The New Man How to Deal with Holiday Stress, Guilt, and Family Pressure — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
Nov 30, 2025
Alyson Lanier, a coaching professional with a focus on relationships, joins Tripp Lanier to tackle the holiday season's stress and family pressure. They delve into the 'I have to' mindset that fuels guilt and obligation during the holidays. Alyson shares inspiring ideas about questioning traditions, like suggesting a February family reunion instead of holiday travel. The duo emphasizes choosing joy over compliance, setting boundaries respectfully, and the importance of open communication to foster meaningful connections this season.
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Question Your "I Have To" Mindset
- Question your "I have to" impulses by asking what's driving them: fear, obligation, or guilt.
- Choose deliberately by naming the choice to reclaim freedom and reduce unconscious stress.
Create A "Hell Yes" Option
- Find a "hell yes" scenario that would make you actually want to attend family events.
- Negotiate terms (duration, activities) so you attend from choice, not obligation.
Swapped Holiday Travel For February Vacation
- Alyson and Tripp delayed holiday visits and proposed a February gathering instead of traditional holidays.
- The family accepted and the later reunion felt like a relaxed, joyful vacation instead of obligation.
