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On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the “soft life” trend and its origin story. Plus, they offer up advice on how to start a new career journey, and how to stop picking facial blemishes. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/soft-life/#:~:text=The%20term%20soft%20life%20and,popularity%20among%20young%20Black%20womenhttps://fortune.com/2022/09/11/the-soft-life-of-dar/https://www.insider.com/how-young-black-women-are-manifesting-a-soft-life-2022-12https://andscape.com/features/the-softlife-isnt-as-easy-as-it-looks-online/https://hermoney.com/earn/work-life-balance/is-living-a-soft-life-the-secret-to-success/https://www.countryliving.com/uk/wellbeing/a42740284/soft-living/https://mashable.com/article/soft-life-quiet-quitting-trendhttps://www.bustle.com/wellness/soft-life-black-women-self-carehttps://houston.momcollective.com/soft-life/https://www.essence.com/health-and-wellness/living-the-soft-life/https://heragenda.com/p/tips-for-living-a-soft-life/https://africasacountry.com/2023/05/pitfalls-of-the-soft-lifehttps://www.inhersight.com/blog/mental-health/soft-life-without-quitting-your-jobhttps://www.ellecanada.com/culture/society/living-the-soft-lifehttps://nordot.app/981848352915898368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Jolenta has a conversation with a special guest: NXIVM survivor, Sarah Edmondson. Plus, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on hydration and NXIVM, and listeners share some additional advice for letter writers. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the infamous sex cult, NXIVM. Plus, they offer up advice on how to overcome procrastination, and how to stop comparing your life to others. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.timesunion.com/news/article/court-affirms-ouster-nxivm-doctor-s-medical-17895553.phphttps://news.bloomberglaw.com/health-law-and-business/nxivm-sex-cult-member-fails-in-suit-to-get-medical-license-backhttps://www.timesunion.com/local/article/Secrets-of-NXIVM-2880885.phphttps://www.vice.com/en/article/xgxzjj/dont-call-it-a-cult-the-shocking-story-of-keith-raniere-and-the-women-of-nxivm-excerpthttps://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/nxivm-keith-raniere-wellness-scam-sex-cult-848439/https://www.forbes.com/sites/willyakowicz/2019/05/15/keith-raniere-the-leader-of-the-nxivm-sex-cult/?sh=6e17981f35a9https://www.timesunion.com/7dayarchive/article/Discount-service-target-of-probe-15640345.phphttps://www.thecut.com/2019/04/nxivm-sex-cult-case-a-complete-timeline-of-events.htmlhttps://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2010/11/bronfman-201011https://frankreport.com/2017/12/03/nxivm-endless-curriculum-list-of-raniere-courses/https://www.timesunion.com/news/article/NXIVM-loyalist-Danielle-Roberts-loses-license-for-16501584.phphttps://www.nytimes.com/article/nxivm-timeline.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta myth-bust some common misconceptions about hydration. Plus, they offer up advice on how to plan a balanced summer break, and managing expectations from family members. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK555956/https://www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/body/great-hydration-myth-why-dont-need-2-litres-day/https://news.virginia.edu/content/everything-we-think-we-know-about-drinking-water-may-be-wronghttps://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/health-nutrition/water-mythhttps://www.everydayhealth.com/dehydration/the-truth-about-hydration-myths-and-facts/https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/health/healthy-eating/a557375/8-signs-your-teen-has-an-eating-disorder/https://toledocenter.com/bulimia/what-are-the-symptoms-of-bulimia-nervosa/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener stories and feedback on Going Damp and Gua Sha. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for letter writers dealing with loved ones who won’t stop toxic diet talk, and more information on getting diagnosed with autism. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about Gua Sha, the origin, and the potential benefits. Plus, they offer up advice on whether or not to get a diagnosis, and how to make newly “empty-nesting” parents feel special. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.tiktok.com/@mountlai/video/6994538050252475653https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QmyMze9iQtQwww.npr.org/2022/05/28/1101640995/gua-sha-hair-oiling-aapi-culturehttps://www.healthline.com/health/gua-sha#side-effectshttps://www.goodmorningamerica.com/style/story/gua-sha-chinese-medicine-experts-explain-tiktoks-viral-77742894https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/beauty/skincare/a37661679/facegym-sculpting-tools-celebrities/https://www.lofficielusa.com/beauty/cultural-significance-gua-sha-traditional-chinese-medicine-skincarehttps://sea.mashable.com/life/20804/slugging-gua-sha-rice-water-and-more-how-stolen-cultural-beauty-practices-feed-viral-videoshttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/gua-sha-tools-lanshin_l_63d8797de4b0c8e3fc802245https://www.wmagazine.com/beauty/sandra-lanshin-chiu-gua-sha-tcm-interviewEffectiveness of Traditional Chinese “Gua Sha” Therapy in Patients with Chronic Neck Pain: A Randomized Controlled TrialExploring Scraping TherapyThe Effect of Gua Sha Treatment on the Microcirculation of Surface TissueGua Sha, a press-stroke treatment of the skin, boosts the immune response to intradermal vaccinationhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27760084/https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0254627214600546https://www.beautyindependent.com/asian-american-beauty-brand-founders-ethics-selling-gua-sha/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about going damp, and all that it entails. Plus, they offer up advice on steering conversation away from diet talk, and how to trust your gut. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/faqs.htm#:~:text=To%20reduce%20the%20risk%20of,days%20when%20alcohol%20is%20consumed. https://landmarkrecovery.com/what-is-going-damp/https://www.instyle.com/damp-lifestyle-mindful-drinking-trend-6889419https://www.huffpost.com/entry/damp-lifestyle-drinking-sober_l_6400ceb7e4b05f1e793e144dhttps://www.glam.com/1174682/what-it-means-to-live-a-damp-lifestyle/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/philosophy-stirred-not-shaken/202212/is-damp-approach-drinking-right-youhttps://nypost.com/2022/11/17/damp-lifestyle-is-the-newest-drinking-trend-on-tiktok/https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/tiktok-nhs-b2264455.htmlhttps://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/damp-drinking-tik-tok-wellness-trend-alcohol-dry-january-123553499.htmlhttps://www.besthealthmag.ca/article/how-to-drink-less-alcohol/https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-57039-001 Damp TikToker Hana Elson:https://www.tiktok.com/@hana.elson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini-ep, Kristen & Jolenta share listener stories and feedback on bullet journals and almond moms. We hear from moms who are grappling with their own relationship to food and diet culture and listeners who grew up with an almond mom. Plus, listeners share some additional advice for our letter writers and some tips on keeping your journal organized.  Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk all about bullet journals. Plus, they offer up advice on dating as a tall woman, and how to accept help in times of need. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://www.pcmag.com/how-to/are-you-bad-at-bullet-journaling-try-these-digital-alternativeshttps://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323323#How-perfectionism-affects-our-overall-healthhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/10/19/perfectionism-anxiety-excellence/https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/2019/11/27/20975989/perfect-mental-health-perfectionismhttps://www.thelazygal.com/pros-cons-bullet-journaling-2021/https://www.planningmindfully.com/reasons-people-struggle-with-bullet-journals/https://www.bitofclarity.com/why-people-quit-bullet-journaling/https://www.travelandleisure.com/trip-ideas/yoga-wellness/how-to-bullet-journalhttps://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/habit-tracking.htmlhttps://thefinancialdiet.com/the-dangers-of-data-fetishizing-3-ways-habit-tracking-helps-you-3-ways-its-hurting-more/https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/can-bullet-journaling-save-youhttps://bulletjournal.com/pages/abouthttps://lifehacker.com/the-bullet-journal-minus-the-hype-is-actually-a-reall-1786382012https://community.bulletjournal.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about “almond moms” and diet obsession. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with people that have strongly differing views, and how to occupy downtime at work. Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:https://wholesalenutsanddriedfruit.com/almond-mom/#:~:text=In%20it%2C%20Walker%20describes%20Almond,to%20her%20career%20and%20family. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/jul/28/barack-obama-seven-almonds-every-night-new-york-times#:~:text=%E2%80%9CSo%2C%20Michelle%20%5BObama%5D,That's%20it. https://www.bustle.com/p/these-shrill-moments-had-fans-praising-the-show-on-twitter-proving-we-need-more-plus-size-women-on-screen-16962988https://jezebel.com/everything-i-fucked-up-while-trying-to-eat-like-gwyneth-1596037126https://www.teenvogue.com/story/almond-mom-viral-on-tiktok-diet-culturehttps://www.today.com/parents/moms/almond-mom-food-recovery-rcna53873https://www.insider.com/almond-mom-explainer-gwyneth-paltrow-yolanda-hadid-eating-habits-2023-3#:~:text=Gwyneth%20Paltrow%20drew%20backlhttps://www.cnbc.com/2017/01/23/there-are-more-male-ceos-in-advertising-than-female-pay-gap-exists.htmlhttps://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/fjollaarifi/tiktok-almond-momhttps://www.goodmorningamerica.com/wellness/story/almond-mom-trend-tiktok-parenting-diet-culture-96706555https://parade.com/health/what-is-an-almond-momhttps://www.parents.com/what-is-an-almond-mom-and-how-to-not-be-one-6822156https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/parenting/what-is-an-almond-mom/https://www.glamour.com/story/growing-up-with-almond-momhttps://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/pop-culture-news/young-women-tiktok-want-generation-avoid-becoming-almond-moms-rcna54432https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/03/31/fat-bias-worse-for-women/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices