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Millions of men struggle with premature ejaculation, but we RARELY talk about the reality of the struggle, and that's a problem. The impact on our lives and relationships can be massive and debilitating...For example, men who regularly struggle with premature ejaculation might also experience:Low self-worthLow self-confidenceHigh sexual shameHigh sexual anxietyIsolationHopelessnessDepressionPorn addictionOther addictions as coping mechanisms...IN THIS EPISODE...I'm joined by my friend Banks, who is currently struggling with premature ejaculation. We decided to have a raw and vulnerable conversation about this specifically for the podcast - because we thought it could be a great service to men and their partners around the world.It's extremely rare to hear two men talk openly about struggles like this... and you'll hear the vulnerability and tenderness when you listen.Thank you Banks for doing this. I'm grateful, and I can't fully imagine the potential fear and/or discomfort that might be present when choosing to speak openly and publicly about an active challenge like this. THANK YOU!OUR FOLLOW-UP INTERVIEW WILL HAPPEN IN 10-12 WEEKSAs an exchange for having these conversations, I've given Banks enrollment in the current round of my Orgasmic Mastery Course. It's a 10-week journey for men to completely overcome premature ejaculation, master their sexual energy and thrive - so they can create the sex lives (and entire lives) that they want.In 10-12 weeks, after Banks goes through this course, we're going to have an honest follow-up conversation to see how (and if) anything has changed. My belief and hope is that things will massively change for him over these next 10 weeks - IF he does the practices and exercises in the course. It's always up to the man to create the change he wants.Time will tell... :DBanks is one if the Co-Founders of the New Moon Brotherhood: a community of men that gather on the new moon to honor the darkest night of the month, and the darkness within. They provide a brave space for men to open their hearts in the spirit of brotherhood, helping  men turn inward to open to their power rather than enforcing power over others. In our conversation, Banks referenced a TEDx video that talked about the power of self-pleasuring in front of a mirror. The talk was given by Emily Nagoski, and you can check it out here: Confidence and Joy are the Keys to a Great Sex Life. IT IS POSSIBLE TO OVERCOME PREMATURE EJACULATION!Just a quick note of encouragement - it is 100% possible to cure premature ejaculation naturally and have the sex life you want. It just takes consistent effort over time. Reach out if you need help.-Taylor-----------------------RESOURCESORGASMIC MASTERY COURSEInstagram: @taylorclarkjohnsonYoutube ChannelWebsiteFREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control Guide---------------------Episode Music: “Pink Dolphins” (Numatic Remix)Written bySupport the show

It takes 66 days to form a habit...  and you'll need strong self-discipline and willpower to do it. The problem is most of us are killing our ability to have strong willpower. How? Willpower is a FINITE resource, and if we don't take good care of our physical, emotional and spiritual health, our willpower reserves disappear.Crappy lifestyle = low willpower.Low willpower = bad habits.Bad habits = low success.Low success in life = you can imagine.*Your life right now is the result of the thousands of tiny decisions and habits you've made up until this point. Your life 1 year from now will be the direct result of all the habits and decisions you make between now and then. CHOOSE WISELY!---------------------THIS EPISODE IS THE END OF SEASON 1!And I want to say thank you to everyone who has tuned in so far. This has been an awesome journey, and to be real, it has taken a lot more time and energy than I thought it would. I've needed to take some time to reflect on the previous episodes - to figure out how I want to move forward.Happy to say that this podcast will continue, but I'm only going to create new episodes when true inspiration hits. I'm not going to share episodes weekly just for the sake of being on a production schedule. And that being said...The next episode is pretty wild (at least I bet you've never heard anything like it before).---------------------THE NEXT EPISODE...The first episode of season 2 will be VERY unique & raw. It's a vulnerable conversation with a friend of mine who's currently struggling with premature ejaculation (and all the shame, pain and identity issues that come with it).Most men feel alone with this... but the truth is millions of men are silently struggling. And when we don't talk about it, when we push things down, we're actually hurting ourselves - and hurting our ability to create and have the sex lives we want.It's incredibly rare to hear two men having a real, down to earth conversation about challenges in the sexual realms... We decided to record our conversation to shine light on the reality of the struggle, and I think we all need to hear this.  Check out the next episode, and let me know what you think.Thank you!-Taylor -----------------------RESOURCESORGASMIC MASTERY COURSEInstagram: @taylorclarkjohnsonYoutube ChannelWebsiteFREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control Guide---------------------Episode Music: “Pink Dolphins” (Numatic Remix)Written by: Tony Moss/Sunny Solwind/Shireen Jarrahian/David Brown Remixed by: NumaticSupport the show

Jah Sun, founder of the 30-Day Tantra Challenge, dives into the fascinating world of semen retention and its impact on men's sexual mastery. He discusses the benefits and potential dangers, emphasizing that intentional practice is key. Jah also highlights the sacred nature of ejaculation and introduces concepts like non-ejaculatory orgasms and prostate pleasure. In this insightful conversation, he reinforces the importance of community and self-care in enhancing men's sexual health, while challenging traditional views on masculinity.

How do pornstars last so long?  Just how fake is porn? What happens behind the scenes? Join male pornstar Erik Everhard and I in a fascinating discussion about all things porn vs reality.Erik Everhard is a male porn star turned men’s coach, who has over 20 years of professional experience in the porn industry. He estimates that he has had sex with over 5000 women, which is absolutely mind-blowing to me. He brings a super unique perspective to sex and life that we can all learn something from. How to last longer, how to overcome performance anxiety, and how to get an erection on command are just a few of the topics we go into.This is my favorite episode of the podcast so far. If you like it too, please share this with a friend! We all need to be having the porn vs reality discussion.EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS03:51 How long do you have to last for a porn shoot?06:09 What would Erik tell his younger self about sex?13:00 Does sexual chemistry matter between pornstars?23:50 Mental performance & sexual performance32:15 How to get an erection anytime you want44:23 Presence is everything in sex48:50 The reality of anal sex in porn1:02:02 What is the impact of porn? Is porn unhealthy?CONNECT WITH ERIKErik’s WebsiteErik’s Course: Crushing Performance AnxietyErik’s Instagram: (@erikeverhardofficial)RESOURCES FROM TAYLOROrgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelFREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideSupport the show

If you’re curious about Conscious Kink & BDSM, and you want a simple set of tools to help you explore this with your partner, this episode is for you. Kimi Inch is a somatic therapist, professional Kink & BDSM expert, and professional dominatrix, who loves helping people explore and heal their sexuality. I first met Kimi at a Tantra festival last year where she taught a workshop on Conscious Kink. I went, and had my mind blown by some of the exercises we did. Thanks for that Kimi. :)If you’re someone who wants to explore kinky things with your partner, this episode is for you. You’ll learn some easy conversation tools & techniques to make it easy for you to explore these realms. (And remember, the main thing that makes something kinky is your own subjective feelings around the act itself). One person’s kink is another person’s vanilla. I hope you enjoy! And as always, if you like the episode, please share it with a friend.Episode Times & Topics:08:43 What is kink?10:39 Do kinks come from our childhood? Are they bad?22:42 Is the “good girl” kink an unhealthy expression?30:48 How to begin your own kink journey45:31 Surprise - Kimi guides Taylor through an exercise53:03 Dominance & Masculinity59:10 Shame & MasculinityConnect with Kimi InchKimi’s Instagram Kimi’s Website (for the Kink Checklist)Connect with Taylor:Orgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelFREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideSupport the show

Mushrooms and plants can be our allies to help us thrive in a society that doesn’t support optimal health. The philosophy and magic of Daoist tonic herbalism is here to help - with herbs for better sex, and herbs for a better life in general. This conversation is more of a casual hang out and discussion of life and sex, and I want to give you that heads up in case you’re coming here in search of a clearly outlined educational lecture on the topic of herbs for better sex. It’s not that… even though we do hit that topic really well in the last quarter of the episode. :)Mason Taylor is the founder of Superfeast, an international company (with a branch in the USA) that helps bring high-quality tonic herbs to people around the world. I personally take the Jing mixture almost every morning as part of my morning ritual, and you’ll hear me talk about why in the episode. If you visit the Superfeast store, use the code EROSRISING for a discount on everything.Episode Times & Topics:08:33 Who is Mason Taylor?17:51 Using herbs to protect yourself from illness and other deficiencies 21:04 The epidemic of exhaustion in today’s society23:41 How does “Jing” energy express in daily life?29:50 What are ways men lose Jing?33:17 Can herbs cure erectile dysfunction? 39:58 Men And longevity with herbs and sex energy45:69 What is Daoist tonic herbalism? (How does it work?)51:40 Tonic herbs for better sex & life in general1:04:45 Learn to listen deeply to lifeMason Interviews Me on the Superfeast Podcast:Semen Retention, Premature Ejaculation & Self-LoveMen’s Sexual & Mental HealthEducational Resources from the Superfeast Website:7 Sexy Benefits of ShisandraThe Top Adaptogens for MenThe Benefits of AshwagandaAs always, if you like this episode please share it with a friend. Thank you! I hope you have a beautiful rest of your day.-TaylorConnect with Mason Taylor & SuperfeastSuperfeast’s Instagram Superfeast’s USA Website Mason Taylor’s InstagramConnect with Taylor:FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideOrgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelTaylor’s WebsiteSupport the show

If you want to understand male pelvic floor health, you’ll get a LOT out of this interview. It’s deeply informative and thought provoking, and I learned a lot during the interview too. Dr. Susie Gronski is a pelvic floor physical therapist who specializes in helping men overcome pelvic pain and other pelvic problems like erectile dysfunction, pelvic tightness, prostate inflammation, premature ejaculation and more. (Episode times & topics below).So if you’ve ever wondered if you can break your penis, or if you can do too many Kegels, this episode is for you.We even talked about how emotions get stuck in the pelvic floor, anal pleasure, anal healing and prostate inflammation from the practice of semen retention. Dr. Gronski recommends the use of anal toys for pleasure & healing too, and if you want to explore those I put together a guide of the best anal toys for men. Side note, if you're someone who wants to overcome premature ejaculation and last longer in bed, check out my article & podcast about what causes premature ejaculation. It'll give you a good understanding of why PE happens, and will give you some great techniques to fix it tooEPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:03:40 Why did Dr. Susie get into men’s pelvic health?07:16 Sexual health as integrative medicine11:47 Why men come to see Dr. Susie Gronski18:51 Can you break your penis?23:00 The myth of men “needing to be hard instantly”24:05 Understanding erectile dysfunction33:23 Emotional healing through anal (personal story)42:19 Where to find a pelvic floor physical therapist or sex therapist 49:05 Can you do too many kegels?50:54 Premature ejaculation from too many kegels?55:45 Semen retention and pelvic pain?1:07:40 Nitric oxide and erection strength?As always, if this episode has been helpful for you, please leave a review and share it with a friend. Thank you!-TaylorConnect with Dr. Susie GronskiSusie’s WebsiteSusie’s InstagramSusie’s Youtube ChannelConnect with Taylor:FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideOrgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelTaylor’s WebsiteSupport the show

This episode is a truly wild personal story that’s still hard to believe it actually happened. I chose sexual abundance over scarcity/anger, and it changed the entire outcome of my night. This story really is one of the wildest dating experiences I’ve had. One night in Asheville, I had to decide how I would respond to a stimulus that was potentially very challenging/triggering. Part of my system wanted to get angry, but I took a breath, paused, centered myself, and chose a different option.The saying “freedom comes in the moment between stimulus and response” refers to the fact that you can always be at choice with how you respond to external stimuli. Instead of reacting with autopilot behavior, you can give yourself freedom by taking a pause after a challenging thing happens. In that pause, you can CHOOSE how to react. Anger might not always be your best option. In this story, I chose something different…And my choice turned into one of the most surprisingly delightful evenings I’ve had while being a single guy in the dating world. It’s still one of my favorite stories to tell too. I hope it’s thoroughly entertaining for you. :)As always, if you like this episode, please share it with a friend!Thank you.-TaylorCONNECT WITH TAYLOR:FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideThe Orgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelTaylor’s WebsiteCONNECT WITH JON HANDELMAN:Jon’s WebsiteSupport the show

This is the story of how I had my first amazing threesome. (I had many bad ones before this). In this episode you’ll learn how to have a threesome, how to avoid bad threesomes, how to talk about threesomes, AND you’ll get an awesome technique to actually begin a threesome too.YOU CAN HAVE AN AMAZING THREESOME TOO!You might think that because I’m a sex coach, I’ve had the most amazing sex life for many years. A sex life full of all kinds of threesomes, while getting all of my fantasies met. Not true. Remember that people often go into a profession that they desperately needed to improve in themselves. That was me. I used to be a sexual mess. (I’ve done a lot of work since then).In this episode you’ll hear a mix of personal story with practical action steps you can take if you want to have a threesome too. One of those important steps is communication. You have to talk about it. Use this framework: The Better Sex Conversation. (FYI There are images on that page that are not safe for work. In fact, I don’t recommend looking at any of my content on any work-related device).If this episode is helpful for you, please share it with a friend!Thank you.-TaylorEPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:01:50 Are there bad threesomes?04:02 Threesomes are a very common fantasy07:09 Is it toxic for men to want a threesome with two women?08:55 Threesome VS Play Party (Sex Party)11:09 How I initiated this threesome15:25 Should you drink alcohol to take the edge off?16:30 The helpful conversation framework (how to avoid landmines)23:50 Why it’s important to have this conversation26:24 How to begin a threesome (we played rotational dom)33:57 What’s the first step to having a threesome?CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:FREE 7-Day Semen Retention ChallengeFREE Ejaculation Control GuideThe Orgasmic Mastery CourseTaylor’s InstagramTaylor’s Youtube ChannelTaylor’s WebsiteCONNECT WITH JON HANDELMAN:Jon’s WebsiteSupport the show

Explore the transformative impact of men's groups on personal growth and the importance of authentic connection and vulnerability. Learn how to start and structure a men's group, and hear personal stories from experiences in men's groups. Delve into emotional vulnerability, societal pressures on male physical intimacy, and the liberation of expressing emotions. Express gratitude and encouragement for sharing and reviewing.