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First Date Mistakes To Avoid in 2025!Join Paul as he explores the real-life dating from three remarkable guests: Jo, who at 44, has never been in a relationship; Heather who, as a single parent, is navigating the dating world after the tragic loss of her partner; and Emmalee, who recently lost her leg and is finding dating to be challenging.Also - stay tuned to meet Paul’s special guest - someone who many Married at First Sight fans will know all too well!Whether you're starting afresh, or looking for love under unique circumstances, this episode offers practical tools and invaluable insights to help you on your journey.Follow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction02:13 Meet Jo02:44 Self-Love Challenges03:48 Finding Love: Challenges and Solutions04:00 Living in the Moment: Techniques and Benefits04:19 Family Dynamics: Understanding Relationship Impacts07:12 Exploring Attachment Styles with Jo11:11 Jo's Love Life12:21 Has Jo Truly Been in Love?14:48 Modern Dating Tips with Jo18:44 Reconnecting with Fathers21:00 The Power of Letter Writing in Healing24:51 Changing Negative Beliefs30:14 Adobe Ad31:11 Introducing Heather: New Beginnings31:50 Why Heather Chose Therapy with Paul31:23 Inside Heather's Love Life: Current Status34:25 Relationship Analysis: Heather and Dave37:46 Is Heather Ready for Dating? Expert Assessment39:53 Are You Ready to Date? Paul's Test Explained43:45 Tips for Dating Again: Openness and Preparedness50:50 Creating a Vision Board: Steps and Benefits55:47 Dealing with Guilt: Effective Strategies56:39 Paul's Parting Advice: Lasting Thoughts58:27 Intro to Emmalee: A Soldier's Story00:59:03 Relationship Lessons from Military Life with Emmalee01:00:07 Healthy Relationships in the Military: Emmalee's Experience01:00:36 Coping with Injury and Military Exit: Emmalee's Story01:02:39 Dealing with Trauma: Emmalee's Leg Amputation Story01:03:24 Dating as an Amputee: Challenges and Insights01:04:58 Emmalee's Dating Life01:05:42 Emmalee Discusses Love01:06:30 Introducing Jay from Married at First Sight01:07:00 Why Emmalee Follows Jay01:07:36 Jay's Experience on MAFS as an Amputee01:08:52 Building Dating Confidence01:09:36 Addressing Fetishization in Disabled Dating01:13:08 Vulnerability in Dating: Amputee Experiences01:16:23 Tackling Anxiety in Social Situations: Emmalee's Techniques01:17:15 Confidence Building for Dating: Paul's Guidance01:22:00 Creating a Supportive Friend Network01:25:30 The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Relationships01:25:56 Emmalee's Revealing Conversations01:27:18 Memorable Conversations01:27:21 Paul's Key Takeaways01:30:40 Tinder AdSponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Sleep with a Knife!”This second episode in a two-part series reveals Tulisa's honest reflections on her time in the spotlight during her stint on 'I’m A Celebrity’.We also dive into the shocking details of the drug sting that threatened to derail Tulisa’s career and life, and speak of the profound impact it had on her mental health.Hear directly from Tulisa as she recounts the intense anxiety and prescription drug dependence that followed, before leading to her courageous steps toward recovery.Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including addiction.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObThe Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPbFollow Tulisa Here:Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Intro02:30 'The Sting' Explained: A Detailed Analysis19:49 Resolving The Case: What Happened?22:47 Psychological Effects of 'The Sting' on Tulisa: An In-Depth Look25:51 Tulisa's Life Post-Trial: A Comprehensive Overview31:41 BBC Documentary Review: Tulisa’s Path to Redemption32:55 Legal Battle: The Controversy Behind 'Scream & Shout'36:44 Scandal Breakdown: The "Homewrecker" Story38:46 Tulisa’s Resilience in Showbiz: Secrets to Overcoming Adversity40:46 Huel Ad41:45 Tinder Ad42:36 The Success of N-Dubz: A Deep Dive46:10 Tulisa's Battle with Medication: A Personal Journey48:35 Tulisa on 'I'm A Celeb': Behind The Scenes Insights01:01:04 The Mystery of Tulisa’s Absence at the 'I'm A Celeb' Final01:05:25 Exploring Tulisa’s Demi-Sexuality: What Does It Mean?01:07:08 Tulisa and Celibacy: A Period of Self-Discovery01:11:00 Does Tulisa Still Believe in Love? Insights Revealed01:13:38 What Is Tulisa Looking for in a Partner? Dating Preferences Unveiled01:15:53 Exploring Tulisa's 'Fantasy Land': Dreams and Aspirations01:19:29 Paul’s TakeawaysSponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Huel: https://huel.com/paul use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This first episode in a two-part series explores Tulisa's inspiring journey, through a turbulent childhood with family mental health challenges, to achieving widespread fame through her career with N-Dubz and X-Factor.This powerful conversation explores Tulisa's personal encounters with trauma and sexual assault, while highlighting her incredible resilience and self-belief, offering a path of empowerment and hope for those in similar situations.Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and self-harm.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPbMIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObFollow Tulisa Here:Tulisa's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction to the Series02:22 Growing Up in Camden: A Personal Journey05:20 Family Life in Camden: Tulisa’s Childhood Explored07:14 The Complex Relationship Between Tulisa and Her Mother10:34 Tulisa's Role as a Caregiver: Personal Stories13:16 Mental Health Struggles in the Family: Tulisa's Insights14:50 Advice to My Younger Self: Tulisa Reflects16:47 Tulisa’s Father and Mungo Jerry: A Musical Legacy21:35 Understanding Attachment Styles with Tulisa25:27 First Love: Tulisa’s Early Romantic Experiences26:58 Tulisa’s Initial Sexual Encounters: A Candid Discussion29:09 Exploring Spirituality with Tulisa32:22 Addressing Sexual Assault: Tulisa's Harrowing Experience36:15 True Love in Relationships: Has Tulisa Experienced It?39:16 Wishing for a Different First Time: Tulisa's Regrets41:31 Adobe Express Advertisement42:29 Tinder Advertisement43:26 Paul’s Love for N-Dubz: A Fan’s Perspective47:39 The Impact of Dappy on Tulisa’s Life51:03 Coping with Uncle B’s Death: Tulisa’s Experience55:07 Celebrating Platinum Records: Tulisa’s Achievements57:47 Tulisa Discusses Her History with Self-Harm01:01:54 Class and Music: How It Shaped N-Dubz's Reception01:08:30 Starting on X-Factor: Tulisa's Initial Impressions01:12:36 Reality TV Exposed: The Fakeness Behind the Scenes01:14:12 Support Among X-Factor Judges: Tulisa’s Experience01:16:42 The Controversial 'Tape' Incident: Tulisa's Story01:27:57 Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts01:28:26 Teaser for Episode 2: What's Next?Sponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Thought Therapy Couldn’t Help” - Join us in this powerful episode featuring Daniel Middleton, better known as DanTDM, the UK’s most-followed YouTuber with over 29 million subscribers.Dan shares the untold story behind his rise to fame — from navigating childhood challenges such as social anxiety and the divorce of his parents, to his struggle with severe postnatal depression during early fatherhood.Learn how Dan overcame his mental health struggles through therapy and his advice on how to protect ones mental health through difficult times.If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support:Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPbCALM - https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPbMIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObFollow Dan here:YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/tjSbVHz7mPbInstagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MEkgFAI7mPbX - https://g2ul0.app.link/341f8KC7mPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction To The Episode02:16 Being Compared To Michael Jackson02:46 The Origin Of The Name “Dan TDM" Explained03:34 Balancing Two Personalities04:33 A Look Back At Dan's Childhood05:27 How Divorce Shaped Dan's Childhood07:46 Surviving Secondary School12:53 How Dan Started His YouTube Career16:43 What Is Minecraft? A Beginner’s Guide18:32 How Minecraft Transformed Dan's Life21:18 When Dan Realized YouTube Could Be A Career22:49 Transitioning To Full-Time YouTube27:07 Why Dan Is One Of YouTube's Most Successful Creators34:48 Breaking Down The 2017 Forbes Article On Dan37:56 How Dan Coped With Sudden Fame42:33 Managing Fame As An Introvert44:06 Why Dan Is A Positive Role Model For Fans44:59 Dan’s Impact On His Young Audience47:39 Behind The Scenes Of Dan's Live Show51:17 Inside Dan's Relationship With His Wife54:20 Why Dan Got Married At 2155:26 How Dan's Wife Influenced His Success58:43 How Becoming A Father Changed Dan's Life01:01:26 Huel Sponsorship01:02:28 Tinder Ad Spot01:03:24 Dan Advocates For Men’s Mental Health01:06:16 Struggling With Mental Health During Lockdown01:09:18 Hitting Rock Bottom01:10:55 Dan's Honest Experience With Anti-Depressants01:12:05 Dan Opens Up About Suicidal Thoughts01:15:21 How Dan Shared His Feelings With His Wife01:17:45 Exploring Why Dan Felt The Way He Did01:20:01 What Early Fatherhood Taught Dan01:24:10 How Therapy Helped Dan Overcome His Struggles01:27:11 Creating YouTube Content While Battling Depression01:31:06 How Being A Man Shapes Dan’s Views On Mental Health01:34:18 Dan’s Advice For Those Struggling With Mental Health01:36:38 What’s Next For Dan? Future Plans Revealed01:41:38 Is Being A YouTuber A Sustainable Career?01:44:07 Dan’s Top Tips For Growing A Successful YouTube Channel01:46:43 How Many Subscribers Does Dan Have Today?01:47:02 Dan’s Most Memorable Conversation Ever01:49:48 Key Takeaways From This Episode01:52:33 Adobe SponsorshipSponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.Follow Chidera Here:https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Intro00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'00:55:10 Huel Ad00:56:12 Tinder Ad00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy00:59:40 4B Movement01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways01:49:10 Fiver AdSponsored by:Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Appearance Was A Big Part Of My Childhood:Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment. Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience. With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms.Follow Megan here:Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ep1wbj4jJObFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodIf you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support:Women's Aid https://g2ul0.app.link/WyCdvWWjJObRefuge https://g2ul0.app.link/pmZkBsOjJObNUM https://g2ul0.app.link/sosyTb1jJObMIND https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb00:00 Intro2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences?12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy?15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper?30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island?42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended1:05:41 Adobe Ad1:06:36 Tinder Ad1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now?1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey2:01:11 Huel AdSponsored by:Adobe https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder https://tinder.com/en-GB Huel https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do younger partners make you happier?In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality.Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life.Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms.Follow Cindy Here:Cindy's Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/neknglRJJObMakeLoveNotPorn Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ANV19lVJJObMakeLoveNotPorn Fundraiser https://g2ul0.app.link/3nwgfqdMJObSupport MakeLoveNotPorn Here:https://www.wefunder.com/makelovenotpornFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop?02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean?03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love?13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates?20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change?25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family”37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn?46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark?58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex?01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn”01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable ConversationsSponsored by:Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paulHuel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction.From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.Follow Dr Karen Here:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxObKaren's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxObKaren's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxObFollow us here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod--00:00 Introduction  1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life  1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?  3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know  5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?  7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?  10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference  15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios  18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations  21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters  27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?  31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size  34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?  36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?  37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?  40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?  45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond  47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad  48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad  49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?  52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships  1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship  1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting  1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life  1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?  1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?  1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life  1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships  1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?  1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship  1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important  1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?  1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex  1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex  1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad  --Sponsored by:Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAULFiverr: https://fvrr.co/paulTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong.Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations.Follow Toni Here:Toni's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/JazIAMKurObToni's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/sFCGcJOurObFollow Taiwo Here:Taiwo's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/0wuUp8WurObTaiwo's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/pUhyd2SurObFollow Me Here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Introduction to the Episode03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating?30:55 Shopify Ad31:54 Huel Ad33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men?49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul56:59 Tinder AdSponsored by:Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships.Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections.Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles.Follow Dr Judith Joseph here:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CWNtxBUHfObDr Judith Pre-Order Link: https://g2ul0.app.link/JOBEG4qIfObDr Judith Anhedonia Quiz: https://g2ul0.app.link/iKrl1RxIfObFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod0:00 Intro 0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background 2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant 5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic 6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology 8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers 10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry 12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry? 13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters 15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy 18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy? 20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma 23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma 24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma? 25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma 27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame 28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma 32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us? 35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained 36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms 38:06 Ad Break 40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever? 42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"? 44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family 46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters 51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health 53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health? 54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief 58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It 59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present? 1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum? 1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself 1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts 1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained 1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self 1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy? 1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation Sponsored by:Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices