Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Daniel. Andrew is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization. Key poins: Andrew introduces himself What is Cinesomatics®? Observations about male clients Men hold tension in their body Fear, vulnerability, and anxiety Moving the body to release trauma Practical advice for men Relevant links: Andrew’s website: https://andrewdaniel.org/ Andrew’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewdaniel 

Quicky 38 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 10: #40 Squirting, Pegging and Sexual Pressure (with Lola Jean) On episode 40 of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Lola Jean. Lola is a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Lola offers a variety of classes and talks to help people have better sex with themselves and each other like Pegging, Squirting, and Libido Awakening. A variety of paid and free options of classes and talks, plus a podcast with The Reluctant Sexpert: ‘⁠Is Our Love ___?⁠’, there are a variety of options to indulge. Lola and I talked about squirting, pegging, rimming, and broadening your definition of sex. We also spoke about the pressure both men and women feel to perform sex a certain way.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anisa Varasteh. Anisa is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology, and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa provides therapy to individuals and partners as well as consultancy and training on mental health and sexuality related topics to clinicians and organizations. She is passionate about her work as a sexologist as she has the privilege to be part of people's journey to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful, and pleasurable for them. She has worked with couples, individuals and people in multi-partnered relationships to support them with their relationships, sense of identity, sex life, and explore how they can connect with their authentic self. When she is not at work she is probably writing, hiking, watching lengthy art-house films or discovering new and exciting places around the world. Key points: Anisa introduces herself Misconceptions about BDSM Defining BDSM and kink Traumatic vs therapeutic experiences Exploring kink alone Introducing kink to a partner Relevant links: Instagram: @relatesexology Podcast: Sexplicit Website: www.relatesexology.com Course: https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

Quikcy #37 is an excerpt from Season 3 Episode 9: #39 Debunking Myths About Men and Sex (with Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.) On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I have a great discussion with Sarah Hunter Murray about the most common myths surrounding masculinity, sexuality and men. Sarah holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph and is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She is the author of the book "Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships." I loved Sarah’s book and the research she presents in it. We talk about that research as well as her observations about men in relationships. We also explore some practical advice for men and their partners to help overcome the myths and stereotypes that may be hindering them in their relationships.

Tim Hammond is a grassroots human rights activist who has been involved in numerous social change movements. As a teenager conscientiously opposed to fighting in Vietnam, he wrote copious letters to Congress urging an immediate end to the war. Tim has been committed to Congressional passage of the U.S. Peace Tax Fund Bill, which would re-direct the military portion of one's taxes (currently 50% of every dollar spent by the U.S. government) toward life-sustaining human services. He was active in raising public consciousness about women's rights and the need for the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). In 1987 Tim was among hundreds of men and women arrested on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court to protest its decision to uphold states' rights to legislate private sexual behavior among consenting adults in their own home (a decision the Court ultimately reversed in 2003). He was a member of the Children's Rights Network of Amnesty International/USA and a member of the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization (now MaleSurvivor.org).  Key points: Tim introduces himself Activism and retaliation Circumcision in America Global Survey of Circumcision Harm Foreskin anatomy A brief history of foreskin restoration Advice for men who’re interested in foreskin restoration Relevant links: Tim’s survey of foreskin restorers: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-023-00686-5

Quicky #36 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 8: #38 Parenthood and Modelling Healthy Sexuality (with Tamica Wilder) On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and muti qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narraitives aound sex and embodiment need a damn good shake it! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ruby Ryder of PeggingParadise.com and TheArtofPegging.com. Ruby is a podcaster, blogger, sex worker, sex educator and a published writer of erotic fiction. She has been educating people about pegging for the last 13 years. She moderated panels at CatalystCon East and West, and presented at DomCon LA. Ruby’s erotica is in Violet Blue’s ‘Best Women’s Erotica 2014.’ She also appeared in an episode of Comedy Central’s ‘Not Safe with Nikki Glaser’. Ruby’s mission is to help interested people add one more thing to their sexual treasure chest of choices by teaching them all about pegging, and to do everything she can to encourage more sex-positivity with less sexual shame. She resides in Southern California near the beach, and loves watching the surfers change out of their wetsuits. Key points: Ruby introduces herself The misconceptions around pegging The importance of communication, consent, and comfort  Role reversal, deepening intimacy, and understanding partners Emotional responses during pegging Equipment for pegging Erections, performance, and pleasure  Relevant Links: Ruby’s websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ and https://www.theartofpegging.com/ Ruby’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise

Quicky #35 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 7: #37 The Stigma of Bisexuality & Polyamory (with Zachary Zane) On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.

Yael R. Rosenstock Gonzalez (she/her/ella), known as YaeltheSexGeek, is a queer, polyamorous, neurodivergent Nuyorican (Puerto Rican New Yorker) Jewish pleasure activist (a term popularized by adrienne maree brown) who believes that sexual wellness and sexual liberation involve our whole selves. In her coaching and educational offerings she centers identity, values, and social positioning work, playful exploration, and intimacy with self and others. She is the founder of Kaleidoscope Vibrations, LLC (KV), a company dedicated to supporting exploration and creating spaces for individuals to find community and belonging in their identities, and Sex Positive You, which adds to KV's work by centering sex, sexuality, and intimacy. She is the author of An Introguide to a Sex Positive You: Lessons, Tales, & Tips and is a sex writer for The Buzz by Pure Romance. Yael is also currently a Curriculum Strategist, Facilitator, and Coach with the Center for Ethnic, Racial, and Religious Understanding and a Health Behavior doctoral student with the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at IU Bloomington. Her research centers the nuances of identity and power in topics of sex, consent, desire, pleasure, embodiment, agency, and partnering styles with a particular interest in Latines as a population that is underserved within sex-positive work. Key points: Yael introduces herself Internalizing body shaming Our capacity for pleasure Being fetishized by others Fetishization vs Worship Practical tips for exploring pleasure Relevant links: Yael’s website: www.sexpositiveyou.com Yael’s Instagram: @yaelthesexgeek  Yael’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/yaelthesexgeek

Quicky #34 comes Season 3, Episode 6: #36 Hypnosis for Sexual Dysfunction (with Alexandra Holovitz) On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Alexandra Holovitz. Alexandra is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. She works with career-minded men helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra and self-compassion. She believes awakening sexual energy can support you to have deeper connection, understanding and self-acceptance to liberate and come back to your home (your body), REMEMBER your truth as a divine man! Her mission is to heal the world, one orgasm at a time. We spoke about her use of hypnosis for managing sexual dysfunction with her clients, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We also discussed the practicalities of establishing professional practitioner-client boundaries.