The Thais Gibson Podcast

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Jul 30, 2025 • 18min

THIS Is What A Fearful Avoidant NEEDS In A Relationship

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-30-25&el=podcast Fearful avoidants often give off mixed signals: they crave closeness but fear it, they want deep love but struggle to trust it. So what do they actually need to feel safe and fulfilled in a relationship? In this illuminating episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the essential emotional and psychological needs of the fearful avoidant attachment style—many of which are hidden even to the FA themselves. Whether you're healing as an FA or loving one, this episode gives you a roadmap for creating real connection, security, and lasting growth. You’ll learn: ✅ The 11 core needs every fearful avoidant must have met to sustain a relationship ✅ Why emotional depth is a lifeline—not just a preference—for FAs ✅ How trust is built (and broken) through congruency and transparency ✅ The underrated importance of presence, safety, and freedom ✅ How novelty, growth, and independence coexist with emotional closeness ✅ The role of subconscious chaos—and how to replace it with stability ✅ Why appreciation and consistency are game changers for long-term love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #RelationshipNeeds #SubconsciousHealing #EmotionalDepth #TrustAndSafety #MixedSignals #AvoidantAnxiousDynamic #SecureLove Found this episode helpful or healing? Please subscribe, rate, and share it with someone navigating a relationship with a fearful avoidant. Your support helps more people love and be loved better. 💗
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Jul 28, 2025 • 3min

Why the Dismissive Avoidant Shuts Down Sex

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-28-25&el=podcast Does your partner suddenly pull away from sex once things start getting serious? Has intimacy gone cold after a strong beginning? If you're in love with a dismissive avoidant—or healing these patterns yourself—this episode brings clarity and compassion to a confusing relationship dynamic. Thais Gibson explores why dismissive avoidants often shut down around intimacy after the honeymoon phase, what’s happening neurologically and emotionally behind the scenes, and how to tell whether your relationship can be healed—or whether it’s time to walk away. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity around love, intimacy, and self-worth. You’ll learn: ✅ Why sex becomes triggering for DAs after emotional bonds deepen ✅ The subconscious childhood programming that fuels intimacy fears ✅ How DA self-protection kicks in through emotional and sexual withdrawal ✅ The real reason dismissive avoidants dissociate during sex ✅ How performance anxiety and fear of criticism shut down desire ✅ Communication tools to reestablish trust and connection ✅ Why unconditional acceptance (not pressure) reopens emotional safety ✅ When to set a deadline—and how to decide if the relationship is worth it Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #IntimacyIssues #SexAndAttachment #EmotionalShutdown #FearOfCloseness #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentAndSex #EmotionalIntimacy Found this episode insightful? Please subscribe, rate, and share it with someone navigating intimacy with an avoidant partner. Every share supports more healing. 💗
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Jul 25, 2025 • 15min

THIS Is How A Fearful Avoidant Bonds During Sex

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-25-25&el=podcast Why does sex sometimes bring you closer—and other times make you want to run? If you or your partner identify as fearful avoidant, you might feel both deeply connected and overwhelmed during intimacy. This episode explains why. Thais Gibson explores how the fearful avoidant attachment style bonds during sex, what they need to feel safe, and why physical connection can open—or close—the door to emotional intimacy. Learn how sex interacts with neurochemistry, trust, and vulnerability, and discover how to turn intimacy into a gateway for healing instead of confusion or fear. You’ll learn: ✅ The 5 pillars of relationship connection—and where sex fits in ✅ Two common bonding patterns for fearful avoidants in relationships ✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and dopamine affect bonding ✅ Why sex can lead to emotional shutdown for FAs without trust ✅ How to prevent the push-pull dynamic triggered by vulnerability ✅ What FAs need most to feel safe, respected, and seen during sex ✅ How to create a more secure, emotionally fulfilling connection through intimacy Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentAndSex #ThaisGibson #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipIntimacy #EmotionalConnection #NeurochemistryOfLove #SecureRelationships #SubconsciousHealing #PushPullDynamic If this episode opened your eyes or your heart, please subscribe, rate, and share it with someone healing their intimacy patterns. Your support helps more people access tools for emotional clarity and connection. 💗
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Jul 23, 2025 • 11min

5 Strange Things Every Avoidant Needs to Be Happy in Love

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-23-25&el=podcast Avoidant partners often get misunderstood—seen as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But underneath those protective walls are unique needs and a deep desire to connect… on their terms. If you want to love an avoidant without losing yourself, this episode is for you. In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson shares five often-overlooked emotional needs that dismissive avoidants require to feel safe, open, and genuinely happy in love. Whether you're dating an avoidant or healing avoidant tendencies within yourself, you’ll walk away with empowering tools to build connection without sacrificing your own needs. You’ll learn: ✅ Why avoidants need structured independence—not endless space ✅ The role of empathy in healing childhood emotional neglect ✅ How harmony (not drama) keeps avoidants emotionally engaged ✅ Why literal, direct communication builds safety and trust ✅ How to foster growth through acceptance (without enabling unhealthy patterns) ✅ Simple scripts to express your needs and avoid triggering deactivation ✅ The secret to balancing freedom and closeness in real, secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #AvoidantAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #ThaisGibson #RelationshipNeeds #IntimacyAndIndependence #AttachmentTheory #CommunicationInLove #EmotionalSafety #SecureRelationships #PersonalGrowth If this episode helped you understand avoidant behavior more deeply, please subscribe, rate, and share it with someone who needs this message. It might just change their love life. 💗
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Jul 16, 2025 • 53min

The Fearful Avoidant's Inner World

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-16-25&el=podcast If you’ve ever felt like your heart is at war with your mind—wanting closeness one moment, then needing distance the next—you might be living with a fearful avoidant attachment style. And that internal push-pull doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human—and there’s hope. In this insightful solo episode, Thais Gibson takes you into the emotional landscape of the fearful avoidant. You’ll learn how early attachment wounds shape chaotic internal worlds—and how to begin healing from the inside out. Whether you’re identifying as FA yourself or trying to understand a loved one, this episode brings clarity, compassion, and real tools for change. You’ll learn: ✅ Why fearful avoidants often feel emotionally “split” and reactive ✅ The two subconscious core wounds that drive their behavior ✅ How FAs unconsciously sabotage their relationships—and how to stop ✅ Why needs go unmet in FA upbringings (and how to reclaim them) ✅ The role of shame and “self-abandonment” in the FA emotional cycle ✅ Practical steps to build internal safety and restore self-trust ✅ How to break the push-pull pattern and move toward secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #HealingAttachment #EmotionalHealing #PushPullDynamics #ReprogrammingTheMind #RelationshipTrauma #SecureAttachment #PersonalDevelopment If this episode resonated with your story, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share it with someone healing their inner world. Every listen helps more people find their path to secure love. 💞
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Jul 14, 2025 • 8min

What Do Dismissive Avoidants Do With Their Alone Time & What Is This Really About?

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-14-25&el=podcast Have you ever wondered what’s really happening when a dismissive avoidant partner withdraws? Why do they need so much alone time—and what does that time actually look like? In this powerful solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the misunderstood reality of dismissive avoidant behavior in their free time. Far from restful or emotionally fulfilling, much of that alone time is spent simply surviving—numbing out, self-soothing, or unconsciously avoiding emotional needs. If you’re trying to understand (or heal from) a relationship with a DA, this episode is essential listening. You’ll learn: ✅ Why DAs crave time alone—and what’s really happening beneath the surface ✅ The difference between solitude and self-connection ✅ How unmet emotional needs in childhood shape adult self-neglect ✅ What “creature comfort” behaviors are actually regulating ✅ Why intellectual growth often replaces emotional growth for DAs ✅ The connection between emotional suppression and nervous system dysregulation ✅ How to shift from survival mode into healing, growth, and connection Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipPatterns #AvoidantAttachment #SelfNeglect #InnerWorld #SubconsciousHealing #PersonalDevelopment Found this episode eye-opening? Be sure to subscribe, rate, and share with someone who needs help understanding dismissive avoidant behavior and healing the relationship with themselves. 💞
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Jul 12, 2025 • 11min

How to Self Soothe & Regulate Your Emotions

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-12-25&el=podcast Do your emotions sometimes feel too big to manage, like you're overwhelmed, panicked, or desperate for connection? If you're anxiously attached, this isn’t just in your head. It's the result of unmet needs and subconscious conditioning and there’s a path to peace. In this compassionate solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down why anxious preoccupied individuals often feel enslaved by their feelings and dependent on others for emotional relief. She then guides you step-by-step on how to build internal trust, self-soothe, and heal your attachment style by reconnecting with your needs. You’ll learn: ✅ The two emotional roots of anxious overwhelm: unmet needs and painful stories ✅ Why anxious individuals struggle to self-soothe—and how to change that ✅ The path from codependency to healthy interdependence ✅ How to build trust in yourself through daily need-meeting ✅ A practical exercise to identify and fulfill your top 15 emotional needs ✅ How to communicate your needs clearly (and avoid miscommunication in relationships) ✅ Why healing your attachment style is possible with consistency and the right tools Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #AnxiousAttachment #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipNeeds #ThaisGibson #CodependencyRecovery #SelfSoothing #AttachmentStyles #InnerTrust #SubconsciousReprogramming #PersonalDevelopment If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and share it with someone ready to reclaim their emotional power. Your support helps us reach more people on the path to healing. 💕
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Jul 4, 2025 • 14min

How I Learned To Regulate My Nervous System & What Happened

Release Stored Emotions and Reset Your Nervous System With Proven Somatic Tools Taught by Thais Gibson. Buy the Course for $19 (Regularly $250). Limited-Time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-somatic?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-somatic&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-04-25&el=podcast Do you ever feel emotionally overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in cycles of stress and burnout? If your nervous system feels constantly “on,” like you can never fully relax or be present—this episode is for you. In this solo episode, Thais Gibson shares how nervous system dysregulation quietly sabotages your relationships, health, and personal growth and how somatic tools can help you shift from fight-or-flight into peace, presence, and healing. Drawing from personal experience and polyvagal theory, Thais explains how learning to regulate your body transforms your emotional landscape. You’ll learn: ✅ The difference between sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system states ✅ How trauma trains your body to stay in fight-or-flight ✅ Why emotional reactivity feels “bigger” when you're dysregulated ✅ Practical somatic habits to reset your system—no fancy tools required ✅ What most people are really doing when they binge eat, drink, or scroll ✅ Why your energy crashes (and how to access a second wind without burnout) ✅ How to stop coping and start creating from a place of grounded peace Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #SomaticHealing #NervousSystemReset #PolyvagalTheory #ThaisGibson #EmotionalRegulation #PersonalDevelopment #StressReliefTools #HealingTrauma #BurnoutRecovery #MindBodyConnection 💬 Love this episode? Please subscribe, leave a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ review, and share it with someone who needs a nervous system reset today!
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Jul 2, 2025 • 60min

The Dismissive Avoidant's Inner World

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-02-25&el=podcast Why does your dismissive avoidant partner pull away, seem distant, or leave you wondering where you stand? If you’ve felt unseen, frustrated, or confused in your relationship, this episode is for you. Thais Gibson and co-host Mike dive deep into the inner world of the dismissive avoidant attachment style—revealing what’s really going on behind seemingly “cold” or “unavailable” behaviors. Mike shares vulnerably from his own experience as a former DA turned secure, while Thais explains the neuroscience, patterns, and powerful strategies to bridge the gap and create deeper connection. You’ll learn: ✅ Why DAs often don’t factor in your needs—and how to work with it ✅ What “independence” really means to a dismissive avoidant ✅ Why conflict feels unsafe and how to open difficult conversations ✅ The truth about DAs and feedback sensitivity ✅ How to communicate your needs without triggering deactivation ✅ When and how healing leads to real change in your partner ✅ How to assess whether a DA partner is truly willing to grow with you Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 04:12 – 1 — They Don't Factor Someone Else's Needs When Making Decisions 19:02 – 2 — They Put Less Emphasis on Relationships 23:59 – 3 — They Dislike Conflict 35:04 – PDS Membership Program 36:03 – 4 — They Feel Safe in Their Independence and Autonomy 37:42 – When Their Personal Space is Invaded 43:54 – Love and Connection: Quantity vs Quality 44:24 – 5 — They're Sensitive to Feedback 58:34 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipAdvice #SecureAttachment #FearOfIntimacy #PersonalGrowth #InnerWorld #SubconsciousReprogramming If this episode gave you new insight, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share with someone who needs a little clarity in their relationships. Your support helps us reach more healing hearts.
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Jun 30, 2025 • 7min

5 Signs the Person You’re Dating Is Securely Attached

💞 Want to become secure and attract healthy love? Start the 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship course FREE for 7 days! 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-14-25&el=podcast Curious if the person you're dating is actually secure—or just seems that way? When it comes to building a healthy relationship, recognizing secure traits early on can save you months (or years) of confusion, anxiety, or emotional push-pull. In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the five core traits of a securely attached partner. From how they handle conflict to how they set boundaries, you’ll learn how to spot emotional maturity and relational balance—so you can date with clarity, confidence, and peace of mind. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why emotional transparency is a hallmark of secure attachment How securely attached partners handle conflict and miscommunication The difference between interdependence and codependence What healthy vulnerability really looks like in dating How boundary-setting helps secure people stay balanced in life and love 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🔗 Learn more about Thais 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #SecureAttachment #HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #AttachmentStyles #EmotionalIntelligence #ThaisGibson #PDSPodcast #RelationshipTips #SelfAwareness #EmotionalMaturity ✨ If this episode gave you clarity, please subscribe, rate, or share it with someone navigating the dating world. Knowing what secure looks like changes everything. ✨

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