Misunderstandings of the Mind

A rich conversation with Lili which really highlights the difference between purpose we make up in order to get somewhere in the world of form that seems somehow a representation of our created self image vs the purpose of being alive, and just being present to the moment. Is there just one purpose? Its not really an efforting practice I have as much purpose as a mountain goat Purpose is not about doing, its about being My understanding of purpose is always changing There is no before and after When our mind gets busy we have a lot of purposes The quieter I get the less purpose I have We are already everything we want to be Having purpose of doing comes from a place of lack There’s nowhere to be other than here Having a doing purpose steals my presence in now We are purpose When we’ve got something on it My best work is done when there is less of me I am not who I think I am Purpose does not develop the idea of who you are Effortless flow in life is who we are Are we operating from a misunderstanding? Its radically different to what you think Its really an unexplainable thing No words are enough, you can only touch the space It’s full of curiosity, excitement and wonder You can contact Lili via her email here bellinililiana@yahoo.co.uk The post Misunderstanding of Purpose appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A wonderful conversation with Cathy Casey about our innate resilience, how its always there yet we just don’t know or see it. Some of the nuggets I heard: Having certainty in resilience Why do we wake up with a clear mind The still small voice of reason Seeing resiliency in hindsight We always know its there but don’t look God is doing favours for you If you don’t see it for yourself Its inside every human being No really, its that simple! People can hear, when we’re neutral The power of seeing simplicity Seeing the resilience in chaos The psyche can only take so much Reaching out for help is it Innate resilience is always there There’s nowhere else to get to You can contact Cathy via her email uare100@aol.com The post Misunderstanding of Resilience appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

This was a real eye opener for me being a parent and seeing what shows up for me on a daily basis, Erika has a real simple and powerful way of sharing and seeing the roles we take on as parents, and pointing to what is true for everyone, even our children. What stood out to me: Being the perfect parent How kids show us the way Disconnecting from a child We have a lot of ideas about life! Your job is not to control, but understand Resilience is a constant for humanity Parenting can be tough We can’t stop our kids from struggling Life will help you learn what you need to learn Insecurity makes for moments of crappy leadership When your mind calms down, you get a new outlook Our kids are not living our experience Forget about everything you think you know Let things go, unless its a problem Does your philosophy make sense? Creating things! Out of thought Addiction the path to peace of mind? You can contact Erika via her website – here The post Misunderstanding of Parenting appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

Such a simple and peaceful conversation with the wonderful Mavis Karn, exploring the misunderstanding of fear and worry, and how it looks to most people, until you see the truth of how the mind works, and everything starts to look different. How we create our own fear We always know what to do in the moment The abnormal becoming normal Spotting the false logic We have a built in alarm system Worrying is the habit not the content Every emotion is there to guide us When our heads are clear we can achieve anything Calming down, makes you smarter When you notice, your consciousness grows Thoughts don’t do any harm What if it really is that simple? Addiction is our brain lying to us Does everyone feel the same way about this? We are addicted to complexity There is only 1 certainty – Change We get to decide how we experience things There is just now The only reality is undivided wholeness Our experience is always created inside out We are enough as we are All the information is in the feeling You can contact Mavis via email here – mavis.karn@aol.com The post Misunderstanding of Fear & Worry appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A very calming listen to Dicken Bettinger, who talks about inner peace, where it comes from and how we experience more of it when we are not caught up in our stories about the imaginary self. What I heard: From chaos to inner peace Recognising ordinary moments We can’t get there by doing something We already have it It’s so ordinary It’s only available in the now The absence of our personal thinking Its only our own stories that cover it up Whatever we think, we feel We get caught up in thought stories Change is not complex or difficult If it feels illusive its a function of thought There is no past and future You’re not your thinking You’re not your feeling The imaginary future doesn’t exist Peace just means no story It doesn’t matter what we are feeling We can be at peace at any moment Peace is never in the future or past When energy opens thats peace of mind When we’re in the now were kinder people The now is the cure for all of our upset Pure presence is like the movie screen There is no suffering in the now Stress an tension is like an alarm clock You can find Dicken via his website Three Principles Mentoring here The post Misunderstanding of Inner Peace appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A great episode with Maggie Gilewicz around the misunderstanding of awakening, there was so much gold in this because it really looks like if or when we get this ‘understanding’ that I talk about on this podcast, that life should be a certain way, this podcast episode is about embracing being human. Some things I heard: A journey of embracing our humanness fully Beyond the intellect Giving up – to be able to see new Living in Bliss – is it real Is it always going to be like this Now that I understand I should not feel… Fighting the human experience Pretending to be ok when you are not Making up what ‘this understanding’ means Being ok with not being ok When I tell myself, its just a thought Thinking I know stops me from seeing Being ok with doing the dance Knowing we are ok underneath it all Beyond the story of me Knowing that experience will pass Having shitty experiences and having hope When you have hope everything is always ok Why ‘why’ questions are never useful Allowing our feelings to come The ocean is always calm, below the waves When I embrace my experience the quicker it passes Just do whatever occurs to you Theres nothing to do, but you can do what occurs to you Beyond the language and words How humans relate and connect Don’t try to be someone else The post Misunderstanding of Awakening appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

It just made sense to call this episode with George The Big Misunderstanding, caught out by the simplicity of what we share I was reminded how simple, yet life changing the 3 principles understanding is, George has a soft, gentle  and humorous way of sharing that make you really reflect on how life works. What I noticed: What sends people off the track Its not about genetics Its not about medication The real source of peoples lives is their thinking Thought is the variable that determines the experience Peoples experience of life is up for grabs Thinking is the variable, not the circumstances The link between thought and experience Being on candid camera Understanding the nature of feelings People are resilient They forget as they get older The point of life is to get over yourself Understanding helps us be graceful in life 1 to 1 what you think = what you experience No really, its that simple People are being fooled by their thoughts How to see the link between thoughts and experience Why do we pour everything into our ideas about us Do therapists really buy into the diagnosis Why psychotherapists have very high suicide rates Why that doesn’t happen in the 3p understanding The post The Big Misunderstanding appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A really cool, simple conversation with Aaron Turner breaking down what look like the complexities of loving relationships, where love exists in all of us, and how to experience more of it. This was a great exploration of what is innately true for everyone, and also how we block ourselves from getting it. Some things I noticed: Love outside ourselves can never be found How we stumble upon love Love is a feeling of your own purity of mind When we are at ease, there is a richer feeling Love is so simple Its only our ideas of what love is that separate us Only my own thoughts and feelings separate me from love When people don’t feel love they don’t know it’s there Underneath all our personal thinking is that experience All conflict is created in the mind via thought There’s never anything to fix You can have a healthy relationship to unhealthy thought When we have a thought, it looks like a real thing It is important to know its just a thought When you don’t feel good pause Love is an experience of a less upset distorted mind Compatibility – Anyone can be with anyone Dating with less on your mind Once your mind is more free you can enjoy yourself Happiness come from within not another person Its actually all so simple When we get out of our own way Its about our relationship to our true self Aaron Turner, PhD Aaron has been a leader and pioneer in bringing an understanding of State of Mind to businesses and organisations over the last 20 years. Although he has worked extensively with individuals, couples and families, it was the impact he saw in organisations that he found most inspiring. He started his professional career in this area in 2000. Moving from a research position at Brunel University to a trainee position at a counselling and consulting practice in Washington State. He worked there for 10 years rising through the ranks to become the practice’s CEO for three years. During that time, Aaron was gripped by the profound effects he saw when leaders, teams and organisations began to see, and more effectively navigate, their state of mind. He developed, ran and provided programs in executive leadership, sales and communication as well as larger-scale cultural change projects. These programs have included executive institutes for Fortune 50 corporations and executive development programs for senior Army leaders (One and two-star generals, Colonels and their civilian equivalents) in The United States. In 2010 Aaron founded One Thought to focus primarily on working with leaders and organisations. He is a published author and international public speaker. Aaron has an online course to give people access to the amazing training that he does, and there are free lessons and it is only £85/year for for full access, take a look here if you are interested One Thought Online The post Misunderstanding of Love appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A conversation with a beautiful feeling with Chip Chipman, I really enjoyed this exploration of change, how change works and the illusion that we get caught up in our humanity of what looks like it needs to change. Chip was friends with Syd Banks and has been sharing this understanding for many decades, it was a lovely episode. Here is what stood out to me: How change comes about Effortless change is possible Why behavioural change doesn’t work Our innate health is before experience Your innate health cannot be damaged True change comes from quiet moments There is nothing outside of you An insight is the start of change We get a different relationship with our experience Every deep insight we have will continue to teach us There are no rules for insight How to have deep impact with clients The true self is healthy Why searching to fix yourself doesn’t work The underlying problem is always insecurity When insecurity subsides many things are resolved The effort to change, creates more insecurity How thought slows down, creating space Seeing our insecurity is enough Being kind to ourselves makes the difference Accepting our own humanity Slowing down to the speed of life The journey takes you to a better life Looking at life from a higher level of consciousness The answers are always in simplicity You can contact Chip via his website here The post Misunderstanding of Change appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.

A deep dive into the misunderstanding that we call self help with Nicole Barton, who after a lifetime of struggling and trying everything discovered the simple understanding of how the mind really works, and experienced a profound sense of freedom. Some of the points that stood out are: Being somewhere other than here Constantly striving to be more We are not broken Why self help makes you feel more of a failure Theres nothing to do to overcome things that don’t exist Seeing beyond the illusion of our humanity Self help is only ever a plaster Good feelings only ever come from within The answers always come in a state of calm No effort is needed, just quiet Analysing thoughts is adding more thinking Why typical journaling keeps you stuck We are conditioned to talk about our problems The answers are not in the past The past doesn’t exist anymore How Self help innocently keeps us stuck Who we really are beyond our ideas Whats beyond our conditioning We’re always in the unknown We’ve created a solution to the problem we’ve created Everything is always going our way Principles vs self help ideas Concepts vs an explanation of how things work You can contact Nicole at her website here The post Misunderstanding of Self Help appeared first on Misunderstandings of the mind.