Embodied Anal Pleasure: Breath, ConsentEros, and Prostate Play with Dr. Charlie Glickman

Dr. Charlie Glickman has been in the sex education field for over 35 years—and he’s one of the most grounded, compassionate educators I know. In this episode, we explore embodied anal play: how to approach anal pleasure in a way that’s safe, consent-based, trauma-informed, and genuinely enjoyable—with the goal Charlie names best: everyone ends with a smile.

We talk about why the myth that “anal sex has to hurt” persists, what porn leaves out (warm-up, lubrication, pacing), and how breath and nervous system regulation change everything. Charlie shares simple, practical guidance for relaxation, arousal, and gradual insertion, including why moving slowly can actually get you there faster.

We also explore the deeper layers: how the pelvis holds tension, fear, and shame, how embodied anal pleasure can become a portal for healing, and why so many men are “frozen” between the navel and the knees—both culturally and somatically. And of course, we discuss Charlie’s work co-authoring The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, including what keeps people from exploring prostate play (pain, mess, and the loaded masculinity myths), and how education can liberate sensation.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The #1 key to anal pleasure: relaxation, not pushing or “stretching”
• A simple breath practice to downshift the nervous system and support opening
• How to pace penetration on the exhale (and why it works)
• Why arousal matters: making anal exploration a “side dish,” not a performance goal
• Tips for strap-ons and toys (especially when the giver has no nerve feedback)
• How shame lives somatically—and how healing becomes possible through safe touch
• Prostate pleasure basics + why anal play doesn’t define sexual orientation

charlieglickman.com
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure
rahichun.com

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