The New Man

Whether it’s your looks, your job, or whatever — do you feel a lot of pressure to get it right? Do you ever beat the hell out of yourself for making a mistake? And if we all know that no one’s perfect, then why do so many of us think we should be? Today Alyson and I dig into perfectionism: how we get wired for it, why we let it abuse us, and why striving to get it right makes it harder for us to have what we truly want in life. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/01/perfectionism-makes-us-weak COACHING → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? “This Book Will Make You Dangerous” is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Discover whether you're driving your life or merely reacting to it. Learn about the cultural programming that leads to feeling trapped in a 'prescribed life.' Explore the concept of frustration as a signal for unmet desires. Question the obligations that keep you stuck and consider what truly brings satisfaction. Embrace small daily choices to cultivate autonomy and align with your genuine wants. Engage in self-reflection through journaling to uncover suppressed desires. Ultimately, it's about mapping fulfilling experiences instead of blindly following societal scripts.

Do you care more about the relationship than your partner does? Does it seem like something else is getting their attention? And are your efforts to create time together actually pushing them away? Today Alyson and I talk about what it means when one partner is always busy or distracted. We explore why pushing for more connection can actually drive them away and why choosing to be busy may sometimes mean they’re just not that into you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/12/too-busy-for-relationship   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? “This Book Will Make You Dangerous” is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Alyson Lanier, a coaching professional with a focus on relationships, joins Tripp Lanier to tackle the holiday season's stress and family pressure. They delve into the 'I have to' mindset that fuels guilt and obligation during the holidays. Alyson shares inspiring ideas about questioning traditions, like suggesting a February family reunion instead of holiday travel. The duo emphasizes choosing joy over compliance, setting boundaries respectfully, and the importance of open communication to foster meaningful connections this season.

Are you afraid of being trapped in a sexless marriage? Does your partner treat sex like it’s just another chore? And what are the ways you’re killing your sex life without even knowing it? Today Alyson and I discuss sex — or the lack of sex — in long term relationships. We identify some of the ways we unconsciously kill attraction, what might truly be in the way, and why avoiding the issue just makes it worse.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/11/sexless-marriage   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why does talking about money with your partner feel so loaded? Why can financial conversations turn into full-blown fights? And what if the real issue isn’t money at all? In this episode, Alyson and I explore why finances are one of the biggest sources of stress — and even breakups — in relationships. We talk about how money has tested our own marriage, the hidden meanings we attach to it, and what shifts when we start to see what money truly represents for each of us.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/11/money-and-relationship-problems   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why do so many women chase the jerk but overlook the nice guy? Do you ever lose yourself once you’re in a relationship? And what does it mean when a man’s powerful at work but neutered in the bedroom? Today, Alyson and I dig into why so many guys struggle with relationships, power, and emotions. We breakdown what it means to be a modern integrated male as well as the ideal balance of brains, heart, guts, and balls.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/why-men-struggle-with-power-emotions-and-sex   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why does trying to be a “real man” scream insecurity? Why do so many guys turn into neutered, “yes dear” pushovers? And could all this talk about masculine and feminine energy be a big distraction? Today Alyson and I break it down. What do people really mean when they talk about masculine and feminine energy? Why do some swear it’s the secret to passion, polarity, and purpose? And what if the whole thing is missing the bigger point?   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/masculine-feminine-energy   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you know what needs to be done but fail to follow through? Does life constantly feel like there’s just too much to do? And are you waiting for everything to be done before you can really enjoy your life? Today Alyson and I share a simple way to look at our mindset and understand why we make life harder than it needs to be. Whether it’s our inner visionary, manager, or soldier, chances are if you’re struggling to make progress at least one of these guys is needing backup.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/09/mindset-that-keeps-you-stuck   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you have someone in your life that, no matter what you do, it’s always your fault? Do you often walk on eggshells, worried the next thing you say will set them off? And at what point does “difficult” cross the line into a personality disorder? Today, Alyson and I dive into one of the toughest, most confusing topics in relationships: personality disorders. Borderline, narcissistic, and other disorders can be hard to spot, until it’s too late. We’ll break down the red flags to watch for, the patterns that make these relationships so draining, and, most importantly, how to protect yourself when someone else’s behavior is dominating your life.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/09/toxic-person   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book