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Ask Kati Anything ep.123 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Audience questions Does anyone else feel more comfortable talking about their mental health struggles in their non-native language? I’m relatively comfortable talking about my struggles with anxiety in English. However, in my native language (German) I’m so uncomfortable, I often shut down and just don’t... Can you please talk about how to treat anxiety when you are prone to making everything worse due to your anxiety? E.g. when you are worried about performing badly, but then your anxiety makes you so dizzy that you perform badly. Or when you are worried about not getting a point... Why do I miss my depressive and/or suicidal thoughts when I don't feel them for a bit? When I do feel these feelings, all I want is for them to pass, but when they do actually pass, I feel nostalgic and want them to come back.... I honestly don't understand why I could want to feel that way. What can we do when we have trauma symptoms but the living situation we are in doesn't actually feel safe and escaping it seems pretty much impossible? Among poverty, being part of a minority, and having health issues, life just doesn't feel safe. I constantly worry that I might need money for... I was wondering why isn’t there more info specifically on sibling sexual abuse. The little I find they even say that the info available is limited because it is such a taboo topic but yet more common than many know. I was abused by my older brother, we are only a few years apart, but it went on... My question is about the whys of self harm I suppose. I remember coming across self harm (in a book and then in an older school girls scars) and I can still feel the click into place that happened for me. It would be years before I ever used self harm. But what made it attractive before it was... Could you talk more about healthy boundaries? I’ve always struggled with establishing them and I’m working on it now. However, I feel like my new boundaries are too strict and I am now living by some set of rules that controls my life instead of me controlling the boundaries. I’ve heard that... How can I let go of my perfectionist attitude and still feel like who I am and what I do is enough? In today’s world this is even harder as there are so many opportunities for comparisons and expectations seem to just increase. I find myself constantly measuring myself against something... Kati's books:    Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Contact YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton   &   https://www.youtube.com/OpinionsThatDontMatter TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Twitter https://twitter.com/KatiMorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep.122 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT   Audience questions I'm so scared of being a bad patient that I overanalyze everything and anything about my therapy sessions and even things I do outside of therapy. I always think about what my therapist would say about what I'm doing...   I was wondering if you had any advice on how to enter into intimacy as a sexual abuse survivor? I find myself terrified at the idea of ever having sex. However, I also find myself having a difficult time holding my partner's hand. I thought...   Are some people just too damaged by trauma to heal? My therapist told me that might be the case for me, and that I need to learn to live with it. This was after telling her that I was having a rough patch and was feeling suicidal, and was quite frankly devastating to hear. I thought the problem was that I...   How do you get yourself to a place where you are able to talk about certain topics in therapy? I have been in and out of therapy my whole life and I’m now seeing a therapist that I really like and trust. I’ve been able to open up about many difficult topics, but I can’t get myself to bring up my long history of medical trauma...   How do you cope between therapists? My old therapist left, but because of wait lists it will be awhile before I can see someone new. I am struggling, including with suicidal ideation, and don't have much social support so I...   I’m on a waiting list for a new therapist. I’m really struggling at the minute. I'm not sure how long I can keep waiting but I also don’t feel like it’s bad enough for crisis support. Do you have any advice for someone who’s in limbo waiting for treatment but isn’t able to cope whilst they’re...   Can help explain the concept of nonverbal sexual consent. I always thought consent had to be explicit and verbal and that it had to be done in that way prior to progressing to the next step (and of course that the other person couldn't be coerced or otherwise unable to consent). While I still think this is the very best way to handle consent, I was...   Is there such a thing as too many diagnoses? I deal with PTSD, DID, OCD, Bipolar 1, Body dysmorphia, and potentially even atypical anorexia, but I feel this sense of guilt with having been diagnosed with so many things as I feel as though it may make me less likely to be believed and... Kati's Books:   Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Contact YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton   &   https://www.youtube.com/OpinionsThatDontMatter TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Twitter https://twitter.com/KatiMorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 121 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT  Audience questions:   How do you calm yourself down when you're anxious? I have done therapy in the past and was given some tools to try, but they never worked and often just made things worse. For example, I...   I was wondering why my therapist never tries to find the root of my problems in therapy. I have anorexia, bpd traits (all of the criteria but I'm a teen), depression, anxiety, and severe dissociation that has impeded...   Can you please talk about microaggressions and how to deal with them? Especially when you're already a quiet, shy or socially anxious person? How do you manage to be confident in social settings when.   I have been going to therapy for about 3 months and it's been an emotional rollercoaster. I've been uncovering past trauma, physical and emotional abuse. Also, I've always been the parentified child who only cares for others and not for myself. I've been bottling my emotions...   My question is how do you know what to work on in therapy when it seems like there are just too many big things you need to work through? I’ve been focusing on certain issues lately because they are more recent or time sensitive, but I also have a lifetime of trauma...   How do you find the balance between pushing through the anxiety to do new things without getting too overwhelmed? I used to be the type of person who would let my anxiety get in the way of exciting things and...   How do you take care of yourself when you're dissociated/depersonalized? When the body is separate from me and I don't feel hunger or pain, when it feels like a stranger and I can't bring myself to...   Hi Kati! I love your channel and have been watching since the beginning. You’re a distant part of my healing journey, so thank you for all that you do. I was wondering what is a good reason for your therapist to terminate care? I had a therapist when I was in rehab who still saw me in between stays, as she also works outpatient. I was hospitalized and discharged from rehab due to... Kati's Books:   Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j      Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Contact YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton   &   https://www.youtube.com/OpinionsThatDontMatter TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Twitter https://twitter.com/KatiMorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 120 | Your mental health podcast, with Licensed Therapist Kati Morton, LMFT   Audience questions:   Hey Kati, Thank you so much for everything you do. I have been watching your channel for years! I’ve been wondering why I can’t stand intimacy at all? Not even being touched in a non sexual way such as being hugged or even just lightly touched on the arm. It makes me feel super uncomfortable! I’ve never had...    I have a question about conversations about sexual preference. I've never been in a relationship myself (I’m 26) because I’m scared if someone gets too close to me. I feel like I have to be more into “relationships'' and there's something wrong with me. When I get into a conversation, there have been a few times that someone was asking if I'm attracted to women...    Can you talk about how building trust with your therapist is supposed to work? I struggle to trust my therapist, and to know whether not trusting them is warranted or not. In the past, I felt pressured to talk about my problems with my therapist (a different one), and I...    What are some ways to find closure with your trauma after sexual assault if you decide not to press charges? I have decided that pressing charges would be harmful, but the fact that I haven't done it still weighs heavily on my heart, mind, body and spirit. I think I see pressing charges as a form of closure but in a lot of ways, I really think it would do more harm to...    I would love your opinion on causes of dissociation during sex. I am a gay woman but dealt with a lot of shame growing up and used to sleep with men where i experienced dissociation . However now that i am actually being myself and being intimate with women which is more true to myself, i am still...    Why is it so triggering when others show concern or try to be nurtured after childhood trauma and emotional neglect?  If my therapist asks if I’m doing ok during a difficult week I freak out because she has picked up on it. I don’t like to share information or emotions and am terrified of being easy to read....    Could you talk about why it might be that I am repulsed by / uninterested in sex but my (older) sister isn't, even though she experienced sexual assault when we were children and I only experienced it indirectly through the effect it had on her? She...    I am an adult child of two parents with narcissistic personality disorder. Due to massive emotional abuse, emotional neglect and a lot of gaslighting in childhood, I never learned to confide in other people and even less to talk about my problems... Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j   Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton & https://www.youtube.com/OpinionsThatDontMatter TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Twitter https://twitter.com/KatiMorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 119 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT  Audience Questions: 1. Do you have any advice for someone who doesn't have friends or a relationship, but both wants and doesn't want any/it? I have social anxiety, so making friends tends to be hard to begin with, but I often feel bored and lonely and want...   2. I'm curious about why we would imagine bad things happening to us. Often, I imagine I'm being hurt, not identical scenarios to past traumas but similar themes. I've been curious about this for a while and have noticed I tend to lean into it when my SH & ED aren't really helping enough, almost as a punishment...   3. I recently listened to an episode where you described looking into the past too long as a form of self harm by impeding healing.  Is there ever a point where you can look back at a life forming event that was in some way traumatic without it impeding healing? If so, is it all about...   4. Ever since I was a child I used to 'go' to a fantasy world I created in my mind when I'm not feeling safe. Well, I'm still doing this at 25 and I feel very ashamed because of it. My therapist asked whether I could tell her what happens there...   5. My question pertains to inner child work and emotion regulation. I record my virtual therapy sessions to help myself remember and process what we work on each week (my therapist’s suggestion), but when I get stuck in a depressive spiral, I rewatch (and rewatch and rewatch) the portions of my sessions when...   6. How can we stay in the 'healthy eating habits' path? I feel like I have too emotional attachments to food. I love different cuisines, I love desserts, love eating out and I love trying out new flavors, so I adore eating overall! I try to recognize patterns, for example when I reward myself with food after a long and hard day....   7. Why do some people gravitate towards healthy coping mechanisms and some people don’t? I’ve been struggling and I just keep trading one bad coping skill for another. First several Ed’s then SH then drinking. Once I realize what I’m doing is bad I’ll stop but then a new one pops up...   8. Happy Thursday! I think I may have experienced some religious trauma. My question is: How do I figure out what I believe in and what my own beliefs are and unlearn what I have been taught through church and my upbringing? I hope this makes sense. ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 118 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT 1. I was wondering if you have any tips on telling the difference between an intrusive thought and a real memory? And, is it possible to create false memories from intrusive thoughts? (COMMENT: Also, can intrusive thoughts be a whole scene that plays out in your head? Like a horror movie on repeat that I have no control over. Does this make me a horrible person? // In addition, how can you tell the difference between having intrusive thoughts and something actually being wrong with you (like SI/antisocial stuff etc.) and does everyone have intrusive thoughts? (ego dystonic is intrusive - ego syntonic is antisocial) // Also is there a difference between automatic thoughts and intrusive thoughts? I feel like my therapist uses them interchangeably?) 2. My question is about therapy for my 7 year old daughter. I took her to a therapist (one that was recommended by my therapist) and prior to my daughter’s first appointment I had a phone conversation with the child therapist and asked permission to stay present in the room because of my own past trauma and to ensure her safety.... 3. Am I a horrible person to fantasize about being sexually assaulted/ raped and then fantasize about someone(a father figure) coming and saving me? I was sexually abused by a family friend for 6 years(nobody knows about this except a few friends) and I... 4. What can I do to get better at being comfortable when things are actually okay? I have struggled with anxiety as well as depression on and off throughout my... 5. i found your podcast a couple weeks ago during a maybe depressive episode, and your great advice has provided me with a lot of comfort! anyway, here's my question: why does it feel as though i've "gotten over" my eating disorder? 6. I hope you are well. I am wondering at what point it is considered an ED? I know you've mentioned in the past about spending most of your day thinking about food, but I don't think I really do that, I just avoid it. Part of the problem is... 7. What is your advice for highly sensitive people who would like to become a therapist? It seems like we might be more affected by hearing traumatic stories. How can we avoid this? 8. I have a question about attachment in the therapeutic relationship. Since I've had therapy, I've noticed that my mood becomes more and more dependent on how my therapist responds to... 9. How do we stay strong when we’re unsafe? While I’m not physically unsafe in my current situation, my boundaries are consistently violated and I have to listen to the verbal abuse my dad endures...  10. Why is it that I am so stressed out by uncertainty and new things? I get really stressed out when I meet new people. And I get really stressed out when I am asked questions I didn't expect. Or when someone unexpectedly... ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 117 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT I'm wondering if it's important to go into the details of self injurious acts when discussing it with your therapist. My therapist always wants to know exactly how I self injured (what I used, where, etc) but it makes me super uncomfortable to go into such detail. I know I should probably ask her why, but that makes me uncomfortable as well..   Depression often robs us of all joy. Is there an effective way to combat anhedonia? How can we motivate ourselves to do things we used to enjoy, when our brain feels no pleasure from it whatsoever? Do we just force ourselves to do it and go through the motions in hopes that...   Should your therapist be similar or have similar values to you? I know that usually patients don’t know much about their therapists and their personal beliefs, and I agree that they shouldn’t. On the other hand, I sometimes wonder if therapy is more beneficial if certain values are the...   Sometimes I'm wondering what a 'normal' amount of stress or fear is. Everyone is experiencing stress sometimes. (Asking a colleague something, giving a presentation before a group of people, driving your car to a new location, walking in the dark...) At what point is stress or fear 'too much' for...   How do you approach patients that don’t feel anything? My last therapist said I was her most difficult client as I never knew how I was feeling I just knew I didn’t like it. I’m worried about seeing someone new as after a year and a half in therapy we came to a place of no progress and...   Can you explain how exposure therapy is supposed to work? I get nervous easily, but still manage to do the stuff that makes me nervous (when I can't avoid it or procrastinate).  For example, I get sick to my stomach, heart starts beating faster and find it a little harder to breathe whenever...   Why can’t I get myself to share things with my therapist? I am 6 sessions in and I want to start talking about things that matter and that I need help with but I can’t get myself to share. I do like her and trust her but I still can’t seem to do it. I find myself full of anxiety while there to the point where...   Can you explain the differences between dissociation and a flashback? Also both happen at the same time? My recent experience was triggered through a topic and I felt really anxious. During this I shivered, my muscles were tense and I couldn't react to the words of another person but still hear her. ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything ep. 116 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Why is it that I've always felt like there's something "wrong" with me? i've never sustained any big trauma, but from as young as twelve i've felt misunderstood and looked for a diagnosis that might fit my experiences (social anxiety, GAD, adhd, and autism to name some)— i've always been oversensitive, had a low tolerance for stress, a low self esteem and...   Hi Kati, there have been questions in the past about things like wanting to be sicker for a therapist to not lose them and I think you’ve said it’s attachment based. I always relate to the action in these scenarios but not the reason.... Have you ever been subpoenaed to testify about a patient? If not, can you tell us what that experience might be like for a therapist? What could cause a therapist to be subpoenaed? Do the rules of confidentiality change in the courtroom (if the patient is over 18)? Are you allowed to still be working with the patient when this happens?   How do you begin to get over anxiety and hypervigilance after living in an abusive home for pretty much your whole life? I am now living alone (in the same apartment I spent a large part of my life in) and don't know how to exist in the space after everyone moved out. I spent most of my life stuck alone in...   I've been lying to my therapist and I don't know what to do. background info: i lied when i brought up the possibility of me having bpd, i said it was a new thought in my mind but in reality i've been self diagnosing for years and have always noticed these patterns. We decided that I have symptoms but I don't seem borderline enough...   I have been diagnosed with CPTSD because of childhood sexual abuse by my Father that happened between 3 -9 years old. My question is I have little to no memory of the abuse. Sometimes I wonder if my brain is playing tricks on me and the abuse never happened and I am just making things up and blaming my dead father for...   I know you talked about something similar already, but I am unsure why I am jealous of people who got raped. I feel like that would be the only way that I have the right to feel as bad as I do. Or I wish that my father broke a bone when he hit me, so that it is not just me being dramatic. I am super scared of him, and people don’t understand that...   Do therapists only validate experiences when they think it's an issue or do they sometimes just validate to make you feel better about it? My therapist told me that I'd experienced trauma during a medical procedure (painful and felt I didn't have control, plus some issues with consent). I get flashbacks and now experience a lot of anxiety around...   Can you choose radical acceptance, and yet, still be mad? I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I have a lot of mixed emotions after learning about my diagnosis.. ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything - your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Audience questions: What are some healthy things to do immediately after a traumatic event occurs (hours after, days after) to process the memory and prevent symptoms of PTSD?    Do you have any advice on how to deal with anger and doubting your own emotions as a result of childhood abuse and gaslighting? I grew up walking on eggshells around my sister, who was very impulsive and mean and I also was emotionally abused by my grandmother. I held deep in myself all anger and hurt as my emotions were...   Is it normal to feel very anxious about sexual intimacy if nothing bad happened to you? Ever since I was a child (5 years old) I was very sexual, my earliest memory of sexuality/masturbation is me being alone in my room and role-playing that someone would tie me down and hold me in place while 'tickling me down there'. I always had such weird fantasies/daydreams of someone 'torturing' me, even in a non-sexual way...   Is it normal for me to hate my inner child who prevents me from doing inner child work? If yes, how can we proceed with the inner child work if that is the case?   I have a trauma anniversary coming up soon, and I’m starting to feel myself slide into a dark place of PTSD. I feel like my stomach is constantly turning, and everything reminds me of what happened. It’s been ten years, and I’m frustrated with myself for still feeling...   Is it possible to help yourself remember the details of a traumatic event that has been blocked from your memory? My dad died when I was 5, and I have spent my whole life trying to piece together my memories from that night. I grew up being told he died in a car accident, but recently learned that he actually killed...   I have been diagnosed with cptsd and ptsd (alongside other mental health illnesses). When I have been in therapy it's like my mind goes blank and it's hard to connect to my emotions and even to memories. Is this considered dissociation?    My question is can someone accidentally (or purposely I guess) fake PTSD? I have been consistently diagnosed with PTSD for over 10 years, despite constantly denying that I have trauma. I think people are assuming I just forget the “event” or something because I do have a terrible memory, but are there other things that can make it look like I have PTSD...   How does one go about sorting through C-PTSD? I’ve tried talk therapy, but I struggle to, we’ll, talk. I just always say “I’m fine,” get super flooded with internal anxiety, and go completely blank. Not super helpful. I’ve looked at alternative therapies, but they make me even MORE nervous (EMDR, Sand Tray, etc). I don’t know where to start... ------ Kati's Books Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online Therapy  While I do not currently offer online therapy, my sponsor Betterhelp will connect you with a licensed, online counselor. VISIT https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon https://www.patreon.com/katimorton Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Business Contact  Linnea Toney   linnea@underscoretalent.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything - your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT This episode focuses on Attachment & BPD Audience questions:  I hear you talk about reparenting in order to deal with attachment issues a lot. My therapist wants to try this with me but somehow I feel very repulsed and almost angry when I think about this idea. I know, it's childish, but I don't want to do this myself. I want so bad for some other person to fill this parenting-hole and just having to care for myself, which is pretty much what I had to do all my life, just seems so unsatisfying. Are there other ways to deal with attachment issues from childhood abuse/neglect?   Is it possible to "fake" mental health problems and trauma responses? I was neglected as a child and now I find myself wanting to feel bad and making myself feel bad (or look bad) just so that my therapist sees it. I am also overly attached to him. Maybe I am just devalidating my traumas, but I sometimes feel like I am exaggerating my reactions to it because I don't think they were that... Can you talk more about quiet BPD? Most videos I see online are about the outward expressions of BPD rather than those who turn those actions inward towards themself. What are some examples of quiet BPD and how could someone share what they’re experiencing with their therapist when most characterize BPD by those stereotypical outward actions/responses?  I was diagnosed with CPTSD a year and a half ago. I have been told by my primary and secondary therapist, along with 2 other MH professionals that it’s not BPD. I have been self diagnosing because I have fear of abandonment, which my therapists know. I experienced emotional abuse, emotional neglect, and have memories of physical abandonment. Is it possible to have fear of abandonment...   When I was in therapy I would go through phases of feeling like pushing my therapist away and then feeling secure with her. I would tell her when I felt like pushing her away and she would reassure me that she would be there. I would then feel secure in the therapeutic relationship for a period of time...   Would LOVE to hear your thoughts on the heard and Depp trial in relation to the bpd / personality disorder diagnosis (only that - everyone can sit with their own thoughts on the trial as it plays out in public opinion but no hate or blame here please, it has the potential to do damage). I am shocked a professional can diagnose like that, considering how long many spend trying to get a diagnosis, and saddened to see a professional run with 'bpd stigmas / stereotypes in such a public trial... Would a therapist or psychiatrist ever hide a bpd diagnosis from a client/ patient? What would be the reasoning if so? When I had a case manager she said I had bpd (it was in my records not her diagnosis), but my psychiatrist never told me about it.   I was wondering if you had tips for a long distance relationship with someone with BPD. Thank you! (Others in the community, if you have tips too I’d love to hear them!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices