218 | The Stance of a Learner & The Relationship Baseball Dimond (Dick Foth PART1)

Mar 24, 2022

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"Why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?"

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Dick Foth

Dick Foth is an author, storyteller, and popular speaker. He holds a master’s degree from Wheaton College Graduate School and a doctorate from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. He and Ruth have invested the last twenty-five years working in the marketplace of business and government to encourage leaders in their personal lives. Dick also serves on the teaching teams of four congregations, including the multi-site National Community Church pastored by Mark Batterson in Washington, D. C.

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Show Notes:

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2:55 - Dick Foth reflecting on his 80th birthday (the day before the recording)
4:59 - "I think the I think that the the fact that we struggle along the way and learn by our struggles, that's the place people connect with us. People don't connect with my victories. People connect with my suffering"
7:07 - Story about friendships and asking other men to come with him to the hospital as a young pastor
8:29 - Relationship Baseball Dimond concept from (Lyman Coleman)
9:27 - First Base = history giving
11:05 - Second Base = affirmation
12:31 - Third Base = covenant, which is we do stuff together
13:34 - Fourth Base = know your dreams and hold you accountable for your dreams
14:15 - Why is our culture so lonely? (Jeff asks)
15:18 - Importance of the family dinner table
16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership
18:37 - Generational Observations about the state of fatherhood
19:00 - story of Dick's parents divorce
19:30 - powerful story of his father-in-law affirming Dick and offering to come along-side in early marriage.
20:15 - "when my father walked away, my father in law walked in."
21:03 - Observations that Dick is seeing in his son and sons-in-law -- "what I see in our our sons in law sends a lot and our son in terms of attention, paid time invested. They're not perfect. Clearly, I mean, who can be? But they're they're focused in a way I don't think I was."
22:30 - story about Dick's wife leaving him and saying she will never come back
23:30 - Assuming the stance of a LEARNER
23:46 - "I think I learned that I wasn't paying attention. I was paying attention to a lot of other things and people because of my drive to succeed. I think that was part, you know, I say, Well, I want to build a kingdom, but I don't know where build a kingdom and personally succeed, where that line is crossed. I don't know. You know, I think it's I think it's a mishmash, actually."
24:27 - Question from Dick's wife Ruth - "She said, why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?"
25:30 - "I need to reverse my priorities... it's the it's the idea of who, who is the person and or persons in my world who have covenant it with me."
16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership
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Links from Dick Foth:

Dick's Website (book, blog, videos, podcast) - https://www.known.fm/
Known: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World
Influence Magazine Article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting -- Turning meaningful experiences into life-changing adventures

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