
Do You F*cking Mind?
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak.
And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change - exclusively an audiobook - at https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
Latest episodes

Nov 21, 2024 • 23min
378. Head Noise - Dealing with siblings who cannot accept you are gay, putting up with a persistent ex and MORE
Happy Head Noise day! On today's episode I am delving deep into your AMAZING voice messages. We go over: How to navigate wanting to maintain a relationship with nieces and nephews when the sibling does not accept you are gay. Navigating your first secure relationship where everything is healthy, and knowing if its just safe of if you really love them. Dealing with an ex who cannot take no for an answer. Thank you for sending in your voice messages, and if you want to send one in, go to www.dyfmpod.com to submit yours or if you want to send in your email questions send yours in to info@dyfmpod.com DANKE. Danke! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Nov 19, 2024 • 6min
FOCUS: 10 things you should know about yourself
Dive into self-awareness and learn to embrace vulnerability by confronting your avoided feelings. Discover powerful exercises to boost self-love and identify your unique daily non-negotiables. From personal rituals like meditation to quality time, this discussion inspires you to establish essential practices that elevate your well-being. Plus, there's a spotlight on an exciting language learning program to enhance your skills while nurturing your spirit. It's all about knowing yourself better!

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Nov 18, 2024 • 30min
377. 5 tools to quickly stop yourself from spiralling
Discover five simple and actionable steps to regain control when emotions start to spiral. Learn about the crucial link between vitamin B and mental health, and how including nuts in your diet can bolster your mood. Explore the importance of acknowledging feelings and celebrating small achievements to manage overwhelm. You'll be inspired to set holiday goals and embrace new language learning as a means of cultural connection. These strategies promise a path to emotional empowerment and clarity.

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Nov 14, 2024 • 33min
376. HEADNOISE How to deal with partner's outbursts, retroactive jealousy AND how to know when to actually take that leap of faith. - Head Noise
This conversation dives into tackling partner outbursts and how to handle jealousy tied to past relationships. Insights on transitioning from anxious to secure attachment reveal the importance of self-love and reflection before making decisions. The discussion also emphasizes navigating fears in decision-making and analyzing worst-case scenarios for personal growth. Plus, it touches on the unique challenges of maintaining relationships with partners who have ADHD, stressing the need for open communication and self-care.

Nov 12, 2024 • 8min
FOCUS: This is why you struggle with acceptance
Explore the powerful role of acceptance in personal growth and coping with life’s challenges. Discover how unresolved feelings like jealousy can hinder self-improvement. Learn to recognize emotional clues that signify struggles with acceptance, promoting awareness. The conversation emphasizes that true acceptance is crucial for healing, while highlighting the pitfalls of denial. Embrace acceptance to transform your responses to adversity and foster proactive life changes.

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Nov 10, 2024 • 44min
375. Hyper-independence - your coping mechanism / trauma response. How to turn it into healthy independence instead
Explore the intricacies of hyper-independence as a coping mechanism rooted in trauma, contrasted with healthy independence. Delve into the science behind motion sickness and how our brains adapt to discomfort. Hear personal stories of love bombing and the struggle for vulnerability in relationships. Discover pathways to transforming hyper-independence into a balanced life filled with genuine support and self-kindness. It's a journey of healing, insight, and embracing connection.

Nov 7, 2024 • 32min
374. HEADNOISE How do I repair a friendship? + How to get over when someone leaves you for "bad timing" - Head Noise
This conversation dives into the complexities of friendship and love. It explores strategies for repairing broken friendships and emphasizes the importance of self-care during emotional upheavals. Anxiety related to relationships is a hot topic, especially feelings of distress and existential fears. The discussion encourages listeners to prioritize their own needs and self-worth, while also addressing the challenge of moving on from relationships that didn’t work out due to 'bad timing.' Prepare for a mix of self-reflection and practical advice!

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Nov 7, 2024 • 33min
PART 2. Your voicemails. I'm addicted to Limerence, How do I stop night time phone use, Fear of missing out on the big life experiences + More.
Listener voicemails spark a lively dialogue about nighttime phone habits and the addictive nature of digital life. The discussion shifts to navigating relationships and limerence, reflecting on how personal desires can conflict with commitments. Insights on overcoming addiction in relationships emphasize growth through open communication. The episode also distinguishes between anxiety and intuition, stressing the need to recognize calm instincts over frantic fears. Real-life anecdotes enrich the conversation, making it relatable and engaging.

Nov 5, 2024 • 10min
FOCUS: Motivation to get sh*t done
Explore effective strategies for boosting motivation and self-discipline, including the power of rising early and maintaining focus. Discover how to overcome obstacles and build healthy habits through self-belief. Rethink your views on success, emphasizing dedication over luck while recognizing your personal potential. Challenge the myth of luck, as consistent effort takes center stage in achieving your goals, advocating for perseverance over temporary inspiration.

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Nov 3, 2024 • 46min
373. What is your default mode network? & how you can reset it
Explore the fascinating Default Mode Network of the brain and its influence on creativity and emotional regulation. Discover the nuances between being nice and truly good, and how social media impacts relationship choices. Learn how mindfulness and creative practices can transform self-criticism and promote presence. Delve into the ways anxiety and mood disorders affect cognitive processes, while uncovering strategies to manage emotional health. It's an enlightening journey into understanding the mind!
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