Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Jan 10, 2023 • 42min
Owning Your Life and Reclaiming Your Sexuality
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It takes emotional maturity to show up honestly in your life and expose what you really think, feel, and desire–especially when those thoughts and feelings diverge from the norms of your larger social group. The fear of not belonging can keep us from acknowledging who we really are.
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Carter of the Heart and Soul podcast to discuss the complexity of making room for your own thoughts and desires when you also belong to a family or larger group, and how unyielding expectations can interfere with self-acceptance, body acceptance, and honest relationships with others.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
The importance of acknowledging our honest thoughts and desires
Perfectionism
Body Image
Developing compassion towards our limitations and the limitations of others
Resentment
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Jan 5, 2023 • 52min
Dating for a Differentiated Marriage
Reconciling our desire to belong to ourselves and our desire to be in close relationship with another is a complicated process.
Making room in a relationship for two complete people, each with their own values, opinions, and priorities, is a complicated, painful, and remarkably worthwhile process–a process that will foster spiritual, emotional, and psychological development if we let it.
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr.Finlayson-Fife joins the Barbie Does Dating podcast discuss the complexities and joy that come from our most important and meaningful relationships.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
*Differentiation in relationships
*Finding connection despite differences
*Negative patterns that interfere with growth & intimacy
*How fear of rejection and fear of commitment relate to perfectionism,
low desire, and disinterest in dating
*The importance of using invalidating information to confront ourselves and grow
*The benefits of being in a loving and committed relationship
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Dec 15, 2022 • 50min
Sexual Development and Maturity
Loving sexuality in marriage provides a refuge from the suffering and difficulty that is inherent to living.
When sexuality is mature, based in love and acceptance, it has the power to sustain us, rejuvenate our souls, and expand our capacity for joy.
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to talk about how we can develop sexual maturity and use our sexuality to create more partnership and connection in our marriages.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
*Female orgasm
*Sexual response cycles for men and women (they’re different!)
*Masturbation and sexual awareness
*Fantasy
*Surrender and pleasure
If you enjoyed this episode and want to learn more, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women!
Nov 30, 2022 • 39min
Relationship Red Flags
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In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Lisa Valentine Clark of The Lisa Show (@thelisashow) to discuss red flags within a relationship and how discomfort in relationships can help us grow into more mature and loving partners.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
*Love and Truth, two foundational elements of all good marriages
*Discomfort and its role in personal and relational growth
*Harmful meaning frames
*Creating and maintaining friendship in marriage
*Resentment and what it can teach us about ourselves
*Red flags in relationships
Nov 21, 2022 • 26min
Uncharted: Finding Peace and Stability in New and Uncertain Territory || Room for Two Teaser!
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It’s been a rough year for Nate and Nora.
Their marriage has been a relatively peaceful and comfortable one, but now things are different. Navigating Nate’s faith transition has been difficult for both of them. Nate is seemingly sprinting down this new path and Nora, while she makes efforts to understand, needs more time and patience than Nate is willing to provide. While recent changes have brought some newfound beauty and depth to their relationship, she often finds herself craving the stability and certainty of the past.
In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Nate and Nora see how they have each handled their fear and anxiety in destructive ways – Nora becoming rigid and Nate turning to condescension. These strategies are compelling because they are an easy escape from the intensity and discomfort of marital growth and expansion. Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains that the path to more stability and connection in their relationship is differentiation – learning to tolerate the aloneness and invalidation that comes when you love someone who sees and experiences the world differently than you do.
Nov 17, 2022 • 49min
Understanding Anxiety
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps and Kristi Bassett for a frank discussion about anxiety. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers an important distinction between fear and anxiety and gives practical tips on how we can each learn to better cope with the uncertainties of life.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
*Fear vs Anxiety
*How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty
*Supporting family members with anxiety
*Anxiety medication
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Nov 2, 2022 • 20min
Conflict in Relationships
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Raini Hamilton to talk about the important role conflict plays in intimate relationships and how couples can use conflict to grow closer together and expand their lives and relationship.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Conflict vs Contempt
* Our need for both connection and autonomy
* Effective communication during conflict
* Losing strategies
Oct 26, 2022 • 1h 7min
Discomfort for Growth: Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Personal and Professional Journey
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In this NEW podcast episode, Kirsten and Alexis of the Sharing Her Journey podcast (@sharingherjourney) invite Dr. Finlayson- Fife to discuss challenging moments from her earlier years and the impact those challenges have had on her life and career path.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about
* What inspired Dr. Jennifer’s dissertation topic
* Growth from stepping into a paradigm you don’t agree
* Satan’s playground–it’s not sex…
* Updates about Dr. Jennifer’s upcoming book
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Oct 19, 2022 • 40min
Understanding Overfunctioning
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In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlynn Mitchell of the This is Ashlynn podcast (@this.isashlynn) to help listeners better recognize how they overfunction and underfunction (that’s right, you may be doing both!) in their marriages and in parenting.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Overfunctioning vs underfunctioning
* Self-confronting about our behaviors
* Negative impacts of overfunctioning and underfunctioning
* Specialization within a marriage
* Overfunctioning as a parent
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Oct 4, 2022 • 43min
Growing Beyond Duty Sex
In this NEW PODCAST, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of the Sexy Mariage Radio Podcast to discuss duty sex and what couples can do to bring more desire, passion, and aliveness to their intimate relationship.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Spontaneous Desire vs Responsive Desire
* Escaping exposure and responsibility through resentment
* Duty sex
* False narratives that limit growth
* Discomfort for growth
* Modesty as a form of self-respect
