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dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter John Eldredge John Eldredge is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs and he loves the outdoors passionately. His most recent book, Take Your Life Back provides a refreshingly simple guide to recover your life. By practicing a few wonder­fully simple practices—or what John calls "graces"—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty. Three Takeaways > Show Notes 3:10 - dadAWESOME Episode 117 w/ John Eldredge 3:30 - DA Daily - text "dad" to 77222 to receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. 3:50 - Takeaway #1 = Why is the Inside Out Dad Life Important? 4:08 - Proverbs 4:23 - "Above everything guard your heart because out of your heart flows the wellspring of life... "How your heart's doing affects everything else in your life. If your heart's not doing well, you don't love very well, if your heart's not doing well you don't have a lot of dreams. It is the epicenter." 4:12 - "We are reaping the fruit of a lot of human brokenness generationally….Many kids are growing up either without a dad present, or without a present dad. He might be taken home, but he's so taken out himself." 4:23- Carl Jung - "The greatest psychological impact of a parent on a child is the un-lived life of the parent….. If you're taken out, it's really hard to chase after the hearts of your kids." 5:08 - Parent for behavior vs. Parent for the heart Takeaway #2 = Process of being Fathered By God Fathered by God by John Eldredge 6:30 - Both the little boy and little girl look to the father to answer their core questions. Boys - Do I have what it takes? Girls - Do you delight in me? Will anyone fight for me? "God steps in to say, 'Look, I can still Father you. I can take you on the journey of maturation. You need to know you're a beloved son, you need to know that you're a delighted daughter first.'" God takes us through stages to the place where he can entrust us with kingdoms and influence (a family, education, money, etc). Guys blow up their world because inside they stay in adolescence. Takeaway #3 = Advice to John's younger self 8:24 - What you would tell your younger self - "You boys need to know you love them, and make that your top priority. You're going to mess it up, everybody does...but love heals…...If your kids know "My dad adores me" then a lot of the failure stuff kind of bounces off. It really does." Links Get Your Life Back book John's website John's podcast One Minute Pause App Instagram Twitter Facebook

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Three Updates & a Challenge: This is a prayer soaked podcast - God has a next step for each of us 3 Updates: Season #2 Five Highlights- three dadAWESOME takeaways from _________ (5 episodes in the month of October) DadAWESOME Foundations - starting October 8th... the foundations of dadAWESOME on 4 Thursday nights Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course) 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/ The CHALLENGE From part 4 of DA Foundations Enjoy your KIDS 4 parts of DadAWESOME Foundations L — I am Loved (You are my son, whom I Love) I — I am Intentional (Time, Marriage, Friends, Church, Mentors, Exercise, Career) F — I am Free (Heart, Forgiven, Pain, hurts, wound, Baggage, Purity, Shame) E — I Enjoy my kids (In you I am well pleased) Adding LIFE to the dad life Our kids can tell when their dad loves being their dad My prayer is that our kids would say, "my dad loves being my daddy and that being a dad is the favorite thing my dad does in life" Shiny eyes come when we father with child like wonder... We need to father like a child * curiosity * Joy * Wonder * Being present * Fully alive The Fight for our Attention. For our Awe & Wonder John 10:10 "the devil comes to Steal, Kill and Destroy, but Jesus came so that we might have LIFE to the Full (Abundant Life)" The devil wants to kill, steal and destroy our wonder and our joy We must pay attention to what is stealing our attention ENJOY = synonyms love be pleased by appreciate savor be fond of find/take pleasure in rejoice in bask in be amused by delight in adore get a kick out of Story of Wonder Opening story in Dangerous Wonder by Mike Yaconelli A mind shift of intentionality It took intentionality to set up this moment of wonder Matthew 6:21 (TPT) "For your heart will always pursue what you value as your treasure" The more we treasure the dad life the more our heart will pursue more of it Our heart will pursue what we treasure My prayer is that you would ENJOY the dad life You are dadAWESOME Your kids can tell when you enjoy being their dad Episode 141 - next week will feature the top 3 dadAWESOME Takeaways from John Eldredge dadAWESOME Foundations starts on October 8th Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/ Jeff's prayer for every dad

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Josh Carney Josh is married to Lindsay and they are raising six kids ages 13 down to 6 including two foster kids. He is the lead pastor of University Baptist Church in Waco, TX. Conversation Notes: Subscribe to the weekly podcast Leave a rating and a review 4:32 - Connecting as a family 6:05 - Acknowledging seasons where it's more difficult to connect with our kids 7:45 - The struggle to show up emotionally to the kids. Connecting with emotions and being future-oriented. 10:45 - Takeaways from his dad. 12:23 - Bringing a non-anxious presence to every area of life 13:35 - How to help our kids have a deep level of trust with us when they are in college. 15:35 - Wanting to be a dad who can stay calm, melt the layers of his child's heart, and then pray for them. 17:10 - Taking our child seriously, speaking to our child as an adult is a subtle form of validation 18:16 - A valley moment that led to an "aha." 21:00 - Being taken seriously as a teenager and how that has influenced his parenting. ----------------------------- Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course) 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/ ----------------------------- 21:35 - On foster parenting 22:19 - "storge" - Affection type of love - talked about by C.S. Lewis - The Four Loves 22:35 - Foster parenting and loving without limits 26:40 - Discussing fostering and anxiety, adopting a posture that says, "I can't open and close these doors, I can just be faithful." 26:58 - A dad mistake - Using a violent action to make a point that was more harsh than called for in that moment. Conversation Links: UBC Church - http://ubcwaco.org/ Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee.

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter David Horsager David Horsager is the leading expert on trust and how it's built into everything from individuals and organizations to global governments. His work has been featured in prominent publications such as Fast Company, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and The Washington Post. David has worked with clients ranging from Fortune 100 companies like Verizon and FedEx to the New York Yankees and U.S. Congress. He helps leaders and organizations become most trusted in their industry through research, speaking, consulting and human capital development. As bestselling author of The Trust Edge™ and The Daily Edge™ he has taken the platform across the United States and on 6 continents. He invented the Enterprise Trust Index™ and leads the charge in one of the nation's foremost trust studies—The Trust Outlook™. Conversation Notes: Fathers for the Fatherless 5:39 - History of his work on Trust beginning in ministry and now in the corporate world. "Trust affects anything more than anything and it matters more than ever." 6:19 - Sharing the story of starting his ministry business from nothing. 7:39 - Thoughts on traveling and being intentional with kids 9:34 - Transitioning business (which requires a lot of travel), ministry and family at the start of Covid 13:10 - Incredible story of his Dad's integrity and how that contributed to trust and purity as a child. 18:47 - The importance of trust with our kids. 19:15 - First finding on trust from his grad research: "Lack of trust is the biggest cost you have. And it's the same with a dad." 19:35 - In a team, sharing and creativity goes down without trust. 20:05 - "Trust is the only indicator. You don't have a leadership issue. The only reason you follow a leader is trust. Even diversity. 20:31 - 8 Pillars of Trust Framework - the way to build trust 20:44 - Biblical examples of trust/lack of trust: Prayers not answered because they didn't trust God. Moses didn't get to enter the promised land because he didn't trust God enough. Daniel 6:23 The king was overjoyed and gave orders to lift Daniel out of the den. And when Daniel was lifted from the den, no wound was found on him, because he had trusted in his God. David's trust - Psalm 20:7 - Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God. Prov 12:22 - The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. 21:50 - The most deceptive person is the one who appears trusted. And you can build those eight pillars and look trusted for a time, but isn't actually worthy of it. So to me, if you want to be dadAWESOME you gotta be trustworthy. 22:15 - The Trust Edge is the advantage of trust. The greatest advantage you can have is trust, by being trustworthy. 22:30 - Talking about clarity, which is one of the pillars, and how it impacts family vision. 23:36 "Your kids will either write their own story or they will join someone else's." 24:18 Asking the question "What does an 18-year-old Horsager look like. What is the output we're going for." He asked yes this question when his first daughter was born. ----------------------------- 27:19 - Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course) 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/ ----------------------------- 29:40 - Tips for how to build trust as a young dad. "You need to see that trust is the root cause of dadhood, of leadership and life. They have to start to see that that's the core issue - you have to think bigger about trust." 30:41 "Even though there's eight pillars of trust, I would say the king of the pillars is consistency, sameness….whatever you do consistently, you will be trusted for. If you're late all the time, I will trust you to be late." 31:24 - There are enders and repeaters. Be a repeater dad. Aristotle - "You are what you repeatedly do." Augmandido - "We are a slave to our habits." 32:43 - Healthy leaders need healthy accountability. You have to have accountability. 36:15 - An example of apologizing without excuses 36:36 - The only way you will rebuild trust is to make and keep a new commitment 36:45 - The Trusted Leader Podcast and the Trusted Leader book Conversation Links: Fathers for the fatherless The Trusted Leader Book Pre-Order https://davidhorsager.com/ The trust edge book by David Horsager https://trustedge.com/ Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. We are part of the Amazon affiliates program, so any resources mentioned and linked above do support the ministry of dadAWESOME.

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Seth Dahl Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas. With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children's pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they've always dreamed of. Conversation Notes: Fathers for the Fatherless >> help our team reach the $100,000 goal. 5:58 - Seth Dahl's story of growing up with a single mom and encountering Jesus. Working in Children's ministry. 7:59 - On encouraging family and parent ministry - "If what happens in church doesn't happen in the home it's not Christianity. If this is something we DO not someone we ARE, we are wrong, it's event-based religion." 9:08 - Hand to hand combat vs. sniper/archer combat 9:21 Psalm 127:4 - Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior's hands and blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. "The arrow is the long-range weapon of the spirit world." 9:50 - "God says you also have arrows and they're your children and if you learn to work with your children in the kingdom, you can actually hit the enemy from a great distance like a sniper would. You can take him out before he even saw you. You don't have to wait for him to come close and pull out your sword and fight him in hand-to-hand combat..you can shoot him before he even sees you. But that's the importance of learning to work with our children." 10:58 "Arrows are not meant to sit in the quiver, arrows are meant to fly and strike the enemy, and if we don't let our kids get out and let them do that, we are actually preventing them from operating in the God-given identity that they've been called to, and we're just protecting protecting protecting instead of preparing and releasing and aiming and it's like the whole world will be affected by what we do with our children." 12:18 - Analogy of purchasing pre-made arrows and the attitude of some parents toward the church. Treating church like a sporting goods store. 14:00 - The way God text in the Bible is visions and dreams 14:53 1 Corinthians 2:16 - for, "Who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?" But we have the mind of Christ" 15:46 - When I say I hear the voice of God, "99% of the time what I'm really saying is an idea popped into my head when I needed it most, and I sort of aimed my heart toward the Lord like, 'Help! Help!' and an idea pops into my mind and I'm like, 'God is talking to me.' Why? Because I don't need him to speak in a certain way, he can drop an idea." 16:40 - "I can actually pick up thoughts from people around me, from the spiritual atmosphere around me, or I can have thoughts that God sent me. I attack myself thinking that it was my thought, when it was really the enemy. Or I dismiss God's voice thinking it was my thought. And when I dismiss God's voice, when I think I made it up, then I live in a whole bunch of uncertainty because if I don't think it was God talking, faith doesn't come. Whereas if I think 'that might have been the Lord,' Boom. What comes? The faith of God comes with that thought." 17:28 - "Faith comes by hearing. So if I think I'm not hearing, I'm actually not able to walk in faith at all if I don't think I can hear Him. Faith doesn't come by reading. Faith comes by hearing." 18:06 - What do you do if you're struggling to hear God's voice? "His job is to lead us and guide us into all truth"…. Comparing God to a tour guide. "The Lord is our guide. He is our shepherd. He's constantly leading and guiding. He may just use a language we think he's going to, so we end up missing his voice, thinking it was something else. Or if I believe God's not talking to me, that right there is the problem. If I believe God is not talking to me, then that belief blocks me from hearing." ----------------------------- 19:46 - Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart (Book & Course) 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Registration opens today, Sept 1. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/small-groups/ ----------------------------- 21:28 - There is discomfort in letting our children fly 21:48 - "Part of my job as their dad is to make sure I'm not putting myself their 'God-spot' and that I'm not putting other things in their 'God-spot.'" Have our kids ask God to help them. 22:24 - Story of how Seth began helping his son hear the voice of God. 24:20 - How to have Spirit-led parenting. We want to teach our kids to go to the Comforter, and there are other times we are representing the Comforter to them. 25:25 - We don't want to teach our kids to go to other things (TV, sweets, etc) for comfort instead of going to the Comforter. "I don't want my kids to go to anything else but Him for comfort, otherwise I create a false comforter for them..." 26:31 - " As a dad, I want the comfort sometimes of a peaceful home, so I will fuel false comforts to my kids so they don't whine, etc...so I'll be quick to bring a solution which reinforces a behavior so it's like it layers to my own source of comfort and my daughters' comfort." - Jeff 27:15 - What has added more life to his family. "If I know what makes me come alive because I know me, then I can actually head that direction. Heading that direction makes me come alive, whether I'm fully walking in it or not, just knowing and actually going that direction...that makes me come alive. But I have to have self-awareness for that and I have to have wife awareness, and I have to have kid awareness." figure out what makes you come alive and head in that direction 29:57 - he never wanted us to eat from the tree that made things fair he wanted us to eat from the tree that gave us life. 30:02 - my job is not to make things fair my job is to give you life, so if that thing doesn't give you life, or if it's going to take life away from you 30:52 - Have awareness of what gives our kids life 31:00 - Raising Spirit-Led Kids Book by Seth Dahl - coming out in Dec - available now for presale 32:29 - Seth's resources: win-win parenting (for everyday life.) Arrows (for spiritual development of our kids). 33:58 - "The dad's role is more important than we know. There's a reason God calls himself the everlasting father. Your role is super important as a dad, no matter where your kids are at, no matter where your relationship's at, your role is important. I've had the Lord several times [tell me] it may not look like this, but they're actually begging for you in their life, it may not look like that's what they're saying but they are ....begging for you to be there...you're very necessary to your family." 35:05 - "The Lord has said, 'I'm very committed to helping you succeed....I gave you the privilege of being a father and feeling what I feel. I gave you privilege to step into that part of my identity and I'm fully behind you I fully support you. I want you to succeed as a dad because when you succeed it shows the earth who I am. We have a really important job and we have an amazing Father fully helping us all the time." Conversation Links: Fathers for the fatherless Partnership with Connected Families. Discipline that Connects with Your Child's Heart 8-Part Parenting course that starts on Oct 6. Use the code: "AWESOME" to Save 15% on the registration fee. Raising Spirit-Led Kids Book by Seth Dahl - coming out in Dec - available now for presale Arrows Win Win Parenting We are part of the Amazon affiliates program, so any resources mentioned and linked above do support the ministry of dadAWESOME.

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Adam Weber Adam is the founder and lead pastor of Embrace, a multi-site church based out of Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Author of Talking With God and Love Has A Name, he also hosts a podcast called The Conversation. Adam still cheers for the Cincinnati Bengals but no longer drives a Rambler. He's married to his wife, Becky, and has four kids: Hudson, Wilson, Grayson, & Anderson. He also has seven chickens, two dogs, & three fish, but what he really wants is a sheep. Conversation Notes: 2:05 - Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile Bike Ride this Saturday, Aug 29, 2020 2:49 - Adam Weber's recent book: Love Has a Name 3:10 - Normalizing conversational prayer: "One of the things I do, and it might be weird at first, it's just been a part of our home. If I think a prayer in their presence, I say it. And so it might be the simplest thing, and a lot of times it's just thankful stuff." 4:51 - The story of adopting his son from Ethiopia 13:15 - "For me the number one way to see the richness of someone's walk with Jesus is the fruits of the spirit, and for our kids the number one way they can see Jesus in us is the fruits of the spirit. More than what we say or even what we pray." 14:55 - Why the book Love Has a Name applies to the dad life. 18:22 - Each day when I wake up I always pray, 'God would you help me to see one person I could love today.'...And when I start my day like that, it turns into the raddest adventure." Conversation Links: Fathers for the fatherless Embrace Church Talking With God Love Has A Name Adam Weber's Podcast We are part of the Amazon affiliates program, so any resources mentioned and linked above do support the ministry of dadAWESOME.

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Adam Weber Adam is the founder and lead pastor of Embrace, a multi-site church based out of Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Author of Talking With God and Love Has A Name, he also hosts a podcast called The Conversation. Adam still cheers for the Cincinnati Bengals but no longer drives a Rambler. He's married to his wife, Becky, and has four kids: Hudson, Wilson, Grayson, & Anderson. He also has seven chickens, two dogs, & three fish, but what he really wants is a sheep. Conversation Notes: Fathers for the fatherless Embrace Church Adam's books: Talking With God & Love Has A Name 3:30 - Adam Weber's Podcast 4:00 - Sharing about his dad walking through physical hardship with a car accident and financial hardship. 7:05 - Seeing his dad walk through pain with joy. 8:15 - In the eyes of the world you say he's not successful now but in the eyes of God more successful Romans 8:18 these light and momentary trials… 9:25 - To get from A to C you have to get through B. 13:50 - Thoughts on being convicted of treating the most important people in his life like they're the least important. 14:21 Book: Talking with God by Adam Weber 15:53 - Free devotional online: "How to Be Somebody" 17:00 - Setting goals and priorities with his kids 17:40 - Saying yes to our kids even though we don't feel like it. When they've invited us into their life we want to take advantage of that time. 21:00 - Defeating the lie that you need to achieve to earn love. 27:00 - How to pray for your kids 28:00 - Taking time at birthday parties to honor the person and call out something about them. Conversation Links: Fathers for the fatherless Embrace Church Talking With God Love Has A Name Adam Weber's Podcast

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jeff Kemp Jeff is a quarterback for strengthening teams. After his 11-year career in the NFL, Jeff founded and led the Seattle-based national non-profit Stronger Families, dedicated to helping families thrive. As he speaks and coaches throughout the United States, Jeff combines the best from professional team sports with the best of building strong relationships, team alignment and trust to strengthen the business. Jeff and his wife, Stacy, have been married 35 years and mentor young couples. They have four married sons and love tennis, skiing, and spending time with family. Conversation Notes: 1:54 - Make a donation to support FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 mile bike ride - 100% of funds go directly to Venture Expedition and The Dwelling Place 2:46 - Jeff Kemp - NFL Quarterback 3:26 - Book: Facing the Blitz by Jeff Kemp. Three strategies for turning trials to triumphs 7:30 - Blitz - sudden overwhelming bombardment. Great danger and risk, that you might not be able to block extra defenders, could be an injury, but if the offense is prepared and able to adapt and willing to change, you have opportunity. Chinese symbol for crisis is danger and opportunity together. 8:49 - Jesus turned his own blitz around for victory. Lazarus. Joseph. What the enemy meant for evil, God meant for good. That's a blitz. 10:00 - John 16:33 - NFL version 10:20 - How to get through a blitz: 1) Have a long-term view. 2) Willingness to change. 3) Can't focus on yourself as a victim, focus on blessing others. 11:10 - In the Covid Blitz - 1) Make time to listen to God like never before. 2) Play with your kids. 3) Ask your wife to rate your relationship and ask what you can do to move it closer to a 10. 13:31 - Story of a dad fail. Blitzed by personal convenience and selfishness. 16:50 - Blitz is an opportunity to apologize and 18:11 - Encouragement is a huge part of being a dad. 18:23 - The Gideon principle - Angel showed up and named him what he was going to become before he was that. 20:09 - "His dad found whatever he could and encouraged it. I know that I am a leader today, I am a speaker, I am a vision-caster, I'm an encourager...because of my dad." 20:27 - You can't build your identity around performance. 20:50 - A dad's job is to build a kid's identity on 1) relationship with God, 2) relationship with you 3) their character. 21:29 - On The Gideon Principle: "I'm trying to make sure that it's more about speaking their character and their faith and the security of their relationships both with God and with me, more so than performance...those performance things aren't as important as a dad as the faith, relationships and their character, speaking who they're going to become, not who they are right now." 23:18 - Think long-term. "You're raising this kid because God gave him to you as a gift. And your dad-job is stewardship." 24:41 - "If you act like a steward you'll do a better job than if you're acting like the owner... you're raising this kid so they find their way to the perfect daddy." 26:19 - Think of your kid's heart like a gas tank. 26:50 - Dad ideas: 1) Keep their love tank filled up. "Our job...is to parent their hearts, not just their behavior. And you can correct their behavior but you can blow them away with how much you love them." 2) "They need a GPS for life." 3) Know their identity (Gideon principle) Conversation Links: http://jeffkempteam.com/ Facing the Blitz: Three Strategies for Turning Trials Into Triumphs

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter David Goundry In this episode, David Goundry, originally from NE England, now lives in South Florida with his wife, Louisa (originally from Brazil) and his two teenage kids. Passionate about global missions through OneHope, David discusses raising third-culture kids, traveling as a family, raising teenagers, and helping his kids become friends with anyone. He strives to live life and parent with intentionality, and believes in surrounding himself with mentors. David serves as the Vice President of Eurasia at OneHope. Conversation Notes: 3:43 - David introducing himself 5:31 - OneHope - God's word. Every Child. 8:00 - Bible App for kids 8:54 - Raising third-culture kids and traveling globally as a family. 11:02 - Teaching kids to not fear differences. 12:53 - "The other thing that doesn't cost much, other than your time, is the intentionality of myself and my wife to make sure that we are including the children even at a young age in global conversations. So we are trying to demystify people that are of a different religion. We are trying to demystify those who are of a different tradition. So as much as we can we are trying to, even at a young age, try to explain to them, this is what they do, this is what they believe, and this is why it's wrong and here is what the scriptures say. So the more that they became aware of what people were thinking, doing and believing, as long as we brought in the scriptures alongside that , it allowed them in their young minds to balance .I don't need to agree, but I don't have to fear. I don't have to run away from them. I can still be friends with them." 15:43 - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures: From the Middle East - Scripture engagement. "If our children were encouraged to study the word like a muslim child was encouraged to study the Quran, I think we would have a different church. When you look at how much a young muslim can recite and understand and you put that alongside some of the milk-based products and intentionality that we have int he Christian church, it's night and day. The Quran engagement is much greater than scripture engagement in time and hours spent." 17:03 - "Our children are not going to naturally want to read and pick up these things and do this on their own. They need our guidance, they need our input, they need our encouragement" … Studies show there is a massive dropoff in scripture engagement between the ages of 7-11. 18:19 - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures - What cultures tell children they are capable of or not capable of. US vs. England. 21:00 - On blending culture US and England with the best of both worlds. "I want to be able to figure out how can I have duty and obligation ingrained in their DNA, which is some of the pros of the English culture, eradicate the negatives of the english culture...and then couple it with the blessing of the American culture which is more pioneering that says you can do this don't doubt yourself, if there's a ceiling go smash it, work your way through it, but then at the same time, don't get so pioneering and so taken away that you leave a carnage in your wake because you're so focused on moving forward." 22:10 - Reflecting on a positive relationship with his dad. 27:34 - David gives advice to teenage dads who have sons who are 'losing their minds' and what to do to insert themselves and help them. "'[his dad told him,] From this moment forward, I am your only friend. From this moment forward, we are doing everything together'….he grounded me from life...and from that moment forward, everything changed." 30:48 - "He could have pushed you towards isolation, like grounding you to isolation, but instead he amped up, he leaned in...filling that void with dad love instead." - Jeff 32:10 - Parenting when kids are older looks different than parenting when kids are younger. "I have to learn in each season of my children's life how to be a parent to them in that season." 35:52 - "I'm going to have to learn how to let go and to advise and be a dad from a distance as they carry on in their own life." 38:10 - Discussion of mentors. Ezra 8 - Sheribiah. A man of great understanding. 40:00 - Putting yourself in a position to be around mentors or potential mentors. "I would look for someone with a different slant because they can give you something that you've never thought about, but say if I'm picking 5 people, only one of them would be cut from a different spiritual cloth, so to speak, in the giftings that God has given them." 43:20 - One parting word: Intentionality. "Because without that, nothing happens, it really doesn't, because that then flows into your time with the Lord. You're intentional with your time with the Lord, you're intentional with your time at church, you're intentional with your family. If you're not intentional about it, then the next thing you know you're just binge-watching Netflix [which you can still do with intentionality], but you work hard, play hard, and rest hard. Be intentional with all three." Rob Hoskins - Intentionality Post 46:21 - David's prayer. Links: OneHope Bible App For Kids Blog by Rob Hoskins on Intentionality

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter dadNOTES 0:33 - Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel 1:11 - Fathers for the Fatherless - 100-mile bike ride with 70 dads. Aug 29, 2020. 1:55 - Support the vision of Fathers for the Fatherless HERE 2:29 - Episode 128 - Wayne Francis: Zoom Fatigue, Racial Tensions and the Needed Upgrade Jeff's takeaways: We are modeling the type of man we want our daughters to marry, the type of man we want our sons to be best friends with. Speaking words of life over our kids. 4:30 - Episode 129 - Scott Wilson: Calling Out Greatness and Walking Through Grief. Jeff's takeaway: Telling the "story of the day" in a way that intentionally shows our kids how much we love them. 6:18 - Hitting the golden buzzer. 6:55 - Episode 130 - Josh Turner: Getting the Focus Off Ourselves 8:13 - Creating relationships for my girls that would speak words of life and draw out the qualities in them that we want them to have in their life. 9:10 - Being present at home with our kids 9:33 - Episode 131 - Jason Vallotton: Winning the War Within 11:27 - Spiritual Fathers and brotherhood