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FYI: NPC Grand Reopening sale : ) I have been working hard behind the scenes, creating a 5-module course on “How to keep going” and a training on “how to handle your child’s angry outbursts,” not to mention spring cleaning in the Ninja Parenting Community… the response from NPC members has been wonderful! I'm excited to reopen NPC registration so you can get the help you need coming through the pandemic Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC – and save 33% when you sign up by Monday June 1! I am so excited to bring you this installment of OkayCon 2020 with beloved WTOO guest, special needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso! Tricia helps us: – Work out a routine to make our days a little easier right now – Help our kids through what they’re struggling with – Keep going, even when we feel like we kinda can’t I hope you find our conversation as helpful as I did! Click this link for this in your browser: weturnedoutokay.com/332 Also: Join the We Turned Out Okay book club! I wrote a newsletter recently on how to handle it if you’re feeling anxiety in the pandemic (and after). Click the link below to read it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/it-is-normal-to-be-anxious-when-everything-is-changing/ To watch the Free Virtual Summit I created in response to the 2020 coronavirus pandemic – this conversation today was recorded for OkayCon 2020, when Tricia (along with 8 other presenters volunteered their expertise and time to help us through) – go to: weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020 We will get through this together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"My biggest struggle is with my five-year-old. When she is angry she scratches, bites and sometimes hits. She also yells very loudly. I would love some advice on how to get her to stop." A listener wrote in with this question, and I knew it would probably resonate with many listeners. Like us adults, kids are experiencing lots and lots of angry feelings – more so than pre-pandemic, without the usual outlets or often even the ability to leave the house and get a change of scene. It can be difficult for adults to deal with our own rage, after years and decades of experience… It's so much harder for kids to deal with their rage. They need our help! Today I share a 3-part formula that I hope you find helpful in handling your child's angry outbursts. We've also got an impromptu Parenting News, featuring the following: The Forge article "Your Only Goal Is to Arrive," about how only one thing really matters right now in bringing our families through the pandemic. A new book – Why are You Still Sending Your Kids to School? – from friend-of-the-podcast and expert in raising self-directed learners Blake Boles. I share the Amazon link here, but Blake asks that you consider purchasing it through "local bookstores, which could certainly use the business right now." (I share about this book both in the Parenting News, and also in the main part of this episode. I think it's required reading, not just in handling your young child's rage, but also in raising resilient and happy kids. Highly recommended!) Join us! Notes, including tons of links and a cheat sheet of the 3-part formula to handle your child's angry outbursts, are at weturnedoutokay.com/331 : ) Also: I have been working hard behind the scenes, creating a 5-module course on "How to keep going" and a training on "how to handle your child's angry outbursts," not to mention spring cleaning in the Ninja Parenting Community… and in this episode I share when registration opens once more for NPC! The response from NPC members has been wonderful, and I'm excited to open up the community for those of you who want the extra support coming through the pandemic. Listen in to this episode to find out when registration opens, if you need that supportive community, and help from an expert in child development. Join the We Turned Out Okay book club! I wrote a newsletter recently on how to handle it if you're feeling anxiety in the pandemic (and after). Click the link below to read it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/it-is-normal-to-be-anxious-when-everything-is-changing/ To watch the Free Virtual Summit I created in response to the 2020 coronavirus pandemic go to: weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020 We will get through this together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

FYI if you want some company, some learning, and some stories, join the WTOO Book Club! During our first meeting I am sharing about a truly low point in my own parenting, and asking the question "how do we come back from crummy parenting moments? Join us Wednesday, May 13 at 9 PM EST – click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get the link to the meeting! Hope to see you there : ) I am so excited to bring you this conversation today, which will be so helpful as these weeks of confinement and social distancing spool out… Today I get to share my conversation with Terry Louison. Terry is an educator, a self-directed learner, and the program director for Baystate Learning Center (morethanjustaschool.com) – the school my son goes to! During our conversation you will learn: – What’s most important for kids to be learning right now, during the pandemic – Why that learning doesn’t have to be stressful, for you or your child – Concrete ideas taken from Terry’s own curriculum and plans for virtual teaching Join us! Terry's presentation is one of many from OkayCon 2020, the Free Virtual Summit I recently wrapped up! Go to weturnedoutokay.com/OkayCon2020 for all the presentations! Also: go to weturnedoutokay.com/330 to watch Terry's video presentation. Hope you are staying well and safe during the pandemic. We will get through it together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club! Working closely with parents of young children during this pandemic, I’ve seen so many examples of bad behavior: – Kids smearing peanut butter on walls, dumping vinegar in beds, destroying furniture – Kids pulling pets’ tales, chasing them with scooters, threatening the pets, and their own safety (when the animals retaliate) – Kids getting overly clingy, going back and forth in terms of emotions between overexcited and happy, to abjectly despairing and melting down – Kids reverting from potty training, showing immature behaviors that hadn’t been seen for weeks or months or years – Kids unable to control their rage and angry feelings And it’s not only kids reacting to the situation with heightened emotions. We are doing it too! The questions I hear from the people I work most closely with: “I feel so lost. How do I live through this? What do I DO?” This presentation comes directly from the solutions these parents have found. I am excited to bring them to you! Today I share 7 things you can do to feel better – these are the ways I'm seeing parents use successfully to LIVE in this right now, as opposed to just living through this. Click weturnedoutokay.com/329 to read the cheat sheet of these steps. We will get through this together! In previous episodes I've mentioned how appreciative I am of my town's weekday Emergency Meetings which they post in YouTube. This past week I was invited on the show! (Click here to view!) I talk about how to get kids to wear masks, what to do when you are absolutely at your wit's end, and more. I'm posting it in here because I hope it will be helpful for you, even if you do not live in my town Free Help for Parents in the Pandemic – in April 2020 I created the OkayCon Free Virtual Summit, 10 conversations with experts in fields of crucial importance to you right now (kids' behavior, finances, finding a job, home security, and lots more). These conversations are all available for free, for ever, at this link. I hope the Virtual Summit is helpful for you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

The pressures of home and family life during lockdown play a big part in today's conversation. Like you, my guest Anne and her family are sheltering in place. Like you, Anne has her good days and bad days – as does her 5-year-old son. But several weeks ago something happened in their family life that caused Anne's son to erupt into angry outbursts: the accidental death of Dilly, the baby bird the family had taken in. Today, you get to listen in on a coaching exercise to help Anne bring her son back from the brink. (It's the process that I use frequently in my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community, to help members figure out what is really going on, and how to start addressing it, to make everyday family life better.) As you'll hear, getting good behavior from her five-year-old means: – Recognizing that her instincts are sound, and that she is doing a great job! – Working with the other adults in the house as a team – Remaining calm and positive, even in these very difficult circumstances If you need some inspiration and ideas for getting through tough times, during lockdown and beyond, this is the conversation for you! Join us! And huge thanks to you Anne! Click weturnedoutokay.com/329 for notes and links! WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

FYI: I am starting a WTOO book club, a chapter-by-chapter read of my parenting books! If you want to learn to get good behavior from your kiddos, and share some stories, and spend some time each week with me, you can do that starting in May : ) Click here to buy Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book we'll start with, so you can get reading! I am so excited to bring you this conversation, with returning champion, mom, and money expert Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com! Raeshal knows so much about money and getting out of debt – firsthand; in our first WTOO conversation, in episode 215, she shares how she successfully got herself out of debt. In our conversation (recorded for OkayCon 2020, the Free Virtual Summit taking place during April 2020; go to OkayCon.com to check out all the presentations!) Raeshal shares: – 6 steps you can take to get your finances under control, during and after the pandemic – How (and why) to "take the emotion out of money" – What you actually should do with your stimulus check This is a wonderful and extremely helpful conversation. Join us! (Go to weturnedoutokay.com/328 for links and Raeshal's 6 steps outlined : ) I believe that challenging times call for dramatic measures. So I'm upping the WTOO game! Free Parenting Advice – Click the following link to sign up for my Free Newsletter, where each week you'll get tons of advice and ideas for parenting through the Covid-19 crisis: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Parenting Support Every Step of the Way – We're facing one of the most challenging times of our lives. Like me you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now. Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment! That's why I've got special help for you during (and beyond) the Pandemic. For a limited time, I am offering NPC membership at a special rate: $1 for your first month, and then the Friends & Family Monthly Rate, 25% off standard membership : ) So you can get the help and support you need during this crisis, click the link below: weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

OkayCon FREE Virtual Summit happening now If you're not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take, go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each Monday and Wednesday evening throughout April! We will get through this together I recorded this before our current "double pandemic" (of Covid-19, and Fear). But it seems especially relevant now: Can you, or should you, train your child to play independently? Do you negatively impact a child by playing with them often? Do you feel guilty, whether you say "yes, I'll play," or "no, not right now"? One member of our Ninja Parenting Community brought up these, and many other questions regarding independent play (her questions reference an only child... but this applies to all parents.) Join us today to listen as I share the answers to these questions! (Click weturnedoutokay.com/327 to view the video and see the notes.) Key Links: What we're doing here at WTOO to help you through the pandemic: All during April's OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that! Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com Like me, you are probably feeling all kinds of fear, anxiety, and worry right now. Besides which, you are also likely sheltering in place with kids – whose behavior is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment! That’s why I am offering a special membership rate, just $1 for your whole first month! It's the Friends & Family rate, available for a limited time at the following link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC Our first Pandemic Parenting News: Click here for the NYT parenting article in which a bouncer, a referee, and a therapist all help you stop your kids from fighting. Click here for the hilarious and wonderful essay "We, The Hard-Working, Newly Homeschooling Parents of America, have Rewritten the Common Core Standards." Click here for the Boston Globe article "Seven activities keeping my family sane during isolation." Click here for @childlifesaver's wonderful post, "How to help kids wear masks," in Instagram. Wishing you well throughout this unprecedented time! We will get through it together This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's conversation is part of the OkayCon Virtual Summit! - Not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take? Go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each of those weeknights! We will get through this together Dr. Heather Maguire's day job is that of professor, teaching graduate students how to shape children's behavior. My day job is that of parent coach, teaching moms and dads how to, well, shape their children's behavior. Today we interview each other – so you get the best ideas on how to shape your child's behavior to what you want (and need) it to be, as well as the best ideas on how to homeschool and keep it together during this whole crisis. Even, how to make this into a positive experience, something you and your kiddos can look back on as an adventure that you were on together. Join us! Special Parenting Help for You during the Pandemic Get the help and support you need during this crisis! I'm bringing Ninja Parenting Community members: – Support through these tough weeks and months – My child-development expertise, so you can cut the chaos in your home – Steps to take that you can feel confident in, right from the start! I am offering NPC membership at a never-before-seen rate: $1 for your whole first month … and then a 50% discount off the standard monthly rate : ) Join the Ninja Parenting Community today: https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC Go to okaycon.com to watch Heather, and to watch for upcoming presenters at OkayCon 2020! Click weturnedoutokay.com/326 for notes and links we discuss today : ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time? You're not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too. I've also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented. So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of trouble. I hope you find it helpful! (Click here for this post in your browser.) Here are all the links I share about today: 1. Click here for the poem that brought me to tears, and also gave me permission to not feel guilty, but to embrace good feelings. 2. Click here for episode 188, my conversation with Mark McGuinness of the 21st century creative podcast. 3. Click here for the McElroy Family YouTube channel, where you'll find the wonderful series Stories From Your Gaffer, read each evening at 5:30 PM Eastern by Clint McElroy, one of my favorite podcasters ever. 4. Click here for The Adventure Zone, where I first heard Clint McElroy – but please, not with kiddos around! 5. Click here for my conversation with Audrey Monke, broadcast last Friday (in real-time) at Audrey's Sunshine Parenting Facebook page. 6. Click here for episode 273, my second We Turned Out Okay conversation with Audrey, about her wonderful book, Happy Campers. 7. Click here for my conversation as a guest on the wonderful #Am Writing Podcast; I share about my experience doing everything digital by voice, after losing the ability to use my hands to accomplish digital – and lots of analog – tasks. 8. If you are a Ninja Parenting Community member, click here for member Jen's success story, about helping her daughter overcome fears about coronavirus and house fires. She did this in such a cool way (I read out the success story today in this episode). Not a member? Click here to become one. 9. Click OkayCon.com for OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on right now here at We Turned out Okay! 10. Click here to join the Facebook group – that way you can be part of the OkayCon 2020 watch parties every Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM Eastern! 11. I share HUGE news today, about the Happy-in-Place Challenge going on in The Ninja Parenting Community (it starts on April 16, my birthday : ) Right now you can join NPC for just $1 for your first month and each consecutive month thereafter at 50% off the standard monthly rate! You can cancel at any time, so there is no risk… Only the hope, support, and accountability that membership brings. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc for details and to sign up! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com. We discuss: – How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family – The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic – Why a child's behavior is most likely worse than usual right now – What you can do about that, if that's the case in your home Join us! (Click the following link for the video of our talk, and also notes from today's conversation: weturnedoutokay.com/324) How are you staying positive? Let me know! In our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1607987166145505/ in Instagram: http://instagram.com/weturnedoutokay in Twitter: http://twitter.com/weturnedoutokay All during April's FREE OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we're having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that! Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where the watch parties are happening each Monday and Wednesday all through April, by clicking here. Find out details about the summit itself: http://okaycon.com We will get through this together : ) Cheers! Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com Helping parents change kids' behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : ) PS Join my email newsgroup for lots of useful, free parenting tools, as well as lots of info on OkayCon, our Virtual Summit that is ongoing right now: sign up at weturnedoutokay.com/weekly If you need some extra support, especially right now with all the madness, I'm offering special membership rates if you want to join our private coaching community, NPC. Click here for details and to join, so I can personally help you through this extremely challenging time! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe