Did you know you're being rude when you shrug off a compliment?  After blowing off a compliment my husband gave me, he asked "Why can't you just absorb a compliment"?  That made me wonder... why can't I?  What's behind that?  What I learned was much more than I expected and realized we're actually being rude when we don't respond appropriately to a compliment.I also have a challenge for you and give you some science behind why it's hard to give compliments and why you should practice absorbing and believing the compliment you're being given. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Costa Rica for a conference.  We stayed in a beautiful hotel overlooking the beach and had a ton of fun experiences BUT day 4 would send me into a tailspin I haven't been in for a very, very long time.In today's episode, I'm sharing lessons learned and why my mini meltdown is important to you. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

You learn so much in childhood.  How to walk, how to talk, how to do multiplication and division.Unfortuantely, for some though, you also learn to be fearful, to not trust.  We learn not to get too happy because any minute, the other shoe will fall.Today's guest, Reneau Peurifoy, author of 4 different books on anxiety, anger, and emotions, shares his knowledge from over 20 years as an MFT working with anxiety and other related disorders, shares why although not healthy, dysfunction can feel really comfortable to you.In this episode, we discussed:Why you unconsciously seek unhealthy partnersHow jealous people have a lot of should/must rules that keeps reality foggy4 questions to ask yourself to start to tame your jealousWhat the treatment of EMDR is all about and how it works to begin desensitizing childhood traumaTips for how to move to a place of feeling comfortable without all the dramaConnect with Reneau at whyemotions Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas.  It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential. Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance:  A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma.In this episode, we discuss how therapy is like detective work and it comes down to uncovering the gap between what people want to have and what they can toleration having.She shares that the trauma healing process starts with the decision to search and to be curious.            •          What do I not know about myself?            •          What can I not emotionally handle?            •          Why does the gap between what I want and what I can tolerate exist?It is also important to treat defenses with respect and if you are not ready to do the healing work that is ok.  It is also acceptable to feel upset that we have to do the work of the past traumatized (our parents or our grandparents) because they were perhaps not strong enough.  Dr. Atlas says if we are only aware of what we want to have (a relationship, a career, money etc.) but we're not fully aware of what it is that doesn't allow us to have what we want... that is more powerful than what we want".The book, Emotional Inheritance is a must read but give yourself some recovery time and know it can be triggering. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In today's quick dump episode, I share 5 statements I decided to stop making to my partner that changed the dynamic of our relationship.Most of the time, you don't even realize how the words you choose can come across.  Even when you feel like you're being really clear or you mean what you're saying in the moment, these 5 statements are usually a signal to disaster. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Did you know that toxic stress decreases the size and impairs the function of different regions of the brain that are actually responsible for our learning, our executive functioning, our memory ?Candace Alley, a five time internationally certified coach and the founder and CEO of Trauma Resource Network shares that: trauma is not a particular event, but rather how the brain processes that event every persons healing journey is as individual and unique as your fingerprintstrauma doesn't mean that you're broken or that you've done anything wrong. rather, it's a very normal response to an abnormal situationthose who score a 4 or higher on the ACES test stand a far greater chance of struggling with mental health issues and or some form of addiction in their lifetimeconsistent practice and dedication is key to healing Available resources:988 - for those dealing with mental health crisis (In the United States)211 - provides local resourcesTake the ACEs TestConnect with Candace via her website, on Facebook, or Instagram Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

One of the reasons it took me so long to overcome my jealousy is because I kept getting stuck or there would be long periods of time I wasn't working to improve it.I started to notice a pattern of these times and today I am sharing 3 things that could be slowing down your progress of becoming more confident and overcoming jealousy in your relationship.Here are the 3a makeupa breakupa hiccupbut I dive deep into each one and give you some examples I experienced so you know what to look out for. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Did you know when your brain is operating under duress, all of the "parts" are not coordinating which can ramp up your jealous mind.Our brains have a negative bias because it wants to save us.  It wants to keep us safe from danger.  But overload causes the brain to get out of symphony.Leader in the field of stress mastery, Dr. Cindi Ackrill shares what stress and comparison does to your brain and the intersection between how grounded you are and when you start to compare.Cindi also shares:how your brain loves to create meaning out of things and how to check-in and question that meaninghow a stressed brain will keep you in automatic thinking and in our same patterns which can keep you in the jealousy loo.what it means to be stress smart, stress strong and stress wise Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

It all feels like its falling apart when you screw up and show your jealous side... AGAIN.  But, there is an important mindset to have when you are trying to tame your jealousy and in today's episode, I'm sharing the importance of practicing, not mastering. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Life strategist, relationship specialist, creative solution finder, and heart-centered problem solver, Sarah Ramsey lets a surprisingly simple philosophy guide her: indecision is the enemy of success.Viewing clear decision-making as the ultimate form of self-care, Sarah brings life-changing clarity to formulating solutions for those pesky problems that often seem impenetrable on the surface. Her book, Problem Solved, provides readers with a system for breaking down complex issues into simple, approachable steps so that you can experience life with fewer barriers and greater prosperity.Today, Sarah offers some insight into the tools and strategies you need to transform how you make decisions, what it might look like to apply these techniques to your issues with jealousy, and what it means to “waffle down,” plus so much more. If you want to empower yourself to make your problems smaller so that you can not only create a legacy of successful outcomes but live a happier (and less jealous) life, this episode is for you!Topics discussed in this episode:How Sarah’s book transforms your mindset, not your problemsApplying these problem-solving techniques to jealousyDifferentiating between practical problems and emotional onesWays to empower yourself as a problem solverTips for navigating ‘spaghetti thinking’How to define your problem-solving strategyTaking ownership of your problems, not others’Magic questions to help you get unstuckUsing 7-level problem solving to find the root issueFind episodes of Sarah’s podcast, get your copy of her new book, and register for her coaching program by visiting sarahkramsey.com.You can also connect with Sarah on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram! Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.