Stillness in the Storms

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukWe're diving into empathy today, focusing on the difference between healthy empathy and unhealthy empathy. I’ve been mulling over this topic for a while, and it’s clear that empathy isn’t something we’re born with; it’s something we learn through our experiences, especially the tough ones. We’ll chat about how we develop empathy and why it’s crucial to understand its boundaries. Healthy empathy allows us to connect without carrying others' pain, while unhealthy empathy can weigh us down. So, let's get into it and explore how to be empathetic without losing ourselves in the process.If you care too much, and you find it hard by feelings things deeply this video will help you understand where you are going wrong. Healthy empathy is completely different from unhealthy empathy.  Diving into the world of empathy, we explore what it really means to understand others' feelings. It’s not just about feeling sorry for someone; it’s about truly grasping their pain and experiences. We unpack the concept of healthy versus unhealthy empathy. Healthy empathy allows us to connect without carrying the emotional burden of others. Unhealthy empathy, on the other hand, is when we take on other people's pain, leading to our own emotional turmoil. We discuss how empathy develops over time through life experiences, particularly through loss and grief. In sharing personal stories, we illustrate how our own hardships shape our ability to empathize with others. By recognizing that empathy is a skill we cultivate, we learn to appreciate the journey of becoming more empathetic without becoming overwhelmed by others' emotions. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their empathy levels and find a balance that allows them to support others while maintaining their own emotional health.Takeaways: Empathy is not something we are born with; it's developed through our experiences in life. Healthy empathy allows us to feel for others without carrying their pain with us. Understanding the difference between healthy and unhealthy empathy is crucial for our well-being. Grief and pain teach us empathy, helping us relate to others' suffering when they share their stories.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukToday, we're diving deep into the idea of core values and how they shape who we are. I had a conversation with my daughter recently that got me thinking about the roots of our identity, how our roles and beliefs are just the trunk and branches of a deeper tree. We often talk about values like integrity and caring, but do we really live by them in every situation? It's easy to expect others to uphold these values while we struggle to bring them into our own lives. Let’s explore how we can better align our actions with our values and really root ourselves in what truly matters.Do you ever wonder what your fundamental core values are?Things like honesty, integrity, understanding, compassion, hard-working, and loyal to name just a few.We all have them, and we all expect others to also have these core values. Especially in the way they treat us.However, do you have your set few? And do you really show up as them in every aspect of your life?Those are the questions I ask in this podcast.Thank you, enjoy the podcast.Living Deeper Lives dives deep into the essence of who we really are. Core values are at the heart of this discussion, where I explore how they shape our identities beyond just the roles we play in life. I share a personal story about a conversation with my daughter that sparked my reflection on these values. We often think we have integrity, caring, and understanding, but do we actually demonstrate these traits in our daily interactions? I urge you to consider whether you bring your core values to every aspect of your life, from work to family. It’s about making sure our roots are strong, so no matter what storms come our way, we stand firm in our beliefs and values. The episode emphasizes the importance of identifying and nurturing these core values to live a more meaningful and stable life.Takeaways: Living a deeper life means understanding and embracing our core values in all aspects. Core values are fundamental to who we are and should guide our actions and decisions. It's important to reflect on whether we truly embody our stated core values in daily life. As we grow, we must work on developing empathy and integrity in ourselves. Our core values can help ground us when life gets tough and others challenge us. Identifying and nurturing our core values can lead to more meaningful relationships and personal freedom.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukI've spent most of my life trying to live up to perfection. With today's Internet and peer pressure going global the pressure has never been so high to perform and be the best possible version of yourself.Most of the time we have to be even better than that, we have to be perfect.It's no wonder when we fail to hit that mark we feel demoralised, fed up, and like we are not enough.In this podcast Steven Webb talks about not being enough, and how it changed in 2019 for him. The strife of protection was literally stopping him doing any of the things he wanted to do. Being paralyse physically is one thing, being mentally paralysed is a whole different story.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukWe're diving into some serious stuff today as we shift the podcast's vibe from Stillness in the Storms to Living Deeper Lives. I want to explore what it really means to be 100% human, especially when it comes to dealing with our emotions. Life throws curveballs at us, and how we handle those moments—like hearing bad news or feeling overwhelmed—is crucial. We're talking about riding the emotional waves instead of trying to calm the ocean. Join me as we figure out how to accept our feelings, embrace our humanity, and live those deeper lives we’re all searching for.Living Deeper Lives takes a fresh turn with a new name and a broader focus. The podcast, formerly known as Stillness in the Storms, is now about embracing our humanity and the full range of emotions we experience. I want to dive deeper into what it means to be human and how we can navigate the tough stuff that life throws our way. Today, we're tackling those unexpected phone calls that change everything; you know, the ones that leave us reeling. We share personal stories, including a heartbreaking moment I faced when I learned of a friend's passing. It’s about acknowledging those feelings and understanding that everyone reacts differently to loss and grief. We explore how to sit with those emotions instead of shoving them aside, and the importance of allowing ourselves to feel. Emotions are like waves, and rather than trying to calm the ocean, we learn to ride those waves, letting them come and go as they please. This episode sets the stage for what’s to come in Living Deeper Lives, where we’ll learn to live more fully and authentically.Takeaways: We've rebranded the podcast from Stillness in the Storms to Living Deeper Lives. The show will explore deeper human emotions and how to cope with them effectively. We often suppress our emotions, but learning to accept and understand them is crucial. Life throws curveballs at us, and we need strategies to deal with unexpected news. Emotions are like waves; we should learn to ride them instead of fighting them. Living a deeper life means engaging fully with our emotions and experiences as humans.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukToday, we’re diving into the tricky waters of empathy and how to keep your big heart from feeling weighed down in a world that can feel pretty rough. I’m Stephen Webb, and I’m here to help you navigate life’s storms without losing your cool or your compassion. We’ll chat about how empathy develops over time, from feeling your own pain to understanding the pain of others, and even the collective suffering of the world. It’s all about learning to feel those emotions without letting them drag you down. So, let’s explore how we can care deeply while still standing strong and not getting overwhelmed!One of the hardest things I've had to do since I started to open my heart is to also know what is mine to carry and what isn't.In this podcast, I talk about the development of empathy, from when you are very young to the higher levels of empathy that very few people manage to get to.Empathy can really be a great gift, and as the cliche goes it can also be a great burden if we allow it to drown us.Please enjoy, let me know what you thought. A review would be amazing, and if you could buy me a coffee head over to my website and the link is at the top.Steven Webb - WebsiteBuy me a coffee - LinkNavigating life's challenges with a big heart can feel overwhelming, especially when surrounded by self-centered individuals. In this discussion, we dive deep into empathy's development and how we can cultivate it without falling victim to the narcissism that often surrounds us. The episode starts with a personal anecdote about a touching moment between a parent and child that illustrates the gradual growth of empathy. We explore the stages of empathy, from initial self-centeredness as infants to the ability to share and understand others' pain as adults. The conversation emphasizes that empathy is a skill that can be developed over time, and it's essential to learn how to manage the emotional burden that comes with it.As we unpack these concepts, we also tackle the idea of emotional overload. It's crucial to recognize when we begin to take on the pain of others as if it were our own. This episode encourages listeners to find a balance between empathizing with others and maintaining personal emotional health. We discuss practical strategies for feeling empathy while avoiding the pitfalls of emotional exhaustion, especially for those in caregiving roles. The takeaway is clear: we can be compassionate and supportive without allowing the weight of others' suffering to drag us down.In the latter part of the episode, we reflect on the current socio-political climate and the importance of remaining grounded. With so much negativity in the news, it's easy to become overwhelmed by collective suffering. The host reminds us to engage with the world compassionately but warns against taking on too much emotional baggage. By establishing boundaries and understanding our limits, we can better serve ourselves and those around us. The episode wraps up with a call to action for listeners to practice empathy mindfully and to cherish their emotional wellbeing. We can embrace the storms of life, but we must not let them drown us. This insightful exploration of empathy offers valuable lessons for anyone looking to navigate life with a big heart while maintaining their inner peace.Takeaways: Empathy is a skill we develop over time, not something we are born with. Feeling pain and empathy for others helps us connect, but we should not carry it forever. We must learn to allow ourselves to feel others' pain without letting it overwhelm us. Navigating life's challenges requires us to experience our own emotions while supporting others.

Episode Summary:Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukIn this episode, Steven Webb discusses the metaphor of life as a glass that gets filled with experiences, beliefs, and opinions as we grow up. He emphasizes the importance of emptying this glass to make room for what truly nourishes us and quenches our thirst for fulfillment. He also shares a poem by Rimpoche that encapsulates this concept.Timestamps:[0:00] - Introduction[0:24] - The concept of life as a glass[2:30] - How our glass gets filled[8:00] - The importance of emptying the glass[9:01] - A poem by Rimpoche[10:25] - Call to support Steven's work[11:13] - Closing thoughtsKey Points:Our life is like a glass that gets filled with experiences, beliefs, and opinions as we grow up.We often fill our glass with what we think quenches our thirst, but it often leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction.We need to empty our glass to make room for what truly nourishes us and quenches our thirst for fulfillment.We are fundamentally the empty glass, and when we understand this, we can fill the glass with what we want.Quotes:"You live in an illusion and the appearance of things, there is a reality, but you do not know this. When you understand this, you will see that you are nothing fundamentally, you're none of the things in the glass. You are the empty glass and being nothing. You are everything. You can fill the glass with what you want." - Rimpoche"But if you choose the meal, if you choose the drink, the problem is we haven't chose the meal or the drink. We've chose to allow other people to fill our glass for us." - Steven WebbLinks and References:• Inner Peace Meditations Podcast• Steven Webb BlogCall to Action:Loved this episode? Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!And remember you can always donate and support my show by sending me a virtual hug thankyousteven.comPodcast and Host Info:Welcome to "Stillness in the Storms," a beacon of tranquility amidst life's turbulence, hosted by your guide, Steven Webb.Steven is not just an average meditation and mindfulness coach. Having faced severe adversity - becoming paralyzed in a diving accident - he has transformed his life into an inspiring journey of resilience and self-discovery. Now serving as the Mayor of Truro, Steven's teachings resonate with the wisdom of Zen Buddhism and practical Stoicism, helping you find inner peace right in the midst of your daily life.In each episode, Steven's soothing voice guides you towards a deeper understanding of life and self, turning each storm we face into an opportunity for stillness and growth. This podcast is your sanctuary, your weekly retreat, where the noise of life subsides, and profound understanding takes its place.For more of Steven's teachings and updates on the podcast, subscribe to the weekly newsletter on our Website, and consider supporting Steven's work at thankyousteven.com.Embark on this transformative journey with us, every Friday at 4 PM. Remember, at "Stillness in the Storms," serenity is not a destination, but a journey.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukCan meditation really help with your anxiety and depression?In this episode, I  share where you can get a really simple five-minute meditation that I've recorded to help you overcome your feelings of depression.It really is not as hard as we make it. The solutions are often quite simple, and doing them is a different story.I don't know anybody that finds meditation easy, in fact, most people that meditate that I know find it really difficult.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukSo you like to know how to control your thoughts?Sounds good, me too. Well, during my rock bottom as well as the 12 months I spent in bed following my devastating accident I did learn ways in which we can have a little peace of mind from our thoughts.In this episode, I share my rock bottom story, as well as how I occupied my mind in the 12 months after breaking my neck and ending up severely paralysed.

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukWe all want to change the world, improve it that little bit.How can we when there is so much going wrong in the world today, in politics, natural disasters, climate change, criminal activities rising, and genuinely what feels like the wrong direction?

Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukI'm your host Steven Webb, and on this Stillness in the Storms episode you will find out how I ended up just over 7 stone and so underweight that you could see every bone in my body.I share a story that I don't very often talk about. It was when I went bankrupt and lost a computer business that I had started up one of my friends.