AuDHD Flourishing

Chronic shame makes us feel all kinds of terrible things that often are the triggers that send people to therapy.It's caused in part by relational rupture without repair, especially as an infant and child.While there's no quick fix, recognizing the signs and beginning to gently work with it does help over time.This is episode 10 of a series of 10 that started with 102 AuDHD Therapy That Works with Joe SostaI'm working on some more materials to pull all these episodes together in a useful way and will add that here when they're done! Crisis Resources:USA-based anonymous crisis chatInternational crisis linesVarious types of crisis resources in about 10 countriesMy Medium article, "Please Stay, We Need You"Mentioned in episode: Book Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma (I recommend this 2nd edition, affiliate link)Whack-a-Mole Workshop slides/notes and recordings (latter is free & requires free login; a downloadable PDF is also available there on Patreon)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Darren Glencross, a UK-based writer and coach, shares insights from his journey of neurodivergence and his innovative framework that moves beyond traditional medical models. He discusses his concepts like Pattern Language and Inner Orbit with 12 satellites, emphasizing community-led approaches. The conversation touches on creating supportive environments, the significance of non-pathologizing language, and the unique strengths of neurodivergent individuals. Darren invites listeners to engage with resources that harness their brain strengths and promote self-acceptance.

This conversation dives deep into the unique challenges faced by individuals with autism and ADHD in managing projects. It emphasizes the shift from the adrenaline-anxiety approach to a more sustainable, monotropic method. The importance of experimentation and crafting personalized structures is highlighted. Listeners learn to navigate their brain states and manage distractions effectively. Additionally, the discussion introduces the Love Your Brain course, focusing on self-compassion and tailored processes for overcoming project hurdles.

This ep also available on YouTube"use more lube:" do what you need to do to make life easier, more comfortable, and more pleasurable for you in the moment.This goes beyond sensory needs, though that's often where we start.You may not be sure what you want on the grand scale (or it feels impossible to get there). But being kind to yourself, and meeting your needs moment-to-moment, helps create a communication feedback loop with the body.Better communication and care for the body makes everything easier.ep. 8 in an interconnected 10-episode seriesMentioned in episode:Free Workshops registration linkLove Your Brain course (& Sep-Oct live round details)Resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Intuition has been a way to interface with my body, even when the relationship with my body was contentious.While I won't share the trauma stories that led to the subtitle (Intuition Saved My Life), I have a variety of examples of how unconscious information can surface in a useful way.ep. 7 in an interconnected 10-episode seriesMentioned in episode:Free Workshops registration linkLove Your Brain course (& Sep-Oct live round details)Resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It often feels easiest to do what's right in front of us. And that's lovely, a lot of the time, and uses our strengths!And... it starts to feel bad if we're in whack-a-mole mode almost all of the time, and don't have spacious time to comprehend the whole of our experience.This ties into our sensory needs and leans more into the psychological side of these needs.Mentioned in episode:Free Workshops registration linkLove Your Brain course (& Sep-Oct live round details)Resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this engaging discussion, Maria Bowler, a writer and coach focused on creativity, shares insights from her book, *Making Time*. She emphasizes the importance of being present and true to oneself, even during mundane tasks. Topics include overcoming productivity culture, the value of unproductive time, and the significance of authentic resistance in identity. Maria also explores neurodivergent perspectives, advocating for recognizing one’s natural rhythms and accepting lower-energy days while embracing one’s qualities without waiting for validation.

Explore the intriguing concept of childhood emotional neglect and its impact on social interactions. Learn how autistic and gifted children often face unique challenges due to their caregivers' inability to reflect emotional experiences. Discover the traits associated with CEN, from feelings of emptiness to difficulties in nurturing others. The discussion delves into how these experiences shape identity and emotional awareness, emphasizing that these gaps are teachable and can enhance emotional intelligence. Ultimately, it's a journey of personal growth and understanding.

The discussion centers on the vital role of sensory needs for neurodivergent individuals. Meeting these needs can transform a tough day into a more manageable one. Personal anecdotes and practical tips are shared to enhance daily sensory experiences, fostering joy. The importance of community connections for support and understanding is emphasized, along with the journey of self-acceptance. All of this reinforces the idea that addressing sensory needs can significantly improve emotional well-being.

Explore valuable lessons from nearly two decades of therapy experience. Discover how to identify the right therapist, set effective goals, and know when to move on from unhelpful relationships. Learn about processing trauma while facing real-life challenges, and the importance of being honest with clinicians. Mattia shares insights on sensory needs and the complexities of grief, emphasizing therapy as a space for emotion without the need for rationalization. Reframe your approach by believing you're not broken and using provisional beliefs for growth.