
The New Man
Advice for Men to Align Career, Sex, Relationships, and Money
Latest episodes

Jan 13, 2025 • 45min
Feeling Stuck and Out of Alignment — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Is there a voice in your head that says you need to make a change?
Do you experience scarcity if you’re not always making more money?
And what can you do if the things that used to light you up feel empty now?
Today Alyson and I discuss what we can do when we feel out of alignment with our lives. We talk about why we don’t need to beat ourselves up, what really holds us back from making a change, and why feeling “not enough” is really an invitation to get out of the shallow end of the pool.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/feeling-stuck
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

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Dec 30, 2024 • 47min
Why Finding Your Purpose is So Frustrating — Jordan Grumet, The Purpose Code
Dr. Jordan Grumet, a doctor and financial podcast host, explores the frustrations of finding true purpose in life. He shares insights from his career, discussing how many successful people still feel empty despite their wealth. Grumet challenges the traditional notion of purpose, urging a shift from external validation to genuine internal satisfaction. He emphasizes that discovering one's purpose is a process that requires intentional action and reflection, highlighting the importance of authentic connections and personal joy.

Dec 17, 2024 • 30min
Why People Pleasing is Killing Your Sex Life and Career — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Is it normal for you to forget things until someone nags you about it?
Do you ever wonder why your relationships seem shallow or you miss out on career opportunities?
And what does this all have to do with brown M&M’s?
Today Alyson and I talk about people pleasing, nice guy syndrome, and how being checked out is killing your sex life and career. We discuss the dangers of transactional relating, why the little things matter and how you can become more trustworthy simply by saying “no” more often.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/people-pleasing
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Dec 3, 2024 • 55min
How Being Guarded Kills Aliveness, Meaning, and Purpose — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status?
Does living with an open heart make you weak?
And how is staying guarded killing aliveness?
I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of living almost destroyed me.
For the last 20 years I’ve watched my wife Alyson navigate life very differently. She’s one of those rare few that can effortlessly disarm people and help them access their own hearts. Her strength in emotional situations is inspiring. It’s her superpower.
So is this just something she was born with or is it a skill that she’s developed? I’ve always wanted to know but never asked. Until today.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/being-guarded
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Nov 19, 2024 • 37min
Are You Jealous About Her Sexual Past? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Are you the best lover your partner has ever had? How could you ever be sure?
What if they preferred having sex with someone else more than you?
And is sex a place where you strive to prove that you’re good enough?
Today we talk about feeling jealous about our partner’s sexual history. We explore what drives that insecurity, how neediness is repulsive, and why trying to prove you’re a rockstar in bed is a big mistake.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/11/jealous-about-sexual-history
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Nov 5, 2024 • 49min
Rickson Gracie – How to Find Comfort in Darkness
Rickson Gracie, a Jiu Jitsu legend and author, discusses his book *Comfort in Darkness*, emphasizing resilience amid adversity. He explores how mental, emotional, and spiritual strength can be developed through acceptance of fear and death. Gracie shares insights on 'Invisible Jiu Jitsu,' which encourages using martial arts strategies for personal growth. The conversation highlights the importance of humility and viewing opponents as partners in development, transforming conflict into an opportunity for self-discovery and healing.

Oct 22, 2024 • 34min
Am I On The Wrong Path? — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Do obstacles mean you're on the wrong path, or are they simply part of the journey?
Is the universe conspiring against your dreams, or is it just your own fear holding you back?
And what can you do if you’re struggling to find motivation or inspiration?
Whether you're questioning your career path, second-guessing a major life decision, or simply feeling stuck, you’re bound to experience doubt and resistance. In this episode, we discuss finding your calling, facing inner resistance, and the fear that we might be heading in the wrong direction. And we also explore ways to keep moving forward, even when the path ahead seems uncertain.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/overcoming-resistance
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Oct 8, 2024 • 40min
Build True Confidence by Understanding Unhealthy Self-Esteem — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction?
Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster?
And is there more to life than protecting our egos?
If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all understand what kills our true confidence.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/workaholism-greed-love-addiction
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Sep 17, 2024 • 49min
Dealing with Anger and Emotional Constipation — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation?
Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off?
And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation?
In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situation worse. But if we bottle it up, we become a toxic balloon that could burst at any moment. So today we explore what really drives our anger in hopes that we can find a more productive way to deal with it.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/dealing-with-anger
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Sep 3, 2024 • 35min
Avoiding Vulnerability Leads to Feeling Empty — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives?
Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others?
And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships?
Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and how we can still feel alone even when we’re with others.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/feel-empty
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com
→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.
→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book