The Art of Charm

The best networkers prepare for networking events in order to get the most out of them, but how do you go about preparing for a networking event, what are the do’s and don’ts of networking, and is your first impression shooting you in the foot before you even open your mouth?What to Listen For What are the do’s and don’ts of networking? How do you handle a networking event if you’re an introvert? What can you do to prepare for a networking event, and do you even need to? How can a bad (or even a neutral) first impression ruin your chances of success at a networking event and what can you do to make a fantastic first impression instead? What kind of research should you do before a networking event? How do you set yourself up for success before and/or during a networking event? How do you choose what to wear for a networking event, and what should you avoid wearing? Where should you hang out at networking events if you want to have the best chance of talking to the individuals you’re trying to meet? Why is it a mistake to make a pitch or try to close a deal when you meet someone at a networking event? What game can you play to make networking opportunities fun and productive? Why is it hurting you to think about what you can take from networking opportunities rather than what you can give? What should you do after a networking event to help you process and learn from the experience? Why is it damaging to your networking potential if you can’t explain what you do in simple terms? What should your elevator pitch attempt to accomplish and why do so many of us focus on the wrong parts? Why do most people fail when it comes to networking and what can you do to set yourself apart from them? How soon after meeting someone at a networking event should you start working on the follow-up? What is a pre-event and how can you plan a simple one to your advantage, setting you apart from most people at a networking event? Networking is like many endeavors in this world - your results depend on how much work you’re willing to put in. The best networkers prepare for every networking event by making sure their first impression is on point, they know who is going to attend and who they want to meet, they understand how to connect and pitch themselves, and most importantly, they follow up.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 693: Identifying Low Value BehaviorsEpisode 694: Becoming High ValueEpisode 781: How To Grow Your Network Through Social CapitalCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

IntroductionNetworking has picked up a bad rap over the years, but what exactly is networking, how is your network different from your social circle, and how do you go about building a strong network full of great people and amazing opportunities?What to Listen For What is the difference between your social circle and your network, and how can the misunderstanding of the difference lead to a loss of opportunities, both personally and professionally? What are the biggest myths surrounding networking? What is social capital and why is your familiarity with it crucial to your ability to network effectively? Why do many of us view networking as transactional, and why is that mindset detrimental to building a strong network? How important is your first impression when building a network versus building a social circle? What is the easiest area to focus on if you want to strengthen your network, and why can ignoring it have detrimental effects? Why are your casual acquaintances more likely to lead to job offers than your close friends? Is it more important to surround yourself with people just starting out, at your level, or further along than you, and why? What common viewpoint can stunt the growth of your network and lead to your network being full of toxic relationships? A strong network can lead to a healthier personal and professional life for one primary reason: a variety of backgrounds. Your network is different from your social circle (though they can overlap) because the individuals in your social circle are people you spend the most time with, and so they tend to share a similar background as you, which means they are likely to share the same perspectives and values you do. People in your network, however, likely come from a variety of backgrounds and are likely then to have different perspectives, values, and career choices.This variety helps keep you open to new ideas and perspectives but also drastically expands the number of connections you have because of the sheer number of people that those in your network have access to.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Skillshare is an online learning community with thousands of classes for creators, entrepreneurs, and curious people everywhere. You can take classes in Film and Video, Marketing, Productivity, and even Entrepreneurship! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for our listeners: Get two months of Skillshare for free by going to Skillshare.com/CHARM.Equal Parts is here to help you get into the flow of home cooking, with inviting cookware and coaching designed to introduce new ideas and keep you engaged with the process of cooking, one step at a time. Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit equalparts.com and use discount code CHARM get $50 off any cookware kit over $200!Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 693: Identifying Low Value BehaviorsEpisode 694: Becoming High Value“The Strength of Weak Ties” by Mark GranovetterCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of the most intense and important negotiations humanity has witnessed have taken place in and around the field of battle, but how much do they have in common with the negotiations we engage in on a daily basis, what can civilians learn from how the military successfully approaches its negotiations, and what 5 strategies can you implement today in order to improve your negotiation skills?What to Listen For What are the most common mistakes people make when negotiating and what can you do to avoid making them? What is the difference between negotiating to create choices and negotiating to reach an agreement, and why should you aim for one while avoiding the other at all costs? Why do most people only think about negotiations in the short term and how can that mindset cause so much damage in the long term? What are the commonalities between life or death military negotiations and negotiations in business? How do you take cultural differences into account when negotiating? What questions should you be asking yourself about the parties in a negotiation if you don’t want to screw it up? What are the 5 strategies of extreme negotiating and how can you use them in important negotiations to everyday negotiations in order to reach a desirable outcome for all parties involved? Many people tend to enter into negotiations with a short term goal in mind. We want the best deal, or the biggest win for ourselves, regardless of what it costs the other party. Think about when you buy a car - are you thinking about the person you’re buying the car from? What about when you’re negotiating a raise - are you actively trying to understand what is required of you to merit that raise and then clearly conveying to your employer what you’ve done to meet or exceed those requirements?Every negotiation we engage in has the potential to build or break relationships. If that’s the case, shouldn’t it be in your best interest to focus on building relationships with win-win outcomes versus breaking them with win-lose outcomes?A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today.Resources from this EpisodeExtreme Negotiations - Harvard Business ReviewThe West Point Negotiation ProjectCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Some of the most important decisions in your life involve negotiating with someone more experienced than you, so what can you do today to make sure you are well prepared for every negotiation to come? What to Listen For What can you do to make sure you’re not shooting yourself in the foot when negotiating? What is the difference between negotiating from a place of cooperation versus position? How are you killing opportunities by negotiating with a competitive mindset and what mindset should you be negotiating with if you want to get the most out of every negotiation? What is the Harvard Negotiation Project and what can you take from it to improve your negotiation skills today? How does pressure work against you in negotiations and what can we do to handle it so it doesn’t have detrimental consequences in the long term? What 3 things are you doing to kill your chances of negotiating a raise? What 3 traits are critical to entering a negotiation that allows for a win-win for all parties involved? What is BATNA and why is your understanding of it crucial if you want to negotiate successfully? How do you develop a bulletproof approach to any negotiation? How do you gain agreement from the other party in a negotiation to decrease the chance of it falling through? When negotiating a raise, what should your first point of agreement be between you and your employer? Negotiating can be both fun and exciting for all parties involved, but it can also be uncomfortable and downright painful. Ideally, we want to avoid the latter, but many of us enter into negotiations from a position that pushes the other party away because we try to come from a place of power and strength. No one wants to be taken advantage of so that is understandable. However, the person we are negotiating with doesn’t want to feel pushed around either, and so a different kind of strength must be used when entering into a negotiation, and that strength comes from a knowledge of what you want as well as what the other person wants. When you do your research and have options, you allow the other party to negotiate with you on what they can offer you versus what you are looking for, rather than saying, “This is what I want and you must give it to me or I’m leaving.” That never ends well for anyone.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Before you go dropping hundreds of dollars on a pair, you need to check out the wireless earbuds from Raycon! Unlike some of your other wireless options, Raycon earbuds are both stylish and discreet, with no dangling wires or stems. And of course, they don’t just look great. They sound great, too. Go to BuyRaycon.com/CHARM to get 15% off your order!Clearbanc is changing the way entrepreneurs raise money with equity-free capital. They charge a small flat fee for the capital, and you pay them back using a win-win rev share. If you are doing over ten thousand a month in revenue, find out how you can receive Clearbanc capital by getting your 20-minute term sheet at clearbanc.com/CHARM.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 777: Negotiating: 4 Things You Must KnowHarvard Negotiation ProjectEpisode 774: The 3 Most Common Hurdles in Decision MakingCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Negotiating doesn't have to be a battle. Embrace a win-win mindset to transform your approach and improve outcomes for both parties. Discover how cognitive biases like Prospect Theory can blind you to opportunities. Learn the art of interest-based negotiation by focusing on shared needs rather than positions. Want to boost success? Develop emotional intelligence, creativity, and effective strategies. Overcome the discomfort of negotiating by understanding it's about collaboration, not conflict.

Eric Weinstein, an interviewee on the podcast, discusses the importance of finding your voice and expressing your thoughts. They also explore successful networking events, dealing with blowback when voicing opinions, and women overcoming hurdles in social and work situations. The podcast addresses the value of embracing unique thoughts and beliefs, creating a safe environment for women's voices, and addressing gender disparities in various fields.

The narratives we create for ourselves influence everything from life-changing decisions down to what we eat and how we spend our free time, but what exactly is a narrative and how do you go about creating a positive one that pulls you in the direction you want to go in life?What to Listen For How do you justify a career change if you already have the “perfect” job? What is the one thing you take with you every time you leave a job for a new one, and how can you use that to minimize the regret you might feel for leaving a great job? What is a narrative and why are they so influential when it comes to how we think and make decisions? If you feel you are overanalytical, how do you use it as a strength while making sure it doesn’t cripple you in social situations? What can you do to make networking an enjoyable process rather than something you feel like you have to do in order to grow professionally? How do you become more likable as a coworker? Why is likability more important than hard skills when it comes to being promoted in the workplace? What can you do to increase your value if you feel hindered in the dating pool by a disability? What does it mean to hang on to gifts and memorabilia from past relationships and what does it mean to get rid of them? Can you ever truly stop comparing yourself to others or is it human nature? You are what you eat - everything you put in your body either makes you healthier or sicker. The same can be said for your narrative - everything you do either strengthens your narrative or weakens it.For example, if you believe you are not worthy of a promotion at work, you will make decisions every day which strengthen that narrative. However, if you wake up one day and make the choice to believe you are worthy of a promotion, then you can take conscious action to reinforce that narrative by developing positive relationships with your coworkers and supervisors as well as making sure your supervisors know you’re getting the results which make you worthy of the promotion. Over time your belief in yourself will override the narrative that was holding you back and the new positive, healthier narrative will take its place.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Feals is Premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Feals naturally helps reduce stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. New to CBD? Feals offers a free CBD hotline and text message support to help guide your personal experience. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/CHARM and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 772: Dan Ariely: How to Defeat Indecision and RegretEpisode 766: Michael Herold on Facing the Impossible and Beating itCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric Weinstein, an individual with a new podcast, discusses the Intellectual Dark Web and how to have constructive conversations. They also touch on breaking through disinformation, the impact of technology on social interaction, and the importance of being a critical consumer of information.

The harder a decision seems to be for people, the less likely it is that we will spend enough time researching it in order to determine what to do - but why is that, how should we handle the component of time when it comes to waiting to make decisions, and what can you do to eliminate the fear of regret in your life?What to Listen For Why do we spend a lot of time researching insignificant decisions and little time researching significant decisions? How can you approach life-changing decisions from a neutral point of view so you can make the decision for the right reasons? How do does action versus inaction affect our likelihood to regret a certain event and how can you change your perspective in order to eliminate regret? How do we take time into account when deciding how much time to spend researching minor and major decisions? What are the three types of decisions and how can your awareness of each one help you to avoid wasting valuable time What is anchoring and how does it affect our decision making as we make decisions that build on one another and how can your awareness of it prevent you from falling into an unhealthy trap? What are market norms and social norms and how do they affect your willingness to oblige someone’s request for help? How do market norms reduce the trust between people and turn relationships into economic transactions? We make decisions that affect our lives every single day. Some decisions are small, some are big, and some are repeated on a regular basis. Unfortunately, we only have so much time to think about these decisions so it can save us a lot of time if we at least understand how to approach each one. Small decisions, like what movie theater to go to or what appetizer to get, should take the least amount of our time since they impact our lives the least, and our time is better spent being present or contemplating more important decisions. Big decisions, like where to live or who to marry, should necessitate more time as they will have lasting effects on our lives. And lastly, decisions that are made regularly, like your morning routine or what to eat each day, should be automated as much as possible to reduce the drain on your willpower so that it can be used for resource-intensive tasks like work, or studying, or solving complex problems in your life. We only have so much time to live - don’t waste it on unimportant issues in your life.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Lumen5 is empowering everyone with the ability to create short-form videos in a matter of minutes. You can transform an article, blog post, or text message into a video. Enter your text and the Lumen5 A.I. will help you summarize your content, and automatically match it with videos and photos. Right now Lumen Five has a special offer just for you! Go to lumen5.com/charm and you’ll get 50 percent off your first month.Resources from this EpisodeDan ArielyDan Ariely on FacebookDan Ariely on TwitterDan’s podcast Arming the DonkeysPredictably Irrational by Dan ArielyThe Upside of Irrationality by Dan ArielyThe (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty by Dan ArielyAmazing Decisions by Dan ArielyThe Art of Charm Bootcamp in ViennaCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices