s where we can acknowledge and embrace reality without judgment.The opposite of acceptance is resistance. And what we resist always persists; so stop resisting, and allow acceptance into your life. Acceptance is a practice. So, how do we practice that art of acceptance? Step 1: become aware of what feels unacceptable; Step 2: allow those feelings to be.The Serenity Prayer for Acceptance: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: If you are interested in attending any or all of the Coming Out Late Retreats in 2025, and want your name on the 2025 Retreat Master List for next year, then please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin boldly opens with the first of a series she’s calling, “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late”. As we all know, coming out late is not for the faint of heart, so this week Robin begins the ABC’s of Coming Out Late with the letter “A”, standing for, well, you’ll have to listen to the episode to find out. Robin and Chris talk about what “A” is, why it’s important in life and how it relates to coming out late!In this Part 1 episode, you’ll learn:Food for thought on topics and tools to consider using on your coming out late journey, starting with the ever important “A” is for acceptance!What does the formula Suffering = Pain x Resistance mean?What is the difference between resigning and accepting?What do they mean by “what we resist persists’?How is ‘acceptance’ a state of mind? And why is acceptance so important?Ways in which we can cultivate more acceptance into our lives.What is the “Serenity Prayer” and its significance?Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris continue their conversation with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on everyone who attended. Today, you’ll hear more stories and awakenings from the retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following:Overcoming our fears - even our fear of attending a retreat!How vulnerability + connection = community!Taking care of ourselves by asking for what we need.The importance of remaining open and flexible.The Coming Out Late Retreat to Provincetown, MA has been canceled!Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassRESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.comPRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, you’ll hear Robin & Chris facilitate a virtual discussion with nearly all who attended the Coming Out Late Retreat to Portland, OR last month. You’ll hear firsthand the life-changing effects that this retreat had on its attendees. Today, you’ll hear retreat attendees reflecting-on and discussing the following:How ‘connection’ and ‘community’ play such a vital role in experiencing and walking through this coming out late journey!How we find comfort and growth in hearing other’s stories and realizing, helping us to realize, “I’m not alone!”How, (if at all), did they feel differently between the pre-retreat zoom gathering, and the post-retreat zoom gathering?How, through mindful meditation and journaling, did we answer the question, “How would I be different if I were not impacted by social conditioning?”How simply ‘showing up’ immediately helped us all feel ‘grounded’!The Coming Out Late Retreat to Provincetown, MA has been canceled!Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassRESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. Spaces are limited, so act now! The dates for the last Coming Out Late retreat are: Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: CANCELED. Email Robin to Register NOW: Comingoutlater@gmail.comPRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .