Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Latest episodes
Sep 13, 2023 • 1h 24min
125. Unpacking the Political Nature of Relationship Anarchy and Non-Monogamy with Michelle Hy
On today's episode we have Michelle Hy (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about how larger systems impact our ability to love. Together we talk about how the personal is political, growing in relationships, and being turned on by the revolution.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Michelle's Community:
Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and share her experiences through an intersectional lens.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polyamorouswhileasian/
Website: https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/
Resources to Learn More:
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780061707810
The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy : https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy
The Relationship Escalator : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780998647012
Study finds that fear can travel quickly through generations of mice DNA : https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/study-finds-that-fear-can-travel-quickly-through-generations-of-mice-dna/2013/12/07/94dc97f2-5e8e-11e3-bc56-c6ca94801fac_story.html
Our children and grandchildren are shaped by the genes they inherit from us, but new research is revealing that experiences of hardship or violence can leave their mark too. : https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190326-what-is-epigenetics#:~:text=This%20sensitivity%20to%20cherry%20blossom,sensing%20the%20cherry%20blossom%20scent.
Sep 6, 2023 • 1h 20min
124. Play as Rebellion: Eco Sexuality, Kink Healing, and Somatic Connection with Elmo Painter-Edington
On today's episode, we have somatic therapist and relationship coach, Elmo Painter-Edington (she/her/fae/femme) join us for a conversation about the power of play. Together we talk about letting your weird light shine, listening to our bodies, bringing more absurdity in our lives, and sensually thriving.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Elmo's Community:
Elmo Painter-Edington is a Somatic Therapist, Empowerment Coach, and Life Artist whose role is to grant supportive space for people to be exactly who they are, and to remind people of their unique brilliance, no matter how flawed they feel inside.
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/weirdlight_coaching/
Website : https://www.weirdlightcoaching.com/
Resources to Learn More:
YouGov Data : https://today.yougov.com/topics/society/articles-reports/2020/01/31/millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-data
Sexual Desire and Relationship Duration in Young Men and Women : https://sci-hub.ru/10.1080/0092623x.2011.569637
The Heteronormativity Theory of Low Sexual Desire in Women Partnered with Men : https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8382213/
Play, Pain, and Religion : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781800500297
Polysecure : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781944934989
Female sexual function varies over time and is dependent on partner-specific factors: a population-based longitudinal analysis of six sexual function domains : https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27766993/
Long-term relationships may reduce women's sex drive : https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/314181
Women get bored with sex in long term relationships : https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/
Flower Video : https://www.instagram.com/p/CtfUYUaABD0/
Aug 30, 2023 • 1h 19min
123. Leather Dykes, 24/7 D/s Dynamics, and the Intimacy of Heavy Impact Play with BCT
On today's episode, we have queer butch leatherdyke Australian Dom and top, BCT (She/Her), join us for a conversation about the ever unfolding journey of leather sex. Together we talk about playing with gender, the transcendence of S&M, and exploring hot consent conservations.
BCT's Consent Sheet : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/123-leather-dykes-24-7-d-s-dynamics-and-the-intimacy-of-heavy-impact-play-with-bct
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
BCT's Community:
BCT is a queer butch leatherdyke Australian Dom and top who started exploring kink upon moving to NYC in 2011. Her primary relationship is a 24/7 D/s dynamic, in which she is the tyrannical Boss of the fictitious company where her service submissive is an exploited low-level employee. She is into heavy impact beatdowns, staging elaborate group scenes, and meeting kinky queers all over the world. In her more traditional work life, BCT is an operations, production, and digital communications specialist, having launched 500+ websites, videos, campaigns, events, change initiatives, and 3x startups. She co-founded Queer Healers, is a co-director of Kink Out (currently leads strategy and operations for both), and facilitates the Black Trans Lives Thrive giving circle
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/bridgetct/
Kink Out : https://www.kinkoutevents.com/
Queer Healers : https://www.queerhealers.com/
Resources to Learn More:
International Ms Leather : https://www.imslbb.org/
Leather Archives : https://leatherarchives.org/
Short Bus : https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0367027/
Lesbian Sex Mafia : https://lesbiansexmafia.org/
Aug 23, 2023 • 1h 13min
122. So, I Started Wearing My Purity Ring Again
On today's episode, we are celebrating my birthday with a special solo episode of empowerment. Together we explore my journey from the roots of evangelical purity culture to reclaiming the divinity of my sexuality. I appreciate you, dear listener, for tuning in each week and creating deeper community with me.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Resources to Learn More:
Raisin Meditation : https://mbsrtraining.com/mindfulness-exercises-by-jon-kabat-zinn/mindfully-eating-a-raisin-script/
Judith Herman Trauma and Recovery : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781541602953
Responsive Desire : https://www.lover.io/post/whats-your-desire-type
Aug 16, 2023 • 1h 1min
121. Beginning to Question Non-Monogamy and Queerness with Fadl Fakhouri
On today's episode, we have artist Fadl Fakhouri (He/Him) join us for a conversation about deconstructing society's narrative for our lives. Together we talk about the elusive nature of queerness, learning to love ourselves in relationships, and throwing away the manual to create your own relationship garden.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Fadl's Community:
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/fadlfakhouri/
Website : https://fadlfakhouri.com/
Art Show : http://www.thevisualist.org/2023/08/double-blessings/
Resources to Learn More:
Microdosing : https://psychedelicsocietysf.org/?ref=5
Spirit Pharmacist : https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/
New Love Euphoria Mimics Effects of Crack Cocaine : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201609/new-love-euphoria-mimics-effects-crack
The Romance Myth : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5WPDUIk4VW0
Aug 9, 2023 • 1h
120. How About We Make Love, Not Porn? with Cindy Gallop
On today's episode, we have founder and CEO of Make Love Not Porn Cindy Gallop (She/Her) join us for a conversation about authentic pleasure. Together we talk about the need for real consent conversations, the social sex revolution, and the barriers to sharing adult content.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Cindy's Community:
Make Love Not Porn : https://makelovenotporn.tv/
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotporn
Resources to Learn More:
Money Shot: The Pornhub Story : https://www.netflix.com/title/81406118
Aug 2, 2023 • 1h 29min
119. Sex and Drugs Are Gonna Save the World with Britta Love
On today's episode, we have somatic sex educator, writer, and healer Britta Love (She/Her) join us for a conversation about the power of deeply embodied pleasure. Together we talk about dismantling systems through community, the vulnerability of expressing desire, and radical consent practices.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Britta's Community:
Website : https://brittaloved.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/brittaloved/
Strike for Pleasure : https://strikeforpleasure.com/
Resources to Learn More:
Making Love Not War: The Wild Sexual World of Bonobos : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb5MwTIV0Wc
Camilla Power : http://radicalanthropologygroup.org/people/camilla-power/
Novel treatment of opioid use disorder using ibogaine and iboga in two adults : https://akjournals.com/view/journals/2054/4/3/article-p149.xml
María Sabina : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mar%C3%ADa_Sabina
INSIDE THE MOVEMENT TO DECOLONIZE PSYCHEDELIC PHARMA : https://proto.life/2020/10/inside-the-movement-to-decolonize-psychedelic-pharma/
How to Play the 3-Minute Game : https://bettymartin.org/how-to-play-the-3-minute-game/
Jul 26, 2023 • 1h 7min
118. Dating A.I.? Exploring Intimacy Under Capitalism with Laura Mae Northrup
On today's episode, we have psychotherapist and author Laura Mae Northrup (She/Her) join us for conversation exploring how capitalism affects intimacy. Together we talk about the power of community, identifying shared frustrations under capitalism across political ideologies, and staying in connection for transformative growth.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Laura's Community:
Website : https://www.lauramaenorthrup.com/
Inside Eyes Podcast : https://insideeyes.libsyn.com/
Resources to Learn More:
Eden's Last Chance : https://www.edenslastchance.com/
Why American Healthcare Is The Worst In The Developed World : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wO1IoKN0AkY
Hollow Water : https://www.nfb.ca/film/hollow_water/
U.S. Health Care from a Global Perspective, 2022: Accelerating Spending, Worsening Outcomes : https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2023/jan/us-health-care-global-perspective-2022#:~:text=Introduction,than%20residents%20of%20peer%20countries.
Jul 19, 2023 • 57min
117. Playing with the Pleasure of Your Gender Magic with Rae McDaniel
On today's episode, we have non-binary gender and sex therapist and author, Rae McDaniel, (They/Them) join us for a conversation about embracing more play and pleasure. Together we talk about the beauty of chosen family, following your expansion, and when labels become a box.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Rae's Community:
Gender Magic : https://www.gendermagic.com/
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/theraemcdaniel/
Resources to Learn More:
Mycelium : https://www.netflix.com/title/81183477?source=35
No Longer Survival of the Fittest : https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23397797/
Jul 12, 2023 • 1h 8min
116. How Conversations About Our Vaginas Will Bring Radical Pleasure with Lindsay Wynn
On today's episode we have co founder and CEO of Momotaro Apotheca, Lindsay Wynn (She/Her) join us for a vulnerable conversation about authentic liberation. Together we talk about having sex in a Hot Spring, finding empowerment in vulnerable conversations, and connecting to radical pleasure.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Lindsay's Community:
Momotaro Apotheca : https://momotaroapotheca.com/
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/lovemomotaro/
Resources to Learn More:
Nonviolent Communication : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781892005281
The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
Joyful Militancy : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781849352888
The Spectrum of Privilege : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5gZ3PHYU3U
Radical Ecstasy : https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/503940
