Your Body Remembers Pleasure

What if arousal and pleasure weren’t “inappropriate”… but powerful markers of health?In this richly embodied conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Dr. Saida Desilets — pioneering teacher of sacred sexuality and creator of the Embodied Psychosexual Method — to explore sexual sovereignty, erotic innocence, and the body’s capacity to heal through pleasure, breath, and deep attunement.Saida shares the astonishing origins of her life’s work: from a childhood rooted in natural sensual connection, to surviving violence, to being told at age twenty she had only two weeks to live — and the radical path of choosing life, reclaiming vitality, and rebuilding her relationship to desire from the inside out.Together, we explore how shame disrupts the body’s natural aliveness, why relaxed arousal is the foundation of true intimacy, and how rewilding in nature can restore the pre-verbal sensual intelligence that makes us more connected lovers and humans.This episode bridges:embodiment • sexuality • nervous system wisdom • pleasure-based healing • and the wild intelligence of the bodyInside this conversation:• Saida’s origin story and how her life force became her teacher • What “sexual sovereignty” actually means — beyond the buzzword • Why arousal and pleasure can be normalized as wellness indicators • The difference between performance sex and relaxed arousal • Erotic innocence: reclaiming turn-on without shame or meaning-making • How wilderness rewilding restores sensual attunement and presence • Why leaning into discomfort in intimacy can transform into deeper pleasure • Breath as the simplest daily practice for reclaiming aliveness • “Yum vs. yuck”: training attention as a pathway to more vitality • What it really means to “marinate in your own essence”Learn more about Saida’s work:Embodied Love University + Dare Your Desire + Desire and The Emergence of the Sensual WomanMore resources and writings on sexual embodiment:rahichun.comIf this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review is a simple way to help this work reach more people.

What if your sexuality was never broken — only buried?In this expansive conversation, somatic sexuality coach Victor Warring explores the process of “rewilding eros” — reconnecting with the innate erotic intelligence we’re all born with before shame, culture, and conditioning taught us to disconnect.Drawing from his work in somatic psychology, grief work during the AIDS epidemic, and sexological bodywork, Victor shares why grief and pleasure are inseparable, how shame limits our erotic capacity, and why reclaiming your aliveness is a radical act of healing — and even activism.We explore:the connection between grief and erossexual shame and “upper limits” to pleasureerotic sovereignty and owning your desirehow culture domesticates our bodies and sexualitycreating an erotically alive home and communitywhy healing is subtractive (removing conditioning, not fixing yourself)erotic embodiment as activismpractical ways to expand your pleasure ceiling safelyThis episode is an invitation to remember: your erotic nature isn’t something to learn — it’s something to uncover.Learn more about Victor’s work at RewildEros.comMore resources and writings: rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

What if your deepest wounds could become the doorway to your greatest healing?In this powerful conversation, Rahi Chun sits with somatic sex educator, pelvic care provider, and birth worker Katie Spataro to explore how the body itself can initiate us into sacred work through grief, birth, trauma, and pleasure.Katie shares her extraordinary personal journey — from miscarriage and spontaneous ritual… to an unexpectedly orgasmic birth… to nearly a decade of supporting survivors of childhood sexual trauma through somatic, pelvic, and erotic healing practices.Together, they explore the profound connection between birth, sexuality, grief, and pleasure — and how tending the pelvis can unlock deep nervous system healing and reclaim embodied power.Inside this episode:• What an orgasmic birth really is (and why birth is inherently erotic) • Miscarriage, grief rituals, and womb healing • How trauma is stored in the pelvic floor and fascia • Somatic pelvic and prostate bodywork as activism and healing • Why pleasure is medicine for the nervous system • Prostate and anal care through a therapeutic, trauma-informed lens • Community healing for survivors of sexual trauma • The role of consent, touch, and attuned presence in deep repair • How grief and pleasure are portals into one anotherThis conversation is tender, grounded, and radically hopeful — an invitation to trust the body’s wisdom and remember that healing doesn’t happen by forcing… but by feeling.Learn more about Katie’s work:SacredWombServices.comExplore Rahi’s somatic sexuality resources:Rahichun.comIf this episode touched you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming their bodies.

Why do so many people long for deeper pleasure and intimacy — yet feel blocked, disconnected, or unable to receive?In this grounded and illuminating conversation, somatic intimacy guide Darna Avila shares how trauma-informed somatics and consent practices create the foundation for true erotic liberation.Together, we explore how nervous system safety, regulation, and clear boundaries open the door to authentic desire, deeper connection, and more expansive pleasure. Darna introduces her four phases of erotic liberation — regulation, receiving, allowing, and expressing — and explains why many of us, especially women and AFAB bodies, have been conditioned to people-please, overgive, and disconnect from our own needs.We talk about:the link between trauma and sexual shutdownthe fawn response and people-pleasing in intimacywhy receiving pleasure can feel unsafethe Wheel of Consent and clear communicationrebuilding trust in the bodyreclaiming desire and erotic sovereigntypleasure as a source of power and activismhow personal healing supports collective liberationThis episode is an invitation to slow down, listen inward, and remember that your pleasure is not selfish — it’s life force.More resources and writings: rahichun.com. darshanaavila.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

In this episode, I’m joined by Ali Mazza, a sexologist and somatic therapist with 40+ years of experience, to explore a deceptively simple method that reveals what’s been shaping your intimacy from underneath your awareness.We begin with Family Constellations Therapy—a powerful group process that exposes hidden family dynamics—and then dive into Ali’s unique innovation: Personal Geometry. Using post-it notes, objects, and spatial mapping, Ali helps clients externalize their inner relational landscape—so patterns around porn, orgasm, commitment, heart–sex splits, and emotional enmeshment become visible, movable, and transformable in real time.If you’ve ever felt like your “sexual issue” isn’t actually about sex—this conversation will land.In this episode, we explore:What Family Constellations are, and why “representatives” can feel what they don’t intellectually knowHow Personal Geometry maps unconscious relational dynamics in minutesWhy “addiction” often functions as support, protection, or avoidance—and how mapping reveals the functionThe heart–sexuality split: what it is, why it happens, and how it shiftsHow inhibition and performance blocks grow from cultural expectations—and what honesty unlocksWhy somatic work can sometimes reveal in one session what years of talk therapy can’t accessLearn more: Ali’s work and trainings can be found at alimezey.comMore resources and writings: rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Dr. Charlie Glickman has been in the sex education field for over 35 years—and he’s one of the most grounded, compassionate educators I know. In this episode, we explore embodied anal play: how to approach anal pleasure in a way that’s safe, consent-based, trauma-informed, and genuinely enjoyable—with the goal Charlie names best: everyone ends with a smile.We talk about why the myth that “anal sex has to hurt” persists, what porn leaves out (warm-up, lubrication, pacing), and how breath and nervous system regulation change everything. Charlie shares simple, practical guidance for relaxation, arousal, and gradual insertion, including why moving slowly can actually get you there faster.We also explore the deeper layers: how the pelvis holds tension, fear, and shame, how embodied anal pleasure can become a portal for healing, and why so many men are “frozen” between the navel and the knees—both culturally and somatically. And of course, we discuss Charlie’s work co-authoring The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, including what keeps people from exploring prostate play (pain, mess, and the loaded masculinity myths), and how education can liberate sensation.In this episode, you’ll hear:The #1 key to anal pleasure: relaxation, not pushing or “stretching”A simple breath practice to downshift the nervous system and support openingHow to pace penetration on the exhale (and why it works)Why arousal matters: making anal exploration a “side dish,” not a performance goalTips for strap-ons and toys (especially when the giver has no nerve feedback)How shame lives somatically—and how healing becomes possible through safe touchProstate pleasure basics + why anal play doesn’t define sexual orientationcharlieglickman.comThe Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasurerahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Sexual energy isn’t just about sex — it’s your life force.In this episode, I’m joined by Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown, the powerhouse duo behind Sex Reimagined, blending Tantra, Taoism, somatic healing, and sexual mastery practices to help individuals and couples reclaim pleasure, vitality, and intimacy.Together we explore how ancient wisdom traditions use sexual energy to heal trauma, strengthen relationships, build confidence, and awaken deeper states of aliveness.We talk about:Sacred Spot Massage and sexual trauma healingWhy Tantra and Taoism are surprisingly complementaryThe truth about desire mismatch in couplesHow women’s arousal actually works (and what most partners never learn)Solo practices vs partner practicesMale sexual mastery, ejaculation choice, and lasting longer naturallyHow sexual energy fuels vitality, creativity, and confidence in every area of lifeIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, stuck in shame, or simply curious how to experience more pleasure and presence in your body — this conversation opens powerful doors.Learn more: sexreimagined.comMore resources and writings: rahichun.comIf this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

What if lovemaking didn’t have to be rushed, goal-oriented, or focused on orgasm?What if sex could feel spacious, meditative, and deeply connecting?In this intimate conversation, somatic sex educators and partners Rahi Chun and Ariel Szabo explore the practice of extended lovemaking — a slow, presence-based approach to intimacy that prioritizes connection, nervous system safety, and full-body pleasure over performance or climax.Together, they share:the difference between goal-oriented sex and meditative lovemakinghow slowing down increases sensitivity and pleasurewhy many couples feel unsatisfied even after orgasmedging and extended arousal statesone-way touch and genital mapping practiceshow the nervous system shapes intimacythe 8 Pillars of Intimacy for deeper connectionhow lovemaking can become a spiritual and relational practiceIf you long for more depth, more connection, and more pleasure with your partner — this episode offers a new way forward.Learn more about their couples program at DivineUnionForLovers.com

What if healing your sexuality wasn’t about “fixing” yourself — but about entering brave, embodied spaces where your life-force energy finally has permission to move?In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Court Vox — certified sex and intimacy coach, sacred intimate, and founder of The Body Vox — known for his deeply immersive, somatic retreats and one-on-one erotic empowerment experiences around the world.Court challenges the idea of “safe spaces” and instead invites us into brave spaces — containers where nervous systems regulate, shame softens, and people feel free to explore intimacy, desire, and authentic self-expression without performance or pretense.Together, we explore how small acts of intimacy — even something as simple as holding hands — can be profoundly life-changing, and how working with erotic energy often unlocks creativity, purpose, and aliveness far beyond the bedroom.This episode is about reclaiming your body, your voice, and your right to pleasure.In this episode, we explore:Why “brave space” may be more transformative than “safe space”Somatic intimacy practices using breath, touch, sound, and movementHow multi-day erotic immersions accelerate healing and embodimentThe connection between sexual energy and creativity, confidence, and life purposeAlchemizing shame into pleasure and agencyGroup erotic practice as a tool for community healing and belongingMen’s retreats, sacred sexuality, and embodied leadershipHow to explore fantasy and shadow safely through consent and choiceWhy small moments of connection can be more transformative than dramatic sexual experiencesCourt’s work reminds us that eroticism isn’t just sex — it’s life force, expression, artistry, and presence.If you’ve ever felt a quiet longing for deeper intimacy, more freedom in your body, or a space where all of you is welcome… this conversation is for you.thebodyvox.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

After years of interviewing fellow practitioners in the field of somatic sexuality, this episode turns the lens inward.I’m joined by my dear friend and colleague Caffyn Jesse, who interviews me about the roots, philosophy, and lived experiences that shaped my approach to genital de-armoring, somatic sexual healing, and trauma-informed intimacy work.Together, we explore how early attachment wounds, developmental trauma, cultural conditioning, and nervous system dysregulation create “armor” in the body — especially in the pelvis and genitals — limiting pleasure, connection, and life-force energy.And more importantly: how that armor can gently, safely, and intentionally soften.This conversation weaves together neuroaffective touch, developmental psychology, sexological bodywork, meditation, plant medicine, and somatic presence — revealing how deep healing happens not through force, but through safety, attunement, and consent.At its heart, genital dearmoring is not just about sexuality. It’s about rebuilding trust with your body. Reclaiming voice and choice. And remembering that pleasure is your birthright.In this episode, we explore:What genital “armor” is and how it formsHow childhood attachment and early touch shape adult sexualityNervous system safety as the foundation for pleasureNeuroaffective touch and repairing infant attachment woundsWhy receiving support can transform intimacy, relationships, and even career successThe role of consent, boundaries, and voice in sexual healingSomatic mapping of the body’s erogenous zonesCervical and prostate de-armoringWorking with pelvic trauma gently and respectfullyMeditation, ego dissolution, and life-force awareness in space-holdingHow healing sexuality unlocks creativity, vitality, and purposeCouples practices for intimacy and shared explorationWe also share real client stories — including experiences of chronic genital pain relief, renewed sensation, and profound emotional and spiritual liberation.This is a deep dive into the philosophy behind Somatic Sexual Wholeness® and the heart of the work I teach today.If you’re curious about genital dearmoring, trauma-informed touch, or how to feel more alive and connected in your body — this conversation will meet you there.Guest Host:Caffyn Jesse: https://ecstaticbelonging.com/Somatic sexuality educator and trauma-informed practitionerLearn more:Courses, sessions, and trainings → rahichun.com