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dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Marcus Montana   Marcus Montana, known as TRU-SERVA to his music audience, is a passionate man whose mission is to help others find true life. Growing up in a single parent home in Lacombe, LA outside of New Orleans, he was forced to raise himself while his Mom worked two jobs to provide for the family. Trapped in a materialistic society he chased after self-satisfaction, experiencing a void of true love. He was left broken after a long pursuit to fill that void, until one day.... At age 16, while TRU was at the end of his rope, drained from the emptiness of unfulfilling pleasure, he came face to face with Christ. He chose to take a spiritual step and committed to a personal relationship with Jesus. TRU felt a calling to use his talent of hip-hop to help change lives. From a young age, hip-hop influenced his style, language and attitude and it felt natural to use this genre of music and way of life to help reach people. Through his rap lyrics, he portrays a powerful message of the cross and of a positive change. He sees himself as an over comer and example of hope to many, where he stepped above the trap of being an African American male dead or in jail by age 25. A strong vision for connection is what this musician strives to accomplish each and everyday. TRU aims to make a connection between the streets and the church, saying "The walls of the church need to fall down and people need to get out of their seats and go out." He also wants to see the connection between generations, where he can speak to both kids and adults.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! 4:03 - Marcus talks about growing up without a present dad. Learning how to be a dad from his mom. 10:27 - The difficulty of seeing God as a Father without having a father. 11:00 - “When we had Malakai, that changed my whole perspective because when Malakai was born, he just laid there, didn't do nothing, and I loved him. You know, he wasn't trying to get my attention saying, hey, look at me, he just laid there. And it gave me a perspective that I don't have to do anything for the Lord to love me, you know? And so that changed my whole life…” 13:17 - “The goal isn't perfection, it's his presence.” 14:00 - “It's a thin line between using wisdom and stepping out on faith. You know, when you got other people who are responsible for you. But I've also learned that when I follow the leading of the Lord, he takes care of it.” 23:30 - “You know, Martin Luther King said rioting, rioting comes as the voice of the unheard. And, you know, if your kids are trying to share with you and you're not listening, you're too busy. They're rioting.”   Episode Links:   Spotify - Tru Serva Reverb Nation - Tru Serva Website - Transformation Records FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript   https://dadawesome.org/182notes/  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Matthew Hooper   Matthew’s personal and professional pursuit of holistic growth are at the center of his life and work with others. He holds degrees in Communication from Biola University (1994) and Christian Ministry and Leadership from Talbot School of Theology (2001). Spiritual Development and Pastoral Counseling were the specialized emphases of his graduate work. Matthew also received a certificate in spiritual direction from the Archdiocesan Spirituality Center in Los Angeles. Currently, he is studying to complete a doctoral program in Higher Education Leadership at Azusa Pacific University. Over the past 17 years, Matthew has cultivated his vocation toward influencing the holistic development of emerging adults, leaders and professionals. In 2016, Matthew launched a professional consulting business (TRACK 3 Leadership Development) integrating insight from leadership, psychological, and theological perspectives for the purpose of holistic growth in individuals and groups. Recently, Matthew has excelled as a primary group facilitator for Growth Skills Foundation. He finds unique inspiration for his work in creation, music, spiritual friendship and the daily pursuit of humility as the highest virtue for human growth and spiritual flourishing. Matthew, his wife, Sheela, and their three children, Annie, Breeana and Jarren, live, work and play in Sutter Creek, CA.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Sign up for the F4F 100 mile Ride by 1:07 - Check out episode 180 for the first half of the conversation with Matthew Hooper 2:26 - Travel tips for living in a trailer 4:12 - Everything is better as a team. Be a team in the routines of setting up and taking down. 5:00 - Recommendation: Stay at least two nights at each site. 5:28 - Expect that things will break down. 7:35 - "I would say having very consistent patterns with safety in mind, with consistency and structure in mind for your family, because there's going to be plenty of unstructured reality." 8:56 - Dad Wisdom #1: Own your role as dad. "No one can be a dad like you. No one. You're the dad in your family. So own it." 9:17 - Dad Wisdom #2 - Decide what you want to do as a dad. How do you want things to be?  10:34 - Dad Wisdom #3 - Listen to your kids 12:35 -  A Grace Disguised by Sittser 13:36 - Listening to clues in the physical body to recognize grief 14:31 - How he handled tragic loss 17:18 - You need to pace your work with sadness, you need to move towards it with intentionality. Invite other people into that and then give yourself permission to take a break.  17:56 -  Article: Navigating sadness on the journey of life    "Facing the sadness, embracing the sadness, pacing sadness." 18:35 -  "Please turn toward your heart, please. The more you're able to do that with you, the more you can do that with your wife and especially your kids. Your heart is the most important part of who you are, and that includes your deep feelings of thought willing and emotion coalescing in the heart. And so to be to be a man of heart, I think, is what I would what I would call dads to above all else."   Episode Links:   TRACK 3 Leadership Development FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Matthew Hooper   Matthew’s personal and professional pursuit of holistic growth are at the center of his life and work with others. He holds degrees in Communication from Biola University (1994) and Christian Ministry and Leadership from Talbot School of Theology (2001). Spiritual Development and Pastoral Counseling were the specialized emphases of his graduate work. Matthew also received a certificate in spiritual direction from the Archdiocesan Spirituality Center in Los Angeles. Currently, he is studying to complete a doctoral program in Higher Education Leadership at Azusa Pacific University. Over the past 17 years, Matthew has cultivated his vocation toward influencing the holistic development of emerging adults, leaders and professionals. In 2016, Matthew launched a professional consulting business (TRACK 3 Leadership Development) integrating insight from leadership, psychological, and theological perspectives for the purpose of holistic growth in individuals and groups. Recently, Matthew has excelled as a primary group facilitator for Growth Skills Foundation. He finds unique inspiration for his work in creation, music, spiritual friendship and the daily pursuit of humility as the highest virtue for human growth and spiritual flourishing. Matthew, his wife, Sheela, and their three children, Annie, Breeana and Jarren, live, work and play in Sutter Creek, CA.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Sign up for the F4F 100 mile Ride by 5:51 - Traveling with 6 people to 48 states in 4 months 7:54 - Four principles to order our thoughts and decisions 8:58 - Principle #1: Missional - Bringing Christ's kind of love and and the peace and joy and life of the kingdom, wherever we went 11:07 - Principle #2 - Being Adventurous - meaning to kind of push ourselves to do things we weren't normally doing  11:31 - Principle #3 - Positivity - "if we're going to be missional and adventurous, we need to stay positive because we know that at some point this experience is going to be stretching."  12:11 -  Principle #4 - Stretching - "Life is stretching and what we need to do is own that that is true and not live in an illusion that life is not that. So life is stretching. If we stayed here, there would be elements that would be stretching about that. If we go, that's going to be stretching and maybe even be more stretching. But the reality is life is stretching." 13:17 - "the daily pursuit of humility as the highest virtue for human growth and spiritual flourishing." 13:52 - Flourishing as a dad 13:58 - "When you tilt your mind and heart toward flourishing with your intense thinking and your intentions, you are aligning with the power of God's image in us and for Christ followers and the power of the Spirit in us and between us in terms of his his community as people." 16:41 - What is stopping dads from flourishing? Pride (lack of humility) and lack of vulnerability 17:08 - [Humility is] Seeing ourselves accurately in relation to ourselves, God and others."  20:46 - Book recommendations for flourishing, humility, ownership:  John Townsend - Hiding from Love  & Henry Cloud - Changes that Heal 22:17 - Tips and tricks to traveling as a family in a trailer   Episode Links:   TRACK 3 Leadership Development FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript    

dadAWESOME   \We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Mark Batterson   Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church (NCC) in Washington, DC. One church in seven locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into the Capital Turnaround. This 100,000-square-foot space will include an event venue, child development center, mixed-use marketplace, and coworking space. Mark holds a doctor of ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of twenty books, including The Circle Maker, Chase the Lion, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, and Whisper. He and his wife, Lora, have three children and live on Capitol Hill.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Sign up for the F4F 100 mile Ride by June 27th. 3:35 -  The Circle Maker book by Mark Batterson - inspired by his father in law Bob Schmidgall 4:02 - Things Mark learned from his father-in-law - Fun surprise ideas for the family and setting boundaries with ministry. 8:21 - How Parkinson's law influences fatherhood 9:00 - So I am really challenging dads to establish boundaries. But I do want to recognize that life doesn't come in nice, neat boxes where every day or every week looks like every other day or every other week. I don't. It's really hard to challenge work and home or vocation and family. I would argue that you're never 100 percent balanced. You're always counterbalancing. 10:13 - Establishing boundaries in dad life 10:34 - Why set life goals? 10:40 -  you won't accomplish one hundred percent of the goals that you don't set. And so faith is being sure of what we hope for, Hebrews 11. And I just think that goal setting can be an expression of faith.  11:54 - One thing I learned is you can't just set the goal, like you got to reverse engineer it and figure out what are the daily habits that are going to get you to those goals. And that's where the magic happens. That's where the hard work habits. And that really is the key to going after those goals.  15:42 - Seven kind of character traits of being the man, playing the man (Episode 146) Virtue #1 Tough Love Virtue #2 Childlike Wonder Virtue #3 Will Power Virtue #4 Raw Passion Virtue #5 True Grit Virtue #6 Clear Vision Virtue #7 Moral Courage 17:04 - prayer does turn parents into prophets and you can shape the destiny of your kids with your prayer life. And they're going to be moments in your life where that's all you've got.  16:22 - "The deepest desire of my heart to be famous in my own home and it's hard to be famous in your own home and you're never home." 18:13 - Draw the circle book - 40 days of prayer 19:21 - Prayer for healing for our friend, Brian.   Episode Links:   Mark Batterson Win The Day dadAWESOME Day FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript   https://dadawesome.org/179notes/    

Today is dadAWESOME Day... It's a decision day and a declaration day that this coming year is going to include movement toward becoming more dadAWESOME for my kids. It's the first day of the dad year and we're offering four options for adding specific intentionality to your dad life. This video (https://bit.ly/DAdayVID) outlines the 4 dadAWESOME Day Challenges and we are praying that you step into this year saying YES to becoming dadAWESOME.   JOIN the dadAWESOME Day Challenge by texting one of these four keywords to (651) 370-8618   1) I am LOVED - text the word "loved" to (651) 370-8618   2) I am INTENTIONAL - text the word "intentional" to (651) 370-8618   3) I am FREE - text the word "free" to (651) 370-8618   4) I ENJOY my kids - text the word "enjoy" to (651) 370-8618   MORE INFO: https://dadawesome.org/day   --- learn about making a DONATION to dadAWESOME: https://dadawesome.org/give   --- Download the 2-page Mission/Vision/Invitation Overview for dadAWESOME: https://bit.ly/2021dadAWESOME    

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Mark Batterson   Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church (NCC) in Washington, DC. One church in seven locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into the Capital Turnaround. This 100,000-square-foot space will include an event venue, child development center, mixed-use marketplace, and coworking space. Mark holds a doctor of ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of twenty books, including The Circle Maker, Chase the Lion, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, and Whisper. He and his wife, Lora, have three children and live on Capitol Hill.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! 1:52 - Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day - our launch pad to a year of becoming dadAWESOME. 2:42 - Minneapolis Fathers for the Fatherless - signup deadline is June 27th. Sign up at F4F.bike 3:49 - Mark Batterson's new book: Win the Day 5:15 - Going from "This is crazy!" to "This is awesome!" 7:10 - "Your actions are perfectly designed to achieve the results that you're getting." 7:38 - Discussing the idea of the grand gesture:  choosing to change upstream, because we know we want to see a desired change downstream  9:51 - "A grand gesture...It's just doing something that signifies, I'm making a move towards solving this problem or accomplishing this goal." 13:03 - JMD, Just manageable difficulty - if something's too easy you actually lose interest. 16:06 - Every move we make, every risk we take sets the stage for someone else. Your brave is someone else's breakthrough. 20:14 - Habit number 2, Kiss the Wave -  the obstacle is not the enemy. The obstacle is the wave. 21:18 - "I do think that it is some of the suffering that makes us appreciate the gift that life is and helps us identify with a God who suffered, who went to a cross, a God who loves us enough to go through Gethsemane. And so sometimes I need to be willing to walk through some of that suffering." 22:49 - DadAWESOME day is a declaration day. It's a decision day to make the next three hundred and sixty five days a decision towards becoming dadAWESOME.  23:47 - "If you do little things like they're big things got as a way of doing big things, like they're little things" 24:29 - "time is measured in minutes. Life is measured in moments. It's Wind the Clock habit number 6. 25:34 - "God wants to turn the hearts of the fathers towards their children. And I think when that happens, then revival happens."   Episode Links:   Mark Batterson Win The Day FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team    

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Becky Thompson   Becky Thompson is a bestselling author and the creator of the Midnight Mom Devotional community, gathering over one million moms in nightly prayer. Speaking hope into the struggle of balancing life as a wife mother, and daughter of God, Becky has become the voice of modern Christian motherhood. You can learn more about Becky’s top Christian podcast, Revived Motherhood, or find more of her work by visiting BeckyThompson.com. Becky lives near Nashville with her husband, Jared, and their three children.   Dr. Mark R. Pitts   Dr. Mark R. Pitts is a graduate of the University of Tulsa Law School. He is an ordained pastor and a well-known Bible teacher in the Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, area where he lives with his wife, Susan. They have been married for 41 years and have two adult daughters and three grandchildren. In 2019, Mark created the Midnight Dad Devotional online community with his daughter, Becky Thompson, the creator of the Midnight Mom Devotional. Mark enjoys teaching Scripture and praying for dads.     FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list.  Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day 02:25 - Midnight Dad Devotional One Hundred Devotions and Prayers to Connect Dads Just Like You to the Father. 3:47 -  What if our kids inspire us to be dream chasers? 3:55 - "I love that because to me, being a dream chaser is being a God chaser. You know, I don't think that we can ever separate the two." 5:30 - Learning the Father's love from her dad. 7:14 -  We don't just have a heavenly father that parents us. We have a heavenly father who fathers us. 9:21 - "That's and that's also whole all scriptural that we are supposed to improve, if you will, improve our children, if they are supposed to be, we want them to be better than us. We don't just want them to have a better life, be more fortunate, be more prosperous. We want them to be better than us. We want them to take what we have to give them what God has breathed into them, into into us, and therefore we breathe into them and that they are going to take that and go much farther than we could have ever gone." 10:42 - "Our prayer is that men will see themselves as God sees them. We've already talked about that as they are as the warriors they are, fighting in the trenches for their families against all odds, overcoming every trial that comes their way." Quote from Midnight Dad's devotional 13:03 - "You, father, dad, are going where you're going. This is supposed to help you know, that you have a heavenly father who's going to get you there, who's going to help you accomplish that, where no other human can help you as well as your heavenly father can help you." 15:16 - "So here's the thing about Noah is that he invited his sons to build with him, that it was a family build, that Noah got the download and it required the help of his whole family to create what would be for the whole family. And so I think as dads are listening and they're like, well, this is what God has called me to. It's not just for them. It's with them that there isn't anything that God calls a parent to, that he doesn't also call the children to participate in." 16:45 - "It's the difference between that and fathering, which says I'm going to intentionally stay relational with you. I'm going to care not about what you did today, but how it made you feel. And then I'm going to invite you into my story of what God is doing in me. And the only way for a child to see the impact of what God is doing in the father is if he intentionally makes the decision to include his children in what he's going through and how he feels about it. And and I think that's what it means to build with it." 22:14 -  "it was the promise of presence, which is I am certain that I will see and experience this goodness of the Lord in the land of the living, not just know about it, not just here about it, not someday." 22:52 - You can never have more. It's the one thing you could never fully possess because there's always more to gain that the act of having more means that you have to always be reaching and going and trying. - Quoting her dad You can never achieve more, you can never actually hold more. I want to tell him that this is going to be a lifetime journey.  26:57 - "I have made spectacular failures as a as a parent. I have never made a failure as a father because my heart is pure, my heart is true. And what I want for my children is what my heavenly father wants for me."   Episode Links:   Midnight Dads Book - on Amazon Midnight Dads Webpage: https://beckythompson.com/midnight-dad-devotional/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript:  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Terry Esau   Terry has over 10 years in the non-profit sector, having exercised his leadership as the founder of FB4K in 2010. In addition, Terry has been instrumental in catalyzing the move from a Minnesota-only platform to the 12 US cities that FB4K currently calls home. Terry has been recognized for his societal contributions both nationally (USA Today Make A Difference award) and internationally (Guinness World Records). In his spare time, Terry is a published author and speaker on various topics, including the ‘Wellbeing of under-resourced kids in America.’ In addition to his bicycle advocacy, Terry is an avid cyclist, musician and artist.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   1:50 - Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list.  2:16 -  Monday, June 21st. Just write down DadAWESOME day 2:53 - Free Bikes for Kids 4:44 - How to teach kids to ride a bike with a balance bike 5:58 - I kind of feel like we should live our lives with this adventure and hope and excitement. You know, it's like instead of instead of living cautiously, it's just it's just not a great way to live.  '7:18 - Sharing his dad’s story of being on his own at age 16 and then serving on MN Legislature for 16 years. “He didn't let the problem of not having that education hold him back. You know, he kind of took things into his own hand and he said, I can educate myself by reading books, you know, so. So he did that. And he was you know, he was a flawed man, and a flawed father, just like I am. But you know what he he modeled? He modeled boldness and courage, and I think that's what has helped me." 12:20 -  “I look at the Holy Spirit not as a dove, but as a sharp elbow. And, you know, and our job is to keep tender ribs so that we feel the nudge of that sharp elbow.” 19:35 -  Terry's book: Surprise Me: A 30-Day Faith Experiment & Be the Surprise: Experiments in Spontaneous 25:11 - Free Bikes for Kids website - (picture of the smiling girl) 26:17 - Setting the Guinness World Record for most bikes collected in a day (5,512 bikes on year, then 10,000 the next year)   Episode Links:   Free Bikes For Kids Terry's book: Surprise Me: A 30-Day Faith Experiment & Be the Surprise: Experiments in Spontaneous Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript:  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Matt Norman   Matt Norman is President & CEO of Norman & Associates. Through Norman & Associates, he helps people think and work together more effectively. Matt's mentorship has helped Fortune 100 corporations, non-profits, and entrepreneurs change the way they engage with their employees and clients.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   2:23 - New Text Message platform! Text the word "DAD" to 651-370-8618 3:09 - Save the date for June 21, 2021 - dadAWESOME day 5:48 - Creating a pathway for unlimited screen time and how that has contributed to more productive activities for the 13 yr old sons 8:42 - How marriage counseling and being a part of a mens group helped pull out of the darkness of the season of infertility. "I'm part of a men's group that, you know, has been a very important part of my life. And it's been sitting around with those men in a non fixing, non rescuing, non minimizing environment." 11:18 - Book: The Four Patterns of Healthy People  13:08 -  "I just I can't emphasize enough for myself and other people that I've journeyed with the value of finding authentic people that are willing to tell the truth and have grace and love in that." 13:50 - Three questions: (1) Where are we often stuck? Where do I shrink back? (2) What's not working for me in some of my relationships? (3) Where am I getting triggered? Where are my hot buttons? 17:41 - Pete Scazzero - The Emotionally Healthy Leader podcast  18:20 - "And even in our families where we hurt each other....Sometimes we slight each other or wound each other in in intentional ways because we're hurting ourselves and we want to, you know, make ourselves feel better by hurting someone else. But sometimes ...we're wounded. And so we're going to put on this armor and I think that armor... blocks us off from having...more intimacy with the Holy Spirit, more intimacy with our other important relationships, more effectiveness in whatever work may be, because as we work with others, we need to let others in and allow ourselves to be seen if we're going to have 'vulnerability-based trust' in the workplace."  (from Patrick Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team) 20:22 - Favorite leadership book, A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman  - "The most important characteristic of leadership is to be a non anxious presence." 23:36 - Noticing that positivity can be tied to defensiveness 25:17 - What he hopes his kids say at the end of his life? 28:15 - How do we measure our day? Scoreboard and checklist or relationships and community? 31:35 - "We do all these things to rationalize, justify and excuse ourselves. And yet freedom and joy and connection lies on the other side of growth."   Episode Links:   http://MattNorman.com Four Patterns of Healthy People: How to Grow Past Your Rooted Behaviors, Discover a Deeper Connection with Others, and Reach Your Full Potential in Life and Business Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript: https://dadawesome.org/175notes/

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Tim Burt & Danny Gutierrez   Thankful for this father-in-law / son-in-law conversation about intentional fatherhood. More about Danny. More about Tim.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Registration is NOW OPEN for the FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100-mile bike rides. —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   1:24 - Episode 16 - Danny Gutierrez. Episode 23 - Tim Burt. Episode 69 - Renee Burt & Stephanie Gutierrez.  2:25 - "Affirmation is a powerful biblical encouragement for us to participate and to encourage one another and to lift up one another." 3:53 - Tim - "I just always exhorted her, always encouraged her. I always encouraged that she could do those things that were on her heart. And and I think Stephanie would probably say that the affirmation she's received over the years is it's been a real strength in her development." 5:24 - Tim's daughter Stephanie, "My dad not only loved me, but he liked me." 8:02 - "We get to step into being what maybe we didn't receive and that we didn't have modeled for us." 12:28 - Tim talks about the benefit of listening and drawing out connection from his kids and how he wishes he would have done that more. 15:45 - Advocating for a special needs child 19:24 - The multiplication effect when you're learning for others. 20:22 - Tim - "Pay attention to how God uses you and just go with that." 21:19 - Tim - "People are all good at different things, and it's just not something you're good at. It's something that God can take to another level." 24:51 - Tim - "If you will just make a commitment to do something, you're going to find out what you shouldn't be doing and what you're absolutely not good or gifted at. And you're going to discover the things that you are gifted and you're good at. And the discovery is part of the whole thing. But it doesn't happen without taking some kind of a commitment, and as a pastor, I'm going to say God wants you to commit to serve in the local church because it's not for the church, it's for you. It's all about him developing you." 26:50 - Danny - "Be intentional with your interest, because I think right now we live in a world where everything's asking for it and we give it away so easily... And I think if when we put interest in our kids and what they're interested in and what their hopes and dreams are and what some of their, what they like to do and what's going through their little minds or what season of life they're in, when we give intentional interest to that, I think it becomes molding us into the kind of dads they need us to be in those particular seasons. 28:17 - Tim - "And if you will just be very conscientious about asking God for help all day long, every day, you'll constantly be taking off some of the burdens of fear or inadequacy or anything else that you're facing in your life. And all I would say is just try to remember some of the things you asked because he answers a whole lot more things than you're paying attention to. And if you'd pay attention to him, you'd know how much he works in your life, which is the proof of how much he loves you. And he would be so much more real to you." Episode Links:   Danny Tim Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript: