The New Man

Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them? Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun? And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work? Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, how that shapes attraction, and what to do if feel like you have to choose between chemistry and connection.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/attraction-vs-connection   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you get drained by small talk? Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love? And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye? Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a few key ideas that’ll help you get out of the shallow end of the pool.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/deeper-conversations   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Should you settle in your relationship? Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit? And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever? Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facing our own fears.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/settle-in-relationship   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Ever feel trapped in a life you didn’t choose? Explore the impact of societal pressures on identity and how they shape our goals. Discover what brings true peace of mind and why we often doubt our paths. The speakers tackle the struggle for authenticity amidst external expectations, urging listeners to redefine success on their terms. They also delve into the intricacies of self-acceptance, discussing the internal conflicts that can sabotage fulfillment. Join the journey to uncover your true self, beyond society's labels.

Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions? If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag? And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame? Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/dealing-with-blame-and-emotions   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Join Alyson Lanier, a personal growth advocate and wife of Tripp Lanier, as they delve into what it means to elevate your life. They tackle the fears surrounding financial setbacks and the relentless drive for more. Discover why developing a healthy achiever mindset is essential and how embracing discomfort can catalyze true growth. With humor and relatable anecdotes, they explore breaking barriers, reassessing ambitions, and the significant role of mindset in pursuing genuine fulfillment.

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired? Is it your fault if your partner cheats? And how do men respond differently to being cheated on? Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it’s such a blow to our self esteem, and what not to do if you find out your partner has betrayed you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/cheating-guide-to-betrayal-nisenson   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Ruth Ramsay, a renowned sex educator and TED Talk creator, dives into the complexities of sexual intimacy in relationships. She explores why many couples face frustration and rejection in their sex lives. Ruth emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding between partners. Practical tips on scheduling intimacy and setting boundaries are discussed to enhance connection. She advocates for better sexual education and introduces self-coaching techniques, encouraging listeners to actively improve their sexual well-being.

Alyson Lanier, a relationship expert and spiritual guide, teams up with Tripp Lanier to explore the complexities of spirituality. They tackle the common misconception that spirituality is transactional, urging listeners to seek deeper connections. The duo discusses the impact of childhood trust and attachment on adult relationships, and how emotional needs shape our spiritual beliefs. They highlight the danger of approaching spirituality as a means to an end, instead advocating for embracing uncertainty and interconnectedness in our spiritual journeys.

Do you believe you need alcohol or some other crutch to function at your best? Do fears like imposter syndrome or stage fright ever completely go away? And is it still worthwhile to be generous and kind? Randy Blythe is best known as the vocalist for the metal band, lamb of god. He’s spent decades making records and playing to massive audiences all around the world. He’s also just another guy you might see surfing. That’s how we’ve become friends. Today we dive into his new book of essays, Just Beyond the Light and his difficult path of sobriety. We also discuss how, after a fan lost his life at a show in the Czech Republic back in 2010, Randy chose to face trial when he could have found a way out. If you enjoy gritty stories, stick around and consider picking up his new book.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/randy-blythe-just-beyond-the-light   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book