
Modern Anarchy
Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in?
For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com
Latest episodes

Apr 26, 2023 • 1h 3min
105. Healing through Kink with Chaney Williams
Activation Warning: Discussion of Sexual Assault
On today's episode, we have birthwork and writer Chaney (She/They) join us for a conversation all about the transformative healing journey of exploring kink. Together we talk about virginity coins, being completely unaware that you are kinky, and stepping into radical embodiment.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Chaney's Community: Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/theintersectionaldoula/
Resources to Learn More:
What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9781580053440
Study shatters the myth that BDSM is linked to early-life trauma: https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/bdsm-psychology-trauma/
Human Playground : https://www.netflix.com/title/81122619

Apr 19, 2023 • 1h 22min
104. From Serial Monogamy to Polyamory and The One Penis Policy with Chad from PolyamFam
On today's episode, we have Chad (He/Him) from PolyamFam join us fo a conversation all about the wild learning journey of non-monogamy. Together we talk about the one penis policy, designing your own relationship structures, and the pitfalls of open-relating.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast
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Polyam's Fam:
Website : https://polyamfam.com/
Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/c/polyamfam
Resources to Learn More:
Sexual Desire and Relationship Duration in Young Men and Women : https://sci-hub.ru/10.1080/0092623x.2011.569637
Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it : https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/
Monogamy Is In Its Flop Era. Women And Femmes Are Leading What’s Next : https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/alessadominguez/why-women-choose-nonmonogamy
Polyamory By the Numbers : https://www.advocate.com/current-issue/2016/1/08/polyamory-numbers?amp=
Are Women More Into Polyamory Than Men? : https://jezebel.com/are-women-more-into-polyamory-than-men-1795171754/amp
One-third of Americans say their ideal relationship is non-monogamous: https://today.yougov.com/topics/society/articles-reports/2020/01/31/millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-data
National Survey Reveals Generational Differences in Consensual Non-monogamy: https://ifstudies.org/blog/national-survey-reveals-generational-differences-in-consensual-nonmonogamy-
Sex at Dawn: https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780061707810
Infographic: A New Look at Monogamy Across the Animal Kingdom: https://www.the-scientist.com/infographics/infographic-a-new-look-at-monogamy-across-the-animal-kingdom-70044
Marital Rape Laws: https://ualr.edu/socialchange/2018/04/15/reflection-history-sexual-assault-laws-united-states/

Apr 12, 2023 • 1h 9min
103. Year Two: The Queer, Kinky, Non-Monogamous Sex Educator Bringing Fire and Fury
On today's episode, we are celebrating the two year anniversary of the podcast with a special reflection episode with my dear friend, Dan (He/Him). Together we talk about the divine intervention of meeting a kinky person, the uncomfortability of emotions, and embracing the full human experience.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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To Learn More:
The Kinky Female Mind: Why Women Fantasize About Rape and BDSM
Kinsey sex doc: What I learned by asking more than 4,000 Americans about their sexual fantasies
The first FDA-approved medication with an antisuicide indication was clozapine for schizophrenia.
Clozapine Side Effects
Rare Side Effect of Clozapine: Neuroleptic Malignant Syndrome
Ketamine Nasal Spray Is A New Antidepressant Option For People At High Risk of Suicide
Ketamine used to treat severe depression in patients with a history of psychosis does not exacerbate psychosis risk, new research suggests.
currently available literature does not support the assumption that ketamine will exacerbate psychotic symptoms in predisposed patients
Effects of Ketamine in Normal and Schizophrenic Volunteers
Money Shot: The Pornhub Story | Official Trailer | Netflix
Mindfulness-based stress reduction is as effective as an antidepressant drug for treating anxiety disorders, study finds
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction vs Escitalopram for the Treatment of Adults With Anxiety Disorders: A Randomized Clinical Trial
Symptom severity and exclusion from antidepressant efficacy trials
Initial Severity and Antidepressant Benefits: A Meta-Analysis of Data Submitted to the Food and Drug Administration
The drugs don’t work? antidepressants and the current and future pharmacological management of depression
antidepressants are effective against chronic, moderate and severe depression. They don't help in mild depression.
Antidepressants No Better Than Placebo for About 85% of People
Inappropriate prescribing
Study shatters the myth that BDSM is linked to early-life trauma
The Psychology of Kink: a Survey Study into the Relationships of Trauma and Attachment Style with BDSM Interests

Apr 5, 2023 • 1h 12min
102. Contraception, Psychedelics, and Psychopharmacology with Andi Rose and Jaycee
On today's episode, we have traditional birth keepers and community herbalists Andi Rose (She/Her) and Jaycee (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about radical holistic healing under capitalism. Together we talk about the healing nature of plants and herbs, the lack of informed consent in medicine, and being understandably upset with our current social conditions.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Andi and Jaycee's Community:
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Resources to Learn More:
Serotonin Is Not Linked with Depression
We Still Don’t Know How Antidepressants Work
Mindfulness-based stress reduction is as effective as an antidepressant drug for treating anxiety disorders, study finds
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction vs Escitalopram for the Treatment of Adults With Anxiety Disorders: A Randomized Clinical Trial
Exercise and Antidepressants were Equally Effective
"Antidepressants are effective against chronic, moderate and severe depression. They don't help in mild depression."
Serotonin and brain function: a tale of two receptors
SSRI Reduces Negative Effects of Psilocybin, With No Impact on Positive Mood Effects in Study
With Promise of Legalization, Psychedelic Companies Joust Over Future Profits

Mar 29, 2023 • 1h 42min
101. What's Wrong with the Field of Psychology? Liberation Psychology with Dr. Daniel José Gaztambide Nuñez
On today's episode, we have Dr. Daniel José Gaztambide Nuñez (He/Him) join us for a conversation all about liberation psychology. Together we talk about the neoliberal tilt of psychology today, the mobius strip of how social conditioning affects our ability to love, and how speech is always relational and political.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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A People's History of Psychoanalysis
Resources to Learn More:
Möbius strip
What is deep canvassing?

Mar 22, 2023 • 24min
100. Masturbation Meditation #3: Pussy Breathing
On today's episode, we are celebrating the 100th episode with a special masturbation meditation. Slow down and connect with all the pleasure that is possible in your body with this quick 10 minute meditation.
**Meditation begins at 9:04**
For all of you listeners that continue to tune in each week, from my full heart I want to wish you the deepest thank you. Thank you for joining me on this journey of expansion and growth. I look forward to all the things we will explore together. Sending you so much love!
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
Website
Instagram
Patreon
Resources to Learn More:
Mindfulness-based stress reduction is as effective as an antidepressant drug for treating anxiety disorders, study finds
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction vs Escitalopram for the Treatment of Adults With Anxiety Disorders: A Randomized Clinical Trial
Brief Mindfulness Meditation Induces Gray Matter Changes in a Brain HubState and Training Effects of Mindfulness: Meditation on Brain Networks Reflect Neuronal Mechanisms of Its Antidepressant EffectSelf-Medication for Chronic Pain Using Classic Psychedelics: A Qualitative Investigation to Inform Future ResearchFinding the divine within: exploring the role of the sacred in psychedelic integration therapy for sexual trauma and dysfunction

Mar 15, 2023 • 1h 3min
99. So, I Need To Have More Kinky Sex? Burnout, Passion, and Systematic Change with Karla Scherf
On today's episode, we have therapist Karla Scherf (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about having patience for larger systematic change. Together we talk about the balance between activism and self-care, having faith in the unfolding process, and following your passion.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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Best Therapies
Resources to Learn More:
Young TikTok Users Quickly Encounter Problematic Posts, Researchers Say
Social Media, Thin-Ideal, Body Dissatisfaction and Disordered Eating Attitudes: An Exploratory Analysis
The Stanford Prison Experiment Was One of the Most Disturbing Studies Ever
Asch Conformity Experiment
Beyond the Cliff | Laura van Dernoot Lipsky | TEDx
Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others

Mar 8, 2023 • 1h 1min
98. The Transformation of Kink and Surrogate Partner Therapy: Safety, Honesty, and Play with Brandon Hunter-Haydon
On today's episode, we have sex educator and surrogate partner therapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon (He/They) join us for a conversation about challenging the status quo to bring about sexual liberation. Together we talk about the healing nature of kinky play, the human need for physical touch in intimacy, and navigating the complexities of fighting for truth.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Resources to Learn More:
*the official DSM 5 statistic on Female Orgasm Disorder has an upper estimate of prevalence at 42% of women*
What is Transference and Counter-Transference?
What is Transference And Why It Matters?
International Professional Surrogates Association
Surrogate Partner Therapy Support Group
Surrogate Partner Collective
Women and Madness

Mar 1, 2023 • 54min
97. Hope for Ending the Generational Trauma with Amber Underwood
Activation Warning: Suicide
On today's episode, we have therapist and author Amber Underwood (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about the power of healing yourself first. Together we talk about the strength of saying we are not okay, the relational core of our mental health, and the expansion process of healing.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
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Resources to Learn More:
Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development
The Secrets of EMDR Therapy and How It Can Help You
Relational-Cultural Theory: Fostering Healthy Coexistence Through a Relational Lens
All about Love: New Visions

Feb 22, 2023 • 1h 3min
96. Modern Revolutions: Politicized Healing Under Racial Capitalism with B Stepp
On today's episode, we have somatic coach B Stepp (They/Them) join us for a conversation all about politicized healing under racial capitalism. Together we talk about healing our shame, the construction of the self, and boundaries as an invitation to more rather than less.
If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend!
And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith
Modern Anarchy Community:
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B's Community:
Instagram
Website
Resources to Learn More:
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Mirror Neurons: The Mind's Mirror