#181 Masculinity: Relationships, Culture, and Evolution (with Ruwan Meepagala)
Sep 15, 2023
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Guest Ruwan Meepagala, psychology for men host, shares insights on fatherhood, relationship dynamics, monogamy vs novelty, and evolution of masculinity. Differing viewpoints lead to a thought-provoking conversation on culture and pleasure.
Fatherhood requires emotional regulation and support for personal growth.
Introducing novelty in monogamous relationships enhances intimacy and connection.
Trusting intuition and holding space foster emotional intimacy in relationships.
Deep dives
Exploring the Concept of Masculinity and Fatherhood
The discussion delves into the challenges and transformations brought about by fatherhood, with the guest sharing insights on how becoming a father presents a new set of responsibilities. It touches on the idea that fatherhood adds weight to the existing life skills a man possesses, requiring a deeper level of commitment and emotional regulation. The conversation also emphasizes the need for men to seek support and outlets for processing emotions and challenges that arise from fatherhood.
Discovering Pleasure and Intimacy in Monogamous Relationships
The podcast explores the value of exploring newness and novelty within monogamous relationships to enhance intimacy and pleasure. The host shares personal experiences and perspectives on introducing variety and playfulness within a monogamous relationship to maintain a sense of excitement and connection. The discussion highlights the importance of having clear boundaries and open communication to create a safe and stimulating environment for both partners.
Embracing Intuition and Emotional Connection in Relationships
The conversation explores the significance of trusting the moment and embracing intuition in intimate relationships. The guest reflects on his journey from a structured, left-brained approach to personal development towards reconnecting with emotions and sensations, emphasizing the role of intuition in fostering genuine connection. The importance of holding space for partners to express emotions while maintaining grounding and providing support is discussed as a key aspect of fostering emotional intimacy and connection.
Impact of Gender Dynamics on Relationships
The podcast delves into how traditional gender roles and reproductive instincts influence modern relationships. The speaker emphasizes the importance of avoiding an imbalance where one partner excessively leans on the other. They highlight the significance of having external support systems, such as therapists or friends, to share emotional burdens and maintain a healthy dynamic. The discussion underscores the delicate balance between seeking support from a partner and respecting boundaries for individual growth.
Evolutionary Psychology and Cultural Influences on Dating Habits
The episode explores how evolutionary psychology and cultural factors shape dating behavior, particularly within the realm of online dating apps. The conversation delves into the impact of digital platforms on self-esteem and body image, with emphasis on how algorithms prey on insecurities to drive user engagement. Additionally, societal norms around masculinity and femininity are scrutinized in the context of dating trends, highlighting the shift towards appearance-driven criteria for attraction and the marketing strategies that capitalize on individuals' vulnerabilities.
On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ruwan Meepagala. Ruwan hosts the Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls, and History of Man: How Men Came to Be. He lives in Mexico with his wife and child. We speak about a whole range of things, from his experience with OneTaste to becoming a father to relationship dynamics to evolution and masculinity. Ruwan and I have different viewpoints about some of these topics but we found some middle ground.
Key points:
- Ruwan introduces himself
- Navigating fatherhood
- Structure vs Creativity
- Monogamy and novelty
- Ruwan’s experience with OneTaste
- Relationship dynamics
- Reproduction vs Pleasure
- Evolution, culture, and masculinity
Relevant links:
Ruwan’s Instagram: @ruwando
Ruwan’s website: https://www.ruwando.com/
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