Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli

Jenni Field, international business communications strategist, discusses the value of listening to what executives truly mean, addressing root causes rather than symptoms, the significance of language in conversations, and the importance of taking action and being transparent in internal communications.

The podcast discusses the purpose and achievements of the Deep Listening Ambassador Community, including being a role model for listening, improving listening skills, connecting coworkers to resources, and supporting other ambassadors. It also highlights the feedback and input from the community on the development of a book and online course on how to listen.

The podcast discusses assumptions that hinder effective listening, the importance of being present and actively listening, the concept of choice in listening, understanding others through listening filters and assumptions, and the significance of resetting before engaging in conversations.

The podcast discusses the annual survey results, challenges of deep listening, favorite episodes and guests, listener feedback and suggestions for improvements, and future changes and goals for the show.

Oscar Trimboli, an expert in Deep Listening and leadership, explores the paradoxical power of deciding if and when to listen. He discusses the challenges of listening as a leader and provides insights on factors to consider, such as choice, timing, attention, and maintaining listening 'batteries'. The podcast also delves into the power of questions, creating a sustainable listening process, setting boundaries, managing listening energy, and knowing when to say no. Oscar Trimboli highlights the importance of making people feel heard and shifting the goal from making everyone happy to simply acknowledging their concerns.

In this podcast, they explore listening and hosting tips for different types of video conference meetings. They discuss the importance of preparation and how to integrate audience responses. They also talk about tailoring communication and maintaining engagement in a broadcast meeting, providing practical examples and tips for effective video conferencing.

Learn the art of effective listening in a video conference and the neuroscience behind it. Listeners share their success stories and experiences after implementing tips from the ultimate guide to listening. Explore the differences between listening as a host and as a participant. Effective techniques for hosting engaging Zoom meetings. Enhancing audience engagement and experience with the 'Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Zoom Conference' as a resource.

The Ultimate Guide for Listening on a Video Conference – Host Edition Being a Meeting Host is a unique responsibility. You are expected to create an environment where every participant is engaged and contributing throughout the Video Conference. As the Host, you are accountable for maximizing the impact of participants, the agenda, and the meeting outcome while juggling with limited connectivity, fragmented attention spans, and participants who might be holding back what they think because of the meeting format. If your video meetings are disjointed disengaged full of debate, with limited decisions and action repetitive run over time Over 100 pages, the guide provides specific tips and techniques The Ultimate Guide to Listening in a Video Conference is a comprehensive outline for three meeting formats 2 to 3 people – intimate meetings 3 to 10 people – interactive meetings 20 + people – broadcast meetings before, during and after the meeting Topics include The science of listening and video conferencing including the 5 elements of video fatigue. The opportunity created by video conferencing The Five Levels of Listening in a video environment How to effectively navigate the three dimensions of video conference listening – the host, participants and the outcome Techniques to reset the attention of the participants including proven tips and techniques for maintaining the energy, and decision making capacity of the participants.   https://www.oscartrimboli.com/product/the-ultimate-guide-to-listening-in-a-video-conference/?EP101

David, it was great to speak to you on the phone and I hope that my referral to Joey helps you progress your question around the auditory processing issues that you encounter and how that shows up really differently in one-on-one conversations and how shows up in group discussions for you when you move from tuned-in to really fuzzy auditory processing in groups   Listening is a simultaneous equation between the speaker and the listener.    When auditory processing issues are present, make the implicit explicit.  Communicate about what effective communication means for you. One of my past managers, Tony, role modeled this well.  He had an issue with his left ear and he would explain his hearing difficulty to every group meeting he would participate in when he knew somebody new was in the meeting.  I discussed this with Tony on a long-haul flight across the Pacific, and he didn't enjoy repeating it, but he said to me, "It's better than creating the impression that you're ignoring people." And I've seen this myself working with an executive team and people were saying that the leader in the room, "She's ignoring us Oscar. She's always looking down at the ground when we're speaking." In that moment, I invited the leader to explain, she said to the group,  "I concentrate much better on what you're saying when I'm not visually distracted, I'm not ignoring you, I'm focusing all my efforts on making sure I'm hearing everything that you're saying." And that moment you could hear a very audible sigh in the room from every participant.    It was a breakthrough moment that happens if you communicate about how you communicate. We over-read body language and this is a perfect example of not asking that question Thanks to Rane who commented with her question? How can we encourage people to listen instead of concentrating on their comeback? Listening is a simultaneous equation and we give great listening that becomes an example for others to learn and improve from. Rane, I promise you a full deconstruction of how I'd approach a conversation where everybody's busy, reloading their arguments rather than, listening.   It makes listening really light and easy to sustain.   And my listening batteries, aren't drained by the intensity of juggling multiple layers in the conversation yesterday.    Marc asked Oscar, "I've got questions about the questions and Marc asked, would you share the questions?" I'm delighted to share, these are the questions, and we'll be sharing all these questions with everyone, that's the purpose of this listening challenge to share these questions with everybody out there. So thanks for your engagement there.  Please keep the comments and the questions coming.. Today's listening question, this question comes from Kerrie.  She asks Oscar; "What I struggle with in my listening is listening to the whole problem or the whole conversation, because you know, all I'm thinking about is how do I solve it?  I think this is a problem.  I don't help the speaker solve their own problems and this creates extra effort for me.  Typically, I jump in and give an answer, which Kerrie says exactly doesn't help me or them. "   Kerrie, here's my invitation for you   Ask this question at the beginning of the conversation. This will take the weight off your superhero-solving capacity.   What would make this a great conversation for you?    Or What outcome would you like to achieve at the end of our conversation?    They might not want a solution. They might just want to thinking partner. They might just want to express an idea.   Extroverts love to think by speaking, we don't give them the opportunity to do that. Allow them to express their thinking verbally, rather than jumping in to try and fix the issue.    When you agree the outcome of the conversation, you can use that as a navigational setting, like a compass setting and that'll help you progress and check-in. And ask yourself this question, Kerrie, given that compass setting, rather than solving the problem, ask yourself this question,  Does what I'm about to ask them next progress, the agreed outcome of the conversation?   When you get that really bursting to solve, just PAUSE and ask yourself "thinking about the purpose we agreed at the beginning is this aligned?"   2. This is often skipped and ignored step. Do so at your peril!   At the start of the conversation ask them, What have you already explored or thought about in regard to this issue?   You might be shocked they may have come up with many more alternatives that you haven't considered because you're hearing it for the first time. Now your role here is to help them expose all the thinking that I've done and you may help them to consider how do I prioritize this approach, or maybe between the two of you or in a group you can combine elements of different parts of the solution or something may simply emerge through the process of having a conversation.   3. You need to orientate your problem solving compass. Are you solving a symptom or are you addressing a cause?    Is what you're about to propose transactional or transformational, and which serves the agreed purpose of the conversation?  If you come back and always check in with, is this serving the agreed purpose of the conversation, then you'll make great progress    Kerrie this will make your listening much lighter.    Your problem-solving passion won't go away, but you will bring different approaches that they possibly haven't considered.  I'm curious if you've taken the www.listeningquiz.com Kerrie? If you like, Kerrie have got a question about listening in the workplace, just email podcast@oscartrimboli.com that's podcast@oscartrimboli.com Thanks for listening.