TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

Your emotions drive your actions, especially in relationships? In our latest episode, we sit down with Martina Booth, a relationship visionary and emotional artist, who's mastered the art of processing feelings and navigating emotional dependencies. Martina shines light on how  jealousy in relationships stems from old wounds and the void we have within ourselves.  In the episode she shares:her unique insights on the concept of 'ordinary trauma' and how it impacts our daily livesa vivid picture of codependency, emphasizing that it is a prevalent dynamic in many relationships, and not just limited to trauma bondingthe need to move away from unhealthy reliance on perfect dependency. love versus connection and how the expectation of exclusivity can lead to jealousy and conflict how hurt in relationships often comes from our insecurities and past experiences magnifies the need for personal responsibility for our feelingCozy up with your favorite headphones and join us as we wrap up with practical techniques for coping with jealousy and emotional discomfort.Snag a copy of the book The Body Keeps the ScoreSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Are you tired of being held hostage by jealousy and insecurity? Join me this week as I talk about the #1 thing you need to do to overcome your extreme jealousy.  Learn about the power of change, and how stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to personal growth and transformation. Discover the resilience within you as we discuss the importance of tenacity, the courage to keep going, even when the progression is invisible. Struggling with jealousy? Let's uncover the importance of celebrating every minor victory, discovering the impact of acknowledging personal growth, and the value of making different choices to yield different results. Brace yourself for growth as one decision to do something different can make all the difference in the world.   You're not alone on this journey, and there are always options for change. Get Rich Diveny's book The Attributes:  25 Hidden Drivers of Optimal PerformanceSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Have you ever felt like a fraud, despite your clear success and achievements?  This week I'm joined by a leader of global test operations for NASA, the US Military, and Homeland Security, as well as keynote speaker and coach, John Mollura, to talk about imposter syndrome.Even when he received a commendation from the Department of Defense, John could not shake the feeling that he just wasnt good enough.  He felt like a total fake.  What's crazy is if you're a higher performer, you've probably felt this before.  In this episode, John shares:how self-awareness and self-development minimize the power of this syndromepractical tips on handling not only imposter syndrome but also other negative emotions like jealousythe unique challenges brought by the digital age, where constant exposure to social media can lead to constant comparisons and feelings of inadequacya three-step theory for overcoming imposter syndromeGrab your headphones, turn up the volume and listen as John helps you turn down the volume on imposture syndrome.Connect with JohnSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this week's episode I am joined by Adam Hill.  A CEO, triathlete, speaker, and author who generously shares that the opposite of fear is not fearless, it's flow.Adam shares the Maffetone Method and how doing something at 80% of your maximum effort get you massive results and how to have a different relationship with fear.We also discuss:the dangerous notion of trauma comparison, emphasizing the importance of respecting our personal battles.how changing our relationship with fear can be a catalyst for personal growth. how fear can present opportunities and the crucial task of differentiating between fear of danger and opportunity fear. the importance of meeting our fears head-on and turning them into instruments for personal growth.Adam also shares how the often overlooked reality that success is not about relentless effort, but more about endurance and pacing oneself. As Adam shares his experiences training for an Ironman Triathlon, we learn about self-discipline, realizing dreams, and converting fear into an ally. Tune in, and let’s look at fear differently. Connect with Adam at adamcliffordhill.comSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever felt burdened with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, trying to control your relationships and often leaving you drained? In this episode, I talk about the damaging implications that control has on your relationship. Referencing the Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List, I delve into my own experiences to expose the exhausting effects of being overly controlling. I hate that sometimes "being controlling" is talked about as if its cool or makes you somehow sound above average or that you've got it all together.  The same is true when people say they are perfectionist.  Neither of those are great to be in my opinion and really are a sign that you are too focused on things other than looking at yourself.We love to tell our partners what to do and who they can talk to and what they should type back to an ex or family member in a text.  Quite frankly.... you should be focused on on yourself.  Use that energy to accomplish your own goals and dreams and let your partner be the adult they are.I'll bust the myth of control and perfectionism, revealing it as a mere distraction from addressing our real issues. By learning to lead ourselves, we can foster healthier relationships and a richer life. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there's a free discovery call waiting for you.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety? You're not alone. Join us this week for a great conversation about anxiety and intrusive thoughts with special guest, Dr. Martin Seif, a distinguished clinical psychologist and anxiety treatment specialist. We talk about the intricate world of intrusive thoughts, drawing a clear line between fleeting and persistent intrusive thoughts. Dr. Seif sheds light on the paradox of thought suppression, explaining why efforts to evade certain thoughts only make them more persistent. Ever found yourself seeking reassurance over and over? We delve into how this seemingly harmless habit can spiral into an addictive pattern, further fueling anxiety. We'll share insights from Dr. Seif on how this cycle influences relationships and discuss the notion of the 'sticky mind' in the context of rumination. Also, get ready to reframe your understanding of anxiety management with the concept of 'therapeutic surrender,' a potentially liberating approach to dealing with anxiety. We'll explore strategies to change attitudes and perspectives, encouraging a lean-in approach to anxiety rather than avoidance. Tune in for a wealth of information perfect for anyone navigating the turbulence of intrusive thoughts and anxiety.If you need further support, check out the Anxiety and Depression Association of America.  Books by Dr. Martin Seif:  As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying orders.Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts Needing to Know for SureSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Have you ever wondered how insidious jealousy can creep into our lives and relationships, causing havoc and distress? This episode opens the door to a heartfelt discussion with Heather and Roxanne, two insightful individuals who have experienced the bitter taste of jealousy and learned to navigate its complex landscapes. They bravely share their personal stories, tracing their path back to early experiences which laid the foundation for struggles with trust in later life. Through their candid conversations, we begin to peel back the layers of narratives we tell ourselves, ultimately leading us to question their validity. As we journey with Heather and Roxanne through their experiences, we dive into the often challenging process of building trust in relationships and overcoming jealousy. Heather offers her personal struggle with infidelity and trust issues, while Roxanne extends an exercise that played a crucial role in shifting her perspective. But, this conversation does not just dwell on the individual; instead, it illuminates the power of community and shared experiences in fostering growth and support. So, let's join Heather and Roxanne in this insightful conversation about overcoming jealousy, building trust, and the healing potential of supportive relationships.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Join me on a heartfelt journey as we celebrate not only my birthday but a significant podcasting milestone — our 50th episode! It's a poignant moment that calls for reflection, and I promise you're in for a raw, honest, and deeply personal dive into my life. From reuniting with my absent father to facing my fears and anxieties head-on, there are many life lessons that I have learned and am excited to share with you.This episode is also a tribute to the most resilient woman in my world: my remarkable mother. Her unwavering strength and courage in the face of adversity are reminders of our capacity to endure hardships and still emerge strong. We not only celebrate our 50-episodes-long journey but also the power of resilience. So, brace yourselves for an episode of inspiration, vulnerability, and heartwarming reflections.Don't miss the UNLEASHING BOLD CONFIDENCE in-person event.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Needing constant reassurance is something very common in those who suffer from relationship jealousy issues and when we don't get it, we start searching for it elsewhere an 9 times out of 10, it's the wrong place.  In today's episode, I share 3 wrong places you may looking for love and understanding.  Awareness is key to turning down the volume on this jealousy thing so I'm bringing awareness to these three areas you may go seeking.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

International #1 best-selling author of "Strength of the Oak, Strength of the Willow", Andrew Anderson shares his approach in navigating life's ups and downs. Andrew shares inspiring insights on shifting perspectives from 'why is this happening to me?' to 'why is this happening for me?' and how to discover the hidden greatness in every situation.We dive deeply into the art of transformation, touching on deceit's role and outdated beliefs in personal growth. Andrew provides practical steps on:breaking free from restrictive thought patternssetting up protective boundarieshow to have strength and grace in life's stormsthe 7 steps to forgivenessThis episode is a treasure for anyone on a quest to understand their life's mission and purpose. It's abundant with enlightening wisdom on nurturing self-worth and enhancing relationships.This episode is a wealth of wisdom for anyone seeking personal transformation, the courage to face life's challenges, and the bravery to step into a brighter future.Connect with AndrewSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.