Your “Sex Problem” Isn’t Sexual: It’s Relational Geometry with Ali Mezey

In this episode, I’m joined by Ali Mazza, a sexologist and somatic therapist with 40+ years of experience, to explore a deceptively simple method that reveals what’s been shaping your intimacy from underneath your awareness.

We begin with Family Constellations Therapy—a powerful group process that exposes hidden family dynamics—and then dive into Ali’s unique innovation: Personal Geometry. Using post-it notes, objects, and spatial mapping, Ali helps clients externalize their inner relational landscape—so patterns around porn, orgasm, commitment, heart–sex splits, and emotional enmeshment become visible, movable, and transformable in real time.

If you’ve ever felt like your “sexual issue” isn’t actually about sex—this conversation will land.

In this episode, we explore:

• What Family Constellations are, and why “representatives” can feel what they don’t intellectually know
• How Personal Geometry maps unconscious relational dynamics in minutes
• Why “addiction” often functions as support, protection, or avoidance—and how mapping reveals the function
• The heart–sexuality split: what it is, why it happens, and how it shifts
• How inhibition and performance blocks grow from cultural expectations—and what honesty unlocks
• Why somatic work can sometimes reveal in one session what years of talk therapy can’t access

Learn more: Ali’s work and trainings can be found at alimezey.com

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