Feminist Wellness

#346: What if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2:00 PM every single day isn't because you're weak or lazy, but because you've been running a full-time job you didn't even know you had?I'm talking about emotional outsourcing – the exhausting pattern of constantly monitoring everyone else's feelings, needs, and comfort levels while completely ignoring your own. You become fluent in everyone else's emotional language while losing the ability to decode your own basic signals. You'll sit through meetings with a full bladder, ignore hunger pangs until you're shaky, and suppress yawns because drawing attention to your human needs feels somehow wrong.The real tragedy isn't just the exhaustion or the resentment building underneath your constant yes-saying. It's that you never get to feel the full safety of being you in the world. Join me today to learn the true cost of emotional outsourcing, and why these survival strategies are no longer serving you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/346Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Today is the day! My book, End Emotional Outsourcing, which I've poured my heart and science-nerd brain into, is officially out. But getting it into the world depends on what happens this week. This isn't about the money. It's about getting these life-changing words into the hands of someone who needs them.This book challenges the "tough-it-out" messages we're constantly fed. I've created a new language around codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, calling it emotional outsourcing. Rooted in accessible nervous system science and my own story as a queer Latina immigrant, this book is about coming home to yourself.Your order sends a message that voices like mine matter and that we need more love, more care, and more science in this world. And when you order 10 or more copies, you'll get a free six-week live course with me! Plus, all orders are entered into raffles for amazing prizes like one-on-one coaching, breathwork sessions, and a spot in my six-month course, Anchored. By helping me carry this book, you're helping us show the world that cruelty doesn't get the final say - love does.Order the book here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're going through all the right motions, saying all the right things, but somehow feel disconnected from your own experience?I get it, and I've been there: checking all the boxes, looking successful on paper, while feeling completely lost inside. This disconnection from yourself isn't a personality flaw or something wrong with you - it's a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed to keep you safe.Join me this week as I share why I wrote my new book End Emotional Outsourcing and how it offers a revolutionary framework for understanding why so many of us feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/345Pre-order End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small.This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

My love, I have something really special for you today: I’m sharing Chapter One of my upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This chapter unpacks what emotional outsourcing really is, how it sneaks into our lives, and why it’s not your fault you’ve been carrying these patterns. You’ll hear stories from my clients, my own journey, and the cultural forces that keep us stuck in self-abandonment... plus the first steps toward reclaiming your inherent worth.If you would like to read along, you can find chapter one at https://beatrizalbina.com/chapterone/Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today. Pre-orders make a huge difference in helping this message reach more people.Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel an inexplicable rage towards the people you love most? If you've ever agreed to take on more work when you're already drowning, pushed through exhaustion to help others, ignored your own needs to keep the peace, or found yourself inexplicably angry about small things, this episode is for you. Join me this week as I teach you the mathematical formula for resentment. You’ll learn the science behind why saying "yes" when you mean "no" creates emotional labor debt, what's actually happening in your nervous system when you override your own needs, and how to start breaking free from the resentment equation.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/344Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

Do you find yourself constantly dispensing kindness and helpfulness in exchange for validation and approval?This "good girl chokehold" is a survival strategy that rewires the brain, making you a professional people pleaser and preventing true intimacy. It's like being trapped in the world's most exhausting improv show where the only rule is "yes, and," except you never get to be anything but the supporting character in everyone else's story.In End Emotional Outsourcing, you'll learn how to break free from the exhausting cycle of earning love through depletion, plus practical tools for reclaiming your inherent worth. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#343: I receive beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called "my angel" or "mi amor" transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole way they relate to themselves. Yet others write to express their discomfort. The language feels too familiar, unprofessional, even anti-feminist. This divide illuminates a crucial truth about healing: when genuine tenderness makes your skin crawl, your nervous system is telling you something important.Tune in this week to discover the neuroscience of how gentle language literally rewires our neural pathways, and why some of us recoil from warmth like it's sensory overload. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/343Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

You're lying in bed at 2 a.m., replaying that conversation from earlier where your joke fell flat or someone looked uncomfortable after you shared a story. Your brain grabs onto that moment like a dog with a bone, analyzing every word, every facial expression, every micro reaction like you're CSI social interaction. The mental hamster wheel spins: Did I say something wrong? Are they mad at me? Do they think I'm weird now?This is exactly the exhausting cycle I help you break in End Emotional Outsourcing. Start quieting that mental chatter today by pre-ordering.Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#342: The word "codependent" is everywhere - on book covers (even mine), in therapy sessions, in conversations about relationships. But there's something fundamentally wrong with how we use this label. If you recognize yourself in patterns of people-pleasing, emotional caretaking, or losing yourself in other people's chaos, I want you to know something important: You're not broken. You're not diseased. And you're definitely not codependent. What you are is brilliantly adaptive.Join me this week as I share why I'm moving away from the term "codependent" and offer a new framework that honors your nervous system's intelligence while creating space for growth. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/342Mentioned in this episode:Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again. Save your spot here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/twelve 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing