032: Sexual Shame: Unlearning Religious Messages, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Healing Through ENM

Elle and Vee chat with their friend Kit, who grew up in a strict religious home. The girls chat about their formative sexual experiences and messages they received about sex early on in their lives, and how finding the ENM lifestyle helped to heal them.  

Early messages around sex when you grow up in a strict religious community (for example, Mennonite or Pentecostal). (1:50)

How did you work through/unlearn all the shameful messages around sex and adultery that you had grown up with? (11:55)

Common shameful messages we receive, and ACCEPTANCE as the antidote to shame. (20:12)

How do you work through the stories you tell yourself? (30:11)

How has working on shame translated outside of the lifestyle? (36:20)

Early shame messages we recive in high school and the effects of repression. (44:25)

Finding your tribe, showing up for our monogamous friends, and using fears, desires, boundaries in all aspects of life.  (48:19)

Processing and healing trauma through EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy, and BDSM. (50:29)

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