
Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Latest episodes

Jul 5, 2023 • 1h 9min
115. Are Therapists Causing Harm When it Comes to Sexuality? with Raquel Savage
On today's episode, we have therapist, educator, and sex worker Raquel Savage (She/Her) join us for a conversation about the need for a more relationally focused world. Together we talk about the healing power of intimacy, the isolation of our existential existence, and talking shit about mental health system.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
PLEASURE PRACTICE: Looking for support with enhancing your sex life or exploring non-monogamy and open-relating? Nicole offers 1:1 support for designing the pleasurable life you deserve. Check out her offerings at: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Raquel's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/raquelsavage/
Equitable Care Certification : https://www.equitablecarecert.com/
Zepp Wellness : https://www.zeppwellness.com/about
Resources to Learn More:
Your Brain on Drugs: Marijuana : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oeF6rFN9org
Single-dose psilocybin for treatment-resistant obsessive-compulsive disorder: https://www.cell.com/heliyon/pdf/S2405-8440(22)03423-5.pdf

Jun 28, 2023 • 59min
114. Unlocking Potential: Embracing Your Intuitive Calling with Jasmine Prince
On today's episode, we have diversity, equity, and inclusion practitioner, educator, and business owner Jasmine Prince (She/Her) joins us for a conversation about being true to yourself. Together we talk about redesigning your life path as an adult, paying attention to the top five people you surround yourself with, and listening to the wisdom of the body.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
PLEASURE PRACTICE: Looking for support with enhancing your sex life or exploring non-monogamy and open-relating? Nicole offers 1:1 support for designing the pleasurable life you deserve. Check out her offerings at: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Jasmine's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/_jp_doesit/
Magnolia Penn : https://www.instagram.com/magnoliapennco/
Resources to Learn More:
Women who run with wolves : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780345396815
Synchronicity: Meaningful Patterns in Life : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGTbxUk0oK0&t=1309s

Jun 21, 2023 • 57min
113. The End of Faking Orgasms and Beginning of Prioritizing Pleasure with Kelly Gordon
On today's episode, we have Kelly Gordon (She/Her), join us for a conversation all about prioritizing our pleasure. Together we talk about remembering the historical context of women's sexuality, healing our inner child, and letting go of perfectionism.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
PLEASURE PRACTICE: Looking for support with enhancing your sex life or exploring non-monogamy and open-relating? Nicole offers 1:1 support for designing the pleasurable life you deserve. Check out her offerings at: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Kelly's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mskelgee/
With Not For : https://www.withnotfor.co.uk/
Hot Octopuss : https://www.hotoctopuss.com/
Resources to Learn More:
A Reflection on the History of Sexual Assault Laws in the United States : https://ualr.edu/socialchange/2018/04/15/reflection-history-sexual-assault-laws-united-states/

Jun 14, 2023 • 1h 24min
112. Basic Sex Ed As A Therapist Will Get You Fired? with Soleil Merroir
On today's episode, we have sex therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and sex worker Soleil Merroir (She/They) join us for a conversation about how structural oppression is embedded in psychotherapy. Together we talk about burnout in therapy under capitalism, building a new world of connected healing, and how basic sex education can get you fired.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Soleil's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/cyborgdreamz/
Equitable Care Certification : https://www.equitablecarecert.com/
Resources to Learn More:
Decolonizing Healthcare : https://bioneers.org/decolonizing-healthcare-addressing-social-stressors-in-medicine-ztvz1812/
School Avoidance Article : https://www.usatoday.com/in-depth/news/health/2023/05/15/school-avoidance-becomes-crisis-after-covid/11127563002/
Freud and Cocaine : https://psychcentral.com/health/freud-and-his-biggest-addiction#recap
Reversing Roe : https://www.netflix.com/title/80192834

Jun 7, 2023 • 1h 10min
111. The Ethical Argument Against Monogamy, and Becoming a Dominatrix with Mistress Sybil Fury
On today's episode, we have Mistress Sybil Fury (She/Her) join us for a conversation about harnessing the power of dominance. Together we talk about early kink memories in Catholicism, the risks of having only one erotic mirror, and Mistress Sybil Fury's fascist state.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Mistress Sybil Fury's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/sybilfury
Website: https://sybilfury.com/
Resources to Learn More:
Angela of Foligno : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angela_of_Foligno
What is a Wartenberg Wheel? : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfNz-wEfH-4
Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781479820252
Frantz Fanon : https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/frantz-fanon/

May 31, 2023 • 50min
110. MDMA, Ketamine, or Psilocybin Psychedelic Therapy and Pleasure? with Dr. Craig Heacock
On today's episode, we have Dr. Craig Heacock (He/Him) join us for a conversation about the future of psychedelic healing. Together we talk about the varying experiences of different psychedelics, exploring these medicines in our relationship to pleasure, and the importance of connecting to our bodies.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Craig's Community:
Back From the Abyss : https://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/
Resources to Learn More:
MAPS : https://maps.org/about-maps/
How to Change Your Mind : https://www.netflix.com/title/80229847
A potential role for psilocybin in the treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder : https://akjournals.com/view/journals/2054/4/2/article-p77.xml
Roles of β-Endorphin in Stress, Behavior, Neuroinflammation, and Brain Energy Metabolism : https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/22/1/338
A novel theory on the predictive value of variation in the β-endorphin system on the risk and severity of PTSD : https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/08995605.2020.1730111
Women and Madness : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781641600361

May 24, 2023 • 1h 24min
109. The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord and Finding Queer Belonging with Maxx Hill
On today's episode, we have artist Maxx Hill (They/Them, He/Him) join us for a conversation all about relationship customization within the practice of Relationship Anarchy. Together we talk about queering it up, the importance of finding love and belonging in community, and the discomfort of growth.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
Check out the Smorgasbord here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/109-the-relationship-anarchy-smorgasboard-and-finding-queer-belonging-with-maxx-hill
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Maxx's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/maxxhillcreates/
Gardening By the Moon : https://gardeningbythemoon.com/
Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/109-the-relationship-anarchy-smorgasboard-and-finding-queer-belonging-with-maxx-hill
Resources to Learn More:
Relationship Anarchy Manifesto : https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy
Gender Outlaws : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781580053082
Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781775111207
On "More Than Two" and #MeToo: How Should We Respond? : https://www.polyfor.us/articles/more-than-two-metoo-response
Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. : https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/

May 17, 2023 • 1h 2min
108. Exploring the Kinky Non-Monogamy and Vanilla Monogamy Sex Spectrum with Hannah Witton
On today's episode, we have sex educator and content creator Hannah Witton (She/Her) join us for a conversation about the passionate anger that fuels our advocacy for a sex education that deconstructs binaries. Together we talk about toxic monogamy culture, navigating sex after pregnancy, and the Madonna whore complex.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Hannah's Community:
Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/@hannahwitton
Podcast : https://open.spotify.com/show/2QgeByrS2LzOl6PVZ2bskD
Resources to Learn More:
Why Birth Control Pioneer Margaret Sanger Kept Getting Arrested : https://time.com/4065338/margaret-sanger-clinic-history/
How the Madonna-Whore Complex Still Reigns : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LuZAvmPKecE

May 10, 2023 • 1h 4min
107. Recovering from Spiritual Trauma through Psychedelics and our Inner Healing Wisdom with Kayla Felten
On today's conversation, we have psychedelic therapist Kayla Felten (She/Her) join us for a conversation about the healing journey of reclaiming our spirituality and intuition. Together we talk about how submitting to a male god has complicated dating, differentiating between our inner healing wisdom and trauma scripts, and tapping into the feminine divine.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. We have a private discord server, creating community and a space to talk the juicy topics covered in these episodes. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Kayla's Community:
Reclamation Collective : https://www.reclamationcollective.com/who-we-are
Resources to Learn More:
The Ancestor Project : https://www.theancestorproject.com
MYCOLOGY PSYCHOLOGY : https://www.mycologypsychology.com/
The harm reduction model of drug addiction treatment : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cfzkBGgxXGE

May 3, 2023 • 1h 4min
106. Pleasure Equity and the Last Big Taboo of Sexuality with Damian
On today's episode, we have sex educator Damian Weatherald (He/Him) join us for a conversation about the pleasure we all deserve. Together we talk about the taboo topic of sexuality for people with a disability, how American sex education is worse than other countries, and the medicine of laughter.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Damian's Community:
Instagram
Resources to Learn More:
Lad Mags : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lad_mag
Puritans (The Killjoys of History) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VayrvCkjANM
Make Love Not Porn : https://makelovenotporn.tv/
The Sex Lives of College Girls: https://www.hbomax.com/series/urn:hbo:series:GYXBzKw3n5aJmOwEAAAAE