Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Sep 27, 2022 • 53min
Rethinking Modesty
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In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Brecklyn Simmons of the Bread and Butter Podcast to discuss the negative meanings that many of us inherited around modesty and sexuality. Dr. Finlayson-Fife goes on to share how we can rethink and reframe those ideas to develop a healthier understanding of both modesty and sexuality.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Equal responsibilities for men and women around modesty
* The dangers of both repression and indulgence
* Moderation and self-regulation
* Empowering modesty vs compliance modesty
* Adults and modesty
* Modesty as a form of self-respect
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Sep 20, 2022 • 55min
Pornography and Self-Compassion
Learning that your spouse has been viewing pornography can bring on a whirlwind of complex emotions including anger, fear, and self-doubt. It's important to have compassion for yourself as you work through these emotions.
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Camille Scow of the Choosing Love podcast to talk about the complexities of pornography usage and how you can show love and support to your spouse and yourself in the wake of a pornography disclosure.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* The important role of self-compassion as we work through fears and anxieties associated with porn usage
* Harmful meanings around pornography that hinder our growth and understanding
* Anger as a positive resource
* The true measure of progress for a porn user
* Trust vs Trustworthiness
Sep 12, 2022 • 50min
Cutting the Apron Strings
In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to talk about the many emotions that can come as parents transition into the empty nest phase of life, and how we can best support our kids as they become more independent and step out into the world.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Dealing with the loss of purpose and identity as we transition to the empty nesting phase
* Encouraging confidence and independence in adult children
* Supporting married children to leave and cleave to their partner
* Making room for a new daughter or son-in-law in the family culture
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Aug 31, 2022 • 42min
Sexuality as a Force for Good
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Brewer of the Overcome Pornography For Good Podcast to discuss how taking responsibility for your own life and choices will increase your capacity to love and be loved.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Sexuality as a force for good
* The importance of becoming the architect of your own life
* Creating strength and peace through your choices
* Embracing your capacity for pleasure
* How negative meaning frames & anxiety obscure spiritual clarity and our ability to be at peace with ourselves and others
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Aug 16, 2022 • 0sec
Crossing Ideological and Interpersonal Divides: How to Create Unity in Conflict
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s recent presentation at a stake women’s conference. During this presentation, she focuses on how we can use conflict and difference to increase our wisdom and create more unity in our families and communities. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addressed questions from members of the congregation about loving LGBTQ family members, women’s role in the Church, and how to better understand and love family members who leave the church.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Approaching difficult topics with your spouse (finances, in-laws,, parenting, etc.)
* The difference between a peacemaker and a people-pleaser
* Parenting adolescent children regardless of their beliefs
* Responding to a child who identifies as LGBTQ
* Estrangement from a loved one because of differing political or religious beliefs
Aug 9, 2022 • 24min
JFF Talks TikTok: Salt Lake Tribune Interviews Dr. Jennifer on LDS Non-Monogamy
It can be devastating when our partner expresses disapproval or disagrees with our thoughts and ideas.
Many of us buy into the idea that when we enter into marriage we have locked down a partner that will love us no matter how immature we are. When we don’t like the messages we get from our partner, it can feel easy to go look for “cheap” validation outside of our marriage, rather than use what our spouse is telling us to improve ourselves.
In this recent podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Dave Noyce and Peggy Fletcher Stack of The Salt Lake Tribune's Mormon Land podcast (@mormonland) to discuss the recent viral "MomTok" video. In this discussion, Jennifer talks about how the lack of strong moral development in individuals can lead to vulnerabilities within a marriage.
Listen to the full podcast to learn more about...
* Well-intended messages that interfere with our ability to create intimate marriages
* Teaching our youth to value chastity and fidelity while celebrating their body and sexuality
* The importance of normalizing the process of growth that takes place in a healthy marriage
* Dealing with disapproval and disappointment in our relationships
Aug 1, 2022 • 0sec
Traditions and Truth
Many of our faith traditions today have been borrowed from our larger culture and are being taught as doctrine.
We have a responsibility to examine the ideas that are presented to us and discern truth from error and sort out doctrine from tradition–no matter whether the ideas in question come from our families, church leaders, or others. Earnestly seeking out truth is what fosters our freedom and wisdom and will allow us to fully access the richness of our theology.
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultural Hall Podcast to discuss some of the false traditions that have been passed down through generations and are now being misunderstood as doctrine–topics like patriarchal order within the church and family, Mother in Heaven, equality, priesthood authority, polygamy, and sexuality. It’s important to pray, ponder, and discern your own position.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Personal revelation and moral responsibility
* Traditions vs Truth
* Limited understandings of sexuality, intimacy, priesthood, and Mother-in-Heaven
* How to handle complicated topics and different perspectives with maturity
Jul 26, 2022 • 1h 3min
Accountability in Relationships
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tony Overbay of The Virtual Couch Podcast (@tonyoverbay) to discuss differentiation, self-validation, and the vital role of self-confrontation in intimate relationships.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Self-awareness is key to intimacy
* Differentiation
* Recognizing our own capacity to be unkind
* Dealing with powerlessness in your life
* Therapy vs coaching
* Emotional immaturity
* Narcissism
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Jul 18, 2022 • 1h 10min
Overfunctioning, Competitiveness, and Superiority in Relationships
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rhonda Farr of The Intimacy Podcast (@rhondafarr_coaching) to discuss the impact of overfunctioning and feelings of superiority in marriage, and what couples can do to address the behaviors that are limiting the intimacy in their marriage.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* The self-deceptions of an over-achiever (you might be surprised)
* Why you may feel the“need to be needed”
* Recognizing your false sense of control
* Dealing with powerlessness in your life
* How competition can creep into marriage.
* Wanting vs Desiring
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the upcoming Art of Loving retreat for men. You can learn more about the retreat and get your ticket HERE.
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Jul 13, 2022 • 56min
Lessons from King David: Self-Deception, Honesty, and Spiritual Development
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s presentation during a recent gospel study session hosted by Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought. This fascinating discussion focuses on the fall of King David and how each of us is still beloved by God, despite being vulnerable to our own hubris and self-deception.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* The importance of self-confrontation
* The complexities of humanity
* Facing our darker selves
* Honesty
* Spiritual development
* Self-deception
* Marriage as a mechanism for growth
To learn more about Dialogue and participate in future gospel study sessions, click here: https://www.dialoguejournal.com/
