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dadAWESOME Today we kickoff SEASON 2 of dadAWESOME. We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads with our resources. Here's a few ways to help us spread the word: Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Scott Magdalein Scott Magdalein joins us for a conversation about leaning into time together as a family, living on a boat with young kids, and his son giving him hope to move home and seek healing and forgiveness in a failing marriage. Scott and his wife Erica have three young kids and live in Jacksonville, FL where they lead a ministry focussed on helping couples walk through forgiveness and healing. They love to travel and share their adventures with the world. Conversation Notes: 5:53 - Links to Scott's company ServeHQ and TrainedUp 8:50 - Living on a boat with a young family. Learning patience through living in a small space. 9:40 - Small homes build tight knit families 10:34 - Families values. They lean into time together. 11:12 - The reasons they don't have a TV in their home 11:55 - "Even when things are hard, we try to lean into time together as a family" 13:00 - His boys light up and their eyes shine when they play LEGO's together 14:26 - Scott's philosophy of training and how it impacts their families approach to homeschooling 15:12 - Being intentional about the time spent with kids. Make the time relational and find other ways for information transfer. 17:20 - Dad fail story about spanking his son and accidentally spanking too hard. Causing his son to fear him. 19:30 - Devastating story of marriage pain 22:15 - "I'm about to make a conscious decision to step away from my son. God used my son to get me to move back into the house and he brought forgiveness and he healed our marriage and healed my heart" 23:15 - Fight or Flight 27:00 - Jesus removes our shame. 28:30 - God can replace your pain with joy.  28:45 - "I can handle the pain because I get to spend time with my son" 30:30 - Our Little Family Traveling YouTube Travel channel 32:00 - Travel Tip - Google Flights 33:20 - Travel Tip - Home Exchange 35:00 - Legacy. It's not about building a career or large amounts of money. 35:50 - "It's very difficult to spend quality time with your family and push for career advancement" 36:45 - Spending time with his family is the thin that matters most 39:00 - Scott's wife prayers the closing prayer

Jeff Zaugg unpacks three fatherhood principles in this special bonus episode as we approach the launch of dadAWESOME Season 2. Let's double down on WISDOM, allow pain to fuel PASSION and add LIFE to the dad life. Double Down on WISDOM JOHN ELDREDGE - Ransomed Heart: https://www.ransomedheart.com/podcast Paul Cole Episode - https://dadawesome.org/episode84/ Pain Fuels PASSION Book -- A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss, By: Jerry Sittser Loss can expand our ability to experience beauty Adding LIFE to the Dad Life Deuteronomy 30:19 “This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, blessings and curses. Now choose LIFE, so that you and your children may LIVE.” John 10:10 God wants you to thrive, not just to survive Deuteronomy 30 What’s really important for us to do? Return to God Obey God with all your heart and soul Love God Walk in His ways Keep God’s commands and decrees Turn to the Lord Don’t turn and bow to other gods. Don’t worship other gods Choose life Listen to God’s voice Hold fast to God The blessings: God will reveal to us and our children God will restore our fortunes God will have compassion on us God will gather us from the scattered nations God will bring back even the banished God will give us possession of the promise land God will make you prosperous God will make you numerous God will circumcise your hearts to love Him and LIVE God will put curses on your enemies God will make you prosperous in all the work of your hands God will make your prosperous in the fruit of your womb God will make you prosperous in the young of your livestock God will make you prosperous in the crops of your land God will delight in you, just as he delighted in your fathers= You will LIVE You will increase God will bless you in the land you are entering You and your children will LIVE God is your LIFE You will LIVE many years "It is impossible for us to be dadAWESOME for our kids unless we experience dadAWESOME from our Heavenly Father" Matthew 3:17 "And a voice from heaven said, “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased!”This is my son, whom I love and in whom I am well pleased" Worship - The Blessing The Blessing with Kari Jobe & Cody Carnes | Live From Elevation Ballantyne | Elevation Worship https://youtu.be/Zp6aygmvzM4

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Paul Hurckman and recorded this conversation in August of 2018. Originally released as Episode 38, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS >> June 20th, 2020  MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. GOAL: 100 dads riding 100 miles raising $100,000+ for the fatherless. Registration & more information : Click Here Paul Hurckman Paul and his wife, Candace, have 4 children (2 bigs and 2 littles) and they live in Minneapolis where they love to bike, run and host popsicle extravaganza gatherings for their neighborhood. Paul is the Executive Director at Venture Expeditions. In This Episode: -- Shifting mentality to being an ALL-on-DAD -- What messages do you want regularly communicate to your kids? -- Our truest version of our dreams are birthed in God’s design -- Harold and the Purple Crayon - Drawing a better picture for our family and the Kingdom -- Raising kids that will cross the street for the sake of the Gospel -- Becoming less comfortable for the sake of other people -- Shalom - being in right relationship with your maker, with each other, and with creation RESOURCES: -- dadAWESOME Podcast -- The Bible Project -- Book: Wonder -- Book: Big Hair, Don't Care: Other Mentioned Podcasts: - Bart Scharrer Episode 17 

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Jonathan McKee and recorded this conversation in February 2019. Originally released as Episodes 59 & 60, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Jonathan McKee With over 20 years youth ministry experience, Jonathan speaks to parents and leaders worldwide. He’s the author of over twenty books including the brand new THE TEEN’S GUIDE TO SOCIAL MEDIA & MOBILE DEVICES and IF I HAD A PARENTING DO OVER. Jonathan, his wife, Lori, and their three kids live in California and he resources parents with ongoing resources at TheSource4Parents.com. Conversation Notes The research is clear, parents overwhelmingly look back and say “I wish I had spent more time with my kids” Song: Cats In The Cradle-Harry Chapin The YES Factor – no matter what, if my kids came to me to ask “Hey dad, will you do this?”, the answer would be YES. Overreaction is never the answer. Be careful with saying to yourself, “I’ve got this”. James 1:19 – quick to listen and slow to speak and slow to become angry Hit the “Pause Button” and take time before responding. After giving your kid time to cool off, ask them what they think the consequence should be It was me messing up that gave me the insight to do it right the next time “Angry outbursts teach our kids I can’t go to mom, she’ll freak out or dad isn’t safe. Consider the ramifications of that feeling. If mom or dad isn’t safe, then who will our kids run to for comfort, for advice and for admiration.” The most important thing I tell parents when they begin learning about culture and media is “Don’t Freak Out”. Boundary Fast >> don’t add boundaries, but instead begin the process by working on bonding. We must bond before we can add boundaries The Segue – the dissolve from one thing to another. We must slowly fade back on our boundaries as our kids grow older. Kids need clear boundaries, but those boundaries must pull back as they approach leaving the home and deciding for themselves. We need to look for opportunities for our kids to practice making decisions for themselves. MORE INFO: Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today’s parents Common Sense Media has a study from 2015 >> teenagers average 9 hours per day of media consumption In 2012 Americans crossed the 50% mark for smart phone owners 12-17 year olds… 89% of them have a smart phone We Listen to Music For More Than 4 1/2 Hours A Day, Nielsen Says – more info Adults average 10 hours and 45 minutes per day on media Parents spend more time looking at a screen than talking with their kids or their spouse Anxiety, depression and teen suicide… Mental health is taking a dive and all the studies are saying that smart phones are playing a big part and self-esteem is at an all-time low The more time you spend on your device and especially social media, the more depressed you will be The average kid gets a smartphone at 10.3 years old Instagram and Snapchat only allows kids 13 years old or older (COPA privacy law) Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today’s parents No mater how many parent controls you have, you can’t block everything. The best parental control is conversations with your kids Guide for parental controls from Common Sense Media How do we start having conversations and teaching truth in this world of lies? If we teach our kids truth, it’s going to equip them when they are exposed to the world’s lies. Three Types of Parents: (Alexandra Samuels study with 10,000 parents) Limiter Enablers Media Mentors Jonathan’s Featured Books: The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices 21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World If I Had a Parenting Do-Over: 7 Vital Changes I’d Make  

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Carlos Whittaker and recorded this conversation in November 2019. Originally released as Episodes 46 & 47, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Carlos Whittaker Carlos Whittaker is a People’s Choice Award winner, a former recording artist signed to a major label, a social media maven, and currently spends the majority of his time writing books and speaking on stages around the world. It really began when the Whittaker’s found their family in America’s spotlight with appearances on shows like CBS Early Morning, The Today Show and more when their viral video “Single Ladies Devastation” went viral. But for Carlos, his wife Heather and their three children, this viral moment was just a snapshot of the bigger picture. Conversation Notes: This vulnerable conversation explores the power of words, living as a Great Commission reflecting family, the powerful example of his father and finding freedom through identifying lies hidden deep in our hearts. Praying for a double portion of God’s wisdom Steeping our decisions in prayer Staying true to who your children are Breaking agreements with the enemy The power of words Jesus never prayed the problem. He always prayed the promise. The natural shifts of parenting seasons Living as a great commission reflecting family If we only look for Jesus in the serious then we’re going to miss half of him Medicating behaviors vs. core lies that we’re believing as fathers Stop trying to inspire your way out of sin. The only way to find freedom from these behaviors is to get to the root lie in your heart. To disturb and disrupt will be the place we are most awakened Why don’t we disturb and disrupt ourselves on purpose so that we can continue to grow and mature. In order to show our kids wonder, we must go backwards and slow things down. The power of a “Pause” – what am I not noticing around me? Look at the life of Jesus – how was he a moment maker? Jesus created moments for people on purpose In order to create moments for other people, we must first receive moments from God Pause, slow down and rest to lower the volume of life How many stories (the amount of data) am I listening to in the first 5-minutes of my day? Massively limit screen time (It’s always easier to add more then to take it away) SPIES acronym: Socially Physically Intellectually Emotionally Spiritually Showing our kids more what it looks like to be like Jesus https://carloswhittaker.com/ Moment Maker Kill The Spider Carlos on Facebook Carlos on Instagram Carlos on Twitter

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Ryan Skoog and recorded this conversation in June 2019. Originally released as Episode 77, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Ryan Skoog Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world. Conversation Notes: 4:20 – Story of the first moments after their son was born 4:50 – “That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer” 5:34 – “I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids” 6:30 – Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world 7:50 – Story of Ryan’s dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others 9:25 – The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family) 9:55 – Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids 10:40 – Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture 14:15 – the other organizations that Ryan leads: https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/ 16:20 – “As parents, we shouldn’t just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together” 17:28 – “Instead of being an amazing leader & a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad & a decent leader. If I have to make a choice, I want to take the same entrepreneurial type of thinking & intentionality to being a dad as I would to being a leader.” 18:30 – “I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values” 18:50 – Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids Age 6 or 7 — Adventure in the woods. Create a cross. 20:05 – Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us 20:40 – Cliff jumping for learning about courage 21:40 – The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips. 22:30 – Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. “It’s tough, but it’s worth it” 23:50 – Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea. 24:35 – Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan’s dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy. 25:15 – An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion. 25:45 – Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy’s and daddy’s 28:20 – Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting 28:35 – The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family. 29:30 – Memorizing scripture as a family 30:05 – “We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents” 30:30 – Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they’re working to grow in 32:10 – Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit – KINDNESS 34:30 – Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash – “The church was started on kindness” 35:15 – Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit 37:40 – Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it 38:40 – Daily prayer focus 39:30 – Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads 40:00 – Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase 40:30 – “If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen” 41:00 – “God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It’s pretty amazing.” 41:55 – Ryan’s last words… Add more intentionality to your dad life. 42:50 – We need each other Recommended Books: The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch) Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town) Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend) The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend) Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad Links: Chosen: A 30 Day Devotional Venture Expeditions  https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/

Regi Campbell Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship.  Last Summer he was leading his 18th mentoring group and he has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Here's a list of 6 things that Regi did every day: I will walk with Jesus every day I will be grateful and live every day to the fullest I will bless my family with words, pictures, and videos I will invest in “my guys” for their good, God’s glory – not mine I will not give up and “run out the clock” I will let people love on me! Conversation Notes: 4:40 - “You’re just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them” 5:25 - “My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better” 6:00 - “The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well” 6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others 7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality 8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality 9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults 9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring 10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them 11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me 13:50 - There is always something that you don’t know 14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart 15:15 - Be firm, but don’t lose track of their heart 16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one 16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us 16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them 17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence 18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children Provoke Stir up anger Do not irritate Do not be hard 20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full 22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions 24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life 26:20 - Sadly we don’t have many spiritual mentors and hero’s that we want to be like 27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: “God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.” 29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself 29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that’s what your kids will lean into. 31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships 34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends 35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it’s filled with treasures" Knowledge is just data Understanding is context Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions Links: Regi's Website Radical Mentoring Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books  

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with Jeremy Pryor and recorded this conversation in April 2019. Originally released as Episode 66, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Jeremy Pryor Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We’re incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath. Conversation Highlights: Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (7:55) Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children ((9:30) The life of Abraham and his role as a father (9:45) Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (10:40) The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (11:30) Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem – Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (12:00) Story about Jeremy’s daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (13:20) It’s ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (14:20) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (15:40) They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (16:50) Book Life together by Bonhoeffer Deuteronomy 6 Bible Midrash (17:30) Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (18:00) Friday feast – Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (18:20) It’s a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (19:45) Entering Rest Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (20:15) Sabbath – if your kids don’t see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you’re doing it wrong” (22:00) The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot’s of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving Goal – for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn’t connecting with his sons heart (25:00) My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (26:50) Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season?  (28:50) Don’t be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (29:00) Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (30:00) Be a culture setter in the home (30:20) Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (30:45) God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (31:30) There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (32:20) Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (34:00) We are not the center of our story. We’re part of a much bigger multigenerational story (34:45) When dads start thinking multigenerational (35:20) Resources from Jeremy Pryor: https://familyteams.com/podcasts/ The Skill of Fatherhood Masterclass https://epipheo.com/ https://familyteams.com/resources/ https://www.1kh.org/ http://www.storyformedlife.org/

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with John Wyatt and recorded this conversation in summer 2018. Originally released as Episode 33, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. John Wyatt John Wyatt lives in Jacksonville, FL with his wife Carrie (21 years married) and two teenage daughters (14 & 17). He has been serving for over 10 years at Celebration Church and is currently an Executive Pastor. This incredible conversation explores asking for forgiveness, praying for our kids to hear God’s voice, honoring the Lord with our money and the parallels between surfing ocean waves and our role as fathers. Love God, Serve Others, Win Souls & Have Fun When was the last time you apologized to your kids? (Will you forgive me?) How do you know that I love you? It’s because I discipline you. Guide your kids to honor God with money Do not miss your kids activities. Cherish every moment. James 4:1-2 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—  “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Recommended Resources: On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (Robert Bucknam) Growing Kids God’s Way: Reaching the Heart of Your Child With a God-Centered Purpose Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Scott Turansky) Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood (Lisa Damour)

Edrin Williams Edrin Williams joins dadAWESOME for our 3rd segment of our "Best Of" winter throwback series. This episode was originally recorded on Valentines Day of 2019. This conversation challenges us to enjoy the journey and love our kids from a place of being loved by our Heavenly Father. Edrin is the Senior Pastor at The Sanctuary Covenant Church in Minneapolis and with his wife Shanequa they have two beautiful girls, Taylor 9 & Harper 3. Conversation Notes Give the the gift of your presence to your family Step in and enjoy the journey of being a dad Your kids trust you and need you to be a big safe adult who loves them Friday night family night. The power of protecting these moments. We must receive love from our Heavenly Father Remember you’re a beloved son of God Invite mentors to speak into your fathering Let your kids enjoy the process (stop over managing and pushing them) Celebrate your wife (cheer her along) Intergenerational Relationships (look ahead, your peers and younger dads) Pursuing mentors and Godly friends to learn and grow in your dad role. If you want to make a difference in this world, one place you can change the world is being present and making a difference in your kids. Asking intentional questions to help our kids think through their choices. It’s our job as fathers to care for the souls of our children Let your wife know that supporting your family and your kids is a top priority Dads! Your role is more significant than you realize.