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The pressures of home and family life during lockdown play a big part in today's conversation. Like you, my guest Anne and her family are sheltering in place. Like you, Anne has her good days and bad days – as does her 5-year-old son. But several weeks ago something happened in their family life that caused Anne's son to erupt into angry outbursts: the accidental death of Dilly, the baby bird the family had taken in. Today, you get to listen in on a coaching exercise to help Anne bring her son back from the brink. (It's the process that I use frequently in my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community, to help members figure out what is really going on, and how to start addressing it, to make everyday family life better.) As you'll hear, getting good behavior from her five-year-old means: – Recognizing that her instincts are sound, and that she is doing a great job! – Working with the other adults in the house as a team – Remaining calm and positive, even in these very difficult circumstances If you need some inspiration and ideas for getting through tough times, during lockdown and beyond, this is the conversation for you! Join us! And huge thanks to you Anne! Click weturnedoutokay.com/329 for notes and links! WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

FYI: I am starting a WTOO book club, a chapter-by-chapter read of my parenting books! If you want to learn to get good behavior from your kiddos, and share some stories, and spend some time each week with me, you can do that starting in May : ) Click here to buy Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book we'll start with, so you can get reading! I am so excited to bring you this conversation, with returning champion, mom, and money expert Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com! Raeshal knows so much about money and getting out of debt – firsthand; in our first WTOO conversation, in episode 215, she shares how she successfully got herself out of debt. In our conversation (recorded for OkayCon 2020, the Free Virtual Summit taking place during April 2020; go to OkayCon.com to check out all the presentations!) Raeshal shares: – 6 steps you can take to get your finances under control, during and after the pandemic – How (and why) to "take the emotion out of money" – What you actually should do with your stimulus check This is a wonderful and extremely helpful conversation. Join us! (Go to weturnedoutokay.com/328 for links and Raeshal's 6 steps outlined : ) I believe that challenging times call for dramatic measures. So I'm upping the WTOO game! Free Parenting Advice – Click the following link to sign up for my Free Newsletter, where each week you'll get tons of advice and ideas for parenting through the Covid-19 crisis: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Parenting Support Every Step of the Way – We're facing one of the most challenging times of our lives. Like me you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now. Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment! That's why I've got special help for you during (and beyond) the Pandemic. For a limited time, I am offering NPC membership at a special rate: $1 for your first month, and then the Friends & Family Monthly Rate, 25% off standard membership : ) So you can get the help and support you need during this crisis, click the link below: weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

OkayCon FREE Virtual Summit happening now If you're not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take, go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each Monday and Wednesday evening throughout April! We will get through this together I recorded this before our current "double pandemic" (of Covid-19, and Fear). But it seems especially relevant now: Can you, or should you, train your child to play independently? Do you negatively impact a child by playing with them often? Do you feel guilty, whether you say "yes, I'll play," or "no, not right now"? One member of our Ninja Parenting Community brought up these, and many other questions regarding independent play (her questions reference an only child... but this applies to all parents.) Join us today to listen as I share the answers to these questions! (Click weturnedoutokay.com/327 to view the video and see the notes.) Key Links: What we're doing here at WTOO to help you through the pandemic: All during April's OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that! Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com Like me, you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now. Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment! That’s why I am offering a special membership rate, just $1 for your whole first month! It's the Friends & Family rate, available for a limited time at the following link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC Our first Pandemic Parenting News: Click here for the NYT parenting article in which a bouncer, a referee, and a therapist all help you stop your kids from fighting. Click here for the hilarious and wonderful essay "We, The Hard-Working, Newly Homeschooling Parents of America, have Rewritten the Common Core Standards." Click here for the Boston Globe article "Seven activities keeping my family sane during isolation." Click here for @childlifesaver's wonderful post, "How to help kids wear masks," in Instagram. Wishing you well throughout this unprecedented time! We will get through it together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's conversation is part of the OkayCon Virtual Summit! - Not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take? Go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each of those weeknights! We will get through this together Dr. Heather Maguire's day job is that of professor, teaching graduate students how to shape children's behavior. My day job is that of parent coach, teaching moms and dads how to, well, shape their children's behavior. Today we interview each other – so you get the best ideas on how to shape your child's behavior to what you want (and need) it to be, as well as the best ideas on how to homeschool and keep it together during this whole crisis. Even, how to make this into a positive experience, something you and your kiddos can look back on as an adventure that you were on together. Join us! Special Parenting Help for You during the Pandemic Get the help and support you need during this crisis! I'm bringing Ninja Parenting Community members: – Support through these tough weeks and months – My child-development expertise, so you can cut the chaos in your home – Steps to take that you can feel confident in, right from the start! I am offering NPC membership at a never-before-seen rate: $1 for your whole first month … and then a 50% discount off the standard monthly rate : ) Join the Ninja Parenting Community today: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC Go to okaycon.com to watch Heather, and to watch for upcoming presenters at OkayCon 2020! Click weturnedoutokay.com/326 for notes and links we discuss today : ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time? You're not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too. I've also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented. So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of trouble. I hope you find it helpful! (Click here for this post in your browser.) Here are all the links I share about today: 1. Click here for the poem that brought me to tears, and also gave me permission to not feel guilty, but to embrace good feelings. 2. Click here for episode 188, my conversation with Mark McGuinness of the 21st century creative podcast. 3. Click here for the McElroy Family YouTube channel, where you'll find the wonderful series Stories From Your Gaffer, read each evening at 5:30 PM Eastern by Clint McElroy, one of my favorite podcasters ever. 4. Click here for The Adventure Zone, where I first heard Clint McElroy – but please, not with kiddos around! 5. Click here for my conversation with Audrey Monke, broadcast last Friday (in real-time) at Audrey's Sunshine Parenting Facebook page. 6. Click here for episode 273, my second We Turned Out Okay conversation with Audrey, about her wonderful book, Happy Campers. 7. Click here for my conversation as a guest on the wonderful #Am Writing Podcast; I share about my experience doing everything digital by voice, after losing the ability to use my hands to accomplish digital – and lots of analog – tasks. 8. If you are a Ninja Parenting Community member, click here for member Jen's success story, about helping her daughter overcome fears about coronavirus and house fires. She did this in such a cool way (I read out the success story today in this episode). Not a member? Click here to become one. 9. Click OkayCon.com for OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on right now here at We Turned out Okay! 10. Click here to join the Facebook group – that way you can be part of the OkayCon 2020 watch parties every Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM Eastern! 11. I share HUGE news today, about the Happy-in-Place Challenge going on in The Ninja Parenting Community (it starts on April 16, my birthday : ) Right now you can join NPC for just $1 for your first month and each consecutive month thereafter at 50% off the standard monthly rate! You can cancel at any time, so there is no risk… Only the hope, support, and accountability that membership brings. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc for details and to sign up! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com. We discuss: – How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family – The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic – Why a child's behavior is most likely worse than usual right now – What you can do about that, if that's the case in your home Join us! (Click the following link for the video of our talk, and also notes from today's conversation: weturnedoutokay.com/324) How are you staying positive? Let me know! In our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1607987166145505/ in Instagram: http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay in Twitter: http://twitter.com/weturnedoutokay All during April's FREE OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that! Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where the watch parties are happening each Monday and Wednesday all through April, by clicking here. Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com We will get through this together : ) Cheers! Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com Helping parents change kids' behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : ) PS Join my email newsgroup for lots of useful, free parenting tools, as well as lots of info on OkayCon, our Virtual Summit that is ongoing right now: sign up at weturnedoutokay.com/weekly If you need some extra support, especially right now with all the madness, I'm offering special membership rates if you want to join our private coaching community, NPC. Click here for details and to join, so I can personally help you through this extremely challenging time! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Hey friends! I hope everyone you love is doing okay. And if you're going a little stir crazy, I hope I can help! I've been working hard behind the scenes to put together a Virtual Summit, bringing you the best ideas, from experts in their fields, to help you through this double pandemic – of Covid 19, and Fear. So! Each Monday and Wednesday at OkayCon.com during April 2020 I'm releasing presentations by experts in: – Children's behavior – Home and family security – Helping children through this time – How to find a job if you've been laid off – and lots more! Each Monday and Wednesday I'm posting the presentation at OkayCon.com, and simulcasting in YouTube and Facebook. And each Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM EST we're having a watch party in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group – click here to join our group (and use that link to invite anyone you think needs a boost!) Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get notified automagically about the presentation for that day, and the watch party for that night! I know this is a scary time. It's scary for me too! But we will get through this together. I'm so grateful for you, and I am hopeful that I can bring you some help and support right now. Cheers and I'll see you each Monday and Wednesday (starting tomorrow!) in April for OkayCon 2020 Karen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

During our Ninja Parenting Community live members only call last week, many members expressed frustration with all the list of activities coming at us, but the lists are often in a somewhat disorganized fashion. So I wanted to give you a list, organized by how much time/input required by us parents! Read the complete list at: weturnedoutokay.com/323 Announcing OkayCon, We Turned Out Okay's FREE virtual summit! All the first week of April 2020, and into the second week of April 2020 (and possibly beyond : ) I am bringing you, completely free, presentations by people with answers you need right now: – How to keep your family and home safe and secure – How to foster the coping skills necessary to get through all this – How to stock up and what to cook right now – How to occupy the hours that you are stuck at home with your kiddo – And lots more! Go to okaycon.com for details (and also to watch starting next week!) You are not alone. If you've got questions or just feel like you cannot go on, email me and we can talk about it (I share my email address in today's episode)! Join my Weekly Parenting Newsletter group for support, good information, and ideas for staying sane right now: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Get the extra support and encouragement you need right now by joining our private coaching community, the Ninja Parenting Community – at the Friends & Family rate, $1 for your whole first month - at weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC Also, lots of hugs coming your way for me! We will get through this together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

So, I say I'm going to drop an F bomb in the beginning segment of this episode, but we decided to edit it out, so no worries about earmuffs :-) Re coronavirus: I had an anxiety attack this morning, before I was even fully awake. To help you in case you are experiencing heightened anxiety right now as well, I start off today’s show with audio from a video series I’m doing on how to feel better during this time of fear, worry, and coronavirus threats. The video has its own post, with a cheat sheet of the ways I’m finding to alleviate the anxieties, available at https://weturnedoutokay.com/cv2 Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get these videos automagically delivered right into your inbox. We will get through this together 💕 ———————- Re the new ninja tactic: I am SO excited to share this with you, a new ninja tactic that is absolutely great for regulating screen time! Do you struggle with getting your kids to stop watching TV, or the tablet, or stop using your (or their) phone? This is the show for you. I lay out exactly what words to say, to make this work – to get your kids to listen to you and actually control the screen time! Join us : ) Here is the link to this post Links that come up in this episode: – weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, where you can sign up for the newsletters I send out each week! They are extremely useful, like this one about what to do when your child is disrespectful, and plus I love corresponding with you! – The original post by our NPC member, who first brought this ninja tactic to my attention – creatingchampionsforlife.com, the place our NPC member first learned of this tactic – Bonnie and Thomas's video, outlining the tactic – Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book, which contains lots more tools you can use in the stressful moments of parenting to get your kids to do what you want them to do : ) – weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc, where you can become a member of the Ninja Parenting Community (just as this member did) and learn to overcome the challenges that are stopping you from truly enjoy family time Thanks for reading, and listening! Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough! Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.   This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guests have written a book, called Screen Schooled, which has had a huge impact on how I think about my teenagers and their educations. I found Matt Miles' and Joe Clement's book so compelling, and so full of great ideas for helping teens navigate the modern technical world, that I knew I wanted their take on young kids and tech. (They are both parents, each raising young children in their families.) I knew I wanted to bring that perspective to you! We discuss: – How 21st-century skills are the same skills that human beings have needed throughout history – What those most important skills are (hint: they are not tapping/swiping/navigating in our devices) – How to incorporate technology into your life and family, for the biggest benefits and least amount of frustration and worry – Matt and Joe's responses to some fantastic We Turned Out Okay Facebook group questions: "Any advice on what is actually helpful for preschoolers when it comes to learning and technology? There are a million apps and games billed as "educational" but what's actually beneficial?" "Often I hear the advice to "talk to your children about what they're watching/playing"… So far the only times I've used this technique is to help them see why a certain game is questionable. I don't otherwise ENJOY talking about the inane stuff they choose to do on their devices, so talking to them about it positively is really hard. What advice do these teachers have?" "Will our children fall behind if they are not introduced to much technology at young ages?" "I'm interested to hear how things have changed during [Matt and Joe's] careers, and how they anticipate things evolving in the future… Since most of us have little kids and it's hard to conceive of the world they'll be living in 10 to 15 years from now." Hope you enjoy this conversation! (Here is the link to this post : ) PS One place where you can get help with your challenges while raising little kids is the online community that I run, NPC. During January 2020 you can spend your whole first month in the community for just $1! Click here for details.) Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos. I've written newsletters on everything from remaining calm when they are throwing dirt at each other, to what to do when you feel like a failure. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe