The Art of Charm

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

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Jul 29, 2019 • 58min

771: Dealing with Competition, Codependency and High Value Conversations - Q&A with Erin Muroski

Most of us will never undergo professional training in the world of improve and yet we engage in improv almost every day because life is improv - so why should you consider taking an improv class, how does improv relate to self-development, and how can an improv mindset help you to relax in social situations?What to Listen For How do you compete in a place like Hollywood with people who claim to be or do things that they don’t even do? How should you approach a conversation with someone you look up to when meeting for the first time and why is it such a bad idea to be a fanboy/girl in such a situation? What should your mindset be when first meeting someone and what mindset will likely lead to an undesirable outcome? What is the value in learning improv and how does it relate to your path of self-development? Why is it counterproductive to try to be funny in improv? What signs of codependency can you look for early on in a relationship and what can you do to course correct at that point? How can a relationship become codependent and what can you do to prevent it? How do you make people want to be around you or simply notice you? What can you do to make a great first impression? How can you fix a bad first impression? What can you do to be confident without coming across as arrogant? How do you attract people who want the same things you want out of a fling or relationship? Improvisational comedy (aka “improv”) is all about going with the flow, and when it comes to life, it is much easier to use the flow of a river to your advantage rather than trying to swim upstream or control the path of the river itself. And this idea applies directly to the conversations we have with people, especially when first meeting someone. Many of you will want to control the direction of a conversation and make sure you are able to highlight the good things about you and what you’ve done, rather than listen to what the other person says and allow the conversation to flow naturally by asking sincere questions and relating to what they’re saying without domineering the discussion itself.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 770: Leon Logothetis: Traveling the world relying on kindnessEpisode 767: How to Master Communication in a RelationshipEpisode 744: Dating Done Right with Evan Marc KatzEpisode 705: Don’t Try to Be Funny - The Art of ImprovErin MuroskiErin Muroski on FacebookErin Muroski on TwitterErin Muroski on InstagramFinal Rose Material - Erin’s podcastCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 22, 2019 • 56min

766: Michael Herold on living a full life when the odds are stacked against you | Q&A

Personal transformation is a long and arduous process, but we all have to start somewhere, so how do you know when it’s time to make such a drastic change, what can you do to stop from feeling overwhelmed in the beginning, and how do you know when it’s time to graduate from one step to the next?What to Listen For Why is making a list important in accomplishing your goals? What can you do to deal with the fear of public speaking? What simple exercises can you do right now to expand your comfort zone? How did Michael Herold get his start as a public speaker and coach? What steps should you take when starting out as a public speaker to make sure you feel ready on stage? Where can you get practice as a public speaker if you don’t have a coach and you’re not taking classes? How can you be more appreciative of your significant other after you two settle into the comfort stage of the relationship? How important is it to set aside time for one another when you’re in a relationship? What steps can you take to alleviate feeling overwhelmed when you embark on a journey of self-improvement? How are confidence and competence related when you’re working on your social skills? If your social skills feel rusty, what simple step can you take today to start improving? What can you do to overcome feeling burned out? For many, embarking on a journey of personal transformation comes after life punches you in the face - that could mean getting fired from a job, getting kicked out of school, going through the end of a relationship, or losing a loved one, just to name a few.But why does it take such a jarring event to motivate us to improve?Because transformation is difficult and painful, so to be willing to make a drastic change in yourself means the pain of staying the same must outweigh the pain of change. If you don’t feel the pain of your current situation, then what are the chances you’re going to choose to endure significant pain over a long period of time to change the situation you’re in?A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you!Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com.Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeMichael Herold - Speaker and CoachMichael Herold on Facebook762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for Change | Transformation Toolbox 1763: Had Enough Pain, Yet? | Toolbox 2764: Brett Bartholomew on why drive matters more than motivation and secrets to peak performance765: Parents, Part 2: Warren Farrell on The Boy Crisis and Dad DeprivationCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 20, 2019 • 47min

765: Parents, Part 2: Warren Farrell on The Boy Crisis and Dad Deprivation

The role of the father in raising children is often downplayed in society, but what do fathers bring to the table that mothers do not, why does the absence of a father have such long-lasting effects, and what steps can we take today to be there for our children?What to Listen For What is dad deprivation and what role does it play as a child is growing up? What is the purpose void and why is it more important now that more children are growing up without a father? What are the two primary purposes in a man’s life and how has the development of society made it more difficult for men to feel fulfilled in either one? How does porn become addictive to young men and how does it shift the way men view women, sex, and relationships? What are the primary differences between mom-style parenting and dad-style parenting? What is the single biggest predictor of success and how do you teach it to children? How do you teach postponement of gratification to children and why is it so important to building the life you want? What is the difference between being aggressive and being assertive? What can you do to reverse ADHD? What role do family dinner nights have in a child’s development and what 5 things can you do to make those family dinners constructive rather than destructive? What steps can we take today to improve as parents? The father in many shows and movies seems to be there just for comic relief by being a hardass or totally incompetent while the mother is portrayed as “the real parent.” But the father’s role in raising kids is significantly more important than we tend to give it credit for.As Warren Farrell stated, “Children who have father involvement are far less likely to be obese, far less likely to have ADHD, far less likely to do worse in every single academic area, and far less likely to be depressed or commit suicide.”And those are just a few of the effects that a good father has on his kids.It’s crucial there be a balance of masculine and feminine influence in a child’s life in order for that child to grow into a well-rounded human being able to handle the ups and downs and twists and turns of life. It is the tension created by the difference between the parents that allows their children to find a happy medium that works for who they are.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Resources from this EpisodeWarren Farrell’s websiteWhy Men Are the Way They Are by Warren FarrellThe Myth of Male Power by Warren FarrellThe Boy Crisis by Warren FarrellCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 17, 2019 • 1h 4min

764: Brett Bartholomew on why drive matters more than motivation and secrets to peak performance

Coaching athletes, or anyone for that matter, does not come with a simple one-size-fits-all approach, so what does effective coaching look like, what do you need to know about those you’re coaching, and who do coaches get coached by?What to Listen For How did Brett Bartholomew get started in the world of strength training and coaching? How do you get buy-in with athletes you’re coaching to make sure they follow your program without getting distracted by all the other information they’re bombarded with? What do you need to know about your athletes in order to best coach them and how do you tie it in with a responsible message? What is the Harvard 4 Drive Model and how can you start using it today to teach or coach more effectively? What 3 steps can you use to better relate to other people and build better relationships with coworkers, students, and athletes? How do you develop self-awareness and what should you look for in your own life to start with? What are the 3 stages of internal identification and how does it relate to the development of self-awareness? What is imposter syndrome and how do you deal with it so you don’t sabotage your career or relationships? What kind of coaches do coaches get coached by? What is the difference between being responsive and being reactive? How can you be more responsive without being reactive? How do you find your own motivation and help others find theirs? How do you stay motivated as a coach? There are a variety of factors that influence your ability to coach someone effectively. First and foremost, your athlete (or student) must trust and respect you, otherwise, she won’t believe you know what you’re doing. So you must build a working relationship with your athletes, and that means understanding their self-awareness levels, working together to identify their strengths and weaknesses, what drives them and what their ambitions are, and getting a feel for how each one learns best.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeThe Art of Coaching with Brett BartholomewHarvard 4-Drive Model - Harvard Business ReviewCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 10, 2019 • 50min

763: Had Enough Pain, Yet? | Toolbox 2

We all know change can be hard, so embarking on a journey of self-development and transformation means there will be pain involved - but is it possible to endure pain without also suffering? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal throughout your journey, and what actionable steps can you take today to reduce the time and energy it might take to reach your transformation goals?What to Listen For Why is pain an unavoidable part of personal transformation, and what is the best way to approach such pain? What is the difference between pain and suffering? How do you figure out your values and why are they important when it comes to pursuing a fulfilling life? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal on your journey toward self-actualization? Why is a reactive mindset counterproductive to happiness and fulfillment in life, and what steps can you take to turn your reactive mindset into a proactive one? What one question can you ask yourself to take back power and control over your life? How do you find meaning in terrible situations so you can thrive? What signs can you be on the lookout for to identify if you are struggling with resistance on your path to transformation? What 3 questions should you ask yourself in order to put your transformation goals into achievable steps? When you work out or train for an event, it’s important to push your body to its limits at various times so those limits can grow and you can improve as an athlete. You know when you are approaching those limits because of the pain you feel in your muscles, but if you stop when your muscles start to burn, you will not achieve the same results as someone who pushes through the pain to run the extra mile or get one more rep in.When confronting resistance or pain on your journey to self-actualization, you can choose to suffer in response, or you can recognize the value of the pain and push through it.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for ChangeImplementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple PlansHow to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale CarnegieThink and Grow Rich by Napoleon HillEpisode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness | w/ Russ HarrisEpisode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit | w/ Steven HayesCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 3, 2019 • 48min

762: 3 Signs That it's Time for Change | Transformation Toolbox 1

Transformation can be accidental or intentional, but if you are going to change and grow as a person, wouldn’t you want to have a say in how you grow and who you become?What to Listen For Why are only the courageous drawn to self-development? How do you turn envy into a motivator rather than trying to hide it or eliminate it? What question can you ask yourself to make feelings of envy work for you? What is experiential avoidance and how is it correlated with low levels of life satisfaction? What are “doomers” and “bloomers” and how do doomers become bloomers? What should be your next move if you reach a point in your life and realize you haven’t accomplished anything? Why might procrastination be doing more damage to your future than you think, and what can you do about it? If you want to change your future, where is the best place to start and why might it not be the place you think? What is the difference between living life on the offense and living life on the defense, and why does one of the two make it far more difficult to achieve your goals? How does the pursuit of self-actualization lead to a snowball effect? What is the 5-5-5 technique and how can it prevent you from falling into a powerless state of mind? Self-development is only for the courageous. You must have the courage to face yourself and be honest about who you are and what you want. You must have the courage to identify your weaknesses and ask for help so you know where to start and what to work on. You must have the courage to live life on the offense so you can take intentional steps every single day toward who you want to become, even if it means falling and getting back on the horse.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. The new eero (2nd generation) and eero Beacon allow a customer to build a WiFi system that’s more perfectly tailored to their home than ever before! Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter discount code CHARMSun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeThus Spoke ZarathustraProcrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulationEpisode 718 with Chris “Drama” Pfaff - Overcoming Social Anxiety in Your CareerPower affects performance when the pressure is on: evidence for low-power threat and high-power liftCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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