Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Episodes
Mentioned books
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Jan 27, 2026 • 26min
Raising Can-Do Kids
A look at a viral toddler video sparks a conversation about letting children struggle to build agency and resilience. The host shares a four-step response sequence to encourage perseverance without taking over. Practical tips cover waiting, offering emotional presence, brief direction, and minimal help as kids work through frustration.
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Jan 20, 2026 • 30min
Separation Anxiety, Meltdowns... The Solution Is Often in Our Face
Discussing the intertwining emotions of parents and children, the host highlights how fear can amplify a child's anxiety. She explores separation anxiety, emphasizing that it's a natural phase of development. By encouraging emotional expression, children can build confidence. Instead of preventing meltdowns, observing and allowing feelings can aid in processing emotions. The importance of parental self-care is stressed, as it helps avoid reinforcing a child’s distress. Ultimately, being a calm anchor amidst emotional storms is key to effective support.
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Jan 13, 2026 • 26min
Lost in Transition - How Changes Affect Our Kids' Behavior
The discussion dives into how toddlers and young kids often struggle during transitions. Janet highlights the importance of understanding children's sensitivities, which can lead to meltdowns, especially at bedtime. She offers practical advice on setting loving boundaries with peers and managing friendships that overwhelm kids. The challenges of moving from cribs to beds for twins are also explored, with tips on making transitions smoother. Throughout, Janet encourages parents to view situations through their children's eyes to better support them.
Jan 6, 2026 • 37min
The Year to Stop Doubting Yourself
This conversation dives deep into parental self-doubt, urging caregivers to trust their instincts as they navigate challenges. Janet addresses a mom struggling with a toddler's transitions, suggesting firm yet caring boundaries. Another parent grapples with playfulness amid the chaos of raising multiple kids, and Janet reassures her that presence matters more than forced fun. Lastly, she tackles rudeness in a child after family changes, offering compassionate solutions to help ease transitions and foster understanding.
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Dec 30, 2025 • 24min
Can We Be Sad or Angry And Still Be Unruffled?
Exploring the reality of parenting emotions, the discussion highlights the struggle of staying calm amidst toddler chaos. Janet elaborates on being 'unruffled' as understanding, not suppressing, feelings. She emphasizes the importance of perceiving children's struggles with empathy, rather than reacting with frustration. Practical tips include stepping away to calm down and reflecting on personal triggers. The episode also addresses the challenge of handling rejection from toddlers and the misconception that children can fulfill adult emotional needs.
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Dec 23, 2025 • 23min
Threats and Bribes Aren't Very Helpful (What to Do Instead)
A parent struggles with bribing and threatening her young child for cooperation, feeling guilty about boundaries. The discussion highlights how such tactics undermine trust and intrinsic motivation. A strong relationship is deemed essential for encouraging cooperation, while bribes often create an adversarial dynamic. Janet emphasizes the importance of compassionate leadership and suggests setting clear but kind limits. Routines and involving children can improve collaboration, ultimately building a more respectful family atmosphere.
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Dec 16, 2025 • 30min
Finally! A One-Size-Fits-All Approach to Our Kids' Behavior
Parenting can often feel overwhelming, especially when faced with a child's meltdowns. A parent shares her struggles with her nearly four-year-old's intense behavior, leading to discussions on interpreting such outbursts as signs of emotional overwhelm. Janet emphasizes the importance of understanding a child's need for support, rather than engaging in power struggles. She advocates for a universal approach to addressing children's needs with empathy, suggesting that calm, proactive support can guide kids through their emotional challenges.
Dec 9, 2025 • 29min
3 Secrets to Raising Grateful Kids
Raising kind and grateful kids can be a challenge, especially when they seem perpetually dissatisfied. A mom expresses her frustration about her young sons' lack of appreciation for gifts and outings. The host explores how children's heightened sensitivities may mask gratitude. Suggestions include slowing down to help kids settle, observing their play instead of directing it, and allowing them to process their feelings after excitement. Authentic empathy is key to nurturing appreciation and helping kids focus on the positives.
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Dec 2, 2025 • 32min
The Best Response to Our Children's Turbulent Emotions
Parents explore the maze of their children's emotions, from a toddler rejecting comfort during meltdowns to a child feeling unloved amidst sibling rivalry. Janet emphasizes trusting feelings to foster resilience and calm within the family. She advises on how to handle tantrums without letting them dictate the family's routine. Modeling calmness rather than instructing children to calm down is discussed, as well as the importance of validating emotions for stronger connections.
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Nov 25, 2025 • 29min
How to Boost Your Child's Self-Confidence
The discussion dives into boosting children's self-confidence by fostering a positive self-image. Janet emphasizes the importance of allowing kids to navigate their feelings instead of trying to fix them. She addresses listener concerns about children feeling 'stupid' and encourages validation of their emotions. High sensitivity to embarrassment is explored, highlighting the need for parents to trust their child's emotional journeys. Ultimately, the conversation revolves around nurturing resilience and self-trust for lasting confidence.
