Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with my friend Manuele Paradiso. Manu is an inner explorer committed to the development of his most authentic self. His purpose is to share his journey unfiltered with the people and inspire them to follow their heart. He offers his experience to people as a facilitator, blogger, speaker and mentor. Manu grew-up in a small reality surrounded by macho-patriarchal culture but educated by very inclusive and progressive parents. After his academic formation he started to travel and that’s when the big shifts started to happen. Deep diving in different spiritual lineages and exploring with entheogenic plants. Since then, he started a process of integration between intellect, spiritual call and sexuality. His attention goes in particular to men who want more awareness about their cultural conditioning and support in the development of a deeper and more conscious relationship with their partner and themselves. Since one year back he has been active with an online course for men (The Attractive Hero) with the intention of self development supported by a healing space of brotherhood. He also offers webinars on conscious relating and recently he started a series of meetings in person as a facilitator for groups’ introspective journeys. Key Points: - Manu shares about his story and his passion - Discussing approaches to coaching men - Personal sexual turning points - The line between sexualization and objectification - Having intention with sexual energy - Being honest about your intentions - Listening to your “Yes” - Advice for men interested in this work Relevant links: Manu’s Instagram: @manuele_paradiso Manu’s website: manueleparadiso.com

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lauren French. Lauren is a recently graduated sexologist holding a membership with the Society of Australian Sexologists. Lauren has a real passion for sexuality education as well as helping individuals or couples through a multitude of sexual difficulties and experiences. Lauren creates a warm and inviting space for clients to feel comfortable to share and be heard. All sessions are held within a judgement free space, as Lauren welcomes all diverse sexualities and varying individual experiences. She also works with with Body Safety Australia, a social enterprise protecting children from sexual abuse with whole community solutions. Lauren works with all genders, orientations and identities and offers a judgment-free, safe space for all beings. She is queer-friendly (LBGTIQ) and works with clients in any aspect of sex and sexuality. She believes that sex should be able to be discussed openly and that everyone deserves to have a pleasurable and enjoyable sex life. She specialises in sex education, and empowering individuals to be less goal- orientated and more pleasure orientated. Lauren and I talk about the nuances of her work as a sex educator as well as her life as a proud First Nations woman. We also discuss where and how these two experiences intersect. Key Points: - What is an Acknowledgement of Country? - Comprehensive Sexuality Education - The importance of Media and Porn Literacy - Creating safe spaces for kids to learn - Language and terminology - Lauren shares about her family and lineage - Intergenerational trauma and loss of culture - Sex- and pleasure-positivity - Fear, masculinity and masculinities - Compassionate words for any First Nations people listening Relevant Links: Lauren’s Instagram: @Lauren.French.Sexologist

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I have the pleasure of chatting with Alicia. Alicia is a Bundjalung woman who is in her final year of study (Justice major in Criminology and Policing, and Human Services) and is passionate about helping young First Nations people who face the injustice of the criminal justice system. On top of that, she loves to help others and realised that most people were in the same boat as her: little to no sex ed at school. This started off with her sharing posts on her personal instagram page, but in January 2020 she created @life.with.leashato have a space dedicated to sharing information we all wish we had learnt sooner. Alicia and I talk about her experience as someone who speaks about sex and sexuality online as well as her experience as a Bundjalung woman and where these two experiences may intersect. Alicia was so generous with her time and energy, particularly sharing about connecting with community and traditions. Key Points: - Alicia shares about her motivation for sharing sexuality information - Learning good communication skills - Talking about sex both online and offline - Sex education for Aborignal and Torres Straight Islander communities - Terminology, Nations and language groups - Connecting with community and traditions - Whose Country are you on? - “There is no time limit to discovering who you are” Relevant Links Alicia’s Instagram: @life.with.leasha

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Bek Antonucci. Bek is an Emotional Wellbeing and Personal Freedom Coach. She supports women to break through ineffective self worth and body image stories, activate their unique voice and live their most radically fulfilled and expressed lives. Through a range of different holistic and intuitive modalities including trauma therapy, somatic response tactics, inner child connection, wounded ego healing and more, Bek supports women to learn to love their vulnerabilities. To take radical self ownership of the thing that they once thought made them unworthy in societies eyes and transform their lives from the inside out. Together we go on a journey of deep inner transformation and come to a place of true self acceptance. Bek is a free thinker, embodied female thought leader, stigma fighter, public speaker, workshop mentor, founder of the online group programs “Being Brilliant” & “True Transformation,” and Perth based Naked Awakening facilitator. We talk about her own personal journey with cheating, herpes, sexual healing and self-love as well as how to navigate the world - both online and IRL - as a confident and sexually empowered woman. Key points: - Bek shares about her personal story - Living with herpes - The stigma of STIs - Normalizing conversations about sexual health - Talking about sex online - Intention vs impact - Sister wounds and brother wounds - “What do men need to know?” - Attention seeking - Advice for being a sexually embodied person on the internet Relevant Links: Bek’s Isntagram - @bekantonucci Bek’s Facebook - @bek.antonucci

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Betty Martin. Betty has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty and I talk about her amazing touch- and communication-based framework - The Wheel of Consent® - as well as discuss some specifics of the framework as it relates to men. Key Points: - Betty shares about her career - The inception of The Wheel of Consent - Giving/Receiving and Doing/Done-To - The four quadrants - The 3 Minute Game - Learning how to take pleasure - You can’t make someone surrender - Practical advice for men using The Wheel Relevant links: Betty’s website: bettymartin.org The Wheel of Consent website: wheelofconsentbook.com The Wheel of Consent Instagram: @thewheelofconsent

Sex blogger Julieta Chiara discusses career pathways in the sexuality industry, introducing kink and BDSM, exploring male submission and dominance, and creating safe spaces for sexual exploration. The podcast explores societal norms, communication in BDSM, and blending Tantra with BDSM practices.

For the first time on #mensexandpleasure, to kick off season 5, I interview multiple guests. In this episode, I chat with the women from the Clit Talk podcast: Lindsey, Katie and Sugar. Their podcast is all about living a pleasure positive lifestyle. Lindsey, Katie and Sugar have spent the last 150+ episodes interviewing everyone from doctors, sexperts, celebrities and even porn stars. They go out, try all the boundary-pushing sexcapades, confronting and disrupting their shame, then hop on the air to tell all the gritty details. They will try almost anything once. Lindsey is a quick-witted, ball-busting songstress who throughout the show opens herself up to exploring the Kinsey scale, what monogamy means for her and showing up as a woman committed to pleasure whether she is in a relationship or not. Katie is a nurse and life-long Catholic monogamer. Before being on the Clit Talk podcast, she never masturbated, sex hurt and her marriage was suffering from her crippling repression. Now, she’s a new mum, talks about doing it in the butt and is still very much monogamous. Sugar - hilarious and daring - opened her marriage to a committed non-monogamous relationship at the ripe age of 25. She went on to become a leader in the polyamory community and reportedly throws a damn good play party. She shares about all this… unabashedly. In this episode we have a lively discussion about about sex and relationships. Key Points: Lindsey, Katie and Sugar share the origin story of Clit Talk Competition vs collaboration Polyamory, jealousy and compersion You can’t fulfill all your partner’s needs What is a pleasure-positive lifestyle? Pleasure practices and advice How can women get their men to open up? Stop coaching your partner An unfiltered look inside women’s minds Relevant links: Clit Talk’s Instagram: @clittalkshow Katie’s Instagram: @imkatieroberts Lindsey’s Instagram: @linsta_grammy Sugar’s Instagram: @sugar.sloane

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Amanda Biccum, an evolutionary coach who pushes against the norm of what is possible in sex, love and relationships. She has spent the last 7 years traveling the world, gaining insight from ancient eastern spiritual practices and studying with various mentors in the fields of Tantra, Yoga, Qigong, Taoism and other embodiment practices. Her background is a Certified Holistic Nutritionist and she blends her studies of East and West to support the balance of the masculine and feminine in personal and group coaching practice. Amanda is a firm believer that embodiment is at the root of true leadership and incorporates years of experience, and the depths of her soul’s personal journey into the work she shares with the world. We talk about her work with men and how being a woman influences that work. We also discuss how women in relationships with men can hold space for them in sexual contexts. Lastly, we explore some ways that men can learn more about the feminine and create safe boundaries. Key Points: - Amanada shares about her work with men - What is “Men’s Work?” - Single gender and mixed gender containers - Listening to men’s stories - Holding space for you partner’s insecurity - Moving sexual energy with a partner - Rigidity kills polarity - Understanding the feminine - Practice asserting your boundaries Relevant Links: Amanda’s Instagram: @madambiccum

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Dex Parker. Dex is a pansexual, male erotic adult performer and companion. But outside of these labels, he is a human. Just like you and I. Dex describes himself as gentle, receptive, and strong. His missions are erotic creation, connection, and service. Dex is trained in respiratory therapy which compliments his many years spent teaching yoga and movement to create a holistic somatic experience of pleasure, insight, and joy. His work as a creator and companion is founded in a pursuit to experience and give breathe to a more holistic approach to sex work, performing, and services. He believes wholeheartedly that sexuality and spirituality need not be perceived as mutually exclusive. On the contrary, they compliment each other beautifully; and Dex is here to show you how. In his content you will find opportunities to be both aroused and informed: hopefully both. In his virtual and in-person services you will be introduced to a space of safety, empowerment, discovery, and passion. Key Points: - Dex shares about his journey - What is sex work? - Experiences of a male sex worker - Erotic content creation - Alternative expressions of male sexuality - Discussing pornography - Advice for exploring your sexuality Relevant links: Dex’s Instagram: @mrdexparker_backup Dex’s website: https://www.mrdexparker.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Yuval Mann. Yuval is the founder of the Sensual Alchemy School of Integrated Sexuality, his personal sex and relationship coaching business which teaches people how to have epic sex and legendary love. During his twenties, Yuval carried a bag full of trauma, shame, and guilt around his sexuality and relating to women due to his upbringing in an extreme Jewish Orthodox community. After leaving that community, Yuval embarked on a long journey of discovery into letting go of that shame, the blockage, and everything that was holding him back from making love with himself, women, and the world. Yuval and I chat about his experiences with Orthodox Judaism and how his relationship with God has impacted his sexuality. We also discuss ways of overcoming sexual blockages and how sex coaching for single men can be a transformative process. Key Points: Yuval talks about his life journey Orthodox Judaism and sexuality Relationship with God Defining sacredness Overcoming sexual blockages How transformation happens Push vs Pull “Good” stress and excitement Emotional regulation Working with single men Relevant Links: Yuval’s Instagram: @Yuvalmann.s