Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

This is a special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. Today’s episode celebrates a year of “Men, Sex & Pleasure.” It has been such an amazing year and I feel really grateful to have spoken with 51 incredible guests who have all taught me so much. To celebrate a year of the podcast, I decided to record my first solo episode. When I reflected on what I wanted to talk about, a lot of things came to mind. However, there was one topic which really stood out to me. I get asked on a daily basis about pornograhy. Without fail, everyday someone, somewhere asks me something about porn. I have a lot to say about porn and having to respond every single time with my myriad of thoughts is usually impossible. So I had the idea to record an episode about my opinion on pornography which I can share with people when they ask me for my thoughts. Like I said, I have a lot to say and this ended up becoming a two part instalment. This episode is part 1 and is released alongside part 2. If you’re interested in the nuances of the porn debate, hopefully you’ll find these two parts interesting. I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, just have a conversation. Thank you for supporting the podcast for a whole year. I look forward to bringing more interesting conversations in the year to come. Key Points: Introduction to and intentions for the conversation I understand the harm some porn has caused Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn What is porn? The problem with definitions The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line? Operation Spanner and private sex groups Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation Relevant Links: Cam’s Instagram/Twitter/TikTok: @thecamfraser Cam’s Website: www.cam-fraser.com

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Joe Kort, a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist. Dr. Kort specializes in working with male sexual dysfunction, infidelity, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ, and presenting issues. He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men. Dr. Kort is a blogger for Psychology Today. He is founder and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, overseeing a group of therapists who provide outpatient psychotherapy services to clients. Dr. Kort is also Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes running a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology and provides LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy Certification, Couples and Sex Therapy Certification and Sex Therapy Certification and continuing education to mental health and medical professionals around the world. Dr. Kort and I talk about the rigid parameters of sexual orientation and why it can be beneficial to lean into fluidity. We also discuss how this impacts men, women and couples. Key Points: - Dr. Kort shares about his practice as a therapist - Heteroflexible and homoflexible - Discussing Jane Ward’s book, Not Gay - Bisexual erasure - Queering heterosexuality - “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation” - Fragile masculinity - Working with couples in therapy - Wives’ experiences with heteroflexible men - Sexual fluidity for men and women - Practical advice for men Relevant links: Dr. Joe Kort’s Instagram/Tiktok/Twitter: @drjoekort Dr. Joe Kort’s podcast: www.SmartSexSmartLove.com Dr. Joe Kort’s website: www.JoeKort.com

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Emily Claire. Emily is an erotic embodiment dance teacher and sacred sexuality and embodiment teacher, dedicated to inspiring people on their journeys toward integrating with themselves, their bodies and to the deepest part of themselves, their sexuality. She transitioned careers from a Lawyer to this work after being deeply inspired by the profound impact embodiment and sacred sexuality work had on her own life. Emily has mentored with the leading international and national experts in her field. She holds a wealth of knowledge in sexuality, sacred sexuality and neo Tantra, embodiment and dance as healing and is trauma informed. Emily has created Erotic Temple Dance, A 4 Week erotic embodiment journey into feminine sexuality archetypes which tours across South East Queensland, Australia, she facilitates group work in spiritual sexuality practice for men and women and she privately coaches people. The two of us talked about her offering for men, which she has called “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness.” We discussed our opinions about masculinity and femininity as well as what we think is needed in the world of men’s work. Key Points: - Emily shares about her journey from Law to Tantra - Mentoring with John Wineland - Healing your relationship with men - A woman’s experience working with men - Mix-gendered spaces: Learning from other genders - “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness” - What are men’s natural desires? - Integrating the animal part of ourselves - Masculine and Feminine Energy - Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feed and Fuck - Practical advice for men wanting to begin this work Relevant links: Emily’s Instagram: @an_erotic_heart Emily’s Website: www.deepenembodiment.com

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Johnathan White. Johnathan is an instructor of Sexual Kung Fu, Qigong, and meditation. His mission is to help men gain a conscious connection with their sexual energy and channel it into manifesting their ideal life. Johnathan and I discuss our personal philosophies about sexual energy and semen retention. We also share some practices that men can use to experience non-ejaculatory orgasms. While our work is similar, Johnathan and I discovered some important differences in the way we both present our teachings. Like myself, Johnathan also has a 6-week online course for men. He shares some powerful and potent wisdom in this episode. Key Points: - Johnathan shares about his teachings - Creating your own personal practice - Learning to listen to your body - Your first non-ejaculatory ogasm - Techniques for non-ejaculatory orgasms - Mantak Chia’s “Million Dollar Point” technique - Obsessing over and redefining orgasm - The importance of non-sexual practices - Semen retention and NoFap - The energetics of ejaculation - Conscious ejaculation vs semen retention - Testicle breathing practice Relevant Links: Johnathan’s Instagram: @sexual.kungfu Johhnathan’s YouTube: Sexual Kung Fu

Join Tyran Mowbray, a men's sex and health mentor, as he dives into the complexities of masculinity and sexuality. He shares personal stories and challenges the stigma surrounding men discussing their sexual experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of setting boundaries and embracing emotional vulnerability. Tyran also addresses the misconceptions about male victims of sexual assault, advocating for more open and honest discussions in the realm of men's sexuality. Engage with topics that redefine masculinity and promote healing.

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Martha Tara Lee. Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives. She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than nine years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited. Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. Key Points: - Martha shares about her studies and travels - How Martha’s work is received in Singapore - Singaporean culture and sexuality - Working with “Asian cultural values” in sex therapy - The stigma of being an Asian woman sex therapist - Ancient Eastern sexual practices - Who is teaching Tantra and Neotantra? - Using Asian culture to make money - Exploring cultural teachings and honouring your ancestry Relevant links: Martha’s Website: www.eroscoaching.com Martha’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eroscoaching Martha’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drmarthalee Martha’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leemartha/ Martha’s Instagram: @drmarthalee

On this week’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I had the pleasure of talking with Georgia Grace. As a Certified Australian Sex Coach, Georgia applies a client-centred approach in supporting individuals, couples and groups to become more aware of their bodies, sex and sexuality. Informed by embodied therapy, mindfulness and neuroscience, Georgia’s comprehensive support allows clients to explore their potential with an approach that is tailored and most suited to them. Georgia aims to bring mindfulness to sex with real, practical and useful tools allowing people to explore their sensuality. She does all this in an open and safe space with the opportunity to ask, share, discuss, feel and relate. Georgia and I talk about her work in the sexuality space and how she manages both the sex-positivity and the sex-negativity inherent to this work. We also discuss some sex toys that are revolutionizing the way we think of men’s pleasure. Key Points: - Georgia shares about her work - Being in a sex-positive bubble - Managing boundaries and online harassment - Innovative sex-tech and new products - The Arcwave Ion and Pleasure Air™ Technology - Changing the way men masturbate - Using sex toys to enhance pleasure - Outdated science about sexuality - Updating understandings about male pleasure - Cultivating your curiosity Relevant links: Georgia’s Instagram: @gspot._ Georgia’s Website: https://www.georgiagraced.com/

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dominick Quartuccio. Dominick is the host of “The Great Man Within Podcast,” a show for high performing men covering the subjects of purpose, masculinity and sex. He is the author of two books, “Design Your Future” and “On Purpose Leadership,” which both focus on living the best version of yourself. He also runs The Great Man Mastermind, a global community of men doing inner work and living their best selves. Dominick and I talk about his journey through Sex Addicts Anonymous and how he has reframed his relationship with sex. Key Points: - Dominick shares some of this story - The final straw before rehab - Sex Addicts Anonymous - Is sex addiction real? - Defining addiction and relapse - Religion and negative attitudes towards sex - Reframing your relationship with sex - Talking to men about sex Relevant links: Dominick’s Instagram: @DominickQ Dominick’s Website: https://www.dominickq.com/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Jeff Bennett. Jeff is the founder and CEO of Morari Medical, an innovative sexual health and wellness company. A proven medical device industry leader, Jeff has more than 20 years of sales and marketing experience, with the level of his role and responsibilities increasing over the course of his career. After two decades in the medical device industry, Jeff sees a world where all beings can enjoy their sexuality freely with confidence, curiosity and control. Morari Medical’s mission is to restore confidence in sexual health. The start-up is a pioneer of wearable tech that enables all to create the climactic journey and sexual experience they desire. Jeff and I talk about his company and the technology they’re using for their new device that aims to treat premature ejaculation. We also discuss the problem with the label of premature ejaculaion. Key Points: - Jeff’s shares Morari Medical’s mission statement - Current treatments for premature ejaculation - Sex-tech and a burgeoning industry - The Taint Bandaid - Neurostimulation and the ejaculatory response - The problem with premature ejacultion - Marketing sexual products and devices - Future directions for Morari Medical Relevant Links: Morari Medical’s website: https://www.morarimedical.com/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Kristopher Lovestone. Kristopher is a sex educator and couples counsellor who survived six divorces in his childhood, and then went on to rewrite the rules of the relationship game so that people can actually win. He now teaches people how to succeed through communication, modern sex education and innovative relationship strategies. His techniques have yielded him a wildly successful 15-year marriage that gets hotter every year, and he published his teachings in his new book Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men. He has been called the “Einstein of relationships” and is endorsed by many of the top sex educators in the world. Kristopher and I talk about the teachings in his book and dive deeper into what being a conscious man looks like. Key Points: - Kristopher shares some of his story - Systematizing sex and relationship education - Creating a 101 style course - Wash your dick and start with the basics - Reframing “pussy whipped” - Take responsibility for your sperm - Communicating and connecting with a woman  - Practical advice for men Relevant links: Kristopher’s Instagram: @theconsciouscock Kristopher’s Website: https://consciouscock.com/