What do you do when someone you thought you could trust does something so out of character that you’re caught completely off guard?At first you don’t think too much of it, but then you start to notice there’s actually a pattern – of control, manipulation, and coldness. It’s those little manipulations where they deny something happened or downplay it that really start to chip away at your sense of reality, your confidence, and your sense of self – and before you know it, you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. The sad truth is, manipulators are masters at making you doubt your own reality, and by the time you realize what’s happening, you’re already trapped in their web. And that’s why on today’s episode of Women of Impact, we are diving deep into how these dangerous people – like psychopaths and predators you expect would be SO obvious to spot – are actually the ones hiding in plain sight and waiting for their opportunity. Here to pull back the curtain on exactly how dangerous people operate right under our noses is cold case investigator Paul Holes. This guy spent years hunting down some of the most elusive predators out there, including the infamous Golden State Killer. And what he’s sharing today is going to make you rethink everything you thought you knew about spotting danger. We go deep into:  - Signs to look for when dating or meeting someone new that could be giveaways that something is actually “off” about them - Why some of the most dangerous people are often the ones who seem the most “normal” - How people like the Golden State Killer can hide in plain sight for DECADES, all while committing horrific crimes - And how YOU can spot those subtle signs of manipulation and control that most people don’t see until it’s unfortunately too frikin’ late The reality is guys, that psychopaths are often hiding behind the “normal” people you see every day – the barista making your coffee, your co-worker that everyone loves, or even your boyfriend that you’ve been with for MONTHS. But by the end of this episode, you’ll know the giveaway signs that a predator is trying to trick you and blend into everyday life, and how YOU can protect yourself and the people you love from these predators, abusers, manipulators who just want to get power and control over you. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSCaraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchaseOneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! Follow Paul Holes:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.holesPodcasts: https://www.smalltowndicks.com/ & https://open.spotify.com/show/4k4K2WpZFxlTGoCzY40hJbGet your copy of “Unmasked”: https://a.co/d/4e2uQNxFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington.They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more. Pre-order Patrice´s book “Redefine Wealth for Yourself, How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life's Purpose” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RSNZQ7M?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420 [Original air date: 3-10-21].SHOW NOTES: Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22]Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58]How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34]The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24]How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40] Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00]Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20]How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47]The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00]What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40]Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00]The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34]Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18]How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26]Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00]Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27]  CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSCaraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchaseOneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we stay in bad relationships? If you find yourself in one bad relationship after another, it could be a sign that you’d rather be with anyone than be on your own. Many people become complacent and settle for less than they deserve just because they like the idea of having someone. But how do you know if you are settling for less than you deserve? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, & Bestselling Author Stephan Labossiere, a.k.a Stephan Speaks. They explore three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship.Stephan explains the bad advice that makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. Furthermore, Stephan shares the fundamentals that every successful relationship needs and why a connection isn´t built, how to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. He explains why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone and what to do if your partner has changed in a negative way and how to differentiate tough times with when it’s time to break up with your partner. [Original air date: 3-17-21].SHOW NOTES:Three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. [00:20]Why Lisa stayed with her ex-boyfriend before she met Tom. [1:41]This lousy advice makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. [2:01]The fundamentals that every successful relationship needs. [3:29]Why connection can´t be built, and even a great connection is not enough for a successful relationship. [11:23]How to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. [14:30]Why analyzing everything is sabotaging your relationship. [15:51]This is what kills most relationships and the three things you have to learn to build a successful relationship. [17:20]Why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone. [21:59]What to do if your partner has changed negatively. [29:10]How to differentiate tough times with when it´s time to break up with your partner. [34:45]This mindset is the reason for Lisa´s long-lasting, happy relationship with Tom. [36:59]Implement this communication habit to keep your relationship on track. [38:48]Why being authentic from the beginning is essential for a lasting relationship. [41:25]Stephan shares how to connect with him. [43:30] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSCaraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchaseOneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! FOLLOW STEPHAN:Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Normally, people are twice as happy and find their lives much more meaningful when they are with their spouse. However, current quarantines may be causing stress for some couples. The sheer amount of time spent together is uncharted territory for many relationships. On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. [Original air date: 4-1-20].SHOW NOTES: How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSShopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisaNetsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/womenJoi: Run over to Joi to get your levels checked. If you use my code NYBBS they are giving you a 20% discount to get started. https://choosejoi.co/nybbsFOLLOW TOM:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=enTwitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeuFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the latest conversation, Karen Conti, a top defense attorney known for her work on high-profile cases like John Wayne Gacy, shares chilling insights on the manipulation tactics of dangerous individuals. Joined by Andrew Bustamante, a CIA spy expert, they explore how narcissists and conmen deceive through psychological strategies. The discussion delves into the intricate dynamic between power and deception, highlighting strategies to protect oneself from those who prey on vulnerability. They also examine the psychology behind serial killers and the complexities of justice.

Karen Conti, a defense attorney known for her work with notorious criminals, shares insights on recognizing manipulation and deception. She discusses the chilling duality of charm and malevolence, drawing from her experiences with high-profile sociopaths like John Wayne Gacy. Listeners learn key strategies to protect themselves from predators using manipulation tactics. Conti also highlights the darker implications of fame and power in contexts like the music industry, revealing how dangerous individuals exploit those around them.

Vanessa Van Edwards, founder of the Science of People and author of Captivate, shares her journey from faking it to embracing authenticity. She reveals why a genuine background matters during video calls and the surprising benefits of wearing perfume and high heels for virtual interviews. Vanessa discusses how revealing insecurities upfront can build trust, and explains how video call dynamics differ from in-person interactions, emphasizing the importance of body language and emotional presence to enhance connections online.

Jenn Brown, an American sports broadcaster known for her roles on Inside the NFL and American Ninja Warrior, shares her journey from law school to television broadcasting. She discusses the unique challenges women face in sports media, balancing motherhood with a demanding career, and the common pressure of prioritizing appearance over expertise. Jenn reflects on her personal struggles with fear and self-doubt, the impact of pregnancy on her professional life, and her message of empowerment for working women striving for fulfillment.

Nona Jones, an author on a transformative journey from pain to empowerment, shares her insights on overcoming rejection. She discusses her challenging childhood and how rejection can serve as a powerful catalyst for personal growth. Nona emphasizes the necessity of reframing negative self-talk into empowering affirmations. The conversation highlights the importance of female solidarity, urging women to support each other rather than view one another as threats. Join Nona as she uncovers the hidden blessings behind life’s rejections and promotes resilience.

Andrew Bustamante, a former CIA spy, shares his expertise on spotting deception and manipulation. He discusses the art of polygraph testing and the physiological signs of lying, challenging common misconceptions. Bustamante emphasizes the power of silence for public figures and the complex psychological aspects of dishonesty. The conversation dives into the tragic story of Gypsy Rose Blanchard, exploring themes of manipulation and trauma. Throughout, listeners gain invaluable strategies to protect themselves from deceitful individuals.