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dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   David Goundry   In this episode, David Goundry, originally from NE England, now lives in South Florida with his wife, Louisa (originally from Brazil) and his two teenage kids. Passionate about global missions through OneHope, David discusses raising third-culture kids, traveling as a family, raising teenagers, and helping his kids become friends with anyone. He strives to live life and parent with intentionality, and believes in surrounding himself with mentors.  David serves as the Vice President of Eurasia at OneHope.   Conversation Notes:   3:43 - David introducing himself 5:31 - OneHope - God’s word. Every Child. 8:00 - Bible App for kids 8:54 - Raising third-culture kids and traveling globally as a family. 11:02  - Teaching kids to not fear differences. 12:53  - “The other thing that doesn’t cost much, other than your time, is the intentionality of myself and my wife to make sure that we are including the children even at a young age in global conversations. So we are trying to demystify people that are of a different religion. We are trying to demystify those who are of a different tradition. So as much as we can we are trying to, even at a young age, try to explain to them, this is what they do, this is what they believe, and this is why it’s wrong and here is what the scriptures say. So the more that they became aware of what people were thinking, doing and believing, as long as we brought in the scriptures  alongside that , it allowed them in their young minds to balance .I don’t need to agree, but I don’t have to fear. I don’t have to run away from them. I can still be friends with them.” 15:43  - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures: From the Middle East - Scripture engagement. “If our children were encouraged to study the word like a muslim child was encouraged to study the Quran, I think we would have a different church. When you look at how much a young muslim can recite and understand and you put that alongside some of the milk-based products and intentionality that we have int he Christian church, it’s night and day. The Quran engagement is much greater than scripture engagement in time and hours spent.”  17:03  - “Our children are not going to naturally want to read and pick up these things and do this on their own. They need our guidance, they need our input, they need our encouragement” … Studies show there is a massive dropoff in scripture engagement between the ages of 7-11. 18:19  - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures -  What cultures tell children they are capable of or not capable of. US vs. England. 21:00 - On blending culture US and England with the best of both worlds. “I want to be able to figure out how can I have duty and obligation ingrained in their DNA, which is some of the pros of the English culture, eradicate the negatives of the english culture...and then couple it with the blessing of the American culture which is more pioneering that says you can do this don’t doubt yourself, if there’s a ceiling go smash it, work your way through it, but then at the same time, don’t get so pioneering and so taken away that you leave a carnage in your wake because you’re so focused on moving forward.” 22:10 - Reflecting on a positive relationship with his dad. 27:34 - David gives advice to teenage dads who have sons who are ‘losing their minds’ and what to do to insert themselves and help them. “‘[his dad told him,] From this moment forward, I am your only friend. From this moment forward, we are doing everything together’….he grounded me from life...and from that moment forward, everything changed.” 30:48 - “He could have pushed you towards isolation, like grounding you to isolation, but instead he amped up, he leaned in...filling that void with dad love instead.” - Jeff 32:10 -  Parenting when kids are older looks different than parenting when kids are younger. “I have to learn in each season of my children’s life how to be a parent to them in that season.” 35:52 - “I’m going to have to learn how to let go and to advise and be a dad from a distance as they carry on in their own life.” 38:10 - Discussion of mentors. Ezra 8 - Sheribiah. A man of great understanding. 40:00 - Putting yourself in a position to be around mentors or potential mentors. “I would look for someone with a different slant because they can give you something that you’ve never thought about, but say if I’m picking 5 people, only one of them would be cut from a different spiritual cloth, so to speak, in the giftings that God has given them.” 43:20 - One parting word: Intentionality. “Because without that, nothing happens, it really doesn’t, because that then flows into your time with the Lord. You’re intentional with your time with the Lord, you’re intentional with your time at church, you’re intentional with your family. If you’re not intentional about it, then the next thing you know you’re just binge-watching Netflix [which you can still do with intentionality], but you work hard, play hard, and rest hard. Be intentional with all three.” Rob Hoskins - Intentionality Post 46:21 - David’s prayer.   Links:   OneHope Bible App For Kids Blog by Rob Hoskins on Intentionality

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   dadNOTES   0:33 - Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel 1:11 - Fathers for the Fatherless - 100-mile bike ride with 70 dads. Aug 29, 2020. 1:55 - Support the vision of Fathers for the Fatherless HERE 2:29 -  Episode 128 - Wayne Francis: Zoom Fatigue, Racial Tensions and the Needed Upgrade Jeff’s takeaways: We are modeling the type of man we want our daughters to marry, the type of man we want our sons to be best friends with. Speaking words of life over our kids. 4:30 - Episode 129 - Scott Wilson: Calling Out Greatness and Walking Through Grief. Jeff’s takeaway:  Telling the “story of the day” in a way that intentionally shows our kids how much we love them. 6:18 - Hitting the golden buzzer. 6:55 - Episode 130 - Josh Turner: Getting the Focus Off Ourselves 8:13 - Creating relationships for my girls that would speak words of life and draw out the qualities in them that we want them to have in their life. 9:10 - Being present at home with our kids 9:33 - Episode 131 - Jason Vallotton: Winning the War Within 11:27 - Spiritual Fathers and brotherhood

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Jason Vallotton   Recovering mental health, Cultivating spiritual fathers, and Living with Hope. Jason’s heart is to see the emotional prosperity increase through pastoring, counseling, teaching and equipping. His insight and wisdom have brought powerful breakthrough to difficult situations for both leaders and families. Jason is on the Core Team of Bethel church and has been on staff for over 15 years. He currently oversees the departments focused on emotional health and pastoral care for the local church including: the local church pastoral care team, the pre-marrieds ministry and the men’s ministry. Jason has a vision for a global men’s ministry that will “turn the hearts of fathers back to the hearts of sons!” Jason and his father, Kris, are currently developing and hosting men’s events across the country to fulfill this call. Jason and his wife Lauren live in Redding, California, and have four wonderful children. In his downtime, Jason can be found hiking in the Trinity Alps, fishing the Sacramento River, or hunting anywhere that wild game can be found!   Conversation Notes:   1:08 - Mark 1:11 “And a voice came from heaven: "You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased." 1:40 - DA Daily. To join simply text "dad" to 77222 3:20 - Story of Jason's first son being born when he was 19 years old 4:48 - The gift of patience turning the burden into an opportunity. 5:22 - Having friends and community gives perspective. “But we actually get to multiply our experience the closer we are to our friends because if we walk through a hard time with them, we get to gain the wisdom and the learning and understanding.” 6:32 - Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. James 1:2-3 7:35 “Great opportunity comes with every hard season for those who have eyes to see it.” - Quote from Winning the War Within by Jason Vallotton 9:05 - You can try and grow through the easy times but there's not as much opportunity to grow in easy times because you're not getting as much feedback. You're not really being stretched. The easy times are a poor indicator of what you're good at and what you're not good at. It’s challenging to grow when you’re not being tested.” There is fruit in hard times. 9:47 - Psalm 126:5 -”Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy.” Relating this to the story of a farmer making the hard choice between feeding his family the only seed he has and starting a poverty cycle, or choosing to plant the seed and watch his family starve for a season but ultimately breaking the poverty cycle. 10:58 - We’re forced into this worldwide [question], “what are you going to do with the challenge you’ve been given?” 11:53 - Going through a nervous breakdown in 2009. 13:11 - His dad told him, “You're gonna have to decide how your kids are gonna remember you.” 14:16 - “I only get to decide what I do when I’m awake.” 14:41 - “If I don't check out, but I stay in the game even with my kids and my family, I gain so much more than if I check out for the evening.” 14:47 - Quote from Danny Silk - “Kids are gonna pull 60 pounds of energy from you whether you give it to them or whether they take it from you you just get to decide how it happens.” 15:54 - “There's an opportunity for people like never before not just to make a difference in history, but to learn how to embrace challenging times with confidence.” 16:34 - The inside-out dad life - what were the warning signs before the nervous breakdown? 19:30 - Moral Revolution  20:32 - Everything was good - it was so hard to decide what to put down. 21:49 - “Whether it's hard things or whether it’s good things, it has a weight to it. It has a weight value and good stress is still stress.” 22:35 - Cultivating spiritual fathers: “If you’re going to put someone on your team, make sure they know they are on your team.” 25:23 - “My dad told me once, never apologize for favor, just make sure you use the favor well.” 26:17 - “What is covenant? You have permission to change my mind and I have permission to change your mind.” 26:49 - “Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving...the more you have the more you’re required to give.” 28:05 - we're building an inheritance for our kids...the relationships that you create today, that you sacrifice for, it's not it's not as fun as people think. It's not easy I can tell you all those relationships that I just mentioned, there's conflict inside of them. We use all of our communication skills and conflict resolution and honor to keep those relationships going.” 29:10 - Clint graham david and his mighty men series of books? Linked 30:25 - Attending church for yourself is the lowest level of living for a Christian. 31:01 - His dad told him, “People need what you have. They need what you have, and you need to go to youth group and find someone that needs what you have and give it to them.” 34:34 - “Look at what you want your life to be in 10, 20, 30 years and live from now.” 35:05 - How to get out of [dark places], #1 - find new hope. Find who’s overcome what you’re going through. 35:15 - Curt Richter - Rats with Hope - Sample article 35:34 - #2 - Hope is literally gonna energize you. For hope, you wanna you want to get some vision and create some goals for tomorrow, and then weekly goals and then monthly goals. That's how I overcame the addiction to medication. 36:16 - #3 - Pull yourself objectively outside of yourself and be able to understand that the moment that you're in there's a real opportunity 36:34 - “You'll probably go through it whether you want to or not, so you might as well make it awesome, and getting some outside perspective is really, really helpful.” 37:36 - “What we hide, becomes a definer in our lives and it begins to tell us who we are. And so it probably will be the hardest thing that we ever do, is to go ‘this is really Who I am’ but you'll receive love in a way you've never received love because people will love you exactly where you're at, and not for what you want to show you are, they'll know the real you. And therefore you'll have the power to get out of it.”   Conversation Links:   Jason's Website Winning the War Within by Jason Vallotton  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Josh Turner   In his role with OneHope, Josh shares stories of God’s Word transforming lives in the next generation with North American churches. Understanding that each church has a unique call to missions, he works with each to find the intersection between what God has called them to in their local context to how that overlays around the world. Whether it is church planting, evangelism, digital, or a combination thereof, he uses his understanding of OneHope programs to match churches with programs that speak to the heart of their church. With ministry happening in over 100 countries, there is a place for each church in North America to participate in reaching our vision of “God’s Word. Every child.” Josh is a graduate of Florida State University and for 15 years served the local church as a church pastor and planter. He currently lives in Atlanta with his wife, Becca and two children: Ayden and Riley.   Conversation Notes:    2:15 Bible app for kids 6:32 - “It really forced me down some dark times. I tell people I had a lot of dark nights of the soul. So many times people think it’s not ok to have those. It’s not ok to wrestle.” 7:40 - “It is a constant wrestling. There are good days and bad days…...it doesn’t matter how much I love Jesus, how much faith I have, when you hand your daughter off for that type of surgery, I was scared, and it’s hard. And it’s ok for it to be hard…..So many people made us feel crazy….and they want to be encouraging and they want to help but it’s almost like they aren’t giving you permission to suffer and to struggle.” 8:40 - “We’ve found in those dark, hard places, those are the places where you meet God. And those are the places you come to a new relationship and a deeper relationship with him.” 9:40 - “We’ve just learned those dark nights, they’re hard, and you have permission to walk through those and suffer.” 10:08 - video clip of his daughter singing not today -  11:08 - Discussing his daughter’s faith and focus on others 13:34 - Book: Raising a Modern Day Knight 14:15 - Discussing an idea he had to have all the men in his life write his son letters. 16:00 - Watching his daughter leverage her disability to help other people. 16:28 - Jason laird - interviewing his daughter on FB live on how to walk through suffering - 18:06 -Joy comes from living for others . 18:43 - Quote from Rob Hoskins: “When you’re squeezed, what is inside of you comes out.” 19:17 - “When we go through hard times or we go through trials or we go through struggles, how am I modeling this for my kids? And not only how am I modeling for my kids, but how are we as a family what we do, still putting the gospel and others forward?” 20:20 - Being proactive in serving other families right now. 20:54 - “I think that there is something that happens in your heart that I can’t fully articulate that when you are not focused on yourself, God has a way of caring for you as you care for other people.” 22:00 - Disciplines during Covid: Working out, Getting ready in the morning (even working from home), 24:33 - The Dusty Ones by AJ Swoboda - Book about how wandering in the seasons of trial and hardship deepen our faith. 25:00 - setting up routines and rhythms during quarantine. 26:05 - dadAWESOME ideas for Quarantine Youtube Playlist 31:00 - Perspective on parenting a child with special needs. 31:40 - “It is a physical, mental, emotional cost to love her, and I love her very much and she is amazing, but it is a cost to me. And I was praying about that and I felt the holy spirit say to me, ‘now you know what it’s like for me to love you.’” 36:15 - Speaking to dads in a younger season, what’s the kryptonite that can cause pain to a marriage/kids? 37:14 - Realizing how much he gave to ministry that he didn’t give to his kids. 38:10 - “If we can figure out as fathers how to not bring work stress and anxiety home and into the family dynamic, I think that is kryptonite.” 39:20 - “Don’t allow the distractions to take you from the family that needs your attention.” Help us spread the word to other dads - include links to all the social    Links:    One Hope bio and contact information Called Podcast - with Relevant Magazine Josh's Instagram Josh's Daughters Website Josh's daughter fundraiser = "Normal is Overrated" 

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. We’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F202   Scott Wilson Scott Wilson is the Senior Pastor of Oaks Church in the South Dallas area. He is committed to raising up the next generation of leaders through The Oaks School of Leadership, preparing more than 100 students every year for ministry with university credits. Scott is a loving husband and proud father. Scott and his wife, Jenni, have three boys: Dillon, Hunter, and Dakota.   Conversation Notes:   3:56  - Paul Hurkman 4:13  - Oaks Church, TX 6:39  - Sharing a difficult moment as a dad.  8:33  - His counselor told him, “You know what, I think right now he’s more tethered to you than he is to God. You’re his God-line….until you get out of the way God can’t be there.” 11:13  - “We hurt so much when our kids hurt.” How can we with younger kids not create a tether to ourselves? 11:31  - “I want to resolve it for him where everything is fixed but if I do that, he’s not going to grow, and it’s the angst that causes him to grow.” 11:56 - Think about the situation and determine if it’s going to be a tricycle accident or a train wreck, and use that to determine how much to intervene. 12:53 - Why he goes to counseling.  15:04 - “I think of a counselor not as a crisis person in my life, but as a growth team member in my life to help me know. I go even when I don’t ‘need’ it.” 16:05 - Develop a growth plan to be a great dad. Talk to a mentor a season ahead. Get a counselor in your life.  18:31 - We do not grow to experience, we grow by evaluated experience. 19:21  - What he learned from his dad that he wanted to repeat. 20:06 - A focus on Truth. Being a safe place to ask questions. Being a safe place of security in the midst of challenges in the world. 21:11 - “We need to not be ever surprised by what our kids say where they ever get a feeling that it’s beyond dad. We set the tone on that.”  22:21 - Telling the story of the day as a way to tell our kids how much we love them. Communicating in a way that they know how much we love them.  26:46 - Tips for grieving the loss of his dad. “Grief is a gift that God has given us to be able to bring healing to us.” 27:28 - How counseling helped him with the grieving process. 29:06 - The distance between a good dad and a perfect dad is way greater even than between a good dad and a bad dad. 30:21 - Parenting with Purpose book & FREE Masterclass 31:11 - Being a dad who hits the “golden buzzer” 32:31 - “Sometimes dads aren’t even looking. Or they’ll look at the deficit they’re at now, or the struggle they’re in now, but you’ve gotta look past, you have to look at the person. You’ve got to let God show you the revelation of who he made them to be. And you’ve gotta speak that out, call that out. If you’re kids became everything you called them to be, what kind of kid would they be, what kind of man would they be, what kind of woman would they be? And that’s exactly what you need to be speaking over them and pushing that golden buzzer and believing in them.” 35:31- Have a shoulder ministry, not a stage ministry to lift others up.  36:16 - Be a spiritual dad or mom.  37:11 - God picked Elisha and sent Elijah to train him. God picked Joshua and Moses trained him.  37:35 - “What if we could see greatness, pushed that golden buzzer, and those who are leaders, who are younger than us that are around us, [or] those who don’t have a dad, and we stepped in.” 37:44 - Malachi 4:5 - “See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction.” 38:01 - We are living in the most fatherless generation of all time. 38:24 - Being dads who actually believe that “the success of my life is actually going to be determined by the success of yours.” 38:47 - “If something is making a generation of dads sick, if something’s got a hold, it is self focus. It’s looking too much to our own world, our own life.” 39:31 - Parentingwithpurposebook.com - 7 keys to raising world changers 40:00 - “You can even say the right things and do the right things, but if you haven’t gotten healed in your heart over the brokenness and the pain of your past with your dad, and the pain of your past with your mom, it will have a dissonance. You’ll speak words that may be right but they are coming out wonky….because you’re not speaking from a wholeness and healing inside. And one of the biggest things I see is that people who will let the Holy Spirit guide them through to get healing, man, you can make mistakes, but if you are healed on the inside, it won’t cause damage. You can be almost perfect, but if it isn’t healed in here it’s always coming out weird.” 42:11 - Scott’s prayer for the dads   Resources/takeaways:    Choosing carefully what choices our kids make to intervene with. Developing a growth plan as a dad - finding mentors and coaches Grieving the loss of a parent Calling out the greatness in our kids Being a spiritual dad Parentingwithpurposebook + FREE Masterclass  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. We’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020   Wayne Francis   Wayne and Claudene, who he calls “Classy”, have been married for 20 years and have two beautiful teenage daughters, Haleigh and Ryleigh. Wayne loves to cycle and takes great pleasure in turning any floor into a dance floor. Wayne and Claudene Francis lead the New York location of The Life Church.   Conversation Notes:   1:24 - DA Foundations - 4-Hours of Intentional Fatherhood - We're hosting the 3rd round of DA Foundations and it's a Zoom online cohort on Thursdays (starts a week from tomorrow) from 9-10pm. This is a FREE 4-week group that unpacks the 4 keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. You've got to register and we're asking all the dads who join us to try to attend at least 3 out of the 4 dates... Here's the outline of the content and the RSVP form. Please register by July 7th. 1:50 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS - http://bit.ly/F4F2020 2:45 - DA DAILY - we are focussing the 31 days of July on Dad Wisdom from the 31 chapters of Proverbs. If you want to join us for a daily text, just text "dad" to the number 77222 6:47 - Plants and Pillars message on Father’s day - Psalm 144:12 - May our sons flourish... like well-nurtured plants. May our daughters be like graceful pillars… 7:50 - “Great daughters and great sons are not called out, they are carved out,...which means that you’re chiseling something over time and your polishing and finessing, so it’s a work of art when you’re a dad that happens as a process of time.” 8:28 - “Asking a question is better than making a statement. Questions shape character more than just statements.” 9:05 - How he has chosen to parent differently from his dad, and what he has done the same. 10:46 - Experiencing “reverse intimacy” with his father. 13:21 - Mistake when parenting his daughters 15:45 - Exposing our kids to the pain of the world so that they can develop a heart of empathy. Having conversations about justice with our kids. 16:48 - “I think it’s very important right now to give your children the capacity to see beauty and diversity. That their relationships are flourishing from a very young age with kids that are of a different color. That they are getting to see exactly what it looks like to be in a multiplicity of cultural diversity that’s going to impact the type of humans they’ll be two or three generations down the road.” 17:29 - Diversifying books and resources from a young age 18:40 - Talking to his kids about how to react when experiencing micro aggression 19:55 - “The condition of the soul is always at the tip of the tongue.” 20:45 - Zoom fatigue analogy for having conversations around race. 23:52 - Discussing injustice. “Your kids will never react to what they don’t see you reacting to.” 24:41 - “Black fist white knuckles” sermon series. 25:36 - “I’m trying to raise pillars not pillows.” 27:04 - “Love doesn’t get laryngitis.” 28:23- How to be an ally. 29:40 - “You need to be the type of man that you’re going to be happy walking your daughter down the aisle to. Because you are the only one that’s going to shape that image.” 30:35 - “Daughters and sons don’t grow in bad soil...am I the type of man that I would want my daughters hanging out with if there was nobody else around?” 31:11 - Wayne’s prayer for dads.   Links:   Plants and Pillars message on Father’s day Wayne's Church - The Life Church NY

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it’s easiest to sit home and consume, we’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020   Jeff Zaugg   Last Sunday was Father's Day and Jeff Zaugg had the privilege of being interviewed by Dr. Kim Kimberling on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. Today, Episode 127 is a repost of that conversation and it's a look at the genesis story of the past 127 weeks of dadAWESOME along with some of the backstory on Jeff Zaugg and what he has learned about fatherhood from nearly 100 dadAWESOME interviews. Jeff and Michelle Zaugg have been married for 19 days shy of 14 years and they have 3 daughters (6, 3 and 1). They live in the Twin Cities in Minnesota and have an 11 year old Goldendoodle named Boomer. Jeff enjoys ultimate frisbee, surfing, slack-lining, waterskiing, basketball, cycling, triathlons, spikeball, family Dairy Queen bike rides, climbing trees, date nights with Michelle, walking to work and taking his girls on daddy daughter dates.   Conversation Notes   1:52 - Morgan Snyder on Episode 124 2:08 - Paul Hurckman on Episode 125 2:18 - Banning Liebscher on Episode 126 2:36 - Awesome Marriage Ministry 6:00 - It was pain that led to a deep passion to start dadAWESOME. He didn’t want to see kids in pain. 7:46 - How to be a great dad….”Part of [being a great dad] is the realization that our role is important.” 8:15 - Deuteronomy 30:19 - “I have set before you life and death blessings and curses so now choose life so that you and your children may live.” 8:30 - We get a choice as dads to choose life, to be a life giving dad. “Adding LIFE to the dad life.” 9:27 -  “The role is bigger than you know and more impactful and your kids will thank you forever by just being that dad that says I’m going to bring life.” 11:59 - What are dads this generation doing right? 16:09 - Fathers for the Fatherless Bike Ride 2020 - Turning Father’s day into a mission to activate dads to do something hard on behalf of kids without dads. 18:04 - I think if we can ignite fathers around a bigger purpose and calling...our kids see that. 19:31 - Malachi 4:6 - He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the hearts of children to their parents. 21:49 - Heb 12:1-2 - Throwing off our past pain so we can run toward our kids 22:30 - If we let the baggage hold us back, then our kids’ eyes don’t shine. 23:25 - “Brotherhood is the strength that keeps the hard days from becoming permanent hard days.” 24:10 - Isolation and pace of life are the areas that are sucking the life out of the dad life for this generation of dads. 24:54 - “Brotherhood is everything to keep us on the trajectory of God’s best for our life.” 26:14 - Where do you find brotherhood? 27:20 - Approach friendship from a peer mentor approach 32:07 - Psalm 78:4 - “We will not hide these truths from our children, we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders.” 32:40 - “Every single person I’ve interviewed in their sixties says I wish I would have invested more time.” 33:40 - Quoting a mentor: “What you’re doing as a dad when you connect with your kids is you’re on a treasure hunt for their heart, and part of your job is to reach into their heart, pull out their purpose and show it to them.” 36:40 - “My girls know, they can sense,... is there unity, is there peace, is there love between the two most important big people in their life...they can see and they can feel how mom and dad are doing.” 40:02 - How do I put my wife first? Going to counseling and prioritizing date nights. “Taking the vulnerable step of going to counseling with her is a way that I put her first... I’m going to take my heart and expose some of the hurts and some of the things I’m feeling that are hard for me to share sometimes.” 43:00 - DA Daily Text - text "dad" to 77222 43:20 - July DA Foundations - starting June 9th   Episode Links   Awesome Marriage A Better Man Podcast

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it’s easiest to sit home and consume, we’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020   Banning Liebscher   Banning Liebscher is a pastor, speaker, and author. Along with his wife, SeaJay, he founded Jesus Culture, a ministry of worship, conferences, and leadership development. In 2014, they planted Jesus Culture Sacramento, a local church in California with a passion to see people fully engaged in becoming who God has called them to be and to do what God has called them to do. Find out more at jesusculture.com. Banning’s passion is to see a generation of revivalists raised up who have encountered the extravagant love of Jesus and have given themselves for worldwide revival. He and his wife have three children, Ellianna, Raya, and Lake.   Conversation Notes   3:30 - "I think that we are called to pour our life into what will be left behind...I'm convinced that what will be left behind is not structures we built, not things we implemented, but just people that we fathered - that's what's going to be left behind." 3:51 - "I feel like I am to bring my life to the next generation and lay it down for them and give it to them." 4:44 - Dads being dreamers vs. Dads settling 5:45 - "When I stop dreaming, when I stop allowing my heart to really dream about things that apart from God are impossible, I not longer kind of lean in, I begin to lean back. I don't engage, I disengage. And I would say the greatest thing in the world you could do for your kids is to be a dreamer that's pursuing what God has in your life." 6:17 - "So I think our kids seeing us pursue the dreams that are in our heart is a really critical part of our fathering and discipling of them." 7:02 - "I think what we do comes out of who we are, and that we can't be defined by what we do." 7:14 - We have a call to "be" which is our IDENTITY and we have a call to "do" which is our MISSION. 8:03 - Challenging dads to not settle for anything less than the fullness of God in your life. 10:12 - "As long as you move at the speed of obedience, and as long as you move with the speed of community and covering, then you'll never be off, and even when you are off a little bit there will be grace because your heart is to be in this lane." 12:20 - Banning's new book - The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You   12:43 - Family moments during quarantine 14:34 - Dad hacks to stay connected to the kids traveling 15:01 - "My kids are going to sacrifice for who I am and and the call on my life, but they also need to benefit and be blessed from that." 15:54 - "Whatever you do, like what I do to provide for the family has some cost involved, but I also want to make sure that there's blessing involved and that my kids are connected to it..make sure blessing is connected to the sacrifice as well and that it's not just sacrifice, it's not just that dad's gone." 18:07 - A story of trusting God with his kids 20:59 - "At the end of the day, what we know is this: any area of my life that has blessed, any area of my life that has wisdom attached to it, any area of my life that has fruit attached to it, it's because other people have joined me in it." 22:03 - "When I stand before God one day, [He's going to say] I didn't just require your best, I require your best and the best of these people I put around you, so when it comes to father I think the reality is our best ins't good enough - that's really never meant to be good enough.  It' snot just my best I'm bringing to the is equation, it's my best and it's the best of...these men that pour into my life, that walk with me, that then allows me to be a good father." 22:46 - "When I allow myself to be isolated, when I allow myself to be independent, when i allow myself to think that I just should be able to do this on my own and I don't need anybody speaking into my life or challenging me or encouraging me, well I just want to say that your best isn't good enough...God didn't set it up that way." 23:09 - "God didn't set it up where...it's just you and nobody else, you just give it your best. He's like, I put a whole family around you and I'm bringing those strengths into your life so that you can accomplish what I've asked you to accomplish and raise these kids." 23:26 - "There's not one area of my life that hasn't been touched by the strength of other and that's why it has a measure of success to it." 23:38 - The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You  - Banning Liebscher 25:47 - "Those that are fully alive are the ones that are fully engaged to the call of God to be and to do." 26:51 - "If you're listening to this podcast I can only imagine then that you have a desire to be a great father. Being a great father takes a massive amount of courage...facing the things you have to face internally, looking at your weaknesses and trying to grow, saying God I want to be more patient...but if I'm going to be who God's called me to be as a father, it requires me to be encouraged." 28:10 - Reinhardt Bonnke's book, "Living a Life of Fire" 30:51 - When I had my first kid, I realized the greatest think I'll ever do with my life is raise this kid, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done hands down. Hands down being a dad is the hardest thing I have ever done and it has challenged me in ways I didn't even know I could be challenged. It is scary, it is vulnerable, it is raw, and by far the best thing I've ever done and the greatest legacy I'll leave."   Episode Links   Jesus Culture Reinhardt Bonnke's book, "Living a Life of Fire" The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You  - Banning Liebscher

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it’s easiest to sit home and consume, we’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020   Paul Hurckman   Paul Hurckman is the Executive Director of Venture, a faith-based justice organization that does “tough things for people in tough places” around the world. Venture allows people to raise money through biking, hiking and running for justice and missions projects like refugee care, human trafficking and extreme poverty. Paul and his wife Candace live in North Minneapolis with their 5 kids.    Conversation Notes 6:16 - Paul’s family and foster story. 8:28 - Fathers for the Fatherless bike ride  http://bit.ly/F4F2020 8:57 - Venture (https://venture.org/) - Justice for the unreached - Four focuses: Human trafficking,  refugee crisis, extreme poverty and oppression or persecution specifically around the church and in Christianity. 11:05 - Being dads who lead on the home front in this topic 12:08 - “Can we be dads who have courageous conversations? Because I believe God smiles when he sees dads press into the uneasy.” 12:30 - How to explain racism to my 6yr old. 13:11 - Should I talk about this? “that very question is a question of privilege. Now when I say privilege, I'm not being condescending for the listeners. I am a white man and I have both white and black children. My wife is both white and Native American so we have layers that we are always considering in the conversation, but when you say, should I? I don't know if there are many communities where they don't get that option of the ideal time to talk about something.” 15:42 - “They know clearly where we stand and they know that it's because the Gospel invites us to something different. I will tell you this my kids don't know if we vote red or blue or donkey or elephant they don't know the names of our congressmen, but they know clearly what we believe about dignity equality equity, and when that isn't happening, that mom and dad are going to try to show up so that's the start of the conversation for us.” 17:17 - How do we help our kids help our kids understand God's heart for justice? 18:16 - “One of the problems why our society and our culture and humanity has a problem is we don't have agreed-upon baseline. As Christ followers we have an agreed-upon baseline, and that's the kingdom as we see in scripture. And so as we have been discipling our kids on the kingdom in scripture, it provides access to how we talk about different things. So justice, I know, can be somewhat polarizing. I get it. It feels like it's co-opted by one side or the other side, or by the urban or by the suburban, or by the red or by the blue, or by the donkey or by the elephant, or by the Evangelical  or by the Catholic, or by the this or the that, it's not any of those things. When we, as Christ followers, we're like no this a really clear Kingdom principle. It's talked about 2500 times in Scripture. This is not for some people at some places in time or some ministries in the church, but it's for all of us as Christ followers to understand that because of our relationship with Christ, we are intimately linked to his design and that design was never meant to just be us and Jesus.” 19:14 - “The church is supposed to do something when there are systemic problems, you can fight me up and down, but theologically it is airtight. This is part of what we're supposed to be doing.” 20:20 - Matthew 7:3 - “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? 21:14 - What encouragement would you have to help keep a dad in learning leading versus passive? 22:30 - “If we would approach conversations of justice and race in that same way [as having a new baby] not because you have a black or a white child, but because scripture clearly invites us and we cannot disciple our kids without helping them understand race. If we can if we can address this in a way that this is not optional, but it's mission-critical to the kingdom, then what I would say is you're gonna make a mistake.” 23:24 - Practice being a person of peace. 23:23 - Training our kids to make the changes in the systemic injustice 24:08 - Being a person of peace. Being intention about conversations. 24:35 - How can we choose to press in? 25:35 - “If we wait until we have the answers we'll never engage.” 26:45 - Philippians 3 - Equality with God not something to be gained. 27:18 - “If you read the text enough and know what Jesus did, you're gonna find the answers to what you're supposed to do with your kids and your kids friends, and if you do it right, all of your kids friends won't look just like them and it's really important that you're ready for that.” 30:12 - “Paralysis is from Satan. I know it's tough. I know you feel stuck. I know you want to do it the right way. I know you love your kids and I would assume a majority of people listening do not identify as racist and are trying to root out any of those things, but the moment that you back away because you can, you are complicit in a system that hasn't stood up and had a voice. You have a voice with your kids. You are responsible with your kids. Use that voice. If you don't want to explain to them out of the blue then don't have it be out of the blue. Figure out a life rhythm where you're explaining what you're already doing…” 32:06 - “Nothing will change just because you feel bad….If you're not going to have paralysis, then you also have to have grace on yourself and other people. You can be right and you can try to make a point, or you can make a difference. You can spend all of your time being right on social media, or you can leave the digital space and enter into your community and have stories for your kids of what it looks like for mom and dad to be a neighbor.” 33:18 - “I don't think Satan wants you to be a racist. I don't think that propels the ideology. I think he wants you to be lukewarm, to feel bad, and do nothing, when the kingdom invites us to be a neighbor.”  - Story of the Good Samaritan 36:53 - Heb 10:39 - But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved.   Links:   Video of this conversation - https://youtu.be/IwxScM_V-u8 FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS bike ride  http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Venture (https://venture.org/

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally.  OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a “He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents”) VISION: We ignite a father’s calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it’s easiest to sit home and consume, we’re going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father’s heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020   Morgan Snyder   Morgan Snyder is a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil.com, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. He serves on the executive leadership team of Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heart Ministries, having served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. Morgan goes off the grid every chance he gets, whether bow hunting in the Colorado wilderness or choosing the adventurous life with his greatest treasures: his wife, Cherie; his son, Joshua; and his daughter, Abigail.   Conversation Notes   5:47  - Talking about his “second great conversion”… “To become a son has changed everything for me…C.S. Lewis said, ‘I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sunrise.I believe in it because I see it every day, but it’s by the sun I see all things.' ...To become a son is my sunrise. I believe it because I’ve experienced it to be true. To unlearn God as Father the way I’ve learned it wrong and to open my heart to receive him as the true Father he intends to be. It’s by that I see all things.” 7:26 - Growing up in a home without God - winning the “game” of life - having success in many areas, but losing his soul. 8:30 - giving his life to God 9:27 - "God became my father, my pastor, my guide,  I entered into a slow and steady process of being initiated as a man and fathered as a son. And so where I find myself now is ...in process of over two decades of making my life about becoming the kind of man in whom God is glad to entrust more and more of the care of his kingdom, becoming more and more honest about what’s not yet, about what is under construction. But that used to feel like a weight and now feels like a promise because there’s so much hope.” 10:29  - His wife is the Chief Life Officer. 13:11 - His wife shared in counseling, “I feel like a bird locked in a cage. And I can’t fly"…. That wasn’t my heart’s intention at all. I dreamed about being a loving husband, but the fruit was I was a broken man, an unhealed boy inside a man that was still driving to get his question answered by achieving. I am loved when I come through. I am loved when I achieve. And now it’s just in the name of God, it’s just in the name of being a husband. And all the while my strength wasn’t actually rescuing the beauty, it wasn’t actually fighting for her, it was actually diminishing the glory of her life.” 14:29 - “I believe one of the greatest sacred trusts given to me is to champion her calling and allow her to thrive as the Chief Life Officer.” 14:51 - Finding the way to the center of your daughter’s heart. 15:51 - A birth experience gone wrong 16:29 - “God I agree with your story for my son, and I want to participate with what you have planned for him. I want to participate in initiation and I’ll participate in the birth story you have.” 16:56 - "God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It’s what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything." 18:02 - Talking about his daughter - "I approach her with a question of ‘Holy Spirit would you show me her heart? Who did you make [her] to be? And how do I bring my delight to her and communicate consistently - [you] are loved. And there is nothing you can do or not do and say or not say  that will cause me to withdraw my delight. And if I can get that right, then everything else becomes secondary.” 21:11 - How do I initiate my son? 21:59 - "Fundamentally, when we can pull back from the trees and see the forest, we offer the sum total of who we’ve become, we will apprentice our kids for good or for ill into the person we’ve become.” 22:30 - Technology and growing up as an adolescent girl in our current culture. 23:16 - we try to offer what we haven’t received and offer what we haven’t become….. 24:30 - whole-hearted parenting and growing in union with God 25:08 - "We can only fake it for so long and until we come to an understanding that excavation is simply non-negotiable bc when we build on a shoddy foundation, we don't know until the storm comes but the storm will come. We are in a culture of uncertainty and in a time of shaking." 26:42 - Immaturity vs. sin 28:40 - "Reality is what we bump into when we're wrong." - Dallas Willard 29:20 - Look to the older men in your life and ask where did they get taken out or hijacked. 29:45 - "I have a choice. I either have to settle for engineering a small life, ... where life becomes mostly about comfort, security and arranging for a life that I can control, or at least have the illusion that I can control and it doesn't require me to change. And that's what most men become. Or I can take those exclamation points and I can start asking questions." 30:15 - "We really only have two choices, either humility or humiliation." 30:25 - "I realized the questions are the core to apprenticeship and it's the questions that led me back to the path of life." 33:34 - "Someone with my best interests in mind is at work. What I recovered was an upside down kingdom. Where most men build, the invitation was to stop building and allow God to excavate so that he can build your character - not just morality but whole-heartedness." 35:10 - "Actually it's the good soil, cultivated over time, that yields the supernatural harvest." 38:08 - PODCAST EPISODE ABOUT MARGIN 38:40 - How does a fish know that it's water is polluted? 39:45 - We are in an age of exponential change and we all, as a culture, carry more load than our limits.  40:25 - So if we come to terms that we are in an aggressive culture that wants to destroy our margin, the gap between our load and our limits, then we understand we have to fight to protect that space.  40:41 - "The great frontier in our age is our attention and our affection, and its in margin, its in the space between the load and limits, that we can recover our attention and our affection which was actually meant to be the epicenter of where we grow with intimacy with God." 42:12 - "Identify your load. Identify your healthy, sustainable limits. And if your load exceeds your limits, then that's a frontier in which you need to be curious with about God."   Conversation Links:   Become Good Soil Book - Becoming A King: The Path To Restoring The Heart Of A Man - Morgan Snyder’s Becoming a King speaks unabashedly to men, teaching them the life-changing truth about the power that God intends for them to responsibly step into for his Kingdom, while also giving women an honest peek behind the curtain into the lives and hearts of the men they know and love. Podcast: Become Good Soil Join the dadAWESOME daily text message:  Text DAD to 77222