141 | Three Takeaways from John Eldredge

Oct 1, 2020

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John Eldredge

John Eldredge is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs and he loves the outdoors passionately. His most recent book, Take Your Life Back provides a refreshingly simple guide to recover your life. By practicing a few wonderfully simple practices—or what John calls “graces”—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty.

Three Takeaways > Show Notes

3:10 - dadAWESOME Episode 117 w/ John Eldredge
3:30 - DA Daily - text "dad" to 77222 to receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration.
3:50 - Takeaway #1 = Why is the Inside Out Dad Life Important?
4:08 - Proverbs 4:23 - "Above everything guard your heart because out of your heart flows the wellspring of life... “How your heart’s doing affects everything else in your life. If your heart’s not doing well, you don’t love very well, if your heart’s not doing well you don’t have a lot of dreams. It is the epicenter."
4:12 - “We are reaping the fruit of a lot of human brokenness generationally….Many kids are growing up either without a dad present, or without a present dad. He might be taken home, but he’s so taken out himself.”
4:23- Carl Jung - “The greatest psychological impact of a parent on a child is the un-lived life of the parent….. If you’re taken out, it’s really hard to chase after the hearts of your kids.”
5:08 - Parent for behavior vs. Parent for the heart
Takeaway #2 = Process of being Fathered By God
Fathered by God by John Eldredge
6:30 - Both the little boy and little girl look to the father to answer their core questions. Boys - Do I have what it takes? Girls - Do you delight in me? Will anyone fight for me?
“God steps in to say, ‘Look, I can still Father you. I can take you on the journey of maturation. You need to know you’re a beloved son, you need to know that you’re a delighted daughter first.’”
God takes us through stages to the place where he can entrust us with kingdoms and influence (a family, education, money, etc). Guys blow up their world because inside they stay in adolescence.
Takeaway #3 = Advice to John's younger self
8:24 - What you would tell your younger self - “You boys need to know you love them, and make that your top priority. You’re going to mess it up, everybody does...but love heals…...If your kids know “My dad adores me” then a lot of the failure stuff kind of bounces off. It really does.”

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