Women of Impact

This is a fan fav episode. It’s so easy to get caught up trying to catch other people in lies. In your love life, working relationships, and even with family and friends, thoughts of, ‘what if this person is lying’ crosses your mind more than you’d like to admit. But, have you ever considered whether or not your own verbal and nonverbal cues were sending the wrong message and causing people to think maybe you’re the one not being honest? Vanessa Van Edwards is joining us to break down how to better identify if you are being lied to, and ways you can ensure you’re not sending the wrong signals. Lack of confidence, anxiety and shame are just a few of the ‘honest’ behaviors Vanessa warns could manifest almost identical to the cues used for dishonesty. Here is what you need to know to not just spot a lie, but to be a better communicator and create better relationships in your life built around honesty and transparency.  Preorder Vanessa Van Edwards’ new book, Cues: ⁠https://amzn.to/3leaa1j⁠  SHOW NOTES: Science of Lying | Vanessa shares why mornings are better for honesty Assume the Truth | Up your ability to detect lies by assuming the truth Congruence | Vanessa breaks down looking for misaligned verbal and nonverbal cues Mixed Messages | Why anxiety and lack of confidence has same cues as lying does Step 1 Lie Detection | Establish a baseline of person when they tell truth Step 2 Lie Detection | Establish their nervous baseline to know their nervous tells Step 3 Lie Detection | Spot redflags and microexpressions incongruent with baseline Ignoring Instinct | Vanessa shares importance of not ignoring instinct if you see truth Step 4 Lie Detection | Look for redflag clusters, use the rule of 3 before moving to step 5 Step 5 Lie Detection | Circle back, ask questions, and give opportunity to to overcome the lie Share The Cues | Why learning cues together improves relationships and conversations Intentional Liars | Vanessa explains how to spot them and remove those toxic people Modes of Communication | Why people are more likely to lie over phone than text Kinds of Lies | When people are self-deceptive, ill-intentioned versus well-intentioned Truth Rules | Vanessa shares how to establish truth rules for people in your life Shame Cues | How to spot shames cues and respond for better relationships Modes of Lying | Listening for audio cues and how to communicate truthfully in email  Original air date: 8-4-2021 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Lisa Bilyeu with another incredible episode of Women of Impact and today Mel Robbins and I will frikin’ CHANGE YOUR LIFE and help you get to your goals in JUST 50 minutes! So if you feel like you’re constantly losing it, always overwhelmed, easily distracted, or the worst, ASHAMED at how stupid you seem to others, fear not because our girl Mel is here to help!! Mel Robbins is a best selling author, podcast host, and one of the most sought-after speakers in the world – but while she has had SOOO much success in her life, she can’t seem to text anyone back, remember someone’s birthday, or put away the milk when she makes coffee. The thing is guys, even Mel frikin’ Robbins isn’t immune to the anxiety and self-criticism that comes from undiagnosed ADHD. But now, in her 50s, she is FINALLY ditching the self-criticism and owning her diagnosis But women have historically been disproportionately undiagnosed for SOO many reasons, (and yep…. I am part of that stat too!) which is why I wanted Mel to come on the show to talk about the sneaky symptoms of ADHD that you might be suffering with right now, the power that can come from a proper diagnosis, and what you can do to OWN it and make it your superpower! Because once you understand that YOU’RE NOT CRAZY and your brain just works differently, THAT’S when you can actually take control and do something about it!! Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://www.melrobbins.com/ Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu SPONSORS: Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.comOneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your worst nightmare comes true? For Emma Heming Willis, wife of Bruce Willis, that moment came when she realized something was deeply wrong. Her once-perfect love story was about to change forever. In this powerful, raw, and emotional episode, Emma opens up about the early signs that something was off, how she learned to trust her gut, and what it really takes to stand by the person you love through illness, grief, and uncertainty. This is not a story about tragedy. It’s about love, resilience, and the courage to rise even when life knocks you to your knees. Here’s exactly what we dive into: When Everything Changes: The Moment Emma Knew Something Was Wrong Meeting Bruce Willis & Building a Foundation of Love Green Flags That Defined Their Relationship The First Signs of Change: When Bruce Started to Slip Away Acting on Instinct: Getting Answers When No One Listens Choosing Strength Over Despair: The Pivot Point The Hidden Emotions of Caregiving: Anger, Guilt & Resentment Grieving Someone Who’s Still Here: The Pain of Ambiguous Loss Redefining “Self-Care” & Making Time Without Guilt Stay Here, Don’t Go There: How to Ground Yourself in the Moment Caregiving, Mortality & The Power of Asking for Help Follow Emma Heming Willis: Website: https://emmahemingwillis.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmahemingwillis/  Check out our sponsors: Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. This is a fan fav episode. In this episode, SPIRIT takes us on an enlightening exploration of the aftermath of breakups and the rollercoaster ride of entering a new relationship. They shed light on the significance of moving furniture, changing one's environment, and how our brain is wired for patterns. SPIRIT is a passionate advocate for open and honest communication in relationships. They believe that understanding compatibility is crucial in creating a lasting connection. They emphasize the importance of treating the dating period as an interview, where conversations about long-term goals and desires can help determine if two people's futures align. SPIRIT recognizes that many individuals focus solely on the present and the fleeting feelings, without considering the potential for a shared forever. Through their work, they aim to encourage people to have these vital discussions to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships. But it doesn't end there. SPIRIT goes even deeper, challenging us to question the presence of a meaningful connection in our relationships. They discuss the importance of becoming the best version of ourselves while still enjoying the presence of our partners. Original air date: 10-19-2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. In this episode, SPIRIT takes us on an enlightening exploration of the aftermath of breakups and the rollercoaster ride of entering a new relationship. They shed light on the significance of moving furniture, changing one's environment, and how our brain is wired for patterns. SPIRIT is a passionate advocate for open and honest communication in relationships. They believe that understanding compatibility is crucial in creating a lasting connection. They emphasize the importance of treating the dating period as an interview, where conversations about long-term goals and desires can help determine if two people's futures align. SPIRIT recognizes that many individuals focus solely on the present and the fleeting feelings, without considering the potential for a shared forever. Through their work, they aim to encourage people to have these vital discussions to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships. But it doesn't end there. SPIRIT goes even deeper, challenging us to question the presence of a meaningful connection in our relationships. They discuss the importance of becoming the best version of ourselves while still enjoying the presence of our partners. Original air date: 10-18-2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. If you’re a human, you’ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person.  Najwa’s Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain?  “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian  SHOW NOTES:  Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, that’s toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you’ve created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you’re accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36]  Original air date: 10-27-2021 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever met someone who felt off… but you jut couldn’t explain why? The smile didn’t reach their eyes. The story didn’t add up. But you second-guessed yourself anyway. That’s exactly what this episode is about. I sat down with Chase Hughes, former U.S. Navy Chief and human behavior expert, to break down the science of spotting lies and decoding manipulation, before it destroys your confidence. He reveals the exact cues liars can’t hide, how narcissists give themselves away, and the “bait question” that exposes guilt instantly. Here’s exactly what you’ll learn: The blink-rate trick that reveals stress and deception in real time How narcissists react when you show vulnerability The interrogation-style question that instantly exposes manipulators Chapter Titles: How to Spot a Lie in Seconds (The Zoom Call Breakdown) Blink Rate: The Body’s Built-In Lie Detector Fake Openness & Closed Body Language The Language of Liars: Pronouns & Chronology The Punishment Question That Exposes Guilt Follow Chase Hughes: Website: https://www.chasehughes.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chasehughesofficial/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ChaseHughesOfficial  Check out our sponsors: Magic Spoon: code LISABILYEU $5 off https://magicspoon.com/lisabilyeuVital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisaOneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know that moment when your gut says “something’s off”... but you ignore it? When someone’s words sound sweet, but their eyes don’t match? This episode is your wake-up call. I brought together the most dangerous minds in psychology, persuasion, and human behavior, Robert Greene, Andrew Bustamante, and Dr. Ramani Durvasula, to expose the exact tactics manipulators use to gain control. From subtle “negging” and love-bombing, to psychological warfare used by spies, this mashup will teach you how to stop being played, spot red flags early, and take back your power. Whether it’s dating, work, or friendships, these are the tools that will keep you safe, sharp, and unshakable. SHOWNOTES Trust Your Gut: Spotting the Cold Male Seducer (Robert Greene) Why Pain Keeps You Hooked The Spy’s Playbook: How to Turn Loyalty Into Control (Andrew Bustamante) Avoidance, Competition, Compliance: How Manipulation Evolves Narcissistic Punishment: Fear, Withdrawal & Humiliation (Dr. Ramani) The Tests Narcissists Use to Find Easy Targets Safety Over Romance: The Real Test of Love Follow Today’s Experts: Robert Greene: https://www.instagram.com/robertgreeneofficial/ Andrew Bustamante:  https://www.instagram.com/everydayspy/  Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/  Check out our sponsors: Magic Spoon: code LISABILYEU $5 off https://magicspoon.com/lisabilyeu Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. Experiencing manipulation and betrayal is a painful journey many of us know all too well and can really leave you questioning your judgment. But what if you could see the signs before it's too late?  Today’s guest is the ahhh-mazing Annie Sarnblad, a global expert in reading facial expressions and a literal human lie detector. She's able to recognize thousands of facial expressions and she’s decoding them in her new book, “How to Become a Human Lie Detector” , so you too can recognize the red flags and listen to your gut before you attach to a person (romantically, financially, or otherwise).  In part one of this two part episode, we go deep into: *How facial expressions reveal the raw, authentic feelings someone has *How to spot a liar in 2 minutes *The secret to spotting true arousal in their eyes *Unmasking deceiving sweet talk  *And more! Original air date: 10-17-2023 From the subtle twitches of the eye to the slight change in tone, every detail matters when it comes to deciphering the truth.  Whether you've been burned in the past or just want to be more discerning in your relationships, don't miss out on this opportunity to equip yourself with the knowledge to navigate relationships with more confidence and clarity in how the other person really feels.  Because your mental, emotional, and physical safety is absolute priority.   Remember, trust is a two-way street, and with the right tools and understanding, you can rebuild and strengthen it with the RIGHT people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. Experiencing manipulation and betrayal is a painful journey many of us know all too well and can really leave you questioning your judgment. But what if you could see the signs before it's too late?  Today’s guest is the ahhh-mazing Annie Sarnblad, a global expert in reading facial expressions and a literal human lie detector. She's able to recognize thousands of facial expressions and she’s decoding them in her new book, “How to Become a Human Lie Detector” , so you too can recognize the red flags and listen to your gut before you attach to a person (romantically, financially, or otherwise).  In part one of this two part episode, we go deep into: *How facial expressions reveal the raw, authentic feelings someone has *How to spot a liar in 2 minutes *The secret to spotting true arousal in their eyes *Unmasking deceiving sweet talk  *And more! Original air date: 10-13-2023 From the subtle twitches of the eye to the slight change in tone, every detail matters when it comes to deciphering the truth.  Whether you've been burned in the past or just want to be more discerning in your relationships, don't miss out on this opportunity to equip yourself with the knowledge to navigate relationships with more confidence and clarity in how the other person really feels.  Because your mental, emotional, and physical safety is absolute priority.   Remember, trust is a two-way street, and with the right tools and understanding, you can rebuild and strengthen it with the RIGHT people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices