The Jordan Harbinger Show

Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the author of Deep Work, So Good They Can't Ignore You, and Digital Minimalism. What We Discuss with Cal Newport: Why focus in our modern era of endless technological distractions is the new IQ. Why your greatest competitive advantage may lie simply around decluttering and resetting that focus. The best ways to declutter the mental landscape to optimize your capacity to focus. How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle. How you can use technology to improve your daily life without becoming absorbed by its distractions. And much more... Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you prove that your teacher is name-grading essays without cheating on the paper? You're a veteran looking to transition back to civilian life. Here are some resources that might help (many thanks to your fellow veteran Zach Criswell for this info). When the big change you really need is a job opportunity at another company, is it unfair not to give your current employer a chance to negotiate with you to stay put? You're worried your significant other might have gotten wrapped up in an expensive self-help cult. What might you say to bring them gently back to Earth without wasting even more time and money? How do you find a lawyer who will actually get the job you need done and won't break the bank? An important network connection has offered to help you find opportunities as you're transitioning into a new field, but how can you ensure you're not biting off more than you can chew while still learning the ropes without wasting anyone's time? You're a contractor who has worked for a company that has been bought and sold three times in the past three years. How do you present this on your resume so it doesn't look like you've worked for three companies in that time? You're in your fifties and looking to open a franchise, though you don't have direct retail experience. What should you do to minimize risk so you're not burdened with debt in your retirement years should things go south? Recommendation of the Week: Conversations with a Killer: The Ted Bundy Tapes Quick shoutout to Natasha Holmes! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Rob Cesternino is a two-time Survivor contestant and was referred to by Jeff Probst as "The Smartest Player to Never Win Survivor." Rob...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

John Ruhlin (@ruhlin) is the world's leading authority in maximizing customer loyalty through radical generosity. He is the founder of Ruhlin Group, and author of Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention. What We Discuss with John Ruhlin: Active loyalty versus passive loyalty. Why personalization matters. Why you should be asking "What's the most I can do here?" when investing in relationships rather than "What's the least I can get away with?" Why the timing of a gift matters. How to exercise radical generosity and take gift-giving to a whole new level. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jaron Lanier is an early Internet pioneer, computer scientist, visual artist, musician, and author of Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now. What We Discuss with Jaron Lanier: The real cost of the "everything is free" mentality that accompanied the cultural proliferation of the Internet and social media. How social media manipulates human behavior to threaten free will. Why negative emotions are the lifeblood of social media. How social media contributes to the mass production of misinformation. Why feeding on social media content tailored to you makes it difficult to empathize with the perspective of others. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Teaching your kid how to play chess? Here's a simple way to keep them engaged without crushing their spirits or throwing a single game. When your line of work grants you even a minor level of celebrity, how do you express appreciation when you're recognized without succumbing to awkwardness? How can you work with someone you don't like or respect -- and ensure that you still like and respect yourself in the process? You've been selected to give a graduation speech in front of 2,500 people and want to crush it. What can you do to be as prepared as possible? Someone owns the Web domain you want, but they're not using it. What's the best way to negotiate for it or find a close alternative? When you're in a line of work that doesn't generate repeat customers, what's the best (and least tacky) way to ask for referrals from satisfied past customers? After following the Level One exercises and re-engaging contact with a former mentor, they seem resistant to a catch-up meeting. How might you offer value to make it worthwhile for them? Meeting new people and dating when you have a chronic illness presents numerous challenges, but the biggest might be: when is it appropriate to disclose your condition to a potential relationship partner? Life Pro Tip: Make yourself manually dial some of your more important contacts on occasion so you'll know their numbers if you're ever stuck without your phone. A quick shoutout to Cesar Millan and everyone at The Dog Psychology Center! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Hosted...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) has been Wharton's top-rated professor for seven years, is the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and is the author of three New York Times Best Sellers: Option B (with Sheryl Sandberg), Originals, and Give and Take. What We Discuss with Adam Grant: Why you probably don't know yourself as well as you think you do. Why you're prone to believe things about yourself that are patently false. How people closest to you benefit from reinforcing these falsehoods. Why the people who would most benefit from helping you see these falsehoods are the least likely to point them out. What you can do to become more accurately self-aware. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your new neighbor's loud arguments and wild parties at all hours would be annoying enough if they involved multiple people, but the only person who ever seems to be in attendance is her. Should you be concerned enough to inform management -- or the police? When reconnecting with someone in your network (per our Level One exercises), how can you identify ways to add value to their goals? Long-time listeners would understand a covert contract from the contractor's side of things. But what do you do if you suspect someone has a covert contract out on you? Your newest roommate is a slob who pilfers your food and doesn't clean up after himself. What can you do to put your foot down without causing too much contention? With so much motivational and personal development advice being thrown around these days, how can you tell the difference between genuine self-help and utter bullcrap? Without succumbing to the formulaic elevator pitch, how can you politely introduce yourself and make an impression when you're in convenient proximity to your company's higher-ups and decision makers? How might a public school teacher who loves to teach supplement their painfully inadequate income? What thought exercises might help someone on the edge of burning out at their job decide whether to soldier on for the next few months to qualify for a bonus or just quit now and damn the consequences? Recommendation of the Week: FYRE: The Greatest Party That Never Happened A quick shoutout to Heike Dunkel from Germany! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Hosted by Brooke Gittings and Bill Kurtis, Cold Case Files explores some of the most difficult-to-solve murders,...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dave Asprey (@bulletproofexec) is a self-described biohacker, CEO and founder of Bulletproof 360, Inc., host of the Bulletproof Radio podcast, and author of Game Changers, Head Strong, and The Bulletproof Diet. What We Discuss with Dave Asprey: How Bulletproof founder Dave Asprey biohacked himself from a 300-pound heart attack waiting to happen to 9.6 percent body fat. How a prenatal condition, bullying, a thyroid condition, and toxic mold collaborated to bring Dave's health to a point so low even his doctor couldn't help him. What is your immune system's "memory" forgetting, and what role does mitochondria play in how you feel? What does Dave believe are the top two causes of autoimmunity, and what can we do to guard ourselves when our body can't even identify the enemy? Why does Dave put butter in his coffee instead of milk or cream like normal people, and what's the difference between real Bulletproof coffee and what the small-town cafe on the other side of the world is trying to peddle as "Bulletproof" coffee? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Derren Brown (@DerrenBrown) is a mentalist, illusionist, magician, artist, photographer, collector of curiosities, and author. What We Discuss with Derren Brown: How did Derren Brown make the transition from law student to career hypnotist? How does psychological manipulation and hypnotic suggestion work to make people operate counter to their own desires? How does Derren use his own manipulative skills for good? How do faith healers and psychics ply their trades so convincingly? What are the limits to hypnotic influence? And much more... The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Are you a square if you think your casual love triangle has devolved into nothing more than a crossed line? Your wedding guest list is getting out of control. How can you maintain the desired intimacy of a smaller gathering and keep the budget in line without offending anyone? If epilepsy keeps you from driving, how can you overcome feeling like a nuisance to your friends and family -- and how do you work around it for potential dates? You're feeling a little overwhelmed from having so many irons in the fire, but you need to keep the momentum going to support your family. What are some healthy ways to regain a sense of balance? How do you calm your mind from acute stress when something happens and you can't stop thinking about it? Some of the hardships you've endured andconquered still embarrass you. How can you own and include them in the story you share with others? Your boss constantly overshares and vents personal issues to you, which is draining and counterproductive. How can you establish appropriate boundaries without causing workplace friction? Due to your best friend's recent string of bad luck, you feel your relationship shifting from an equal footing to a mentor-mentee situation. How can you keep your ego in check to regain balance while still being supportive? Recommendation of the Week: The Clinton Affair Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.