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dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Jackie Bledsoe   Jackie Bledsoe is a professional blogger, author, and speaker, but first and foremost a husband and father, who encourages men to better lead and love their families through his blog, JackieBledsoe.com. He’s a contributor to All Pro Dad, Babble.com, Good Men Project, and Huffington Post. His work has been featured on Yahoo!, USA Football, MichaelHyatt.com, and more. Jackie, who has been happily married to his wife, Stephana, since June of 2001, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, with their daughter and two sons.   Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home   UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes:   Donate to F4F Happily Married Couples How I Built This and Stayed happily married podcast BOOK: The Seven Rings of Marriage dadAWESOME Nudge - Text 651-370-8618 Wild at Heart Basic Event - Check out link to Register The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey 4:33 - The biggest rocks related to parenting and marriage 8:02 - heart attack on Thanksgiving 2018 10:35 - Blog post - “what you must teach your daughter before she turns 16” 10:56 - “Preparing your daughter for marriage” blog post 11:32 - Advice: Model what you want to see in your daughter’s future husband - model that in how you treat your wife 14:58 - teaching his daughter to manage finances 19:56 - Marriage advice 21:59 - So know that if you're in a hard season right now, just keep the course, stay the course, stay. ...do not grow weary in well doing. But at the proper time You receive a harvest if you do not give up. So that's the word that I give to you dads as well. It can be tough right now, but keep doing things that you know are going to lead to the end that you want in your marriage and your fatherhood and your business, whatever it is, and trust that that harvest will come at some point. Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI    Episode Links:   https://jackiebledsoe.com/ https://happilymarriedcouples.com/ FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team        

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Ken Castor    After thirty years of next-generation ministry, Dr. Ken is balding in his hairline but still bold in his faith. He is the Family and NextGen Pastor at Wooddale Church. He served as the Professor of Youth Ministry at Crown College for over a decade and in nextgen ministry for two decades before that. Ken is the “Blue Letters Editor” of the Award-winning Jesus-Centered Bible, and has authored numerous discipleship resources like Grow Down and Make a Difference. He’s also a nerdy Cubs fan, the founder of NEXT Ministry Conferences, has several Chuck-Taylors, and enjoys living in Minnesota with his brilliantly witty and slightly freezing family.   Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin   When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home   UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides   — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes: Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad Donate to F4F Local gold SPONSOR: Accelerate Business Solutions - https://www.xceleratenow.com/ Ken Castor - Family pastor at Wooddale Church - https://wooddale.org/ 3:47 - Unpacking the meaning of resilience in the family. Developing spiritual grit. 8:52 - Wishing he had spent more time preparing the meals together as a family instead of just one parent preparing the meal and rushing to the table. 12:39 - “Every facet of life as a dad, it's hard to give up what I'm good at and let my kid do it not as good.” 19:35 - “There are some intentional rhythms I've built into my life so that my kids would know that, hey, my dad's all about Jesus. Like that's been my goal. But I can be as intentional as I want but if in the unintentional moments my kids see a jerk or they see somebody who's living a different lifestyle or who's talking bad about their wife or whatever, it those moments are the ones that actually matter.” 22:27 - Discussing the story of the prodigal son with an emphasis on the father. 28:02 - “The measurement of a good father is not based upon the behavior and outcome of the children. The measurement of the good father is, does he reflect God, the father, and the character and the heart that all of his children would be in relationship with him at home." 32:13 - The story of adoption 34:47 - On the season of waiting for fatherhood (waiting for pregnancy, adoption, etc) “That season of preparation is... The principles that you're working on in your heart and your soul and faith in that season of preparation are the same resources that you will turn to as a dad so that that season of waiting. You can't be impatient and do fatherhood well.” Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI    Episode Links:   https://kencastor.com/ Books & Resources from Ken Castor FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript https://dadawesome.org/191notes  

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Dr. Greg Bourgond   As President and Founder of Heart of a Warrior Ministries, Dr. Greg Bourgond, has taught in graduate / post-graduate schools and ministry organizations, and has spoken and preached in many churches and ministry contexts around the world. He is also the author of many award winning books. He has been happily married for 48 years and enjoys time with his grandchildren every chance he gets. His previous experience includes ten years in the defense industry and commercial business, and over twenty years in various ministry positions. He also completed twenty-nine years of active and reserve duty in enlisted and officer ranks in the U.S. Navy. He has received degrees from Chapman University, Bethel Seminary and Nova Southeastern University. He has also completed post graduate work at Harvard University. He has also twice been C.S. Lewis Visiting Scholar-in-Residence at the Kilns in Headington England.   Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin   When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home   UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides   — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad Donate to F4F 3:13 - Heart of a Warrior Ministries Dr. Bourgond's Books 8:05 -  "God wires men cause to die for, a challenge to embrace, and loved ones to protect." 10:32 - "Robert Lewis, who coined the definition of authentic manhood, is to reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and wait on God's reward." 10:55 -  David Morrow published the book Why Men Hate to Go to Church. 14:11 - Above all else, guard your heart for from it becomes the wellspring of your life. - Proverbs 4:23 14:55 - "Whatever is stored in your heart will manifest itself in overt behavior that either bring glory and honor to God or dishonor and shame." 16:10 - "What I found out that men have an ability, especially in Western culture, to proclaim a belief system that bears little correlation with how they behave. There's an inconsistency and incongruity and incoherence, but how they behave over time will give you an insight into what they truly believe at the core of their being." 16:42 - "The decisions that we make are always processed through the values we hold, even if we can't articulate them." 22:44 -  "It will always be the case in Western culture, nobody really cares what you had to say, until they observe how you live. And if you try to live a life of integrity and honor under God's authority, people ultimately want to hear what you have to say, even if they disagree with you. Why? Because they can't get past a life well lived." 23:01 - "Living intentionally in the same direction over an extended period of time will have a greater impact on your children than anything you could possibly say." 24:21 - "And what I learned over the course of time is that sometimes God called you to be a sage on the stage. In other times, he wants you to be a guide by the side. And I understood that parenting needed to be situational. That you needed to change your leadership style with the confidence and the competence being demonstrated by that child in whatever task you give them." 26:46 - "If your child is a skeptic, simply answer the questions they're asking. If they're cynics, simply question the answers they're giving me." 35:01 - "S = R / E. S stands for either satisfaction or success or significance. R stands for reality and E stands for expectations." 38:04 - "Neil T Anderson who said it's not what you do that determines who you are. It's who you are and Jesus Christ that should determine what you do." 39:15 - "How to determine the purpose God has for your life." 39:01 - "Infinite God has chosen you as his finite creature to implement his redemptive plans for the world." 40:22 - "Every man is given a unique purpose for their life. So it's finding out what that is by tuning your heart to the heart of God. Listening to the still small voice of God in your life, leaning forward to hear it and allowing God's word to transform you and to wash off the world." 41:18 -  "The point is, guys, give your life to something that matters. Make a difference. Too many guys are like ships tied to a pier, spend all of their life polishing the brass, making sure the steering mechanism works, taking the oil off the engine, swabbing the deck, but never getting the ship away from the pier. Ships are not made to be tied to the pier. God doesn't care if your engine is oily. He doesn't care if you are a sloppy steering system. He doesn't even care if the decks are dirty. Get the ship underway and God will take you to destinations you've never been. He'll take you to horizons you've never seen. He'll have you traverse valleys you've never imagined. And God will give you a completely different view of his world. Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI    Episode Links:   https://www.heartofawarrior.org/ Dr. Bourgond's Books FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript   https://dadawesome.org/190notes

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Pablo Ceron   Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men’s ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of WILDSONS, a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (10) and Lucas (4). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years.   UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides   — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes:   Link to PART 1 of this interview with Pablo Ceron: https://dadawesome.org/188/ Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church, Chick-Fil-A Blaine 2:34 - Pablo talks through steps to healing and restoration: (1) Invite Jesus into the place in our hearts where we feel wronged, where life is unfair.... (2) Renounce the lie that life is up to me, that I will need to fight every battle because no one else will do it for me (3) Ask What is the truth? 5:09 -  "We have come to believe certain things about God and ourselves and life and then to then to bring those before God himself and to have an encounter with him where the truth is revealed to us and we get to be initiated into living life in the way that results out of that being truth." 17:41 George MacDonald says that the hardest and the gladdest thing is to cry Abba, Daddy to God from a full heart.  15:01 - Describing the meaning of "Sons" in the ministry Wild Sons.  21:50 - "When the student is ready, the teacher appears, when the Son is ready, the Father appears."  24:31 - "Father, I receive you fresh as a father, and I choose to become your son, would you father me?" 24:53 -  "And if I can go on this journey and become my father's son again. Then it must be true that my two boys are his his sons, too, and he is more interested in fathering my two boys than I am, and he knows them and has known them before the foundation of the world. So he knows their hearts. He knows what they need. He's orchestrating a journey of initiation so that they can become the men he created them to be. I play a crucial role, and my role is to ask my dad, father, father, 'would you allow me to see my son in the way that you see him? Would you allow me to see what is it at this age in this season that you're doing in his heart, in his life? And what is my role in partnering with you for that?'"  26:45 - Pablo's story of how he begins a journey of initiation from age 10-21 and God told him, "Delight in what he delights in." 28:55 -  The raising of my boys is not up to me because life is not up to me.  29:43 - "The invitation is to ask God for a revelation of what he's doing in our children's life. And for us to participate in it, knowing that the outcome is up to it's up to God, we have no control over it."   Episode Links:   Wild Sons FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team      

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Pablo Ceron   Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men’s ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of WILDSONS, a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (10) and Lucas (4). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church, Chick-Fil-A Blaine Prayer Team Sign Up for Aug 28th Ride  Volunteer Sign Up  Previous episode with Pablo - Episode 98 5:02 - Wild Sons  5:51 -  "That has now been almost two decades of this journey with God. And the fruit of that is that we want more people to experience what we have come to experience the goodness of God, the treasures of the kingdom, the blessing of living a life of peace and a life of adventure and freedom and joy. " 9:15 - "There is an expression of Christianity or at least the message that as men we receive is that we need to set aside all our desires and our passions and become a nice guy. Yeah, and that's not at all what I read in scripture. What I read scripture is quite the opposite. Is God inviting men into a wild adventure. " 10:21 -  "Adventure by definition implies we we are risking, we're going into into the unknown, into the frontier, into an area where we don't have the answers, where success is not guaranteed, where things could go wrong. And if God doesn't show up, we're doomed. And that's how we come alive, let's do it." 10:49 - (Talking about Wild Sons) "And part of the recovery of their heart is to recognize their need for adventure and and and and how adventure makes a man come come alive. We believe that men shouldn't be tamed, but should be given permission to be themselves and live with passion and live with freedom ." 12:16 - Wild Sons Muster  16:50 - "So for those who are willing to let it all go and go after Jesus, all in. Yeah, they're going to experience life to the fullest. Jesus promises." 27:09 - "Everything that we do is an expression of what we have come to believe at the level of the heart about God, about who we are, about who my wife is, about who my boys are, my children, about the nature of the world." 29:52 - "Ask Jesus, who have you created my child to be? Look for the true identity of the child and speak to their identity, and they will come alive." 31:42 - "When I am in my good days, when I am connected to the Father, the way that I'm learning to parent my sons is by understanding who they truly are and to speak to that." 32:31 - "Even when we are in the darkest places and in the worst of our sin, he's not coming with accusations of shame and guilt. He's coming with love to say, I know you're better than this. You may have chosen wrong, but this is not who you are. Come and act according to who I made you to be."   Episode Links:   Wild Sons FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript    

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Jon Tyson   Jon Tyson is a New York City based Pastor and Author. Originally from Adelaide Australia, Jon moved to the United States over two decades ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of multiple books including his latest book, The Intentional Father.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church  The Intentional Father book 4:29 - How the relationship with his kids has changed to building adult friendships with his kids. 5:21 - Weekly family meetings 7:33 - "Raising a son is real work, but we have to get this right, because if we don't teach our sons, the world will. If we don't teach our sons about women pornography will if we don't teach our sons about friendship, they'll live a life of loneliness. If we don't teach our sons about leadership, they'll be followers all their lives. Being a father is not about efficiency. It's about discipleship. Father is not about time management. It's about heart development." 9:37 - "A lot of good involved dads, but an intentional dad that goes that step further to consciously ask who is my kid? What at what time of history did they live in? What am I responsible to sort of give them that's going to tee them up for their future." 10:58 - Minimal manhood and skillful manhood 17:00 - Leaning into the "firsts" and making them intentional moments 17:22 - Quote from Jim Rowan - "Life is not measured by the length of our days, but by the intensity and frequency of beautiful moments ." 17:54 - The Power of Moments book  19:35 - Books/articles he had his son read when he got his first job: Your Money Counts; Total Money Makeover. ESSAY: Why Work by Dorothy Sayers 23:41- Ken Blanchard's One Minute Manager 24:05 - Exponential by Dave Ferguson 24:07 - “It's just the process of how to give away what you have and make sure it shows up in somebody else's life. It takes more time to do that. It takes a lot of time, but when you see the joy of somebody who owns something that's literally gone from your life into their life, they now have a deposit and this deposit can be given to somebody else's life. That, to me, is one of the greatest things you can experience as a dad.” 25:16 - “I think this is the key here, because so often our culture is built on charisma and charisma is like that person possesses the magical gifts that none of us have. And therefore, it produces celebrity culture and consumerism. But when you codify the gift and you can show somebody, here's what I'm doing that is working, you then impart it to them and it creates contributors in confidence rather than consumption.” 25:59 - Shop Class as Soul-craft 28:15 - "Men need a cause. A cause is bigger than a vision, more expansive than a strategy, and more long lasting than a season. It's larger than a fight." - From The Intentional Father 30:09 - On the power of a cause in men: “I basically want to infuse that a man has strength and that he should utilize it in a great fight. But the difference is it needs to be in the real world as opposed to just accomplishment. And it needs to be for the sake of others. It's never your strength. It's never to oppress others for self gratification. It is always to lift the oppressed for the sake of the other.” 30:52 - “And a part of it is to try and help young men realize, don't give you a vigor and your strength to wasted things because you have no idea how you could participate in God's great cause if you channel them for the sake of others.” 32:14 - Wisdom on relationships: “The circle of intimacy, the circle of impact in the circle of influence” 33:13 - Most important priorities in 2nd through 5th grade: (1)”maintaining the emotional bond and setting the family culture” (2) “understand the psychological development of what's happening in that age” 40:50 - “I just have a path of intentionality that sets up the odds in your favor. And again, you can't control your son's heart, but you can fight for it. And this is a plan to fight for your son's future. And I believe that when we do that, we activate the heart of God's divine favor comes through our way, the Holy Spirit, gets involved and we're not on our own. And without it, I think you're left to chance and you’re left to the world.”   Episode Links:   The Intentional Father book The Primal Path Course FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Jon Tyson Instagram Twitter The Intentional Father book The Burden is Light book Beautiful Resistance book Church of the City New York

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Bob Merritt   Bob Merritt led Eagle Brook Church for 28 years. He retired in March of 2020 and lives in White Bear, MN with his wife Laurie. He joins us for this 2-Part podcast conversation on fatherhood themes ranging from leadership blindspots to fatherhood insights learned from his dog Blue.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad PART 1 of this conversation with Bob Merritt - Linked Here 2:33 - Dave Merritt speaking about his dad 5:58 - Asking his son, "Where do I screw up?" 7:24 - Jeff asks, "What have you learned about your Heavenly Father from your dog?" 9:37 - Parenting wisdom he sees in his kids 11:38 - Jesus in my weakness. Show yourself strong. It's not about me. I need you. It's a posture of kneeling, actually, as a physical posture of saying this is not about me delivering awesome. This is about me being average in desperate need.  13:03 - I was just driven by this this absolute fear and sense of responsibility that I had to say things to a congregation that were true and helpful and relevant to their lives. And if I failed at that man, what a what a failure. And I just I couldn't allow myself to do that.  16:07 - Sharing a significant parenting moment with his son. 22:01 - Quote from John Maxwell, "There's enormous magic in a tiny word, do. When we tell ourselves I'll do it, we unleash tremendous power. What is the number one catalyst for change? It's action. And if you take action, it will change your life."   23:13 - "I'll tell parents, you might not know what to do. You might say some things wrong, but do not bail. Don't walk away, don't.... ignore the issue. Pay attention to the right time and the right away, but stay in the battle. Don't just pretend there's not an issue. Don't pretend that it's going to fix itself . You might have to give it time to simmer down or whatever, but don't abdicate the responsibility of being a parent to the culture. You're the parent. God put you in that role for a reason and you might not know the exact thing to say or do.... but got to be there. You got to be present."    Episode Links:   Bob's book "Done With That"  Bob on Facebook Eagle Brook Church Final Message from Bob (March 2020) FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team   Conversation Transcript

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Bob Merritt   Bob Merritt led Eagle Brook Church for 28 years. He retired in March of 2020 and lives in White Bear, MN with his wife Laurie. He joins us for this 2-Part podcast conversation on fatherhood themes ranging from leadership blindspots to fatherhood insights learned from his dog Blue.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad 3:44 - Bob's daughter, Meg, shares reflections on her dad. 7:54 - The impact of dads bringing their families to church 11:35 - Deuteronomy 6 - "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts [parents]. Impress these things on your kids. Talk about them when you sit at home, when you walk along the road, when you lie down, when you get up ..." 12:37 - "So the question I would have for dads: Do you know God's word well enough? Are God's commands on your heart? Because you can't teach your kids what you don't have." 14:28 - "Pain, I think can lead to passion or pain can lead to passivity." - Jeff Zaugg 16:01 - "You know, life is full of pain. We all have it. But what I would say is that God doesn't cause that pain. Right. But God can help you heal from that pain and put you on a better path if you'll be willing to allow him to do that." 17:23 -  "Pain is a signal that something's wrong when it comes to life." 21:12 - "So if I've got an anger issue, but I'm not seeing it. Will I have enough humility so. Will I have enough strength, Jeff, to ask somebody, 'Hey, will you help me see some things in my life?' See it's a person of strength who's willing to admit I've got an anger problem or I've got a spending problem. People of weakness, will never admit they have an issue." 25:19 -  "You got to be humble enough and self-aware enough to know that we all have flaws and weaknesses, that if we could just get somebody to help us look at that, you know, it could just open the world to us." 28:02 - Deuteronomy 30 - "I've set before you life and death, blessings and curses now choose life so that you and your children may live."   Episode Links:   Bob's book "Done With That"  Bob on Facebook Eagle Brook Church Final Message from Bob (March 2020) FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript        

dadAWESOME   We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Troy Mangum   Troy Mangum is an author, speaker, podcaster (The Kindling Fire), and men's advocate. He is a Lumbee Indian tribal member. Troy lives in Raleigh, North Carolina with his wife Kathy. He has two sons, two daughters, and one son-in-law. A former YWAM missionary, hardcore punk singer, substance abuse counselor, busker, longboarder, exotic fruit farmer, vert skater, singer-songwriter, software engineering manager, traveling hitchhiker, and seminary dropout.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! 2:14 - Troy Magnum is author of Fatherhood Face Plants  3:50 - How to be a difference maker/fire starter. 4:29 - "There are so many men that are dads that are fatherless and and they need to know that they can become amazing, incredibly amazing fathers with God training them as father." 8:25 -  "So we all have a back story that God, if we're willing to let God take us there, he'll take your treasures out of you. That will be so deep and rich because it's a generations before you. It's not about you. It's about you inheriting something God put back way back in generations before you." 11:35 - "A lot of what the book is about is about, you know, that whole idea of getting back up and becoming the dad your kids need so much of the storyline with God is to get back up, to receive forgiveness, to seek reconciliation, to receive wholeness, to do whatever it takes to become a man that God wants you to be for your children and for your own self and marriage and et cetera. And so that is such a crucial crossing point because men so many times out of guilt and shame, they retreat and and the kids are just like, OK, I guess I guess this whole dad thing's over for you now, huh?" 13:04 - 1 Corinthians 1:27 - "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong." - But God.... 13:29 - Telling the story of a two year separation and then reconciliation with his wife. 15:04 - "You pass on as a dad, you pass on who you are more than what you know. You can know the right things to do. You can know the scriptures that say you should do this, you can know a lot of things, but you will pass on who you are..." 19:03 - A wall or wind - Are you going to be a wall your kids need to scale to get to what God has called them to be, or are you going to be wind in their sails? 21:50 - "You pass on who you are more than what you know you want to be the whole, the most whole, healed, healthy in every sense of the word, man that you can pass on." 22:29 - Stepping into the frontier and letting God teach the skills you need. ..."are you willing and aware that this is offered to you, this training module? You look in any scripture, any man in the Bible, you can say they went to training... And a lot of that training has to do with difficulty sometimes and challenges and putting yourself in the frontiers of 'I've never been here. I've never done this. I don't have the skill.' None of that intimidates God. And if you yield yourself to God, he will put you in situations that are above your head, above your pay grade, above your talent, above your skill intentionally to help you learn skills, talents, abilities, confidence, [so he can expand your influence.]"   Episode Links:   https://thekindlingfire.com/ Troy on Instagram Troy's Podcast: Apple Pod Troy's Book - Fatherhood Faceplants  FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript    

dadAWESOME We’re on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We’re passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God’s awesomeness.  | YouTube |  Instagram | Facebook | Twitter   Jeff Zaugg   Jeff and Michelle Zaugg recently celebrated 15 years of marriage. They live in New Brighton, MN with their 4 young daughters and their Goldendoodle Boomer. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he’s not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball.   FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS   —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/   Show Notes:   Text “DAD” to 651-370-8618 to join the text list and for all dadAWESOME day updates! Story of boat drifting Dark Alone Drifting Sinking Embarrassed Terrified Taking on water DRIFTING to DREAMING Definition of DRIFTING: to be carried along by currents of water or air, or by the force of circumstances... To wander aimlessly Drifting Lack of vision Lack of purpose Just trying to get through the day Numbing Stalled out Controlled by fear John 10:10 shows us the two options - DRIFTING vs. DREAMING The Thief comes to KILL, STEAL & DESTROY (Drifting) But I have come to bring ABUNDANCE… LIFE to the FULL” (Dreaming) Satan wants to kill, steal and destroy the work of God in your family, your work, your ministry, your friendships,your finances, your marriage, your parenting, and your health… The Thief (satan) wants you to be a DRIFTER. DRIFTING is a WIN for satan Remember our Bible Story? Saul was DRIFTING – he was the king and he was sitting under the pomegranate tree… (Meanwhile, Saul was taking it easy under the pomegranate tree) >> There were about six hundred men with him Jonathan was DREAMING – he was a CHANGE MAKER… As the son of the king, he had the option of relaxing like his dad. He could have played it safe… There is a Gravitational Pull towards Drifting. Our brains are wired to Avoid Pain... Limbic Cortex = Lizard Brain - ​​It’s in charge of fight, flight, feeding, fear, freezing up... The lizard brain is the source of the resistance Pain is One of the Primary reasons we DRIFT. Hurts, pains and past struggles lead us to avoid risk... PAIN >> Passivity… Pain can lead to PAUSE or a Plateau in our journey of trusting God. PAIN >> Passion & Purpose DREAMER - Kids don’t worry about constraints or limitations... They think with a filter of abundance and possibility Acts 2:17 “…God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people; your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams.” (Joel 2:28) Two Steps for each of us: We are going to Remember & Run Remember You Are a Child of God - it starts with your identity… You are a LOVED child of God. To live as a DREAMER, you must receive this gift and step into your identity as a Son of God… A Daughter of God Run! Throw off the Weight and Run! Hebrews 12:1 “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us” Pain leads to Passivity. Pain leads us to hit PAUSE on our DREAMS. The pain of our past has stolen our FREEDOM and we are looking through the little rearview mirror and over our shoulder at what should be behind us. The windshield of your life needs to be so much BIGGER than the rearview mirror Experience the healing that your Heavenly Father wants for you.   Episode Links:   YouTube Video of the entire Message - Drifting to Dreaming FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team