The New Man

Alyson Lanier, a coaching professional with a focus on relationships, joins Tripp Lanier to tackle the holiday season's stress and family pressure. They delve into the 'I have to' mindset that fuels guilt and obligation during the holidays. Alyson shares inspiring ideas about questioning traditions, like suggesting a February family reunion instead of holiday travel. The duo emphasizes choosing joy over compliance, setting boundaries respectfully, and the importance of open communication to foster meaningful connections this season.

Are you afraid of being trapped in a sexless marriage? Does your partner treat sex like it’s just another chore? And what are the ways you’re killing your sex life without even knowing it? Today Alyson and I discuss sex — or the lack of sex — in long term relationships. We identify some of the ways we unconsciously kill attraction, what might truly be in the way, and why avoiding the issue just makes it worse.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/11/sexless-marriage   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why does talking about money with your partner feel so loaded? Why can financial conversations turn into full-blown fights? And what if the real issue isn’t money at all? In this episode, Alyson and I explore why finances are one of the biggest sources of stress — and even breakups — in relationships. We talk about how money has tested our own marriage, the hidden meanings we attach to it, and what shifts when we start to see what money truly represents for each of us.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/11/money-and-relationship-problems   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why do so many women chase the jerk but overlook the nice guy? Do you ever lose yourself once you’re in a relationship? And what does it mean when a man’s powerful at work but neutered in the bedroom? Today, Alyson and I dig into why so many guys struggle with relationships, power, and emotions. We breakdown what it means to be a modern integrated male as well as the ideal balance of brains, heart, guts, and balls.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/why-men-struggle-with-power-emotions-and-sex   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why does trying to be a “real man” scream insecurity? Why do so many guys turn into neutered, “yes dear” pushovers? And could all this talk about masculine and feminine energy be a big distraction? Today Alyson and I break it down. What do people really mean when they talk about masculine and feminine energy? Why do some swear it’s the secret to passion, polarity, and purpose? And what if the whole thing is missing the bigger point?   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/masculine-feminine-energy   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you know what needs to be done but fail to follow through? Does life constantly feel like there’s just too much to do? And are you waiting for everything to be done before you can really enjoy your life? Today Alyson and I share a simple way to look at our mindset and understand why we make life harder than it needs to be. Whether it’s our inner visionary, manager, or soldier, chances are if you’re struggling to make progress at least one of these guys is needing backup.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/09/mindset-that-keeps-you-stuck   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you have someone in your life that, no matter what you do, it’s always your fault? Do you often walk on eggshells, worried the next thing you say will set them off? And at what point does “difficult” cross the line into a personality disorder? Today, Alyson and I dive into one of the toughest, most confusing topics in relationships: personality disorders. Borderline, narcissistic, and other disorders can be hard to spot, until it’s too late. We’ll break down the red flags to watch for, the patterns that make these relationships so draining, and, most importantly, how to protect yourself when someone else’s behavior is dominating your life.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/09/toxic-person   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Have you ever hit a big win…and felt nothing? Have you chased success, only to realize it was shallow or meaningless? And what happens when we finally start living in alignment with our soul instead of our ego? Today, Alyson and I dive into success, comparisons, and the art of getting over yourself. We talk about who we are underneath the urge to protect, please, and prove, and why it’s actually a gift when our wins feel empty.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/success-without-soul   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you have a voice in your head telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? Why does this “tyranny of should” drain our aliveness, passion, and connection? And how might your life change if you weren’t afraid to be who you truly are? Today, Alyson and I talk about how we all “should” on ourselves and each other. We explore how this can leave us feeling trapped and emotionally constipated—and what life can feel like when we loosen our grip on control.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/shoulding-all-over-yourself   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Feeling like you're sparring with your partner instead of sharing a life? Discover how treating each other with kindness can revitalize your connection. Bickering and biting humor might seem harmless, but they can poison intimacy. Tune in to explore how to navigate disagreements constructively and avoid contempt. Learn the importance of respectful communication and setting healthy boundaries, all while fostering a supportive environment that keeps love alive and thriving.