Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

For the first time on #mensexandpleasure, to kick off season 5, I interview multiple guests. In this episode, I chat with the women from the Clit Talk podcast: Lindsey, Katie and Sugar. Their podcast is all about living a pleasure positive lifestyle. Lindsey, Katie and Sugar have spent the last 150+ episodes interviewing everyone from doctors, sexperts, celebrities and even porn stars. They go out, try all the boundary-pushing sexcapades, confronting and disrupting their shame, then hop on the air to tell all the gritty details. They will try almost anything once. Lindsey is a quick-witted, ball-busting songstress who throughout the show opens herself up to exploring the Kinsey scale, what monogamy means for her and showing up as a woman committed to pleasure whether she is in a relationship or not. Katie is a nurse and life-long Catholic monogamer. Before being on the Clit Talk podcast, she never masturbated, sex hurt and her marriage was suffering from her crippling repression. Now, she’s a new mum, talks about doing it in the butt and is still very much monogamous. Sugar - hilarious and daring - opened her marriage to a committed non-monogamous relationship at the ripe age of 25. She went on to become a leader in the polyamory community and reportedly throws a damn good play party. She shares about all this… unabashedly. In this episode we have a lively discussion about about sex and relationships. Key Points: Lindsey, Katie and Sugar share the origin story of Clit Talk Competition vs collaboration Polyamory, jealousy and compersion You can’t fulfill all your partner’s needs What is a pleasure-positive lifestyle? Pleasure practices and advice How can women get their men to open up? Stop coaching your partner An unfiltered look inside women’s minds Relevant links: Clit Talk’s Instagram: @clittalkshow Katie’s Instagram: @imkatieroberts Lindsey’s Instagram: @linsta_grammy Sugar’s Instagram: @sugar.sloane

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Amanda Biccum, an evolutionary coach who pushes against the norm of what is possible in sex, love and relationships. She has spent the last 7 years traveling the world, gaining insight from ancient eastern spiritual practices and studying with various mentors in the fields of Tantra, Yoga, Qigong, Taoism and other embodiment practices. Her background is a Certified Holistic Nutritionist and she blends her studies of East and West to support the balance of the masculine and feminine in personal and group coaching practice. Amanda is a firm believer that embodiment is at the root of true leadership and incorporates years of experience, and the depths of her soul’s personal journey into the work she shares with the world. We talk about her work with men and how being a woman influences that work. We also discuss how women in relationships with men can hold space for them in sexual contexts. Lastly, we explore some ways that men can learn more about the feminine and create safe boundaries. Key Points: - Amanada shares about her work with men - What is “Men’s Work?” - Single gender and mixed gender containers - Listening to men’s stories - Holding space for you partner’s insecurity - Moving sexual energy with a partner - Rigidity kills polarity - Understanding the feminine - Practice asserting your boundaries Relevant Links: Amanda’s Instagram: @madambiccum

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Dex Parker. Dex is a pansexual, male erotic adult performer and companion. But outside of these labels, he is a human. Just like you and I. Dex describes himself as gentle, receptive, and strong. His missions are erotic creation, connection, and service. Dex is trained in respiratory therapy which compliments his many years spent teaching yoga and movement to create a holistic somatic experience of pleasure, insight, and joy. His work as a creator and companion is founded in a pursuit to experience and give breathe to a more holistic approach to sex work, performing, and services. He believes wholeheartedly that sexuality and spirituality need not be perceived as mutually exclusive. On the contrary, they compliment each other beautifully; and Dex is here to show you how. In his content you will find opportunities to be both aroused and informed: hopefully both. In his virtual and in-person services you will be introduced to a space of safety, empowerment, discovery, and passion. Key Points: - Dex shares about his journey - What is sex work? - Experiences of a male sex worker - Erotic content creation - Alternative expressions of male sexuality - Discussing pornography - Advice for exploring your sexuality Relevant links: Dex’s Instagram: @mrdexparker_backup Dex’s website: https://www.mrdexparker.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Yuval Mann. Yuval is the founder of the Sensual Alchemy School of Integrated Sexuality, his personal sex and relationship coaching business which teaches people how to have epic sex and legendary love. During his twenties, Yuval carried a bag full of trauma, shame, and guilt around his sexuality and relating to women due to his upbringing in an extreme Jewish Orthodox community. After leaving that community, Yuval embarked on a long journey of discovery into letting go of that shame, the blockage, and everything that was holding him back from making love with himself, women, and the world. Yuval and I chat about his experiences with Orthodox Judaism and how his relationship with God has impacted his sexuality. We also discuss ways of overcoming sexual blockages and how sex coaching for single men can be a transformative process. Key Points: Yuval talks about his life journey Orthodox Judaism and sexuality Relationship with God Defining sacredness Overcoming sexual blockages How transformation happens Push vs Pull “Good” stress and excitement Emotional regulation Working with single men Relevant Links: Yuval’s Instagram: @Yuvalmann.s

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dexter Kendrick, affectionately known as Dr. Dex by his clients. Dexter has been a practicing psychic/medium and astrologer since 2001. He has written horoscopes for newspaper, magazine copy, and been a regular guest on NuSpirit talk radio out of NYC since 2011. He has taught and published articles on psychic self-development and astrological understanding of our psychology. He has done research into personality studies at the University of Hartford, and offered astrological, tarot, and spiritual conversations on love and relationships for the public via private practice. He also does weekly LIVE Facebook psychic readings on his show “Love 911 Tarot” on Facebook and Instagram, coaching clients on love, sex, relationships, family, money, and career. As a medium, he also reconnects clients with loved ones who are dearly departed should they wish it. Over the last 11 years as a doctor of spiritual 5 element acupuncture, Dexter has brought this evidence-based transformative healing technique to the Meditteranean and Northern Europe, the Middle East, South and Central America, Mexico, Canada, and the Carribean. Using a results based philosophy, along with educational self-care techniques, Dexter enlightens and demonstrates to patients the powerful ability of their bodies and minds to change. He is currently lead supervising doctor of clinical acupuncture interns at the Maryland University of Integrative Health, where he also serves as adjunct faculty and senate member. Dexter and I talk about his work with men as an acupuncturist and practitioner of Natural Medicine. We discuss men’s health and share some advice about how to improve your own wellbeing. We also explore some of Dexter’s journey with mediumship. Key Points: Dexter introduces himself Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine Penis heath Fertility and conception Changing your diet for sexual health Prostate health Mediumship and sexuality Telling people about their future Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man Relevant Links: Dexter’s Facebook: @love911tarot Dexter’s Instagram: @love911tarot

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Lauren White, a woman on a mission to help people feel sexually confident. Originally from Denver, Colorado, Lauren moved to San Diego in 2011 to pursue an M.A. in Communication. At the age of 23, she became an adjunct professor, teaching at colleges and correctional facilities in San Diego. During her time as a professor, she recognized a need for real conversations about sex and sexuality. Identifying as a sexually curious person, and having a feminist studies background, Lauren left her position in the college classroom to pursue teaching to a global classroom. She prides herself on being very relatable, funny, and passionate during conversations that may normally be categorized as awkward with both men and women. When she is not having or talking about sex, Lauren in an ardent explorer, having visited over 20 countries, and 42 U.S. States. She once sold all of her belongings and moved into a custom built van in the pursuit of uncharted adventure. She’s a bit of an adrenaline junkie, dances her heart out, and has a uniquely close relationship with her family. Lauren and I talk about what it means to be sexually confident and how you too can embody sexual confidence. I also ask her about what we can do to help boost our partner’s sexual confidence. Key Points: Lauren shares the evolution of her message What does it mean to be sexually confident? The way we talk about masturbation and sex The problem with being “good in bed” Embodying your pleasure Learning to communicate Comfortability and sexual confidence Your body is a playground Advice for women Advice for men Relevant links: Lauren’s Instagram: @shewolflauren The Sex Den’s Instagram: @thesexden

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Asa Baav, the founder of Tailor Matched - a nationwide thought leader in romantic and sexual compatibility in the UK. As a matchmaker, coach and speaker Asa is on a mission to remove taboo from sexual desires and create the freedom to own your wants and needs in life and in the bedroom. The two of us talk about her matchmaking agency and how it all came about. Asa shares about her approach to matchmaking and the stigmas surrounding online dating services. Key points: - Asa shares about her agency, Tailor Matched - Matchmaking vs Coaching - What is sexual compatibility? - Collecting information about our sexual desires - Approaching conversations about sexual function - Dating: Don’t waste your time - Who is using matchmaking services? - Expanding the dating pool - The stigma of using a matchmaking service - Emphasizing connection over appearance Relevant links: Tailor Matched’s Instagram: @tailormatched Asa’s Instagram: @coachwithasa

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Shaft Uddin, a Speaker, Coach and a Somatic Trauma Release Therapist and Content Creator. Shaft has helped men and women from all walks of life overcome trauma by connecting them back to themselves. He creates safe spaces for people to connect with themselves and others through retreats and workshops all over the world. Shaft broke free from his strict devout Muslim upbringing of working in an Indian restaurant and forced arrange marriages and made his own way through life from being homeless to becoming a successful Art Director. 6 years ago he left his house and 6 figure salary in London to pursue the spiritual path. He turned his tragic story, mental illness, broken relationships and addiction into his super powers and turned it into a successful business to help others. The thing that healed him became his passion. His work and viral videos have reached over 38.7 million people via social media and various other media outlets including the BBC, Vice, Times magazine, The Guardian and many more. Shaft also consults for major brands such as Samsung, Mercedes and Disney in creating content. Shaft's mission is to make Stockholm the epicentre of connection and intimacy... the opposite of what it is right now! We talk about Shaft’s personal experiences with Tantra and his advice for achieving multiple orgasms. Key Points: Shaft introduces himself as the “Wim Hof of Tantra” Portraying Tantra in the mainstream media Living in the Tantra bubble Lineages and finding your own path Shaft’s personal daily practice What is an injaculation? Conscious ejaculation and consecration Ejaculation shaming and non-ejaculatory orgasm What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like? Researching multiple orgasms for men “I love my life, I love my body, I love myself” Relevant Links: Shaft’s Instagram: @shaftuddin Shaft’s YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/shaftuddin/ Shaft’s Website: www.sacredsexualawakening.com

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ginger Jen. Ginger (she/they) is the empowering authentic sexuality dating coach for busy/neuro diverse brains. She works with Tantric philosophies and somatic healing to reach the deep subconscious and unconscious. Their mission here is to empower each individual human being to be authentically true to themselves by bringing them from a busy mind to a sensational body. She wants to share the best, most healing tactics through discussions, conversations and realizations. Ginger is ADHD and an advocate for mental disabilities as well as mental health. She is also strictly anti-oppression of any beings so warns to beware of the triggering truth bombs. We talk about their ADHD diagnosis and how it intersects with her sexuality as well as her work in the sexuality space. Ginger also shares some really practical advice for neurodivergent individuals and people who have a neurodivergent partner. Key points: - Ginger shares some of her story - Ginger explains what ADHD is - Strategies for getting into your body - How do people with ADHD express their sexuality? - ADHD and sexual rejection - Communicating with a partner who has ADHD - ADHD and high risk sexual behaviour - Ginger shares about her diagnosis with ADHD - The intersection of escorting and ADHD - Working with men in the sexuality space - The women who sell sex and men who buy it - Online coaching and final thoughts Relevant links Ginger’s website: www.ecstaticallyginger.com Ginger’s Instagram: @ecstatically.ginger Ginger’s Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/ecstaticallyginger

This episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast is part 2 of my conversation about pornography. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I would definitely suggest listening to that first as it sets the context for this episode. Previously, I spoke about how we define porn, my position in the porn debate, the difference between mainstream and ethical porn, and some of the common problems the porn perpetuates. There are so many other things that I didn’t share or forgot to share regarding my opinion on pornography but, as I mentioned in the previous episode, I am not trying to convince anyone of anything. Rather, I want to introduce some nuance into the conversation about porn that I see people in my community having. This episode is a continuation of that intention and offers some other perspectives to consider. Again, there are things I missed but will hopefully revisit in episodes to come. Thank you so much for supporting the podcast. I’m excited for another year of amazing guests, thought-provoking conversations and deep learning. This podcast would not be a success without the guests and listening, so I thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Key Points: Similarity between video games and pornography Questioning comparisons How are people using porn? Two conversations: Consumers and masturbators Stop the demand or change the demand? The problem with how people are masturbating Mindfully using porn as a tool Becoming reliant on porn for arousal The 20% rule Continuing conversations and thank you Relevant links Cam’s Instagram/Twitter/TikTok: @thecamfraser Cam’s Website: www.cam-fraser.com