Girls Gone Deep

In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including:How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27)Listening vs giving advice when someone is triggered, and where to have the conversation. (8:26)What to do when the vibe is off between a CNM couple in a group sex situation (reading energy and holding space). (12:40)Fears, Desires and Boundaries: a tool to clear the air, break the ice and set expectations before the orgy. (15:38)What to do when you're triggered during group sex, and giving the couple space to regroup and get sexy. (18:22)Paying for porn: how do you find what’s worth paying for?  (27:30)How do you know you’re watching porn that’s being ethically made? (30:30)Gemini Party Recap (34:32)- Connecting with and prioritizing your partner at the beginning of a lifestyle weekend. (35:37)- The difference between pool parties in the ENM lifestyle and vanilla pool parties.  Friendships with the opposite sex. (39:34)- Day orgies, why having repeat partners makes for better sex, and compersion. (45:00)- Sitting on faces.  (50:07)- The “comedown” from a big weekend: Strap ons, “pegging” vs “strapping”, how to have an awesome seven-person orgy, and how can you feel sexy in a big group? (53:33)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things pornography, from their use of it to their first exposure to it, including: How do you use porn? Authenticity in porn, “daddy” and age play, searching for specific vs playing porn roulette. (2:22)Masturbation and porn. (7:04)Using porn as a tool to connect with you partner. (9:30)Favorite porn sites. (11:01) How does porn affect teens’ ideas of sex? (11:49)How can porn contribute to and affect sexual confusion and sexual identity in teens? (16:46)Do we watch what we want in real life? Erotic blueprints, porn rabbit holes. (22:48)Negative effects of porn, and training yourself to like certain things. BDSM hack for associating pain with pleasure. (25:46)Is watching porn cheating?  (31:04)What would we sound like in the bedroom if we had never watched porn? Personal porn. (37:19)Virtual Reality porn and AI porn. (40:53)Links: Female-created porn: Bellesa.coErotic Blueprint: missjaiya.comReal Sex Porn: makelovenotporn.tvSoft Porn: stasyq.comCrowd-sourced porn: xconfessions.comWhere to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including: What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40)What do you think of when you think ethical non monogamy or open relationship? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38)What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the nonmonogamous lifestyle? (9:55)What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle?How does it work? (14:27)How can you watch your partner with someone else, without feeling jealous? Jealousy, hotwife, and cuckolding. (15:55)How can you be friends with someone who has sex with your husband (your metamour)? Friends with benefits. (21:44)How does emotional intimacy work inside versus outside the primary relationship? (26:38)How do you protect against STD’s when you have so much sex? What is fluid bonding? (32:38)How do you tell your family and/or children about your open lifestyle, or how much do you tell them? How do you balance your time between kids and your partners? (35:37)If you’re trying to get into girl-on-girl, how do you get comfortable playing with women? (44:46)Will you ever be totally sexually satisfied? (48:09)What happens when you get older or ready to settle down? Will you ever be with one person? (51:38)“Serial monogamist and flirt with a high sex drive and little inhibition” poses some thought-provoking ideas and questions about polyamory and religion, and questioning your own choices further.  (55:02)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their weekend at Baconfest 2023 at their friends' house at the Jersey Shore. It was a mixture of ENM and vanilla couples, which lead to some interesting dynamics.  The girls talk about their learning moments and more, including:Merging friend groups: What is it like having traditional couples at a play party? How do lifestyle couples interact differently at a party than monogamous people? (1:20)Going to bed early: Vee overcomes her FOMO! (14:00)Going down on women: Elle and Vee debrief their threesome with J, including squirting, do all women have a more sensitive spot on their clit?, and morning sex. (16:33)BDSM test: the girls analyze their results and compare them to their past results. How and why do our sexual tastes change? Exhibitionism, voyeurism, riggers and rope bunnies. (28:19)Listener response: Boundaries follow up. (38:36)Listener response meme follow up: gender wage gaps and income imbalances in relationships. (40:02)Take the BDSM Test: www.Bdsmtest.org Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee sit down with Tricia Wise, aka Safe.Slut, who is a sex activist (Instagram @safe.slut), an OnlyFans content creator (safeslvt), and sex toy business owner (safeslut.shop). The girls go DEEP on these subjects and more, including:Destigmatizing Herpes: What is the Safe Slut mission? What are HSV-1 and HSV-2? How is it transmitted? What is prodrome? What triggers an outbreak? What are the symptoms? (2:08) Herpes Testing: What kinds of tests are there, and how do you get tested for herpes? What do you do afterwards? (14:02)Disclosing Your Status: How do you tell past or current partners that you tested positive? (16:49)Safe.Slut: What is her mission? What does it mean to be a slut? Overcoming slut shaming from high school. Confirmation bias. (20:23)OnlyFans: What’s a day in the life of an OnlyFans content creator like? Herpes in porn. Embracing your imperfections, waxing vs shaving your pussy, and ingrown hairs on your vulva. (25:57)Talking to your friends and family (or not) about OnlyFans, your herpes status, and your sex life as a sex positive activist or sex educator. (31:24)Trauma: Flipping negative situations on their head and taking your power back, from herpes to bullying. (36:24)Creating Content: Asking dates to film on OnlyFans.  Chaturbate. Exhibitionists and BDSMtest.org. Dating a porn content creator. (39:31)Disclosing: How do you bring up your STI status with a new partner? (44:49)Support Tips: Natural remedies to help herpes outbreaks. (48:50)Vibrators: Clit sucking, multi-use, and heated vibrators. Butt plugs or dicks? (51:18)Unconventional Science and Spirituality: Astrology and other “woo-woo” magic. What is reiki and energy healing? What is quantum entanglement? (54:38)Whoreible Life: Sex on the beach. Slapping across the face while fucking. Impact play. (1:02:33)Takeaways for polyamorous people: Testing regularly, what to ask for when getting an STI test, and gonorrhea and chlamydia in the throat. (1:07:37)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Holly, who gives the perspective of a single twenty-something in the ethically non-monogamous dating scene in NYC, juxtaposing the girls’ married and partnered perspectives. Their conversation includes:First experiences in CNM (consensual non-monogamy): Holly’s first threesome; common types of group play and the girls’ preferences; being discreet with “incognito mode”on Feeld. (1:05)Group sex: Even vs odd numbers; dynamics. (7:12)Single and Poly: Going to mixers and meetups; the experience of being single vs partnered in the lifestyle; what considerations does a unicorn need to think about in play situations? (11:15)Sexual Labels: “lifestyle”, “queer”, “fluid”, playing with women who don’t identify as gay, the different dynamic of having a penis in the room. (15:48)Comphet: What is Compulsory Heterosexuality? Questioning your thoughts due to internalized homophobia. Is it still a problem in society? Calling men vs women for a booty call. (23:32)Best Threesomes: Being dommed by a women vs a man; what makes a successful unicorn? (36:12)Boundaries: the case against taking sexy nudes. (41:05)Coming out as open to friends and family. (43:13)Growth through sexual experiences: being celebrated for who you are; taking back the word SLUT. (46:40)Main Nuggets: Guarding your heart, finding the right people, misconceptions of people in the lifestyle. (52:49)Listener Question: How to go to a mixer solo. (57:49)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things boundaries and agreements in open relationships, from the early rules they had when they entered the lifestyle, to how they evolved them.  They get into all the dirty details, including:Boundaries vs Agreements vs Rules: What is a boundary? How do you set a boundary? Elle and Vee give examples of the agreements and boundaries they have in their partnerships. (3:23)Typical Boundaries: What are some common boundaries to discuss when entering the lifestyle? What limits have Vee and Elle pushed throughout their relationships? Sleepovers, showering after sex, emotional intimacy, and other boundaries between couples. (12:43)Breaking Agreements: What happens when you violate your partner’s boundaries? Vee talks about not prioritiing J at Hedonism Swing Breakers. AFOG (Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth). Elle shares her learning moments. (30:48)Solo kinkster dating story: how to be safe when a date doesn’t respect your boundaries. (40:04)Challenges and Communication: What are the challenges in setting boundaries? Getting curious about emotions. “Emotional Dumping.” What are some good ways to communicate with your partner about boundaries? (45:33)Fighting: Setting boundaries when having an argument. (51:00)The Ethical Slut: Slut skills - setting limits. (54:10)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee were inspired to chat about the alternative dating apps and websites that have worked for them in the lifestyle, including:Feeld: what’s so special about this dating app? Is it harder for men on dating apps?  (2:08)Exploring desires: What kinds of people do you find on Feeld? Can you find a third, other couples, or a dom on Feeld? (8:10)How quickly should you move from the app to real life? (12:15)Safety and dating: what does Vee do to keep herself safe when dating solo? (14:05)Sexual orientation: how do Elle and Vee identify themselves on Feeld? Changing your sexual orientation with more experience. What’s the difference between heteroflexible and bicurious, and is heteroflexible an offensive term? Defining heteroflexible, pansexual, asexual, and skoliosexual. (15:22)Gender options on Feeld. (27:40)Labels: the American versus European mentality around the need to label ourselves. (28:31)Work and Swinger Apps: what happens if your boss finds your profile? (30:45)Fetlife: BDSM website, meeting up and finding events. (36:55)Kasidie: lifestyle events website, backstage passes and connecting with couples before an event. (41:24)Traditional vs swinger apps. (45:07)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up on Elle’s trip to Florida with the Joy Fam, while Vee was at a monogamous friend’s wedding… which prompts the girls to go deep on weddings, divorce, and what it means to be settled.Elle’s sexual mishap with The Builder in Tampa, and how she moved forward from her Hedonism trigger. (1:51)Integrating lessons from podcast episodes: was Elle able to enjoy herself on marijuana? How was Vee able to work through her FOMO (fear of missing out)? How important it is to have friends you can be your authentic self with. (6:30)Gravitating towards curious, open-minded people at “vanilla” events, and setting boundaries with monogamous friends at weddings who might be interested in playing while drunk. (14:48)Avoiding being the “talk of the town”: What to do and what not to do at a monogamous wedding when you’re ENM (ethically non monogamous). (16:22)ENM Weddings: What could a non-monogamous commitment ceremony look like? Elle describes a BDSM/lifestyle wedding that she attended, including a master/slave ceremony, shibari, and primal play. (21:01)Marriage and Divorce: How important is a wedding or marriage? Why do people stay in unhappy marriages? (33:40) How do you know when it’s time to leave a marriage? How Vee knew it was time to get divorced. (36:40)What does it mean to be “settled”? (41:36)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss what turns them on based on Dr. Emily Morse’s (@sexwithemily) article, “These Are the 5 Arousal Styles, Which One Are You?” The girls also go super deep and share the tools they use to work through FOMO (fear of missing out) when they miss out on activities with friends, plus they share some listener responses!Dr. Emily: Arousal Styles. What’s the difference between desire and arousal? What’s your sexual arousal type? How to get aroused when you’re stressed out from work. (2:00)FOMO: how do you deal with FOMO? How does having the choice to miss the experience or not affect your FOMO? How does social media affect your FOMO? (5:13)What is the core of FOMO: what is behind the “fear of missing out”? (18:56)JOMO: “The Joy of Missing Out”. (24:39)Do you experience more FOMO with your lifestyle friends than your traditional friends? Does longevity in a relationship affect FOMO levels? (28:12)FOMO when you miss out on an event you weren’t invited to. Vee applies the tools for working through the stories her mind tells her when she experiences FOMO. (32:11)Listener responses: Vanilla is derogatory, and book club ideas! (36:49) Listener response: Hedonism Swing Breakers - what’s the best flow for the week? (40:27)Does the word “lifestyle” imply hetero-swinger? (44:25)What to do when you run into a past lover: should you approach an ex for “closure” or to “clear the air”? Who should approach who: the dumper or the dumpee? (47:11)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop! WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.