PsycHacks

The experience of inner emptiness is at the heart of many of the issues that I discuss with my clients. Those who experience it try to fill it in many ways: with drugs and alcohol, with sex and relationships, with work and busyness, with pleasure and distraction. And they don't work, which is to say: they work for a time at great cost. In this episode, I'll discuss the only three things I've ever found that actually heal the void within. #healing #emptiness #recovery

Every day, life presents you with new and unexpected challenges to overcome. How can you respond confidently to a difficulty that you've never dealt with before? In this episode, I share two tips for successfully addressing just such a situation. Hopefully, they will help you find the wherewithal to rise to the occasion. #confidence #selfefficacy #focus

According to the fundamental axiom of the balance of attraction, no two people can like each other exactly the same amount. In this episode, I'll discuss the pros and cons of being in the position of the adored, the one who likes the other less. The adored get to be loved by the ones they're with. This position is a better fit for those who prefer not to live as much in their emotions, or who (for whatever reason) would prefer not to place romantic relationships in the center of their lives.   #relationships #attraction #love

Values can be expensive. So are they worth it? In this episode, I discuss one of the most valuable things about values: their utility as decision making tools. When we find ourselves at the Crossroads of Life, values can help to clarify the path forward by filtering out incongruent pathways. In a very practical way, they help us answer the question: "what should I do?" #values #decisive #growth

According to the fundamental axiom of the balance of attraction, no two people can like each other exactly the same amount. In this episode, I'll discuss the pros and cons of being in the position of the adorer, the one who like the other more. Adorers get to be with the they love, and they get to experience all the emotional consequences of that opportunity. Adorers enter into relationships to feel. As a result, it's a better position for folks who are more romantically-inclined or who prefer to live more in their emotions.   #relationships #attraction #love

Self-improvement is less about creating ten new, good habits as it is about stopping the one or two behaviors that are significantly obstructing your progress. In many cases, blocking these behaviors is sufficient to create real growth: no other action is required. This will also help to rule out potential confounds, saving you time and money if you decide to enlist the help of a professional. You need to put out the fire before doing construction on your house. Otherwise all your hard work will go up in flames. #healing #growth #selfimprovement

Exploring the human need for recognition and the sobering reality that true recognition comes from those with expertise. Brilliance can go unnoticed without mastery. Pearls before swine. #recognition #mastery

If you have a habit that seems to cause you a lot of harm or difficulty, but that you still have trouble getting rid of, ask yourself this question: how is it good? How does it help you? It has to serve a function, or else it still wouldn't be there. Most likely, on some level, you believe that the habit is still a net positive, despite the suffering it causes you. To really change a behavior, you need to find other, more adaptive ways to provide the same benefit as your bad habit. #habit #selfdevelopment #selfimprovement

Exploring the challenge of changing ingrained patterns with the analogy of walking a familiar path through a field. Emphasizing the importance of initiating change now before it becomes more difficult.

Explore the concept of overpaying in your life and work through the captivating analogy of an auction house. Understand how the highest bidder often ends up overextending themselves, mirroring our own excessive investments of time and resources. Discover practical strategies for reallocating your resources to maximize your return on investment. This insightful discussion encourages listeners to reassess their commitments and strive for a more balanced existence.