Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast

In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I interview Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in dealing with sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and addiction. Geoff is the creator of the Courageous Together program and the co-author of 'Love You, Hate the Porn.' We delve into the intricacies of overcoming betrayal trauma induced by pornography, the importance of full disclosure, and why traditional marriage counseling often fails in these scenarios. Geoff also explains the stages of healing and how couples can rebuild trust and intimacy. This conversation is filled with hope, accountability, and practical steps for everyone struggling with or supporting someone in recovery from compulsive behavior.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:14 Meet Geoff Steurer: Expert in Betrayal Trauma01:46 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships03:36 Geoff's Journey into Betrayal Trauma Therapy04:05 The Evolution of Internet and Sexual Betrayal09:33 Understanding the Dynamics of Betrayal19:05 The Role of Shame and Secrecy in Betrayal27:49 Healing and Rebuilding Trust in Relationships31:55 The Importance of Professional Guidance in Disclosures32:33 Early Tasks for the Betrayed Partner33:53 The Timeline for Rebuilding Trust35:32 The Role of Truth and Empathy38:23 Learning to Sit with Discomfort42:03 Understanding the Betrayed Partner's Perspective45:13 The Potential for Growth and Healing47:39 Common Misconceptions About Recovery53:53 Introducing the Courageous Together Program57:49 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with Geoff Steurer📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebieLinktree: https://linktr.ee/geoffsteurer🎙️ Podcast: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149040329🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of Unhooked, I share a podcast conversation I had with Roland Cochran, originally aired on The Successful Addict Podcast. We dive into practical approaches to self-mastery, focusing on overcoming compulsive behaviors and the pursuit of external validation, and explore what it takes to truly feel fulfilled. Our discussion covers topics like mindfulness, neuroplasticity, integrity, and finding genuine happiness. Roland and I share our personal journeys and insights to help high achievers build a life they're proud to live, looking at everything from scientific and pragmatic perspectives to questions of identity and purpose.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:04 The Journey to Self Mastery02:02 Introducing Jeremy Lipkowitz02:22 Understanding Self-Mastery and Mindfulness04:28 Personal Stories of Self Mastery12:27 The Science of Decision Making21:51 The Realm of the Hungry Ghosts27:34 The Bliss of Blamelessness28:32 The Importance of Integrity29:23 Addressing Hidden Behaviors30:27 Consequences of Ignorance34:03 Envisioning a Better Future35:56 Mindfulness and Craving38:06 The Addiction to Admiration38:43 The Value of Hard Work43:31 Self-Mastery and Emotional Awareness52:33 Starting Your Journey to Self-Awareness55:22 Connecting with Jeremy LipkowitzConnect with Roland Cochrun📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rolandcochrun/🌍 Website: https://rolandcochrun.com/🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sex-addiction-podcast-for-high-achievers/id1757165206🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of the Unhooked podcast, I dive deep into the science of dopamine and addiction with special guest Mike Long, co-author of 'The Molecule of More.' Mike explains how dopamine drives addictive behaviors such as porn addiction and serial dating, and stresses the importance of finding pleasure and meaning in the present moment. Our conversation also covers practical tools and steps grounded in neuroscience to help break free from the cycle of craving and dissatisfaction. Mike shares insights on the difference between pleasure and happiness, the role of dopamine in our evolutionary biology, and the necessity of creating a balanced and meaningful life. If you’re struggling with addiction of any kind, this episode offers valuable perspectives and actionable advice.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:25 Meet the Expert: Mike Long on Dopamine03:11 Understanding Dopamine: The Molecule of More05:32 The Role of Dopamine in Addiction09:05 The Craving Trap: Why Addiction Persists14:01 Dopamine's Dual Nature: Desire and Control Systems18:56 Modern Challenges: Dopamine in the 21st Century25:26 Signs of an Unhealthy Dopamine System30:05 Breaking Free: Tools to Overcome Addiction35:40 Overcoming Personal Struggles36:31 Holistic Approaches to Dopamine37:53 Addressing Addictive Behaviors40:35 The Dopamine Trap43:10 The Three A's of Porn Addiction44:03 The Great Decoupling47:11 Finding Meaning and Happiness54:48 Practical Steps for Recovery01:02:24 Final Thoughts and EncouragementConnect with Mike Long📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikewritesha/🌍 Website: https://mikelongonline.com/https://mikelongonline.com/molecule-of-more/https://www.amazon.com/Molecule-More-Chemical-Creativity_and-Determine/dp/1946885118https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Molecule-More-Step-Step/dp/1637746091🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode, join my conversation originally aired on Read Between The Signs podcast.We delve into the misconceptions around porn addiction, its subtle yet profound impacts on relationships, intimacy, mental clarity, and physical health. I share my personal journey of overcoming a problematic relationship with porn and emphasizes the importance of community, mindfulness, and vulnerability in the recovery process. We also discuss the societal normalization of porn, the three A's of porn addiction (Affordability, Accessibility, Anonymity), and the role of shame in keeping people stuck in unhealthy habits. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation with valuable insights and practical advice on breaking free from addiction and living a healthier, more fulfilling life.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Overcoming Shame and Taking Responsibility01:58 Defining Addiction and Its Misconceptions05:47 Personal Journey and Realization07:38 Impact of Porn on Relationships and Health13:09 The Three A's of Porn Addiction15:53 Navigating Conversations About Porn in Relationships23:23 The Role of Shame in Addiction24:57 Understanding Post-Orgasm Clarity27:07 The Vicious Cycle of Shame and Addiction30:04 Common Emotional Triggers for Porn Addiction32:43 Spirituality and Mindfulness in Recovery36:01 Daily Habits for Overcoming Addiction39:34 The Future of the Porn Industry43:18 Final Thoughts and Advice for Those StrugglingConnect with Read Between The Signs Podcast📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/readbetweenthesigns_🌍 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/readbetweenthesigns🎙️ Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/read-between-the-signa🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode, join my conversation originally aired on The George Peterson podcast. I share my journey of addiction and recovery, from childhood coping mechanisms to achieving inner peace. We dive into the psychology and neuroscience of porn addiction, the impact of trauma, and the Buddhist concept of the Hungry Ghost. I discuss techniques to break free from shame, rewire the brain, and cultivate equanimity for lasting emotional resilience. Join us as we explore the nature of craving, contentment, and the quest for true inner fulfillment.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction: The Realization of Unhappiness02:26 Jeremy's Childhood and Early Coping Mechanisms04:06 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact06:43 The Onset of Addiction and Realization09:08 The Struggle with Porn Addiction13:19 Sexual Energy and Healthy Relationships26:02 The Neuroscience of Addiction and Recovery37:42 The Realm of the Hungry Ghosts38:43 Understanding Addiction and the Search for Happiness40:04 The Role of Trauma in Addiction40:34 Healing Pain and Finding True Happiness44:41 The Journey into Buddhism and Meditation45:28 The Power of Silent Retreats46:59 Cultivating Inner Peace and Contentment56:06 The Importance of Community in Recovery01:04:40 Overcoming Obstacles and Staying Mindful01:07:47 The Power of Awareness and Conscious Choice01:13:21 Concluding Thoughts and Future ConversationsConnect with George Peterson📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgespeterson_meditation/🌍 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/georgespeterson_meditation🎙️ Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/thegeorgepetersonpodcast/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-george-peterson-podcast/id1478940931🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of Unhooked, I am joined by Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, a couple with extensive experience in helping couples heal from sexual addiction and betrayal. The Raabsmiths share their personal journey, practical advice for both individuals and couples, and how trauma manifests in relationships. We discuss the importance of honesty, the long-term commitment to recovery, and the roles of personal and relational healing. They'll also discuss their framework for rebuilding intimacy and trust, and provide actionable steps for overcoming compulsive behaviors and deepening relationships.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Personal Struggles00:56 Meet the Hosts and Guests02:36 Deep Dive into Relational Healing04:27 Starting the Conversation on Addiction07:38 Personal Stories of Addiction and Recovery19:48 The Importance of Honesty in Recovery29:31 Understanding the Addict's Perspective30:00 Healing from Betrayal Trauma30:40 The Impact of Trauma Triggers31:35 Relearning to Trust Your Gut33:33 The Role of Community and Support35:27 Navigating Different Upbringings and Expectations41:46 The Importance of Empathy and Understanding47:08 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with The Raabsmiths📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/🌍 Website: https://raabsmithteam.com/https://raabsmithteam.com/free🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of Unhooked I share my new obsession: the HYROX Fitness Challenge.You'll learn:What HYROX is and how the competition worksWhy Jeremy decided to sign up (spoiler: it started on a whim!)The powerful ways a fitness challenge can fuel your recovery — from reigniting motivation to building resilience against discomfortHow facing physical challenges can mirror the emotional skills needed for long-term recoveryWhy community, cardio, and commitment are game-changers for personal growthA behind-the-scenes look at Jeremy’s recent HYROX simulation results — and what he’s aiming for in his next raceWhether you’re in recovery or just looking for a new way to push yourself, this episode will inspire you to find your next growth edge.--------🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro🔹 Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Connect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comTimestamps00:00 Introduction to the High Rocks Fitness Challenge02:22 What is High Rocks?04:16 The High Rocks Race Explained06:51 Why I Signed Up for High Rocks08:11 Benefits of High Rocks for Recovery14:17 My High Rocks Results and Future Plans16:43 Encouragement to Take on a Fitness Challenge17:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, I discuss the profound impact of shame on addiction, specifically focusing on porn addiction. I share personal insights and practical steps to break free from the cycle of shame, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, impermanence, recognizing one's goodness, and seeking community. Drawing from my extensive experience as a mindfulness trainer and coach, I provide valuable strategies to help you combat unhealthy compulsive behaviors and find true freedom. Tune in to learn how to alleviate the burden of shame and take actionable steps towards overcoming addiction.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Shame01:47 Podcast Updates and Personal Insights04:38 The Core Topic: Understanding Shame08:16 Practical Steps to Overcome Shame12:33 The Role of Community and Connection14:55 Healthy vs. Toxic Shame17:24 Conclusion: Final Tips and Farewell

In this episode of Unhooked, I delve into the concept of neuroplasticity and its crucial role in overcoming porn addiction. I share my personal journey with addiction and discuss how understanding neuroplasticity offered me a pathway to recovery. I explain how our thoughts and actions shape our brain's structure and function, emphasizing the importance of cultivating positive thought patterns through meditation. I also highlight the consequences of reinforcing negative pathways and provide actionable strategies to rewire the brain for greater happiness and fulfillment. Don't miss this insightful discussion on how to harness the power of neuroplasticity for lasting change.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Neuroplasticity and Porn Addiction00:57 MysPersonal Journey and Realization01:57 Understanding Neuroplasticity03:44 The Impact of Thoughts on Neural Pathways07:27 The Role of Meditation in Rewiring the Brain09:39 Practical Steps to Cultivate Positive Thought Patterns13:14 Conclusion and Coaching Offer

In this episode of Unhooked, I engage in a deep and insightful conversation with sexologist and sex coach Taylor Johnson. Taylor shares his personal struggles with porn addiction, premature ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction, and the transformative practices he discovered to overcome them. We discuss the prevalence of shame around sexual issues among men and the importance of open dialogue in addressing these challenges. Taylor introduces listeners to the concept of 'integrative semen retention' and emphasizes the need for intentionality and lifestyle practices to manage sexual energy. We offer practical tips, exercises, and mindsets to help men improve their sexual health and overall well-being. This episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to create a healthier relationship with their sexuality and harness their sexual energy for personal growth and creativity.🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/introConnect with Jeremy:🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.comJeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/Timestamps:00:00 The Struggle with Porn Addiction01:10 Introducing Taylor Johnson03:43 Taylor's Journey to Sexual Health09:30 The Power of Semen Retention16:17 Integrating Sexual Energy into Daily Life30:58 Overcoming Shame and Embracing Sexuality39:22 Understanding the Deeper Psychology of Attachment40:02 Exploring Metaphorical Semen Retention42:25 Practical Tips for Managing Sexual Energy43:40 Starting with Semen Retention: A Guide for Beginners48:23 Integrating Sexual Energy into Daily Life01:01:34 Intentional Ejaculation and Post-Ejaculatory Practices01:06:06 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with Taylor Johnson:📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson/🌍 Website: https://www.taylorjohnson.life/links/🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taylorclarkjohnson🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-upgraded/id1614256864Sex Transmutation Explained: https://youtu.be/Uvz-gXx1O8M?si=CNwe03OEIQ9jtFvw🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!