Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Latest episodes
Nov 22, 2023 • 1h 7min
135. Just Another Old, Married, Non-Monogamous Love Story with Kyros
On today's episode, we have Kyros (He/Him) join us for an exploration of their non-monogamy journey. Together we talk about how polyamory is about so much more than sex, learning you can love multiple people, and normalizing polyamory through authenticity.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Nov 15, 2023 • 1h 13min
134. Healing From the Grooming of Purity Culture with Dr. Rachel Smith
On today's episode, we have clinical psychologist Dr. Rachel Smith (She/Her) join us for a conversation about recovering from purity culture. Together we talk about missing the out on the condom on a banana lecture, moving from performance to pleasure, and learning to play again.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Dr. Rachel Smith's Community:
Purity Culture Recovery Group : https://www.agavechicago.com/groups
Resources to Learn More:
The 7 Most Popular, and Powerful, Sexual Fantasies : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202107/the-7-most-popular-and-powerful-sexual-fantasies
Come As You Are : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781982165314
Leaving the Fold : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781933993232
The Relationship between Purity Culture and Rape Myth Acceptance : https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b9488d731d4df9d904e6031/t/611e5ed6f546e07cb98eb8d8/1629380311389/Relationship+between+Purity+Culture+and+Rape+Myth+Acceptance.pdf
The Body is Not An Apology : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781523090990
Better Sex Through Mindfulness : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781771642354
Sex for One : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780517886076
Sex, God, and the Conservative Christian Church : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781138674981
Pleasure Activism : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781849353267
Pure : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781501124822
Succulent Wild Woman : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781668001219
Better Sex Through Mindfulness : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781771642354
Podcasts Resources:
https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/come-as-you-are
https://intimacywithease.com/category/better-sex/most-popular/
Articles/Newsletters:
https://estherperel.com/blog/eroticism-self-care-plan
https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/post/how-the-purity-movement-causes-symptoms-of-sexual-abuse
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/03/purity-culture-evangelical-church-harms-women/618438/
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/06/us/abstinence-pledge-evangelicals.html
https://emilynagoski.bulletin.com
Instagram Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/
Nov 8, 2023 • 1h 21min
133. Mystical Drug Experiences, Connection, and Existentialism With Dr. Nick Beller
On today's episode, we have psychologist Dr. Nick Beller (He/Him) join us for a conversation exploring our relationship to drugs. Together we talk about navigating the moral gatekeeping of systems, how drugs can provide connection, and the importance of engaged presence.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/133-mystical-drug-experiences-connection-and-existentialism-with-dr-nick-beller
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Nick's Community:
Nick Beller, PsyD, CADC, is a doctor of clinical psychology discussing the importance of challenging systems in higher education and in American healthcare.
LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicholas-beller-ma-cadc/
Resources to Learn More:
Falling In Love Hits The Brain Like Cocaine Does : https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/205973#1
Suicides in the U.S. reached all-time high : https://www.nbcnews.com/health/mental-health/cdc-data-finds-suicides-reached-time-high-2022-rcna99327
Rat Park : https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong/transcript
The Hero's Journey : https://www.ted.com/talks/matthew_winkler_what_makes_a_hero?language=en
Play, Pain and Religion : https://www.equinoxpub.com/home/play-pain/
Nov 1, 2023 • 1h 10min
132. Creating New Patterns of Pleasure: Sex, Relationships, and Psychedelics with Juliana Rose
On today's episode, we have somatic sex educator and psychedelic integration coach Juliana Rose (She/Her) join us for a conversation about the embodied experience of pleasure. Together we talk about being tangled in the web of early childhood patterning, creating a space for pleasure to land, and co-creating with psychedelic medicines.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/132-creating-new-patterns-of-pleasure-sex-relationships-and-psychedelics-with-juliana-rose
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Juliana's Community:
Website : https://www.boldlyembodied.com/
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/boldlyembodied/
Pleasure Journal : https://mailchi.mp/03fb2d309c9f/bwl4ihcqnj
Oct 25, 2023 • 1h 9min
131. Coming Home to Our Sensual Embodiment and Open Hearts with Sarah White
On today's episode, we have pleasure rebel Sarah White (She/Her) join us for a conversation exploring the activism of connecting with our bodies. Together we talk about playing with alchemy, getting curious about our discomfort, and creating a new world.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Sarah's Community:
Sarah White is an artist and mother who finds the revolution in birthed within connection to the nervous system, land, sensuality, and mindfulness.
Website : www.neonsoul.co
Personal Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/aquariussunvenus/
Studio for Healing Arts : https://www.instagram.com/nuneurostudio/
Youtube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3CAKOR-4W0
Oct 18, 2023 • 1h 36min
130. Relationship Anarchy vs. Libertarianism: Beyond the Status Quo with Mel Cassidy
On today's episode, we have Mel Cassidy (They/Them) join us for a conversation about creating a world beyond the status quo of relationships. Together we talk building your relational garden, tuning into the wisdom of our bodies, and finding secure attachment in community.
RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Mel's Community:
Mel is relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who works with queer and questioning people — and those who love them, and is a relationship anarchist who practices Solo Polyamory!
Website : https://radicalrelationshipcoaching.ca/
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating/
Monogamy Detox : www.monogamydetox.com
Resources to Learn More:
Normal marital hatred is real. Here’s what to do about it. : https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/09/23/marriage-relationships-conflict/
What is Learned Helplessness? | Kati Morton : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wA9VEsR2SFg
Dr. Ayesha Khan : https://www.ayesha-khan.com/
Oct 11, 2023 • 1h 18min
129. Deep Sex-Positivity for the Political Liberation of Our Pleasure with Dr. Carol Queen
On today's episode we have pleasure activist and cultural sexologist Dr. Carol Queen, Ph.D (She/They) join us for a conversation about embracing the diverse world of sexuality and relationships. Together we talk about how the values of anarchism intersects with our pleasure, pop sex-positivity vs deep sex-positivity, and how we need to work both within and against the systems.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Carol's Community:
Carol Queen PhD is a writer, cultural sexologist, theorist of deep sex-positivity, Good Vibrations Staff Sexologist, and the co-founder and director of the Center for Sex & Culture in San Francisco.
Twitter: https://twitter.com/carolqueen
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolqueenphd/
FB public page: https://www.facebook.com/carolqueenauthor
Website: www.carolqueen.com
Good Vibrations : https://www.goodvibes.com/content/c/good-vibrations-sexologist-carol-queen
Resources to Learn More:
BDSM Versus the DSM : https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/bdsm-versus-the-dsm/384138/
BDSM related fantasies were found to be common (40-70%) in both males and females, while about 20% reported engaging in BDSM: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2019.1665619#:~:text=BDSM%20related%20fantasies%20were%20found,20%25%20reported%20engaging%20in%20BDSM.
Exhibitionism for the Shy : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780940208353
Go the Way Your Blood Beats: On Truth, Bisexuality and Desire : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781910924716
Oct 4, 2023 • 1h 16min
128. What's Your Cage?: Drug Use Pleasure Enhancement and Harm Reduction with Irina Alexander
On today's episode, we have harm-reduction therapist and co-founder of Alchemy Community Therapy Center, Irina Alexander (She/Her), join us for a conversation about the need to deconstruct the messaging we have been sold about drugs and step into a research-backed understanding. Together we talk about how larger systems impact our drug use, the importance of community connection, and coming out of the psychedelic closet.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Irina's Community:
Irina is a co-founder and Clinical Director of Alchemy Community Therapy Center (alchemytherapy.org), a sliding scale psychedelic therapy clinic in Oakland, as well as a street-based harm reduction therapist with the Harm Reduction Therapy Center in San Francisco. Irina has a long history in direct service work, and believes in the healing capacity of showing up for each other, individually and as a community. She feels passionate about making psychedelic healing services more equitable and accessible to underserved communities. Irina has volunteered for several years as a supervisor with the Zendo Project, and is currently also working as an Adherence Rater for MDMA Clinical Trials.
Ketamine Therapy Provider Training : https://www.alchemytherapy.org/licensedtraining
Alchemy Community Therapy Center: https://www.alchemytherapy.org/
Resources to Learn More:
Sana Healing Collective : https://sanahealingcollective.org/
Rat Park : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY9DcIMGxMs&t=14s
Drug Decriminalization in Portugal : https://fherehab.com/news/portugal-lowest-drug-rate#:~:text=Portugal%3A%20The%20Country%20with%20the%20Lowest%20Drug%20Overdose%20Rates
Dr. Carl Hart : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781101981665
Stages of Change : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VVyhhMzWkiU
Motivational Interviewing : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9iBPeZjjuYU
Sep 27, 2023 • 1h 6min
127. Every Breath Can Be an Orgasm: Intimacy, Social Justice, and Somatics with Caffyn Jesse
On today's episode, we have queer elder and sacred intimacy teacher, Caffyn Jesse (They/She) join us for a conversation about the power of ecstasy practices. Together we talk about loving all of our parts, our limited understanding of orgasm, and refusing the regime of normal with fierce outrage.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Caffyn's Community:
Caffyn Jesse is a queer elder, sacred intimate, teacher and writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic.
Intimacy Educator : https://intimacy-institute.teachable.com/p/intimacyeducator
Resources to Learn More:
Internal Family Systems : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DdZZ7sTX840
Window of Tolerance : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNVlppGz0zM
Sep 20, 2023 • 1h 27min
126. Navigating the Risks of Kink and Edge Play with Dr. Elisbeth Sheff
On today's episode, we have sociologist Dr. Elisabeth Sheff (She/Her) join us for a harm-reduction and pleasure-enhancement conversation for navigating the risks of kink. Together we talk about the needed for explicit and evolving consent conversations, learning through community best practices, and when kinky sex goes wrong.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Dr. Elisabeth Sheff's Community:
Dr. Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff is the foremost academic expert on children in polyamorous families and specializes in sex and gender minorities in her research, expert witness, and relationship coaching practices.
Website : https://elisabethsheff.com/
Blog : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door
Bonding Project : https://www.bondingproject.com/
Resources to Learn More:
No level of alcohol consumption is safe for our health : https://www.who.int/europe/news/item/04-01-2023-no-level-of-alcohol-consumption-is-safe-for-our-health
Alex Honnold : https://films.nationalgeographic.com/free-solo
MDMA- Therapy : https://www.nature.com/articles/s41591-023-02565-4
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom : https://ncsfreedom.org/
Who Was the Marquis de Sade? : https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/who-was-marquis-de-sade-180953980/
BDSM related fantasies were found to be common (40-70%) in both males and females : https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2019.1665619#:~:text=BDSM%20related%20fantasies%20were%20found,20%25%20reported%20engaging%20in%20BDSM.
69% of the general population had fantasies about BDSM-related activities : https://academic.oup.com/smoa/article/7/2/129/6956474
